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ST Ford said:
Totally see we’re OP is coming from I myself just find fat women a massive turn off no matter how pretty they are...
The difference between a really good female friend and a lover is the physical attraction. If she physically changes to what you don't like, there is a risk you are going to friendzone her and look elsewhere.
It comes down to whether or not there is an underlying reason as to why she has put on weight, or just that she is at a point in life where she doesn't care so much, and enjoying her food and boxset marathons is her ideal evening. You can't make her crash diet and it won't last so if not an underlying issue, then you may need to accept she is happy as she is.
Lord Marylebone said:
You only have to walk round a university campus or student area these days to see how serious the problem is. All you will see is fat young girls waddling about with very slim boyfriends.
Really? As I though the opposite. Young people tend to be skinner as they are broke and so walk a lot and are generally active., then they get a job, make enough money to buy a car/use taxi's and it begins.Edited by hyphen on Saturday 14th April 10:39
J4CKO said:
Lots of fat chaps about as well.
The weight creeps on over time, it is hard to keep it off, especially for those who work full time and have kids, finding time to exercise is difficult.
We put loads on but have largely lost it, got time now the kids are older, missus as at Pilates right now, she has done fantasticically well, she works very hard at it.
We were never super massive, must be so hard when you get that big, feels like there is no way back, but there always is.
Good effort.The weight creeps on over time, it is hard to keep it off, especially for those who work full time and have kids, finding time to exercise is difficult.
We put loads on but have largely lost it, got time now the kids are older, missus as at Pilates right now, she has done fantasticically well, she works very hard at it.
We were never super massive, must be so hard when you get that big, feels like there is no way back, but there always is.
Finding time to physically move isn't quite as difficult as many like to suggest, though.
Many, many people could walk or cycle more than they do, rather than default to the car. They can always involve the children too.
Even carrying two heavy shopping bags is exercise.
Doing the garden yourself is exercise.
Evenings at home need not always involve sitting on the sofa watching TV.
Eating/drinking sugary crap, loads of stodge and very few vegetables isn't compulsory (or cheap) either.
Many of our friends (male and female) are fit British people in their 30s-50s. They are not special, they just get out there and do things.
Welshbeef said:
Robertj21a said:
Welshbeef said:
MODS this is a vile thread a abhorrent opening post
Can this be locked
??? - what, get a post locked for using free speech ?Can this be locked
I think you forget this forum is owned by Haymarket and diversity and anything which might be borderline isn’t worth the risk or not eliminating
singlecoil said:
Welshbeef said:
Robertj21a said:
Welshbeef said:
MODS this is a vile thread a abhorrent opening post
Can this be locked
??? - what, get a post locked for using free speech ?Can this be locked
I think you forget this forum is owned by Haymarket and diversity and anything which might be borderline isn’t worth the risk or not eliminating
Welshbeef, get out of this thread and go read something else. The OP didn't know your missus is a hefty elephant and wasn't aiming it at you, so don't take it so personally. Big girls need love too and we are glad you two are very happy
Welshbeef said:
MODS this is a vile thread a abhorrent opening post
Can this be locked
Don’t forget that all you’re massively worked up over is your fabricated belief that the father isn’t spending any time with the children. You got triggered back on page 2 and now this is your thread to be ranting on until you find another one where you can completely fabricate a horrific domestic situation in your mind and dedicate the next week to posting about that horrific, completely imagined scenario. Can this be locked
The only reason for locking this thread would be if someone else on PH didn’t mention in a post over the coming days that they hadn’t seen their children for nearly 30 seconds, thus triggering you to post there instead.
J4CKO said:
Lord Marylebone said:
ST Ford said:
Totally see we’re OP is coming from I myself just find fat women a massive turn off no matter how pretty they are when they have got rolls of fat and massive cellulite ridden legs with a saggy bum it disgusts me. I personally only like size 12 and under and especially like women who go the gym so they are toned.
There seems to have been a massive rise in big women in the Uk over the last few years who just live off a diet of junk food and alcohol but still think they are a 10/10 stunner because they post a duck face selfie from the neck up on Facebook and get loads of fake comments telling them they are gorgeous.
Mumsnet is full of moaning middle aged women who since marriage and kids have become lazy and piled on the weight yet moan when there sex life is gone or there husband has been browsing Adultwork.
Whilst this post is quite savage, there is a lot of truth in it.There seems to have been a massive rise in big women in the Uk over the last few years who just live off a diet of junk food and alcohol but still think they are a 10/10 stunner because they post a duck face selfie from the neck up on Facebook and get loads of fake comments telling them they are gorgeous.
Mumsnet is full of moaning middle aged women who since marriage and kids have become lazy and piled on the weight yet moan when there sex life is gone or there husband has been browsing Adultwork.
There has been a massive rise in female obesity in the UK, and British women are now officially the fattest group of people in the whole of Europe.
1 in 4 of all British women are now obese.
Worse than that is, for the first time 1 in 4 young women (aged 18-24) are so obese that their health is suffering.
He is also right about 'big girls' becoming socially acceptable. As long as they can cover themselves in makeup and take profile photos from bizarre angles so you can't see how fat they are, it's all fine apparently.
You only have to walk round a university campus or student area these days to see how serious the problem is. All you will see is fat young girls waddling about with very slim boyfriends.
It's a very sad state of affairs, and I say that from a health point of view.
The weight creeps on over time, it is hard to keep it off, especially for those who work full time and have kids, finding time to exercise is difficult.
We put loads on but have largely lost it, got time now the kids are older, missus as at Pilates right now, she has done fantasticically well, she works very hard at it.
We were never super massive, must be so hard when you get that big, feels like there is no way back, but there always is.
I’m actually quite surprised at the support the OP is getting regarding reducing the size of his wife.
PHs is full of perverted chubby chasers, every time we have a thread about what kind of females PHers like it’s always the big units and chunky monkeys that win.
I remember stating as much years ago and was accused of liking flat chested women that look like boys.
PHs is full of perverted chubby chasers, every time we have a thread about what kind of females PHers like it’s always the big units and chunky monkeys that win.
I remember stating as much years ago and was accused of liking flat chested women that look like boys.
El stovey said:
I’m actually quite surprised at the support the OP is getting regarding reducing the size of his wife.
PHs is full of perverted chubby chasers, every time we have a thread about what kind of females PHers like it’s always the big units and chunky monkeys that win.
I remember stating as much years ago and was accused of liking flat chested women that look like boys.
This is true. The majority of PH either seem to love women shaped like kitchen bins or at least claim to. PHs is full of perverted chubby chasers, every time we have a thread about what kind of females PHers like it’s always the big units and chunky monkeys that win.
I remember stating as much years ago and was accused of liking flat chested women that look like boys.
This is really what most remainers are upset about. There will be fewer slim girls from mainland Europe post Brexit.
El stovey said:
I’m actually quite surprised at the support the OP is getting regarding reducing the size of his wife.
PHs is full of perverted chubby chasers, every time we have a thread about what kind of females PHers like it’s always the big units and chunky monkeys that win.
I remember stating as much years ago and was accused of liking flat chested women that look like boys.
Amen to that. This truly is a forum of chubby chasers.PHs is full of perverted chubby chasers, every time we have a thread about what kind of females PHers like it’s always the big units and chunky monkeys that win.
I remember stating as much years ago and was accused of liking flat chested women that look like boys.
I've had exactly the same abuse every time I post about the sort of women I like.
It appears that many on here simply cannot understand that some is us like slim women, or rather women that take a keen interest in being slim, fit and healthy.
My sentiments remain but I apologize for the way I worded my initial post, I did think about editing, but it's out there.
The weight gain may will be attributed to the pregnancy, I accept that. So going for a third won't really help the matter, which presents a dilemma for me. That aside, it was really after the pregnancy when she put it on.
It's hard to stay physically attracted to someone, when they lose what attracted you in the first place. Its happened fairly quickly too.
The biggest problem is, I don't see how it can get better because the attitude to exercise and eating or the lifestyle changes required are not there. Even with my own lifestyle changes, it hasn't rubbed off.
There is nothing else I dislike about my wife, she's a great person, a good mum, caring and undemanding. I'm not commanding her to lose weight or giving ultimatums, I'm not thinking of leaving her. I've just lost a bit of passion and i'm not the type who can fake it, thus, it hasn't gone unnoticed and I don't feel good about it.
Welsh beef, I've had quite a bit more contact with my children than you seem to think, I work away for long periods, but my wife comes with me for a large part of it, with our first daughter, we all slept in one bed lived in one room in a house with a shared kitchen for a good few months, as I extended my time away with them in tow. They weren't supposed to be there with me, but a blind eye was turned. I also work every day when I'm away. I could invoke "company rules" as I have to live with stress of disapproval from work colleagues, if anyone complains they have to leave.
They'll all come out again soon, for a month. Maybe you should try living out of a suitcase and working everyday with your family that's not supposed to be there.
The money is good, that's why I do it. Families need money and I want to give them the best future I can. I would also like to retire early.
I've hugely reduced my gym time because I preferred to spend my evenings with my family, I encouraged walks on an evening instead and pool at the weekend. In fact I regularly pushed the buggy for miles at night on my own, it was good exercise. The biggest issue in my view is the consumption of food. Eaten at the wrong time, without portion control. I've pointed this out and offered advice, but it's dismissed.
I'm not sure what to do. I can accept it, get on with it and just watch my wife get bigger, who knows, maybe she'll turn it around. I can give her everything else she wants, but one of the most important aspects outside of my control is the passion she might expect; won't be there, because I can't give something I don't have.
I did explain this in no uncertain terms before we got married. Infact I begged her to look after her self and her weight, it's important to me and always has been.
The weight gain may will be attributed to the pregnancy, I accept that. So going for a third won't really help the matter, which presents a dilemma for me. That aside, it was really after the pregnancy when she put it on.
It's hard to stay physically attracted to someone, when they lose what attracted you in the first place. Its happened fairly quickly too.
The biggest problem is, I don't see how it can get better because the attitude to exercise and eating or the lifestyle changes required are not there. Even with my own lifestyle changes, it hasn't rubbed off.
There is nothing else I dislike about my wife, she's a great person, a good mum, caring and undemanding. I'm not commanding her to lose weight or giving ultimatums, I'm not thinking of leaving her. I've just lost a bit of passion and i'm not the type who can fake it, thus, it hasn't gone unnoticed and I don't feel good about it.
Welsh beef, I've had quite a bit more contact with my children than you seem to think, I work away for long periods, but my wife comes with me for a large part of it, with our first daughter, we all slept in one bed lived in one room in a house with a shared kitchen for a good few months, as I extended my time away with them in tow. They weren't supposed to be there with me, but a blind eye was turned. I also work every day when I'm away. I could invoke "company rules" as I have to live with stress of disapproval from work colleagues, if anyone complains they have to leave.
They'll all come out again soon, for a month. Maybe you should try living out of a suitcase and working everyday with your family that's not supposed to be there.
The money is good, that's why I do it. Families need money and I want to give them the best future I can. I would also like to retire early.
I've hugely reduced my gym time because I preferred to spend my evenings with my family, I encouraged walks on an evening instead and pool at the weekend. In fact I regularly pushed the buggy for miles at night on my own, it was good exercise. The biggest issue in my view is the consumption of food. Eaten at the wrong time, without portion control. I've pointed this out and offered advice, but it's dismissed.
I'm not sure what to do. I can accept it, get on with it and just watch my wife get bigger, who knows, maybe she'll turn it around. I can give her everything else she wants, but one of the most important aspects outside of my control is the passion she might expect; won't be there, because I can't give something I don't have.
I did explain this in no uncertain terms before we got married. Infact I begged her to look after her self and her weight, it's important to me and always has been.
Lord Marylebone said:
El stovey said:
I’m actually quite surprised at the support the OP is getting regarding reducing the size of his wife.
PHs is full of perverted chubby chasers, every time we have a thread about what kind of females PHers like it’s always the big units and chunky monkeys that win.
I remember stating as much years ago and was accused of liking flat chested women that look like boys.
Amen to that. This truly is a forum of chubby chasers.PHs is full of perverted chubby chasers, every time we have a thread about what kind of females PHers like it’s always the big units and chunky monkeys that win.
I remember stating as much years ago and was accused of liking flat chested women that look like boys.
I've had exactly the same abuse every time I post about the sort of women I like.
It appears that many on here simply cannot understand that some is us like slim women, or rather women that take a keen interest in being slim, fit and healthy.
creampuff said:
Mate, what you lose out on with fat birds in the in the physical looks dept, you can make up for in the pure filth department.
Have you considered suggesting anal invasion to spice up the sex life?
If he doesn’t fancy her because she’s fat why is he going to want to plunder her arse? If it’s a fat wobbly arse where’s the appeal?Have you considered suggesting anal invasion to spice up the sex life?
jimPH said:
My sentiments remain but I apologize for the way I worded my initial post, I did think about editing, but it's out there.
The weight gain may will be attributed to the pregnancy, I accept that. So going for a third won't really help the matter, which presents a dilemma for me. That aside, it was really after the pregnancy when she put it on.
It's hard to stay physically attracted to someone, when they lose what attracted you in the first place. Its happened fairly quickly too.
The biggest problem is, I don't see how it can get better because the attitude to exercise and eating or the lifestyle changes required are not there. Even with my own lifestyle changes, it hasn't rubbed off.
There is nothing else I dislike about my wife, she's a great person, a good mum, caring and undemanding. I'm not commanding her to lose weight or giving ultimatums, I'm not thinking of leaving her. I've just lost a bit of passion and i'm not the type who can fake it, thus, it hasn't gone unnoticed and I don't feel good about it.
Welsh beef, I've had quite a bit more contact with my children than you seem to think, I work away for long periods, but my wife comes with me for a large part of it, with our first daughter, we all slept in one bed lived in one room in a house with a shared kitchen for a good few months, as I extended my time away with them in tow. They weren't supposed to be there with me, but a blind eye was turned. I also work every day when I'm away. I could invoke "company rules" as I have to live with stress of disapproval from work colleagues, if anyone complains they have to leave.
They'll all come out again soon, for a month. Maybe you should try living out of a suitcase and working everyday with your family that's not supposed to be there.
The money is good, that's why I do it. Families need money and I want to give them the best future I can. I would also like to retire early.
I've hugely reduced my gym time because I preferred to spend my evenings with my family, I encouraged walks on an evening instead and pool at the weekend. In fact I regularly pushed the buggy for miles at night on my own, it was good exercise. The biggest issue in my view is the consumption of food. Eaten at the wrong time, without portion control. I've pointed this out and offered advice, but it's dismissed.
I'm not sure what to do. I can accept it, get on with it and just watch my wife get bigger, who knows, maybe she'll turn it around. I can give her everything else she wants, but one of the most important aspects outside of my control is the passion she might expect; won't be there, because I can't give something I don't have.
I did explain this in no uncertain terms before we got married. Infact I begged her to look after her self and her weight, it's important to me and always has been.
I wouldn’t overly concern yourself with WB. He will have concocted an image of you and your wife sitting in the beach for months on end while your children sit in the car at Heathrow long stay and you won’t now change that. You are a terrible human being etc etc. The weight gain may will be attributed to the pregnancy, I accept that. So going for a third won't really help the matter, which presents a dilemma for me. That aside, it was really after the pregnancy when she put it on.
It's hard to stay physically attracted to someone, when they lose what attracted you in the first place. Its happened fairly quickly too.
The biggest problem is, I don't see how it can get better because the attitude to exercise and eating or the lifestyle changes required are not there. Even with my own lifestyle changes, it hasn't rubbed off.
There is nothing else I dislike about my wife, she's a great person, a good mum, caring and undemanding. I'm not commanding her to lose weight or giving ultimatums, I'm not thinking of leaving her. I've just lost a bit of passion and i'm not the type who can fake it, thus, it hasn't gone unnoticed and I don't feel good about it.
Welsh beef, I've had quite a bit more contact with my children than you seem to think, I work away for long periods, but my wife comes with me for a large part of it, with our first daughter, we all slept in one bed lived in one room in a house with a shared kitchen for a good few months, as I extended my time away with them in tow. They weren't supposed to be there with me, but a blind eye was turned. I also work every day when I'm away. I could invoke "company rules" as I have to live with stress of disapproval from work colleagues, if anyone complains they have to leave.
They'll all come out again soon, for a month. Maybe you should try living out of a suitcase and working everyday with your family that's not supposed to be there.
The money is good, that's why I do it. Families need money and I want to give them the best future I can. I would also like to retire early.
I've hugely reduced my gym time because I preferred to spend my evenings with my family, I encouraged walks on an evening instead and pool at the weekend. In fact I regularly pushed the buggy for miles at night on my own, it was good exercise. The biggest issue in my view is the consumption of food. Eaten at the wrong time, without portion control. I've pointed this out and offered advice, but it's dismissed.
I'm not sure what to do. I can accept it, get on with it and just watch my wife get bigger, who knows, maybe she'll turn it around. I can give her everything else she wants, but one of the most important aspects outside of my control is the passion she might expect; won't be there, because I can't give something I don't have.
I did explain this in no uncertain terms before we got married. Infact I begged her to look after her self and her weight, it's important to me and always has been.
Re the post birth weight gain, it may be relevant to ask if your wife ate healthily and exercised prior to children, if not then what is taking place is probably perfectly natural but if your wife was a healthy eater and did exercise then it could be prudent to consider that she has depression, something that is far, far more common after birth than we generally recognise. The body changes, the mind changes, responsibilities change and your entire life changes and it all happens over about 6 months. It would freak any sane person out. Comfort eating as well as what I think is best called ‘sabotage’ eating is not exactly uncommon.
Being brutal it is worth considering whether a person who has put on weight but is not happy is just lazy or depressed. The latter can be helped and fixed. The former requires a holiday in Cambodia.
DonkeyApple said:
Being brutal it is worth considering whether a person who has put on weight but is not happy is just lazy or depressed. The latter can be helped and fixed. The former requires a holiday in Cambodia.
OP said his wife used to come and stay with him, but this is reducing with the kids.Could she be consciously/sub-consciously be punishing him I wonder, I know all the women on t
tter are strong and need no-one, but back in the real world, a lot of women do want their men to be around.On the plus side, OP being fat means she will get less attention from men so reduced chance of an affair whilst you are away, every cloud and all that.
DonkeyApple said:
Re the post birth weight gain, it may be relevant to ask if your wife ate healthily and exercised prior to children, if not then what is taking place is probably perfectly natural but if your wife was a healthy eater and did exercise then it could be prudent to consider that she has depression, something that is far, far more common after birth than we generally recognise.
Or in all of the travel and taking care of 2 (young?) kids on her own(?) she lack the time or motivation, as you say, possibly combined with PND. Must be tough to keep your support network going with so much travel.OP, is this just one of these kinks where you want strangers to say bad stuff about your Mrs?
I can understand someone not liking that their partner has put on weight but this thread is kind of inviting criticism of your partner. I’m not sure many posters would want strangers discussing their wife being fat on the internet.
It’s probably more effective if everyone knows the score then beefy can stop getting upset and people can stop bothering to post helpful advice like that guy saying she’ll run off with your house and a black man and you getting what’s coming to you or whatever the f. he was babbling on about.
I can understand someone not liking that their partner has put on weight but this thread is kind of inviting criticism of your partner. I’m not sure many posters would want strangers discussing their wife being fat on the internet.
It’s probably more effective if everyone knows the score then beefy can stop getting upset and people can stop bothering to post helpful advice like that guy saying she’ll run off with your house and a black man and you getting what’s coming to you or whatever the f. he was babbling on about.
Guys be kind. OP is a bit “soft” and genuinely believes he has the upper hand at home and thinks he is choosing not to sort his Mrs out.
This is what will happen:
- The BBW who until now was preoccupied with the children, will notice that he is no longer tapping her booty before he leaves for his 6-8 week stint and when he returns
- she will try to initiate things a few times and fail because he of course now finds her fat and unattractive
- being a BBW she will be expressive about how she feels, may scream and shout because her body needs his member especially when ovulating (on heat)
- because she is screaming and crying, he will find her even more unattractive and tell her she is fat and ugly when she cries
- the BBW will eventually go to her little black book and find the rhythmic black panther from her past. Rock hard and huge he will oblige.
- when OP comes home after 6 to 8 weeks, very satisfied BBW will be nice to him - but never ask for sex with him again
- OP will sit in the loft in a vest and dream of a V8 and continue to pay for BBW’s wonderful life
-But OP will be none the wiser, he will still be ignorant and continue bask in his own feeling of superiority
Watch this space.
This is what will happen:
- The BBW who until now was preoccupied with the children, will notice that he is no longer tapping her booty before he leaves for his 6-8 week stint and when he returns
- she will try to initiate things a few times and fail because he of course now finds her fat and unattractive
- being a BBW she will be expressive about how she feels, may scream and shout because her body needs his member especially when ovulating (on heat)
- because she is screaming and crying, he will find her even more unattractive and tell her she is fat and ugly when she cries
- the BBW will eventually go to her little black book and find the rhythmic black panther from her past. Rock hard and huge he will oblige.
- when OP comes home after 6 to 8 weeks, very satisfied BBW will be nice to him - but never ask for sex with him again
- OP will sit in the loft in a vest and dream of a V8 and continue to pay for BBW’s wonderful life
-But OP will be none the wiser, he will still be ignorant and continue bask in his own feeling of superiority
Watch this space.
N-TY4C said:
Guys be kind. OP is a bit “soft” and genuinely believes he has the upper hand at home and thinks he is choosing not to sort his Mrs out.
This is what will happen:
- The BBW who until now was preoccupied with the children, will notice that he is no longer tapping her booty before he leaves for his 6-8 week stint and when he returns
- she will try to initiate things a few times and fail because he of course now finds her fat and unattractive
- being a BBW she will be expressive about how she feels, may scream and shout because her body needs his member especially when ovulating (on heat)
- because she is screaming and crying, he will find her even more unattractive and tell her she is fat and ugly when she cries
- the BBW will eventually go to her little black book and find the rhythmic black panther from her past. Rock hard and huge he will oblige.
- when OP comes home after 6 to 8 weeks, very satisfied BBW will be nice to him - but never ask for sex with him again
- OP will sit in the loft in a vest and dream of a V8 and continue to pay for BBW’s wonderful life
-But OP will be none the wiser, he will still be ignorant and continue bask in his own feeling of superiority
Watch this space.
You’re a bit weird and possibly a bit racist too, definitely another chubby chaser though or a jilted chunky monkey. This is what will happen:
- The BBW who until now was preoccupied with the children, will notice that he is no longer tapping her booty before he leaves for his 6-8 week stint and when he returns
- she will try to initiate things a few times and fail because he of course now finds her fat and unattractive
- being a BBW she will be expressive about how she feels, may scream and shout because her body needs his member especially when ovulating (on heat)
- because she is screaming and crying, he will find her even more unattractive and tell her she is fat and ugly when she cries
- the BBW will eventually go to her little black book and find the rhythmic black panther from her past. Rock hard and huge he will oblige.
- when OP comes home after 6 to 8 weeks, very satisfied BBW will be nice to him - but never ask for sex with him again
- OP will sit in the loft in a vest and dream of a V8 and continue to pay for BBW’s wonderful life
-But OP will be none the wiser, he will still be ignorant and continue bask in his own feeling of superiority
Watch this space.
I’m obviously just worried about these “rhythmic Black panthers” coming around to my house when I’m out.
Is this a plot from a ‘70s porn film?
Edited by anonymous-user on Saturday 14th April 14:34
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