How Solid Really is Your Marriage
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lord trumpton said:
My wife and I have been married for around 14 years. We've got 3 children.
One of my boys had a really troublesome premature birth and on day 3 of his life suffered an IVH. He's 8 now and has cerebral palsy, can't walk or talk and uses a wheelchair. He suffers from Epilepsy - each seizure can be a life ending event as he stops breathing and we have to have a rescue medication on hand.
Heartbreaking. Good luck to all your family.One of my boys had a really troublesome premature birth and on day 3 of his life suffered an IVH. He's 8 now and has cerebral palsy, can't walk or talk and uses a wheelchair. He suffers from Epilepsy - each seizure can be a life ending event as he stops breathing and we have to have a rescue medication on hand.
Puts into perspective when people come on here moaning because their brand new Aston Martin has a rattle on the dashboard.
Following a rather trying long term relationship with a lady who had kids of her own... good times but ultimately a difficult situation and not helped by the fact we just never seemed to be on the same page when it really mattered and it beat me. Was on my own for about a year, took stock, faced the facts and learned to see what I wanted in life and what I didn't. Joined a dating app...
Met Mrs Davie in early 2015, moved in together 6 months later, proposed a month later and got married 6 months after that. Vowed that we'd slow down and enjoy life... 4 months later she announced she was pregnant. That was last October so in June the little man arrived and that was a game changer for all of us, so much for slowing down but when it feels right, get on with it... spent too many wasted long worrying, waiting, thinking 'what if'.
She's brilliant... we have similar views on things, laugh at the same things, cry over similar s
t (those poor Walruss pups dammit...) and we do well because she does her things, I do mine and neither of us nit pick, we don't huff and puff, we don't make things difficult for each other for the sake of it and wee both have a lot of love, respect and trust for each other and we both share the workload equally be it the wee man, housework, shopping... whatever it takes. We have our moments, more so now with him but it's a steep learning curve for us both but we work it out.
Ultimately it works because I've never felt as relaxed in life as I do now... relationships aren't easy, but they also shouldn't be hard work.
Met Mrs Davie in early 2015, moved in together 6 months later, proposed a month later and got married 6 months after that. Vowed that we'd slow down and enjoy life... 4 months later she announced she was pregnant. That was last October so in June the little man arrived and that was a game changer for all of us, so much for slowing down but when it feels right, get on with it... spent too many wasted long worrying, waiting, thinking 'what if'.
She's brilliant... we have similar views on things, laugh at the same things, cry over similar s
t (those poor Walruss pups dammit...) and we do well because she does her things, I do mine and neither of us nit pick, we don't huff and puff, we don't make things difficult for each other for the sake of it and wee both have a lot of love, respect and trust for each other and we both share the workload equally be it the wee man, housework, shopping... whatever it takes. We have our moments, more so now with him but it's a steep learning curve for us both but we work it out. Ultimately it works because I've never felt as relaxed in life as I do now... relationships aren't easy, but they also shouldn't be hard work.
Wacky Racer said:
lord trumpton said:
My wife and I have been married for around 14 years. We've got 3 children.
One of my boys had a really troublesome premature birth and on day 3 of his life suffered an IVH. He's 8 now and has cerebral palsy, can't walk or talk and uses a wheelchair. He suffers from Epilepsy - each seizure can be a life ending event as he stops breathing and we have to have a rescue medication on hand.
Heartbreaking. Good luck to all your family.One of my boys had a really troublesome premature birth and on day 3 of his life suffered an IVH. He's 8 now and has cerebral palsy, can't walk or talk and uses a wheelchair. He suffers from Epilepsy - each seizure can be a life ending event as he stops breathing and we have to have a rescue medication on hand.
Puts into perspective when people come on here moaning because their brand new Aston Martin has a rattle on the dashboard.
Seriously though, my wife is a consultant paediatrician, specialising in kids with disabilities. It puts an enormous strain on the parents' marriage. However, the ones that endure have a bond that would survive a nuclear war. The support they give each other an their families is quite humbling.
Ari said:
Wings said:
My marriage is like living in the house on the side of a steep hill, you think the house is going to slip down the hill, but it never does. Been together 50 years, married 46, of those 46 years working in business together 7 days a week, never having a night or day apart. We have had some right ding dong rows, but still together and hopefully will always remain together.
Sounds great. amare32 said:
Ari said:
Wings said:
My marriage is like living in the house on the side of a steep hill, you think the house is going to slip down the hill, but it never does. Been together 50 years, married 46, of those 46 years working in business together 7 days a week, never having a night or day apart. We have had some right ding dong rows, but still together and hopefully will always remain together.
Sounds great. 
MYOB said:
amare32 said:
Same vagina for the last 46 years sound like hell to me.
Show some respect boy! ked the same one twice!" It doesn't exactly say a lot about his technique, that once is enough for the nearly all the women involved! We have been married 17 years in February and it was the best thing I ever did.
My wife is amazing. She backs me up and puts up with me.
I know I’m not easy to live with. I’m grumpy, drink too much and work too much but she’s always there.
Without her I would be a mess.
I can not imagine a life apart. I’m no softie. Middle aged Rugby playing builder but she makes me such a better person.
My family do not hug or show affection at all. She has got me to be affectionate with our children and I tell them I love them and we have lots of hugs.
Sorry it’s such a long post but I’ve read all the other posts and just wanted to put it out there how much I think of her.
My wife is amazing. She backs me up and puts up with me.
I know I’m not easy to live with. I’m grumpy, drink too much and work too much but she’s always there.
Without her I would be a mess.
I can not imagine a life apart. I’m no softie. Middle aged Rugby playing builder but she makes me such a better person.
My family do not hug or show affection at all. She has got me to be affectionate with our children and I tell them I love them and we have lots of hugs.
Sorry it’s such a long post but I’ve read all the other posts and just wanted to put it out there how much I think of her.
FocusRS3 said:
WestyCarl said:
I have a theory that the more people project a "perfect social media image" the sttier the reality really is. If you're truly happy you don't have to show off about it
100% on thisttier the reality really is. If you're truly happy you don't have to show off about itI don’t have any family nearby but I can send pictures of the kids and general updates to everyone at the touch of a button. And because you generally will record the good bits, when the kids are being extra s
t I can remind myself that it’s not all bad. Useful at the moment as the Christmas meltdowns started a couple of weeks ago. I am not sure I can really comment on the rest of the thread really. I wanted a 50:50 type marriage the 2nd time round, with lots of chatter laughter and life. But I went for a guy who after the initial honeymoon period wore off, is very traditional, a homebody, wants to have dinner on the table, a clean house, everything taken care of, to be left alone to watch tv, kids out of the way and got sick of my s
t years ago. We’ve been together 16 years.amare32 said:
Henners said:
amare32 said:
Same vagina for the last 46 years sound like hell to me.
Maybe you're gay? 
Some of us just like variety. Don't knock it
I don't know who you think I'm being a white knight for
Just an observation, those very keen to be very manly 'no one woman is enough' etc, interest me. Particularly when they go out of their way to state it.I'm bi, I like dick and clout - nothing to be ashamed of man
oldbanger said:
FocusRS3 said:
WestyCarl said:
I have a theory that the more people project a "perfect social media image" the sttier the reality really is. If you're truly happy you don't have to show off about it
100% on thisttier the reality really is. If you're truly happy you don't have to show off about itI don’t have any family nearby but I can send pictures of the kids and general updates to everyone at the touch of a button. And because you generally will record the good bits, when the kids are being extra s
t I can remind myself that it’s not all bad. Useful at the moment as the Christmas meltdowns started a couple of weeks ago. .It's often that those who are very 'look at my wonderful life' on social media are often the ones struggling - not being happy, or trying to portray a lifestyle not in line with means etc. (Not in every case though).
I think there have been a few studies to that effect.
oldbanger said:
I’d agree with you on this to a certain extent, but it’s also a fab way to communicate and to create memories.
I don’t have any family nearby but I can send pictures of the kids and general updates to everyone at the touch of a button. And because you generally will record the good bits, when the kids are being extra st I can remind myself that it’s not all bad. Useful at the moment as the Christmas meltdowns started a couple of weeks ago.
I am not sure I can really comment on the rest of the thread really. I wanted a 50:50 type marriage the 2nd time round, with lots of chatter laughter and life. But I went for a guy who after the initial honeymoon period wore off, is very traditional, a homebody, wants to have dinner on the table, a clean house, everything taken care of, to be left alone to watch tv, kids out of the way and got sick of my st years ago. We’ve been together 16 years.
But you don’t sound very happy with the current arrangement ? I don’t have any family nearby but I can send pictures of the kids and general updates to everyone at the touch of a button. And because you generally will record the good bits, when the kids are being extra s
t I can remind myself that it’s not all bad. Useful at the moment as the Christmas meltdowns started a couple of weeks ago. I am not sure I can really comment on the rest of the thread really. I wanted a 50:50 type marriage the 2nd time round, with lots of chatter laughter and life. But I went for a guy who after the initial honeymoon period wore off, is very traditional, a homebody, wants to have dinner on the table, a clean house, everything taken care of, to be left alone to watch tv, kids out of the way and got sick of my s
t years ago. We’ve been together 16 years.
Only a young one here, 27years old, 9years in our relationship and Married for 6months, we went to Florida to get married, small group of people, and that was what we wanted and did. We have two chrildren, and yes like others we have disagreements, but then ultimately we sort the issue and move on, being young it take a lot of work, and with the children their can be stress. But it all works for us, without my wife I might not be the person / man I am, and I'm greatful for what we have together
Shuff4 said:
Only a young one here, 27years old, 9years in our relationship and Married for 6months, we went to Florida to get married, small group of people, and that was what we wanted and did. We have two chrildren, and yes like others we have disagreements, but then ultimately we sort the issue and move on, being young it take a lot of work, and with the children their can be stress. But it all works for us, without my wife I might not be the person / man I am, and I'm greatful for what we have together
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