Any other expectant Dads?
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Lazadude said:
weirdly accurate at times, especially at cognitive development and good/bad patches.
With little Harry now coming up to 5 months old, this is one of the most fascinating things to watch - the books/apps will say 'welcome to week XX, your child might start doing X or Y this week, and sure enough, he does. Its really amazing. It only takes about 2 months before the personality begins to come out, its brill.
Vaud said:
CharlieH89 said:
Congrats! 
Any other books people recommend?
Only one.Any other books people recommend?
The Wonder Weeks (comes as an app as well). Tells you about the various development leaps week by week. It's excellent and goes a long way to explaining changes in behaviour, even within a few days. So it doesn't advise you what to do, it just opens up a world of understanding the baby better.
The rest of the books got dumped as they contradict each other and make you paranoid.
will_ said:
CharlieH89 said:
Just bought Commando Dad (
) and The Expectant Dad's survival guide.
See how they are.
The latter I found to be fairly patronising.) and The Expectant Dad's survival guide. See how they are.
Had the 12 week scan today.. what an amazing experience!!
Everything looks fine.. phew! The little bugger was in an awkward position so they couldn't measure the neck for the Down's screening and no amount of jiggling around would persuade him to move!(I'm convinced it's a little man). It also had to measure no more than 84mm long for the screening but ours averaged out at 86-89mm so we're unable to have the Patau's and Edwards tests. They reckon we're further along than we worked out - 13.4 weeks.
She's booked in again next week for another blood test to check for Downs.
She had to have a vaginal ultrasound in the end after difficulty getting a decent enough image - I didn't know such a thing was possible but it's very common apparently. Watching it stretch (the baby) brought tears to my eyes!
I find it hard to get my head around it only measures 86mm long!!! Utterly amazing.
Everything looks fine.. phew! The little bugger was in an awkward position so they couldn't measure the neck for the Down's screening and no amount of jiggling around would persuade him to move!(I'm convinced it's a little man). It also had to measure no more than 84mm long for the screening but ours averaged out at 86-89mm so we're unable to have the Patau's and Edwards tests. They reckon we're further along than we worked out - 13.4 weeks.
She's booked in again next week for another blood test to check for Downs.
She had to have a vaginal ultrasound in the end after difficulty getting a decent enough image - I didn't know such a thing was possible but it's very common apparently. Watching it stretch (the baby) brought tears to my eyes!
I find it hard to get my head around it only measures 86mm long!!! Utterly amazing.
ST_Nuts said:
Had the 12 week scan today.. what an amazing experience!!
Everything looks fine.. phew! The little bugger was in an awkward position so they couldn't measure the neck for the Down's screening and no amount of jiggling around would persuade him to move!(I'm convinced it's a little man). It also had to measure no more than 84mm long for the screening but ours averaged out at 86-89mm so we're unable to have the Patau's and Edwards tests. They reckon we're further along than we worked out - 13.4 weeks.
She's booked in again next week for another blood test to check for Downs.
She had to have a vaginal ultrasound in the end after difficulty getting a decent enough image - I didn't know such a thing was possible but it's very common apparently. Watching it stretch (the baby) brought tears to my eyes!
I find it hard to get my head around it only measures 86mm long!!! Utterly amazing.
Congrats we had a private scan on Sunday at 8 weeks and that was pretty special too so really glad all went well for you. Everything looks fine.. phew! The little bugger was in an awkward position so they couldn't measure the neck for the Down's screening and no amount of jiggling around would persuade him to move!(I'm convinced it's a little man). It also had to measure no more than 84mm long for the screening but ours averaged out at 86-89mm so we're unable to have the Patau's and Edwards tests. They reckon we're further along than we worked out - 13.4 weeks.
She's booked in again next week for another blood test to check for Downs.
She had to have a vaginal ultrasound in the end after difficulty getting a decent enough image - I didn't know such a thing was possible but it's very common apparently. Watching it stretch (the baby) brought tears to my eyes!
I find it hard to get my head around it only measures 86mm long!!! Utterly amazing.
juggsy said:
So we tried sleep training on advice from the HV which was incredibly effective, leaving him to cry for slightly longer periods of time (10, 15, 20, 30 mins etc), showing him we’re still around and care, but that he could self soothe too. It was a hard couple of weeks but worked really well for us to get him into a routine.
Glad to hear positive news on this. I was suspicious of this sleep training / self sooth voodoo, but a close friend (she has 3 kids) recommend to do this on our first child. We went all out, and placed her on the cotbed and left the room. Missus found it extremely hard to hear the crying baby, but within the week, the crying time reduced from ~ 60 mins to ~ 20 mins. It does sound harsh leaving her alone for so lone, but she was happy as Larry when we picked her up each morning. We started training when she was 4 months old, but it was interrupted due to a trip to the Far East for 2 weeks (8 hours time difference) so her body clock was all out of synch! From my recollection, it took approx a month for our girl to fully self sooth. Most of the time (exception when she's unwell where we would cuddle her), we would put her down, she would maybe cry/moan a bit, then wiggle to find a comfortable position, then simply zonk out. I initially didn't believe in this "voodoo", and it may not work for everyone, but we are glad we tried it out as as we feel it has made the day and evening sleeping routine so much easier to deal with (especially when the outlaws / friends babysit). Contrast this to my wife's friend who co-sleep with their first child (19 months) and she due her second child next month. She is concerned with how to juggle her first child and the new baby come the evening time as her husband works late and won't be around to help. We have our 8 week old in a Chicco next to our bed, and in a Sleepyhead.
He struggles to fall asleep, if we go to bed at about 9pm he'll try and stay awake ubtil at least 11pm.. He wakes every 2-3 hours without fail for a feed, (the missus is insistent on changing his nappy every time he wakes up, I would prefer to feed only and see if he falls asleep easier) he has reflux so we have to have him sat up for 20 mins or so after a feed, but he takes around 1hr to fall back to sleep, then he's back up again 1.5hrs later again..
Ive told the missus to put him in his nursery, in his cot on his own and watch him on the baby monitor, see what he does.. Maybe it's our bedroom that makes him too stimulated so doesn't want to sleep. Once he's asleep we can bring him back into his Chicco in our room.. She's not a fan.
Definitely struggling with sleep at the moment!
He struggles to fall asleep, if we go to bed at about 9pm he'll try and stay awake ubtil at least 11pm.. He wakes every 2-3 hours without fail for a feed, (the missus is insistent on changing his nappy every time he wakes up, I would prefer to feed only and see if he falls asleep easier) he has reflux so we have to have him sat up for 20 mins or so after a feed, but he takes around 1hr to fall back to sleep, then he's back up again 1.5hrs later again..
Ive told the missus to put him in his nursery, in his cot on his own and watch him on the baby monitor, see what he does.. Maybe it's our bedroom that makes him too stimulated so doesn't want to sleep. Once he's asleep we can bring him back into his Chicco in our room.. She's not a fan.
Definitely struggling with sleep at the moment!
Jonnny said:
We have our 8 week old in a Chicco next to our bed, and in a Sleepyhead.
He struggles to fall asleep, if we go to bed at about 9pm he'll try and stay awake ubtil at least 11pm.. He wakes every 2-3 hours without fail for a feed, (the missus is insistent on changing his nappy every time he wakes up, I would prefer to feed only and see if he falls asleep easier) he has reflux so we have to have him sat up for 20 mins or so after a feed, but he takes around 1hr to fall back to sleep, then he's back up again 1.5hrs later again..
Ive told the missus to put him in his nursery, in his cot on his own and watch him on the baby monitor, see what he does.. Maybe it's our bedroom that makes him too stimulated so doesn't want to sleep. Once he's asleep we can bring him back into his Chicco in our room.. She's not a fan.
Definitely struggling with sleep at the moment!
This sounds exactly what mine did at that age. Changing a nappy when it isn't required is madness. That will not be helping. He struggles to fall asleep, if we go to bed at about 9pm he'll try and stay awake ubtil at least 11pm.. He wakes every 2-3 hours without fail for a feed, (the missus is insistent on changing his nappy every time he wakes up, I would prefer to feed only and see if he falls asleep easier) he has reflux so we have to have him sat up for 20 mins or so after a feed, but he takes around 1hr to fall back to sleep, then he's back up again 1.5hrs later again..
Ive told the missus to put him in his nursery, in his cot on his own and watch him on the baby monitor, see what he does.. Maybe it's our bedroom that makes him too stimulated so doesn't want to sleep. Once he's asleep we can bring him back into his Chicco in our room.. She's not a fan.
Definitely struggling with sleep at the moment!
To be honest we lived with it until he was about 4 months old. 8 weeks is a little early to be evicting! Then he went in his own room for the reasons you mention. There was too much going on in our room. We followed the sleep raining someone mentioned above. He dropped to 2-3 feeds a night (12 hours) within a week, going straight off after eack and was down to one feed within a month. He does sometimes still need an early morning feed now (15 months).
Occasionally we have to sleep in the same room with him whilst away and he instantly drops back into his waking up every 2 hours from the moment we're in the room.
chip* said:
juggsy said:
So we tried sleep training on advice from the HV which was incredibly effective, leaving him to cry for slightly longer periods of time (10, 15, 20, 30 mins etc), showing him we’re still around and care, but that he could self soothe too. It was a hard couple of weeks but worked really well for us to get him into a routine.
Missus found it extremely hard to hear the crying baby, but within the week, the crying time reduced from ~ 60 mins to ~ 20 mins. It does sound harsh leaving her alone for so lone, but she was happy as Larry when we picked her up each morning. We started training when she was 4 months old, but it was interrupted due to a trip to the Far East for 2 weeks (8 hours time difference) so her body clock was all out of synch! From my recollection, it took approx a month for our girl to fully self sooth.Peanut Gallery said:
They are only young once!
How many hundreds of times have I told myself this! 4:30am this morning our 5 year old comes into our bed and refuses to go to sleep again he was AWAKE! He got another hour between 6 and 7 on the sofa downstairs after watching endless crap on Amazon Prime.
My advice to you newbies get Prime and Netflix your going to need everything you can get over the next few years. Sleep or lack of is the single hardest thing about bringing up kids.
Blown2CV said:
Number 1 son arrived into the world yesterday! Absolutely amazing day. Sunroof delivery. Knot in the cord which apparently would have presented a risk had he been delivered naturally so that’s just as well. Hopefully that has had no impact. Being a Dad again is just perfect.
Congratulations. I have enjoyed Dadding much more the second time around. Much less fear of the unknown allowing me to enjoy the whole experience.My little girl had her 16 Week injections yesterday, The first two lots of injections at 8 weeks and 12 Weeks she had didn't phase her, the 16 Week ones though are a different story, shes so not been herself today, constantly grizzly, not her usual happy self, not sleeping etc, we've given calpol but she just keeps spitting it out, so I've made a quick dash to boots to try Neurofen which was recommended to us. Hope it works
Gazzas86 said:
My little girl had her 16 Week injections yesterday, The first two lots of injections at 8 weeks and 12 Weeks she had didn't phase her, the 16 Week ones though are a different story, shes so not been herself today, constantly grizzly, not her usual happy self, not sleeping etc, we've given calpol but she just keeps spitting it out, so I've made a quick dash to boots to try Neurofen which was recommended to us. Hope it works
One trick with calpol/Neurofen is to hold them and drip it in the side of her mouth towards the back (not too far back) and just put in 0.5ml at a time; there is (almost) too little to spit out. Blown2CV said:
Number 1 son arrived into the world yesterday! Absolutely amazing day. Sunroof delivery. Knot in the cord which apparently would have presented a risk had he been delivered naturally so that’s just as well. Hopefully that has had no impact. Being a Dad again is just perfect.
Congrats 2CV! Will be asking for tips on surviving the first few weeks with no.2 in a couple of months!Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff