Advice For a "Friend"

Advice For a "Friend"

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lawrence567

Original Poster:

7,507 posts

192 months

Thursday 23rd July 2009
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Cara Van Man said:
Justayellowbadge said:
lawrence567 said:
He's currently in the forces (being trained) & has a few friends down here still.
I'm no expert, but don't the forces take a dim view of such actions and have their own internal procedures for dealing with it?
Yes.

Anything that brings the 'Forces into disrepute' is stamped on heavily and swiftly.
Yeah as far as i'm aware, his job in the forces is basically the only thing he has going for him.
Most of his friends have lost respect for him after he beat her to a pulp.
His court case meant he was told he was on his last chance else it was prison i think.
Which is what makes me think (this guy isn't that stupid) he would'nt want to mess his i spose, last oppotunity up otherwise he's going to be in big trouble & have no life ahead of him.
Which is why i think it's just a series of events that have all come along at the same time and scared her a bit!

john_p

7,073 posts

252 months

Thursday 23rd July 2009
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I would have thought if he was undergoing forces training he wouldn't really have time to travel up and down the country. Plus if he was arrested for harrassment or similar his army career would be over and as you say he'd probably do time for it.


lawrence567

Original Poster:

7,507 posts

192 months

Thursday 23rd July 2009
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john_p said:
I would have thought if he was undergoing forces training he wouldn't really have time to travel up and down the country. Plus if he was arrested for harrassment or similar his army career would be over and as you say he'd probably do time for it.
Yeah i'm fairly convinced it isn't him (95%) sure.
But she's fairly convinced, after the police made a big thing of it, that he's getting all these people to do things for him.
If he's on his basic training i don't think he's going to have time to organise stuff like this!
I know the police have to explore every avenue but i dont think it's helped as they've really frightened her!

Cara Van Man

29,977 posts

253 months

Thursday 23rd July 2009
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so, basically you are making (probably) unsubstantiated claims and allegatons against him without knowing half the facts of the situation?

mrdelmonti

1,420 posts

183 months

Thursday 23rd July 2009
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Get some security lights up, some simple CCTV and just be there for her. In the meantime write out a list of the positives and the negatives of going away.

lawrence567

Original Poster:

7,507 posts

192 months

Thursday 23rd July 2009
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Cara Van Man said:
so, basically you are making (probably) unsubstantiated claims and allegatons against him without knowing half the facts of the situation?
No i've never said i think it's her ex who's doing it. I thought it was all just a big coincidence.
She's reported to the police the break in attempts and the suspicious (sp) activity outside her house & as they have everything on file the police think it's all connected to him.

Superhoop1904

563 posts

210 months

Thursday 23rd July 2009
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Security Lights

CCTV

Extra Locks

BIG DOG!!

Job Done...

lawrence567

Original Poster:

7,507 posts

192 months

Thursday 23rd July 2009
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Superhoop1904 said:
Security Lights

CCTV

Extra Locks

BIG DOG!!

Job Done...
I'm definately getting her some CCTV!
She already has a dog that barks all the time so thats ticked off, the police have given her a mace (but in all fairness its useless)
It's like a cross between mild white pepper and garlic).
It does'nt really give much an effect (u stink for a bit, it gives off a UV glow, it has a panic alarm so when you spray it it screeches, but it just makes your eyes feel like you have onion in them)!
I know, i was sprayed with it at the weekend for a laugh!
Hopefully she was just having a really bad day of it yesterday, i've spoken to her a moment ago and she's apologised saying it was jsut a crap day, told her not to apologise she's had a lot of stuff going on etc.

mechsympathy

53,174 posts

257 months

Thursday 23rd July 2009
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lawrence567 said:
the police have given her a mace
If onlybiggrin


lawrence567

Original Poster:

7,507 posts

192 months

Thursday 23rd July 2009
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mechsympathy said:
lawrence567 said:
the police have given her a mace
If onlybiggrin

Haha i meant mace spray, but one of those would be better i think!