Would you help a hurt child out?
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Very concerning that there is even a question of not helping a hurt child out. Of course you should, but I would have explained the situation to the parents.
How would feel knowing your hurt child was ignored by the local community because they were too concerned about the possible impact on them? Are we all becoming that insular and paranoid?
How would feel knowing your hurt child was ignored by the local community because they were too concerned about the possible impact on them? Are we all becoming that insular and paranoid?
T5SOR said:
I would’ve carried the child home, as it seems more acceptable (in my head). I think you did the right thing though.
I would however feel differently if my children were getting in someone’s car that they didn’t know. Strange how my opinion changes, but you can’t be too careful.
You'd have picked up and, well, cuddled a strange child?? I would however feel differently if my children were getting in someone’s car that they didn’t know. Strange how my opinion changes, but you can’t be too careful.
Mike335i said:
Very concerning that there is even a question of not helping a hurt child out. Of course you should, but I would have explained the situation to the parents.
How would feel knowing your hurt child was ignored by the local community because they were too concerned about the possible impact on them? Are we all becoming that insular and paranoid?
Agree. Speaking to the parents is very important as you say. How would feel knowing your hurt child was ignored by the local community because they were too concerned about the possible impact on them? Are we all becoming that insular and paranoid?
Yep, you did the right thing! Had a stranger dropped one of my injured children off I would have been very grateful & given them a bottle of wine as a thanks.
I would however have to work out what I say to child about getting into a strangers car & what circumstances it is OK to!?... That'd be the thing I'd wobble about.
I would however have to work out what I say to child about getting into a strangers car & what circumstances it is OK to!?... That'd be the thing I'd wobble about.
I'd rather not see a child in distress and would defend any accusation of my actions being inappropriate.
We should not be scared of being human for the fear of being accused of being inhumane.
As for...
quote=pablo]During the child protection parts of my cycling coaching and cubs training, we’re explicitly told never get yourself in a position where allegations could be made, in a car alone with a child for example. Undoubtedly you did the right thing, it takes a really callous individual not to assist in some form but I would have walked with the kid to their home not driven them.
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Sounds more like coach protection parts of coaching to me.
I'd repeat the sound advice for the OP in that I would have walked the child to the door. Not to prevent an accusation of inappropriate behaviour, but to reassure the parents.
We should not be scared of being human for the fear of being accused of being inhumane.
As for...
quote=pablo]During the child protection parts of my cycling coaching and cubs training, we’re explicitly told never get yourself in a position where allegations could be made, in a car alone with a child for example. Undoubtedly you did the right thing, it takes a really callous individual not to assist in some form but I would have walked with the kid to their home not driven them.
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Sounds more like coach protection parts of coaching to me.
I'd repeat the sound advice for the OP in that I would have walked the child to the door. Not to prevent an accusation of inappropriate behaviour, but to reassure the parents.
Andeh1 said:
Yep, you did the right thing! Had a stranger dropped one of my injured children off I would have been very grateful & given them a bottle of wine as a thanks.
I would however have to work out what I say to child about getting into a strangers car & what circumstances it is OK to!?... That'd be the thing I'd wobble about.
Agreed, I'd be very grateful to you OP but I'd have to tell my daughter she's done something wrong and shouldn't have accepted the lift, as horrible as that isI would however have to work out what I say to child about getting into a strangers car & what circumstances it is OK to!?... That'd be the thing I'd wobble about.
[quote=Cantaloupe]Not a chance, I would have offered to contact someone for them or stayed with them till help arrived but asking them to get into my car is
inviting a whole heap of trouble,
The world has changed for the worse, and looking after numero uno is paramount quote]
Which amongst other things is why the world has changed for the worse
inviting a whole heap of trouble,
The world has changed for the worse, and looking after numero uno is paramount quote]
Which amongst other things is why the world has changed for the worse
You did the right thing.
The really sad part is that many people think it is wrong - and of course if you were a woman this conversation would not be taking place. Pretty tragic the state of our country..
If you go to Tobago you will see school kids getting lifts to school - from pretty much anyone. Random cars will stop and take the kids...
The really sad part is that many people think it is wrong - and of course if you were a woman this conversation would not be taking place. Pretty tragic the state of our country..
If you go to Tobago you will see school kids getting lifts to school - from pretty much anyone. Random cars will stop and take the kids...
Bill said:
T5SOR said:
I would’ve carried the child home, as it seems more acceptable (in my head). I think you did the right thing though.
I would however feel differently if my children were getting in someone’s car that they didn’t know. Strange how my opinion changes, but you can’t be too careful.
You'd have picked up and, well, cuddled a strange child?? I would however feel differently if my children were getting in someone’s car that they didn’t know. Strange how my opinion changes, but you can’t be too careful.
Years go at a classic car show I came across a lad of about five or six in tears after he'd got separated from his dad. I asked him his name, told him mine and said, "Come on, we'll go and find him." He grabbed my hand and I found a security guard and handed him over.
Would I do it again, twenty years later? Of course, in an instant, just as I've helped elderly people who have fallen in the street - why would you not?
Would I do it again, twenty years later? Of course, in an instant, just as I've helped elderly people who have fallen in the street - why would you not?
anonymous said:
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Risk has two elements - how likely is the alleagtion to be made & what is the effect. The likleihood may be low but the impact is enormous & potentially life changing. There are people who will throw the paedo accusation around just because they aren't getting their own way & it's impossible to prove a negative. Next thing you know it's on Facebook & then it turns up in Google searches.I would never put myself in the position the OP did. I suspect that most of those who have posted "you did the right thing" are not single males.
anonymous said:
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Exactly. Chance of you helping the child by bringing it home 100%
Chance of you being accused of being a child molester 0.0001%
I’m a bid shocked people wouldn’t help.
Are there (m)any cases of people helping hurt kids like this and being accused of being kiddy fiddlers?
El stovey said:
Exactly.
Chance of you helping the child by bringing it home 100%
Chance of you being accused of being a child molester 0.0001%
I’m a bid shocked people wouldn’t help.
Are there (m)any cases of people helping hurt kids like this and being accused of being kiddy fiddlers?
To be fair, I think it's the bit where you put the strangers child in your car and drive off that is raising red flags for most people. It certainly is for me, but that isnt to say I wouldn't wait with them / call someone for them. Chance of you helping the child by bringing it home 100%
Chance of you being accused of being a child molester 0.0001%
I’m a bid shocked people wouldn’t help.
Are there (m)any cases of people helping hurt kids like this and being accused of being kiddy fiddlers?
Like it or not, in this day and age you need to be very cautious with these situations if you are a bloke (especially a young one). A friend of mine was at the park with his young daughter last year sitting on a bench and just keeping an eye on her when one of the mothers of another kid asked him what he was doing and why he was watching the children. She even took his picture and posted it on Facebook with the title "look at this creep sitting watching the kids, be careful out there". It got taken down eventually, but unfounded accusations do happen.
Edited by SD_1 on Sunday 25th August 13:14
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