"You're very nice but..."
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Mobile Chicane said:
Shnozz said:
JonRB said:
Famous Graham said:
The irony is, of course, the moment you whinge about it, you're instantly unattractive 
Definitely this. 
I have a friend on Facebook who is always moaning about how nice he is and how it's so unfair that nice guys finish last
and it is deeply unattractive. Comes across as very needy and women just don't like that. Carthage said:
But then, would you want the sort of woman who stays with such an arse anyway?
(Although, there are surprisingly many male nutters out there, I suppose).
Like attracts like normally. (Although, there are surprisingly many male nutters out there, I suppose).
I feel sorry for people who find their sister or daughter all of a sudden involved with someone who is inherently violent.
It is a constant fear of mine that either of my step daughters meet an arse. So far their boyfreiends have been nice chaps. What would I do if they meet an arse, not sure but the arse would know that to beat them he would have to beat me first. God I hate women beaters.
Famous Graham said:
Mobile Chicane said:
Shnozz said:
JonRB said:
Famous Graham said:
The irony is, of course, the moment you whinge about it, you're instantly unattractive
Definitely this. I have a friend on Facebook who is always moaning about how nice he is and how it's so unfair that nice guys finish last
and it is deeply unattractive. Comes across as very needy and women just don't like that. 
zip929 said:
Like attracts like normally.
I feel sorry for people who find their sister or daughter all of a sudden involved with someone who is inherently violent.
It is a constant fear of mine that either of my step daughters meet an arse. So far their boyfreiends have been nice chaps. What would I do if they meet an arse, not sure but the arse would know that to beat them he would have to beat me first. God I hate women beaters.
I suspect that most people won't know their sister/daughter is involved with someone violent which is the main problem. I feel sorry for people who find their sister or daughter all of a sudden involved with someone who is inherently violent.
It is a constant fear of mine that either of my step daughters meet an arse. So far their boyfreiends have been nice chaps. What would I do if they meet an arse, not sure but the arse would know that to beat them he would have to beat me first. God I hate women beaters.
I spent a good while telling people that an arse of an ex broke his arm falling down stairs when he actually aimed a punch at me, I ducked and he broke his knuckles on the wall. Karma.
Carthage said:
I suspect that most people won't know their sister/daughter is involved with someone violent which is the main problem.
I spent a good while telling people that an arse of an ex broke his arm falling down stairs when he actually aimed a punch at me, I ducked and he broke his knuckles on the wall. Karma.
I know it is the main problem. If they do not tell you there is a problem, then unless you see black eyes you remain oblivious to the issues.I spent a good while telling people that an arse of an ex broke his arm falling down stairs when he actually aimed a punch at me, I ducked and he broke his knuckles on the wall. Karma.
You can only help if they want to be helped.
zip929 said:
I know it is the main problem. If they do not tell you there is a problem, then unless you see black eyes you remain oblivious to the issues.
You can only help if they want to be helped.
Don't worry, I'm sure that your step daughters have more sense than I did. You can only help if they want to be helped.
I lived and learned, though.
VinceFox said:
*sigh*
Really? This again?
Be the best version of yourself that you can possibly be, compete with yourself to improve your mind, your health, your interest and passion in all areas of life EXCEPT trying to meet women. Basically be f
king AWESOME. Stop looking for women and forget about expecting them to come to you if you get better at being you. Just get better at it because it will be better than being the st version of you and for gods sake if you have to talk to them, do it because you want anoter mate that happens to be female. Dont expect anything else and dont treat them as though you do.
Being with someone isnt that important. Tbh it can be a massive liability or at the very least an inconvenience. Get comfy being on your own, hone and sharpen your interests and skills in things you really enjoy or that you think really matter. Life isnt an episode of the fking inbetweeners, it's life and it'll be over before you know it.
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Good advice. Really? This again?
Be the best version of yourself that you can possibly be, compete with yourself to improve your mind, your health, your interest and passion in all areas of life EXCEPT trying to meet women. Basically be f
king AWESOME. Stop looking for women and forget about expecting them to come to you if you get better at being you. Just get better at it because it will be better than being the st version of you and for gods sake if you have to talk to them, do it because you want anoter mate that happens to be female. Dont expect anything else and dont treat them as though you do. Being with someone isnt that important. Tbh it can be a massive liability or at the very least an inconvenience. Get comfy being on your own, hone and sharpen your interests and skills in things you really enjoy or that you think really matter. Life isnt an episode of the f
king inbetweeners, it's life and it'll be over before you know it. .
Sorry to say this but people who I have seen in the friend zone are usually setting their sights a bit high in the looks department, if you ask yourself why they are going out with the good looking, physical, confident lad then you have already answered your own question
No need to be an asshole, my mate who has been a very successful swordsman into his late 30's hasn't needed to be which means he has a healthy list of special friends.
Mobile Chicane said:
Famous Graham said:
Mobile Chicane said:
Shnozz said:
JonRB said:
Famous Graham said:
The irony is, of course, the moment you whinge about it, you're instantly unattractive
Definitely this. I have a friend on Facebook who is always moaning about how nice he is and how it's so unfair that nice guys finish last
and it is deeply unattractive. Comes across as very needy and women just don't like that. 
Ozone said:
Mobile Chicane said:
Famous Graham said:
Mobile Chicane said:
Shnozz said:
JonRB said:
Famous Graham said:
The irony is, of course, the moment you whinge about it, you're instantly unattractive
Definitely this. I have a friend on Facebook who is always moaning about how nice he is and how it's so unfair that nice guys finish last
and it is deeply unattractive. Comes across as very needy and women just don't like that. 
Mobile Chicane said:
Ozone said:
Mobile Chicane said:
Famous Graham said:
Mobile Chicane said:
Shnozz said:
JonRB said:
Famous Graham said:
The irony is, of course, the moment you whinge about it, you're instantly unattractive
Definitely this. I have a friend on Facebook who is always moaning about how nice he is and how it's so unfair that nice guys finish last
and it is deeply unattractive. Comes across as very needy and women just don't like that. Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff