Match.com (Volume 6)
Discussion
I activated Tinder early last month to show a male friend how it worked. I literally swiped left to all but a few men - those I swiped right to I instantly matched with. Had some contact me but were dull openers.
Was going to delete it after a few days but gave it a last shot one afternoon and I had another match. He looked gorgeous, well written and fun, couple of good friends in common and just a few villages away, albeit 13yrs younger than me. I messaged him something tongue in cheek about the local weather and feeling moist. His reply was good. Instantly started chatting, exchanged numbers, carried on chatting all evening, arranged to meet the following morning for coffee as I was off and he on a late shift...
Got a text in the morning (assumed he was going to cancel) his shift had been cancelled so he'd be free all day. I had a hair apt in the afternoon, feeling relieved I wouldn't have the pressure of spending the whole day with him! We met, had coffee, which led to the pub for lunch, I left for my hair apt, but since we'd hit it off so well I met him again later for dinner. We've been together every night and day since. Inc a two week holiday. Only apart for maybe two or three nights in almost five weeks! He's my first Tinder date, and I his. Haven't laughed so much or clicked with someone so well in forever. And I'm not bored yet!!
Was going to delete it after a few days but gave it a last shot one afternoon and I had another match. He looked gorgeous, well written and fun, couple of good friends in common and just a few villages away, albeit 13yrs younger than me. I messaged him something tongue in cheek about the local weather and feeling moist. His reply was good. Instantly started chatting, exchanged numbers, carried on chatting all evening, arranged to meet the following morning for coffee as I was off and he on a late shift...
Got a text in the morning (assumed he was going to cancel) his shift had been cancelled so he'd be free all day. I had a hair apt in the afternoon, feeling relieved I wouldn't have the pressure of spending the whole day with him! We met, had coffee, which led to the pub for lunch, I left for my hair apt, but since we'd hit it off so well I met him again later for dinner. We've been together every night and day since. Inc a two week holiday. Only apart for maybe two or three nights in almost five weeks! He's my first Tinder date, and I his. Haven't laughed so much or clicked with someone so well in forever. And I'm not bored yet!!
Gretchen said:
Smugness
Well thanks for showing all us blokes up 
Good work!
DottyMR2 said:
CountZero23 said:
Crap first date, fair enough. Would of thought having spent two weekends together she would of got back to me. More odd than anything as got a passionate snog when I dropped her off at the station.
As I've found it really doesn't matter how long, once they get bored or some other idea in their head, see you later. It happens.snip
Lots of dates with stunning 21 year olds
She finally got back to me with a bit of a cold text, nice enough and asking how I was doing but definitely cold.
Already assumed it was a no go so have arranged a cheeky Sunday drink with a fun sounding lass and got another booked in for Tues.
I knew I was acting a bit keen with her but was hesitant see a load of other girls at the same time when I'd got one I already liked.
Obviously a big mistake, will make sure the next time I meet a girl I like I have the requisite listlessness and full diary which prevents me from coming across like I might actually like them.
Gawd! And you men say that we women are 'mental'! Let me get this right. You like a girl and you let her know that you like her. She then gets in touch with the you which although you say she sounds cool, she obviously wouldn't get in touch if she wasn't interested, however you have now set up dates with two other girls (who if you like them you won't let them know). If I was that first girl I'd be very confused thinking "one week he's keen and the next he's not bothered". If I also knew about the other dates I certainly would not come chasing after you. Why do people insist on playing these mind games instead of being straight and honest with each other? I'm so glad to be happily married and out of this nonsense.
Gretchen said:
I activated Tinder early last month to show a male friend how it worked. I literally swiped left to all but a few men - those I swiped right to I instantly matched with. Had some contact me but were dull openers.
Was going to delete it after a few days but gave it a last shot one afternoon and I had another match. He looked gorgeous, well written and fun, couple of good friends in common and just a few villages away, albeit 13yrs younger than me. I messaged him something tongue in cheek about the local weather and feeling moist. His reply was good. Instantly started chatting, exchanged numbers, carried on chatting all evening, arranged to meet the following morning for coffee as I was off and he on a late shift...
Got a text in the morning (assumed he was going to cancel) his shift had been cancelled so he'd be free all day. I had a hair apt in the afternoon, feeling relieved I wouldn't have the pressure of spending the whole day with him! We met, had coffee, which led to the pub for lunch, I left for my hair apt, but since we'd hit it off so well I met him again later for dinner. We've been together every night and day since. Inc a two week holiday. Only apart for maybe two or three nights in almost five weeks! He's my first Tinder date, and I his. Haven't laughed so much or clicked with someone so well in forever. And I'm not bored yet!!
Is he a provider type? Was going to delete it after a few days but gave it a last shot one afternoon and I had another match. He looked gorgeous, well written and fun, couple of good friends in common and just a few villages away, albeit 13yrs younger than me. I messaged him something tongue in cheek about the local weather and feeling moist. His reply was good. Instantly started chatting, exchanged numbers, carried on chatting all evening, arranged to meet the following morning for coffee as I was off and he on a late shift...
Got a text in the morning (assumed he was going to cancel) his shift had been cancelled so he'd be free all day. I had a hair apt in the afternoon, feeling relieved I wouldn't have the pressure of spending the whole day with him! We met, had coffee, which led to the pub for lunch, I left for my hair apt, but since we'd hit it off so well I met him again later for dinner. We've been together every night and day since. Inc a two week holiday. Only apart for maybe two or three nights in almost five weeks! He's my first Tinder date, and I his. Haven't laughed so much or clicked with someone so well in forever. And I'm not bored yet!!
Nice one! Hope it continues like this for you,
My second date in the few weeks ive been back on POF this afternoon, coffee shop again. To be honest I didn't think it would happen as a had to cancel our planned date on Thursday due to a work mishap.
Seems like a really nice girl, have a few things in common, although she didn't know what 'BTCC' meant, and we've been chatting daily.
The three others I've been chatting to have all but fizzled out now so not expecting anything from them.
Seems like a really nice girl, have a few things in common, although she didn't know what 'BTCC' meant, and we've been chatting daily.
The three others I've been chatting to have all but fizzled out now so not expecting anything from them.
Wasn't able to get a date sorted before one went on holiday for a couple of weeks. I'm hoping we can sort one out when she's back still. Still getting a few messages from her which is a good sign. I think.
Was going to be meeting with one today, but she had a operation earlier in the week so it hasn't happened.
But got a date sorted for Monday with a lovely 27 year old. Started talking on Wednesday, date agreed Thursday.
Was going to be meeting with one today, but she had a operation earlier in the week so it hasn't happened.
But got a date sorted for Monday with a lovely 27 year old. Started talking on Wednesday, date agreed Thursday.
soad said:
Blown2CV said:
What does BTCC mean?
Hand in your membership! 
(British Touring Car Championship).
Most women don't give a s
t about that sort of stuff. They really, really don't. Talk to them about something else FFS. It really isn't difficult. Isn't it odd, I thought the date went awfully, I waffled, there were a couple of silences and I generally felt as of I'd made a tit of myself. Turns out she really enjoyed it and second date is already sorted for Tuesday 
CharlesdeGaulle said:
And this is why we have so many thread losers.
Most women don't give a st about that sort of stuff. They really, really don't. Talk to them about something else FFS. It really isn't difficult.
I quickly figured out she has no interest, whatsoever, in cars or motorsports. She did admit that she thought my TVR was 'pretty' and has said that a BTCC weekend sounds better than what she has heard about a weekend at the F1. So there is hope she could be a keeper Most women don't give a s
t about that sort of stuff. They really, really don't. Talk to them about something else FFS. It really isn't difficult. NickM450 said:
I quickly figured out she has no interest, whatsoever, in cars or motorsports. She did admit that she thought my TVR was 'pretty' and has said that a BTCC weekend sounds better than what she has heard about a weekend at the F1. So there is hope she could be a keeper
She's being polite. Rh14n said:
Gawd! And you men say that we women are 'mental'! Let me get this right. You like a girl and you let her know that you like her. She then gets in touch with the you which although you say she sounds cool, she obviously wouldn't get in touch if she wasn't interested, however you have now set up dates with two other girls (who if you like them you won't let them know). If I was that first girl I'd be very confused thinking "one week he's keen and the next he's not bothered". If I also knew about the other dates I certainly would not come chasing after you. Why do people insist on playing these mind games instead of being straight and honest with each other? I'm so glad to be happily married and out of this nonsense.
It's part of the 'game' I guess. There seems to be a lot of girls and guys out there that don't know how to handle someone being straight with them, probably because they have spent so long playing said 'game'. I am always straight up about how I feel with a girl I know but I do have to accept that this is the 'wrong' way to go about it according to modern dating and that it will put many girls off. CharlesdeGaulle said:
soad said:
Blown2CV said:
What does BTCC mean?
Hand in your membership! (British Touring Car Championship).
Most women don't give a s
t about that sort of stuff. They really, really don't. Talk to them about something else FFS. It really isn't difficult. Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff