Tales of infidelity and woe
Discussion
Mobile Chicane said:
Six pages in and no-one has yet mentioned that if she really was cheating, she wouldn't leave her mobile phone lying around for you to potentially read her text messages. Women are usually far more careful to cover their tracks than that.
or she deliberately wants to provoke a responce, to eitherA : rub his nose in it that shes takin salami from all over town and she wants him gone anyway... or
B : She wants him to man-up and take control, and tell her shes been a bad girl etc
TVR Moneypit said:
Steamer said:
ukwill said:
Steamer said:
ukwill said:
Other than the slightly mundane car that is being washed I don't really see the 'Epic Fail' in the image.
There is a professional valeter outside my office in the pouring rain doing the same thing.
WTF is going on with this place?
Some guy appears to be cleaning his base model old Legacy whist parked right next to it is a new model Imprezza STI.
Thats the fail.
OP, I read pages 1 and 2, then skipped the rest as most responces IMO are at least borderline keyboard warrior-ism. The post from people who are cheats themselves should also be looked at from a slant - cheaters always suspect their other halves of cheating, mainly because they can't trust themselves.
Depending on how things are going at uni, finals can be a nightmare. Especially if you're near a grade boundary, have a lot riding on it etc etc. Back when I did mine (some years ago), one mate became an alcoholic, and several others went "strange", as they turned into junior hermits for the duration of exams. Although you've seen texts that suggest shhe's meeting a fella, for all the PH massive know, they could be revising, just chatting about exams, whatever. It wolud be a shame to ruin an otherwise good relationship because you get persuaded by the internet that exam stress and cheating are the same thing.
As a final bit - I'm assuming you're a top bloke, and therefore won't dump her during her finals - that kind of upheaval might cause her to do badly, and ruin her future plans etc.
Graham
Depending on how things are going at uni, finals can be a nightmare. Especially if you're near a grade boundary, have a lot riding on it etc etc. Back when I did mine (some years ago), one mate became an alcoholic, and several others went "strange", as they turned into junior hermits for the duration of exams. Although you've seen texts that suggest shhe's meeting a fella, for all the PH massive know, they could be revising, just chatting about exams, whatever. It wolud be a shame to ruin an otherwise good relationship because you get persuaded by the internet that exam stress and cheating are the same thing.
As a final bit - I'm assuming you're a top bloke, and therefore won't dump her during her finals - that kind of upheaval might cause her to do badly, and ruin her future plans etc.
Graham
Graham E said:
OP, I read pages 1 and 2, then skipped the rest as most responces IMO are at least borderline keyboard warrior-ism. The post from people who are cheats themselves should also be looked at from a slant - cheaters always suspect their other halves of cheating, mainly because they can't trust themselves.
Depending on how things are going at uni, finals can be a nightmare. Especially if you're near a grade boundary, have a lot riding on it etc etc. Back when I did mine (some years ago), one mate became an alcoholic, and several others went "strange", as they turned into junior hermits for the duration of exams. Although you've seen texts that suggest shhe's meeting a fella, for all the PH massive know, they could be revising, just chatting about exams, whatever. It wolud be a shame to ruin an otherwise good relationship because you get persuaded by the internet that exam stress and cheating are the same thing.
As a final bit - I'm assuming you're a top bloke, and therefore won't dump her during her finals - that kind of upheaval might cause her to do badly, and ruin her future plans etc.
Graham
GrahamDepending on how things are going at uni, finals can be a nightmare. Especially if you're near a grade boundary, have a lot riding on it etc etc. Back when I did mine (some years ago), one mate became an alcoholic, and several others went "strange", as they turned into junior hermits for the duration of exams. Although you've seen texts that suggest shhe's meeting a fella, for all the PH massive know, they could be revising, just chatting about exams, whatever. It wolud be a shame to ruin an otherwise good relationship because you get persuaded by the internet that exam stress and cheating are the same thing.
As a final bit - I'm assuming you're a top bloke, and therefore won't dump her during her finals - that kind of upheaval might cause her to do badly, and ruin her future plans etc.
Graham
I'm sorry but I think you're being naive and are simply going to give the lad false hope.
Just my 2c.
'Brains
Rarefied Brains said:
Graham E said:
OP, I read pages 1 and 2, then skipped the rest as most responces IMO are at least borderline keyboard warrior-ism. The post from people who are cheats themselves should also be looked at from a slant - cheaters always suspect their other halves of cheating, mainly because they can't trust themselves.
Depending on how things are going at uni, finals can be a nightmare. Especially if you're near a grade boundary, have a lot riding on it etc etc. Back when I did mine (some years ago), one mate became an alcoholic, and several others went "strange", as they turned into junior hermits for the duration of exams. Although you've seen texts that suggest shhe's meeting a fella, for all the PH massive know, they could be revising, just chatting about exams, whatever. It wolud be a shame to ruin an otherwise good relationship because you get persuaded by the internet that exam stress and cheating are the same thing.
As a final bit - I'm assuming you're a top bloke, and therefore won't dump her during her finals - that kind of upheaval might cause her to do badly, and ruin her future plans etc.
Graham
GrahamDepending on how things are going at uni, finals can be a nightmare. Especially if you're near a grade boundary, have a lot riding on it etc etc. Back when I did mine (some years ago), one mate became an alcoholic, and several others went "strange", as they turned into junior hermits for the duration of exams. Although you've seen texts that suggest shhe's meeting a fella, for all the PH massive know, they could be revising, just chatting about exams, whatever. It wolud be a shame to ruin an otherwise good relationship because you get persuaded by the internet that exam stress and cheating are the same thing.
As a final bit - I'm assuming you're a top bloke, and therefore won't dump her during her finals - that kind of upheaval might cause her to do badly, and ruin her future plans etc.
Graham
I'm sorry but I think you're being naive and are simply going to give the lad false hope.
Just my 2c.
'Brains
Though not quite the same, the bit about OP's GF choosing to watch a DVD together rather than shag like there is no tomorrow, however reminds me of my GF being away for two weeks and when I met her at the airport, rather than throwing herself at me or giving me a passionate kiss, her initial reaction was to extend her arm for a handshake.
Graham E said:
OP, I read pages 1 and 2, then skipped the rest as most responces IMO are at least borderline keyboard warrior-ism. The post from people who are cheats themselves should also be looked at from a slant - cheaters always suspect their other halves of cheating, mainly because they can't trust themselves.
Depending on how things are going at uni, finals can be a nightmare. Especially if you're near a grade boundary, have a lot riding on it etc etc. Back when I did mine (some years ago), one mate became an alcoholic, and several others went "strange", as they turned into junior hermits for the duration of exams. Although you've seen texts that suggest shhe's meeting a fella, for all the PH massive know, they could be revising, just chatting about exams, whatever. It wolud be a shame to ruin an otherwise good relationship because you get persuaded by the internet that exam stress and cheating are the same thing.
As a final bit - I'm assuming you're a top bloke, and therefore won't dump her during her finals - that kind of upheaval might cause her to do badly, and ruin her future plans etc.
Graham
Talk about Mr Positive.Depending on how things are going at uni, finals can be a nightmare. Especially if you're near a grade boundary, have a lot riding on it etc etc. Back when I did mine (some years ago), one mate became an alcoholic, and several others went "strange", as they turned into junior hermits for the duration of exams. Although you've seen texts that suggest shhe's meeting a fella, for all the PH massive know, they could be revising, just chatting about exams, whatever. It wolud be a shame to ruin an otherwise good relationship because you get persuaded by the internet that exam stress and cheating are the same thing.
As a final bit - I'm assuming you're a top bloke, and therefore won't dump her during her finals - that kind of upheaval might cause her to do badly, and ruin her future plans etc.
Graham
She's at Uni, he's away.
She's obviously getting or had some at Uni, I'm sorry mate, but I'd put £100 on it.
As for cheating now, maybe. With the signs you described, I'd be sat down with the missus trying to work out what was going on. My OH goes away 6-7 times a year and I miss her loads when she's gone.
I certainly don't lie in bed and watch a DVD, I get my game face on
Hope it's nothing mate, but fail to prepare...
JonRB said:
isee said:
however reminds me of my GF being away for two weeks and when I met her at the airport, rather than throwing herself at me or giving me a passionate kiss, her initial reaction was to extend her arm for a handshake.
WTF?!M3CHA-MONK3Y said:
Reading the Op's second post, I would say she's up to something.
Lack of interest in sex is more than likely due to guilt and not wanting to spend time with you shows she's no longer interested. Sit down and talk to her about it. As said earlier, don't let her know you've been through her phone, that will be twisted against you later and used to portray you as the bad guy to lessen her guilt.
If it was me, I would tell her you know she's up to something and that you want to end it. Be pre-emptive, calling the split first will help keep your confidence up as it puts you in control. You DO NOT want to know the details if she does admit to cheating on you, it just makes it worse.
If you can work through this, good luck but it takes a long time to let it go.
HTH
it's when you get girls who previously bug you to spend time with you, especially when you're going away...if they start not wanting to do that, clearly there has to be a reason for the sudden not-wanting-to? (apologies, vocab failing me today) Lack of interest in sex is more than likely due to guilt and not wanting to spend time with you shows she's no longer interested. Sit down and talk to her about it. As said earlier, don't let her know you've been through her phone, that will be twisted against you later and used to portray you as the bad guy to lessen her guilt.
If it was me, I would tell her you know she's up to something and that you want to end it. Be pre-emptive, calling the split first will help keep your confidence up as it puts you in control. You DO NOT want to know the details if she does admit to cheating on you, it just makes it worse.
If you can work through this, good luck but it takes a long time to let it go.
HTH
JonRB said:
isee said:
however reminds me of my GF being away for two weeks and when I met her at the airport, rather than throwing herself at me or giving me a passionate kiss, her initial reaction was to extend her arm for a handshake.
WTF?!JonRB said:
isee said:
however reminds me of my GF being away for two weeks and when I met her at the airport, rather than throwing herself at me or giving me a passionate kiss, her initial reaction was to extend her arm for a handshake.
WTF?!hora said:
OP- Maybe shes been in your phone etc and suspects that you too are up to something. You could have a casual friendship that she feels is more so?
Also...I remember once having a really vivid dream- burst into a room where someone was feckin my girlfried. Woke up and for ages I accused her saying 'well it seemed so real so you must have' etc. Sheesh- anyone else had this?!
Dreamed that an ex was fking a taxi driver. In his cab while I was in the car. When he turned and looked at me he turned into a 6ft tall fox. Also...I remember once having a really vivid dream- burst into a room where someone was feckin my girlfried. Woke up and for ages I accused her saying 'well it seemed so real so you must have' etc. Sheesh- anyone else had this?!
War Pig said:
hora said:
OP- Maybe shes been in your phone etc and suspects that you too are up to something. You could have a casual friendship that she feels is more so?
Also...I remember once having a really vivid dream- burst into a room where someone was feckin my girlfried. Woke up and for ages I accused her saying 'well it seemed so real so you must have' etc. Sheesh- anyone else had this?!
Dreamed that an ex was fking a taxi driver. In his cab while I was in the car. When he turned and looked at me he turned into a 6ft tall fox. Also...I remember once having a really vivid dream- burst into a room where someone was feckin my girlfried. Woke up and for ages I accused her saying 'well it seemed so real so you must have' etc. Sheesh- anyone else had this?!
hora said:
OP- Maybe shes been in your phone etc and suspects that you too are up to something. You could have a casual friendship that she feels is more so?
Also...I remember once having a really vivid dream- burst into a room where someone was feckin my girlfried. Woke up and for ages I accused her saying 'well it seemed so real so you must have' etc. Sheesh- anyone else had this?!
Also...I remember once having a really vivid dream- burst into a room where someone was feckin my girlfried. Woke up and for ages I accused her saying 'well it seemed so real so you must have' etc. Sheesh- anyone else had this?!
JonRB said:
isee said:
however reminds me of my GF being away for two weeks and when I met her at the airport, rather than throwing herself at me or giving me a passionate kiss, her initial reaction was to extend her arm for a handshake.
WTF?!Perhaps when my wife comes home from work, instead of kissing her, I'll extend an arm and ask 'How do you do'.
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