Affair with a married person
Discussion
To the OP,and the others who think this is OK
Speaking from experience here, what about the way this f
ks up peoples lives? People in the plural. I have had both the mother of my child and then, subsequently, my wife, leave me for someone else. In neither case do I know how long this was going on behind my back
In the first instance she left and moved straight in with the other bloke, taking an 11yo and a 3yo with them. How that will affect them in later life and the way they view relationships is yet to be seen (the other bloke subsequently ran off with someone else and cleared their bank accounts, house repossessed, kids moved into a rented sthole with very little money)
In the second instance we all worked together, he spoke to me as a mate whilst turning work down to give her lifts home while I was out trying to make ends meet and pay bills etc. So don't tell me he was not culpable as it was her. He is a two faced back stabbing of a man. He walked out on his wife and kids 2 weeks before christmas with my wife
Both other blokes were married themselves with children
From a personal point of view I acknowledge making mistakes in relationships. I learnt from the first one and she actually says that if I had done everything for her that I subsequently did for the wife, that she would never have looked elsewhere. If you are predestined to cheat then don't have kids/get married
I never treated either as a possession and actively encouraged them to spend time with their friends
As for me, I am left with an inate mistrust, not just of the opposite sex, but of everyone in general. I suspect mutual friends of still keeping in contact when they're not, see things that aren't there and worry about whether there is such a thing as a trustworthy person out there. I am seeing someone else but am very wary and things are having to be taken very slowly
I'm not perfect, far from it, but have never mistreated either of my ex partners in any way physically or emotionally
And if you want to talk about powerful builds, I am 6'3" 20 stone second row forward, formerly semi pro rugby league. I know how to handle myself. But violence solves nothing. In both cases I walked away, no violence, no abusive texts letters or phone calls etc. My point of view is that I would rather the people in my life see that I am a better person than that and come out of it all with my dignity and my self respect intact
Leave well alone. Not a question of possessions, of fear of repercussion or anything else. Just imagine the havoc it could wreak. Depression, anxiety, financial hardship, maybe even suicide - would you want someones death on your conscience, because it does happen
Have some morals and some dignity. If you both want a relationship then she needs to walk away. If it is just sex then grow up and find someone single
Just my 2p
Speaking from experience here, what about the way this f
ks up peoples lives? People in the plural. I have had both the mother of my child and then, subsequently, my wife, leave me for someone else. In neither case do I know how long this was going on behind my backIn the first instance she left and moved straight in with the other bloke, taking an 11yo and a 3yo with them. How that will affect them in later life and the way they view relationships is yet to be seen (the other bloke subsequently ran off with someone else and cleared their bank accounts, house repossessed, kids moved into a rented s
thole with very little money)In the second instance we all worked together, he spoke to me as a mate whilst turning work down to give her lifts home while I was out trying to make ends meet and pay bills etc. So don't tell me he was not culpable as it was her. He is a two faced back stabbing
of a man. He walked out on his wife and kids 2 weeks before christmas with my wifeBoth other blokes were married themselves with children
From a personal point of view I acknowledge making mistakes in relationships. I learnt from the first one and she actually says that if I had done everything for her that I subsequently did for the wife, that she would never have looked elsewhere. If you are predestined to cheat then don't have kids/get married
I never treated either as a possession and actively encouraged them to spend time with their friends
As for me, I am left with an inate mistrust, not just of the opposite sex, but of everyone in general. I suspect mutual friends of still keeping in contact when they're not, see things that aren't there and worry about whether there is such a thing as a trustworthy person out there. I am seeing someone else but am very wary and things are having to be taken very slowly
I'm not perfect, far from it, but have never mistreated either of my ex partners in any way physically or emotionally
And if you want to talk about powerful builds, I am 6'3" 20 stone second row forward, formerly semi pro rugby league. I know how to handle myself. But violence solves nothing. In both cases I walked away, no violence, no abusive texts letters or phone calls etc. My point of view is that I would rather the people in my life see that I am a better person than that and come out of it all with my dignity and my self respect intact
Leave well alone. Not a question of possessions, of fear of repercussion or anything else. Just imagine the havoc it could wreak. Depression, anxiety, financial hardship, maybe even suicide - would you want someones death on your conscience, because it does happen
Have some morals and some dignity. If you both want a relationship then she needs to walk away. If it is just sex then grow up and find someone single
Just my 2p
Cleckheatonlock said:
To the OP,and the others who think this is OK
Speaking from experience here, what about the way this fks up peoples lives? People in the plural. I have had both the mother of my child and then, subsequently, my wife, leave me for someone else. In neither case do I know how long this was going on behind my back
In the first instance she left and moved straight in with the other bloke, taking an 11yo and a 3yo with them. How that will affect them in later life and the way they view relationships is yet to be seen (the other bloke subsequently ran off with someone else and cleared their bank accounts, house repossessed, kids moved into a rented sthole with very little money)
In the second instance we all worked together, he spoke to me as a mate whilst turning work down to give her lifts home while I was out trying to make ends meet and pay bills etc. So don't tell me he was not culpable as it was her. He is a two faced back stabbing of a man. He walked out on his wife and kids 2 weeks before christmas with my wife
Both other blokes were married themselves with children
From a personal point of view I acknowledge making mistakes in relationships. I learnt from the first one and she actually says that if I had done everything for her that I subsequently did for the wife, that she would never have looked elsewhere. If you are predestined to cheat then don't have kids/get married
I never treated either as a possession and actively encouraged them to spend time with their friends
As for me, I am left with an inate mistrust, not just of the opposite sex, but of everyone in general. I suspect mutual friends of still keeping in contact when they're not, see things that aren't there and worry about whether there is such a thing as a trustworthy person out there. I am seeing someone else but am very wary and things are having to be taken very slowly
I'm not perfect, far from it, but have never mistreated either of my ex partners in any way physically or emotionally
And if you want to talk about powerful builds, I am 6'3" 20 stone second row forward, formerly semi pro rugby league. I know how to handle myself. But violence solves nothing. In both cases I walked away, no violence, no abusive texts letters or phone calls etc. My point of view is that I would rather the people in my life see that I am a better person than that and come out of it all with my dignity and my self respect intact
Leave well alone. Not a question of possessions, of fear of repercussion or anything else. Just imagine the havoc it could wreak. Depression, anxiety, financial hardship, maybe even suicide - would you want someones death on your conscience, because it does happen
Have some morals and some dignity. If you both want a relationship then she needs to walk away. If it is just sex then grow up and find someone single
Just my 2p
All very good points, whilst violence seems to be the preferred option for some keyboard warriors I fail to see how a criminal record plus the potential for prison time helps the situation.Speaking from experience here, what about the way this f
ks up peoples lives? People in the plural. I have had both the mother of my child and then, subsequently, my wife, leave me for someone else. In neither case do I know how long this was going on behind my backIn the first instance she left and moved straight in with the other bloke, taking an 11yo and a 3yo with them. How that will affect them in later life and the way they view relationships is yet to be seen (the other bloke subsequently ran off with someone else and cleared their bank accounts, house repossessed, kids moved into a rented s
thole with very little money)In the second instance we all worked together, he spoke to me as a mate whilst turning work down to give her lifts home while I was out trying to make ends meet and pay bills etc. So don't tell me he was not culpable as it was her. He is a two faced back stabbing
of a man. He walked out on his wife and kids 2 weeks before christmas with my wifeBoth other blokes were married themselves with children
From a personal point of view I acknowledge making mistakes in relationships. I learnt from the first one and she actually says that if I had done everything for her that I subsequently did for the wife, that she would never have looked elsewhere. If you are predestined to cheat then don't have kids/get married
I never treated either as a possession and actively encouraged them to spend time with their friends
As for me, I am left with an inate mistrust, not just of the opposite sex, but of everyone in general. I suspect mutual friends of still keeping in contact when they're not, see things that aren't there and worry about whether there is such a thing as a trustworthy person out there. I am seeing someone else but am very wary and things are having to be taken very slowly
I'm not perfect, far from it, but have never mistreated either of my ex partners in any way physically or emotionally
And if you want to talk about powerful builds, I am 6'3" 20 stone second row forward, formerly semi pro rugby league. I know how to handle myself. But violence solves nothing. In both cases I walked away, no violence, no abusive texts letters or phone calls etc. My point of view is that I would rather the people in my life see that I am a better person than that and come out of it all with my dignity and my self respect intact
Leave well alone. Not a question of possessions, of fear of repercussion or anything else. Just imagine the havoc it could wreak. Depression, anxiety, financial hardship, maybe even suicide - would you want someones death on your conscience, because it does happen
Have some morals and some dignity. If you both want a relationship then she needs to walk away. If it is just sex then grow up and find someone single
Just my 2p
Cleckheatonlock said:
Some very insightful stuff
Y'know what chap, I've only skimmed over some of the prose you've posted but, from what I've read, you seem to be one of the most level headed and benevolent souls it's been my pleasure to cross paths with.Good on you!
And thank you. You're an inspiration.
Cleckheatonlock said:
To the OP,and the others who think this is OK
Speaking from experience here, what about the way this fks up peoples lives? People in the plural. I have had both the mother of my child and then, subsequently, my wife, leave me for someone else. In neither case do I know how long this was going on behind my back
In the first instance she left and moved straight in with the other bloke, taking an 11yo and a 3yo with them. How that will affect them in later life and the way they view relationships is yet to be seen (the other bloke subsequently ran off with someone else and cleared their bank accounts, house repossessed, kids moved into a rented sthole with very little money)
In the second instance we all worked together, he spoke to me as a mate whilst turning work down to give her lifts home while I was out trying to make ends meet and pay bills etc. So don't tell me he was not culpable as it was her. He is a two faced back stabbing of a man. He walked out on his wife and kids 2 weeks before christmas with my wife
Both other blokes were married themselves with children
From a personal point of view I acknowledge making mistakes in relationships. I learnt from the first one and she actually says that if I had done everything for her that I subsequently did for the wife, that she would never have looked elsewhere. If you are predestined to cheat then don't have kids/get married
I never treated either as a possession and actively encouraged them to spend time with their friends
As for me, I am left with an inate mistrust, not just of the opposite sex, but of everyone in general. I suspect mutual friends of still keeping in contact when they're not, see things that aren't there and worry about whether there is such a thing as a trustworthy person out there. I am seeing someone else but am very wary and things are having to be taken very slowly
I'm not perfect, far from it, but have never mistreated either of my ex partners in any way physically or emotionally
And if you want to talk about powerful builds, I am 6'3" 20 stone second row forward, formerly semi pro rugby league. I know how to handle myself. But violence solves nothing. In both cases I walked away, no violence, no abusive texts letters or phone calls etc. My point of view is that I would rather the people in my life see that I am a better person than that and come out of it all with my dignity and my self respect intact
Leave well alone. Not a question of possessions, of fear of repercussion or anything else. Just imagine the havoc it could wreak. Depression, anxiety, financial hardship, maybe even suicide - would you want someones death on your conscience, because it does happen
Have some morals and some dignity. If you both want a relationship then she needs to walk away. If it is just sex then grow up and find someone single
Just my 2p
Words of sense... well put mate and fair play to you.Speaking from experience here, what about the way this f
ks up peoples lives? People in the plural. I have had both the mother of my child and then, subsequently, my wife, leave me for someone else. In neither case do I know how long this was going on behind my backIn the first instance she left and moved straight in with the other bloke, taking an 11yo and a 3yo with them. How that will affect them in later life and the way they view relationships is yet to be seen (the other bloke subsequently ran off with someone else and cleared their bank accounts, house repossessed, kids moved into a rented s
thole with very little money)In the second instance we all worked together, he spoke to me as a mate whilst turning work down to give her lifts home while I was out trying to make ends meet and pay bills etc. So don't tell me he was not culpable as it was her. He is a two faced back stabbing
of a man. He walked out on his wife and kids 2 weeks before christmas with my wifeBoth other blokes were married themselves with children
From a personal point of view I acknowledge making mistakes in relationships. I learnt from the first one and she actually says that if I had done everything for her that I subsequently did for the wife, that she would never have looked elsewhere. If you are predestined to cheat then don't have kids/get married
I never treated either as a possession and actively encouraged them to spend time with their friends
As for me, I am left with an inate mistrust, not just of the opposite sex, but of everyone in general. I suspect mutual friends of still keeping in contact when they're not, see things that aren't there and worry about whether there is such a thing as a trustworthy person out there. I am seeing someone else but am very wary and things are having to be taken very slowly
I'm not perfect, far from it, but have never mistreated either of my ex partners in any way physically or emotionally
And if you want to talk about powerful builds, I am 6'3" 20 stone second row forward, formerly semi pro rugby league. I know how to handle myself. But violence solves nothing. In both cases I walked away, no violence, no abusive texts letters or phone calls etc. My point of view is that I would rather the people in my life see that I am a better person than that and come out of it all with my dignity and my self respect intact
Leave well alone. Not a question of possessions, of fear of repercussion or anything else. Just imagine the havoc it could wreak. Depression, anxiety, financial hardship, maybe even suicide - would you want someones death on your conscience, because it does happen
Have some morals and some dignity. If you both want a relationship then she needs to walk away. If it is just sex then grow up and find someone single
Just my 2p
Cheers gents
As for being an inspiration, I would say that's a poorly chosen word. Soldiers putting their lives on the line, firemen risking their lives to save others, are inspirations
I'm just a normal bloke trying to piece my life back together again after being betrayed again, for myself and my daughter. The only thing that matters is that i set a good example to her in how to be a good person
The first one discovered karma. I don't enjoy seeing it because of how it affects my daughter and stepson
As for the wife, we are now 7 months down the line since we separated. Half as long as the marriage lasted! If she wants to be with the sort of bloke who leaves his kids 2 weeks before Christmas then they deserve each other. I'm sure karma will visit upon her at some point but frankly I'm not even bothered and don't care if I ever find out. No kids together so no reason to have anything more to do with her
Not a touchy subject then
As for being an inspiration, I would say that's a poorly chosen word. Soldiers putting their lives on the line, firemen risking their lives to save others, are inspirations
I'm just a normal bloke trying to piece my life back together again after being betrayed again, for myself and my daughter. The only thing that matters is that i set a good example to her in how to be a good person
The first one discovered karma. I don't enjoy seeing it because of how it affects my daughter and stepson
As for the wife, we are now 7 months down the line since we separated. Half as long as the marriage lasted! If she wants to be with the sort of bloke who leaves his kids 2 weeks before Christmas then they deserve each other. I'm sure karma will visit upon her at some point but frankly I'm not even bothered and don't care if I ever find out. No kids together so no reason to have anything more to do with her
Not a touchy subject then
sleep envy said:
eliot said:
OP: Hope hubby cuts your powerfully built dick off.
Every time I read these type of posts it makes me think that the poster had a ex who's been ridden round the bedroom like a pony and is suffering from a severe case of gape.eliot said:
sleep envy said:
eliot said:
OP: Hope hubby cuts your powerfully built dick off.
Every time I read these type of posts it makes me think that the poster had a ex who's been ridden round the bedroom like a pony and is suffering from a severe case of gape.Glassman said:
eliot said:
sleep envy said:
eliot said:
OP: Hope hubby cuts your powerfully built dick off.
Every time I read these type of posts it makes me think that the poster had a ex who's been ridden round the bedroom like a pony and is suffering from a severe case of gape.
eliot said:
Glassman said:
eliot said:
sleep envy said:
eliot said:
OP: Hope hubby cuts your powerfully built dick off.
Every time I read these type of posts it makes me think that the poster had a ex who's been ridden round the bedroom like a pony and is suffering from a severe case of gape.
TBH the OP is single and there are a huge number of nubile single women in the world - so quite why you'd burden yourself with someone who is already married is beyond me.
But we do need pictures.
ETA: Meeting someone single is also a damn sight easier - no husband and relatives to hide from, you are much freer to do stuff.
But we do need pictures.
ETA: Meeting someone single is also a damn sight easier - no husband and relatives to hide from, you are much freer to do stuff.
Big Rod said:
Cleckheatonlock said:
Some very insightful stuff
Y'know what chap, I've only skimmed over some of the prose you've posted but, from what I've read, you seem to be one of the most level headed and benevolent souls it's been my pleasure to cross paths with.Good on you!
And thank you. You're an inspiration.
I remember when you posted about this when it happened.
You seem a lovely chap and glad things are getting back on track.
Just read through the posts on here and as a woman its nice to see so many decent blokes
OP get the playgound mentality out of you head and be a PROPER Man
Also - if your that much of a catch why do you mention no single ladeez in your life?
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