How do you deal with messy drawn out situations?

[PurpleMoonlight]

LeeThr said:

Unfortunately yes

Bummer.

Sympathies to all involved.

[cirian75]

[pincher]

PurpleMoonlight said:

Is it true though?

That was the question I wanted to ask last night but it just didn't seem right..

Condolences OP.

[Matt_N]

LeeThr said:

Well things just get better...

Arrived home from work this evening to find my mum in tears to be informed over the weekend the baby's passed away

My heads all over the place now

Bloody hell, what a journey.

Words probably can't help what you're going through right now, but all the best.

[AyBee]

Condolences OP.

[dazwalsh]

Well thats just stty, poor little girl and what a roller coaster of emotions this must have been for you.

As a dad of 2 i wouldnt wish the death of a child on anyone, it must be soul destroying.

Did you find out the cause of death?

[e600]

My sympathies for this poor little child. You are in the worst of places especially given the circumstances of paternity. I am truly sorry for all concerned.

Take comfort from your family and, whilst difficult at this time, try and remain supportive but neutral in your dealings with your ex.

Edited by e600 on Tuesday 12th January 15:43

[Peanut Gallery]

Condolences OP.

[Rosscow]

Christ, your head must be like a can of mushy peas.

Awful ending to a strange story. Condolences, OP.

[LeeThr]

Well I ended up going too see my ex last night, and for once we had a grown up civil conversation. We've come to some sort of agreement, but i'll never get a definite answer now. I could if I pushed it through court but it's just going to cause more hassle than it's worth and it's not really going to change anything now either.

But at least this way I can go to the funeral, and she's going to pass on a few of her things for me to keep as well. And in some way I might get some closure on the whole situation, even just between me & her, the way things "ended" in July just left it very unfinished and we haven't really spoken since. So maybe now whilst things are civil and after the funeral I can finally put everything to rest & try to get my life back on track.

Certainly a very odd set of circumstances but life in general is just odd.

[LeeThr]

Well the funeral's tomorrow at 11am. The last 2 weeks seem to have been so long, yet gone so quickly at the same time. The hours just seem to be slipping by getting quicker by the minute & bringing it all ever closer

Tomorrow is probably going to be one of the hardest/longest/strangest days of my life, and yet in some odd way it also marks the end of another chapter in my life.

[Rich_W]

I can't imagine what a day it will be!

But Good luck at handling it

[Moominho]

Best of luck mate.

[E36Ross]

Just to echo the above, My condolences and hope tomorrow can go as smooth as possible under the circumstances.

[LeeThr]

Thank you everyone, it's been a strange evening, I went for a drive down there because I wanted to see the church and cemetery on my own just to prepare myself for the morning. I've been meaning to do it all week and just been putting it off & off. But being back around there tonight has brought up a lot of the past. It's somewhere that i've only been because of my ex so pretty much everything has some association/connection to her.

What clicked tonight though that I think was my breaking point was where the wake is being held is also the same place me & her met for the very first time. I've been thinking of today also marking an end to the chapter of my life that was me & her but didn't realize how real it was going to get to the point that chapter is going to start & end in the same place. Once I leave there today that really is it there's nothing significant between me & her anymore just some memories. A lot of things have hit home tonight and made it all just too real. I'm going to have to do my best to put all that to one side and focus on the exact reason why we're all there today.

[Vincefox]

Once you've attended the service, bear in mind you don't have to go to the wake if you don't have to.

If it feels too much after the service, don't go to it.

[Animal]

It's going to be a long day for you, but you'll get through it. Best of luck.

[Vaud]

Holy carp.

Stay strong OP, and if you can, try to book a holiday or something soon - get away from it all in the sun and get some headspace.

Hope today goes as well as it possibly can.

[LeeThr]

Well it's the end of the day, Scarlett had an amazing send off. I did go to the wake, it was strange seeing all of her family again, but there was no arguments/funny looks/people just being off we just got on and did what we had to do. But leaving the wake did get to me a bit.

I guess this chapter of my life has had the last page written now and tomorrow is the first blank page of the next one. Who know's what's going to happen.

But thank you to everybody for all your support over the last few months with everything, and if anybody is feeling generous then a donation of any size towards SandS would be greatly appreciated.

http://www.dailypost.co.uk/buy-sell-tell/family-no...

https://www.uk-sands.org/

[80sMatchbox]

I had read this thread at the begining,,,and just say it again now.

Condolences to the OP.

A turn of events that could not have been predicted.