Affair with a married person
Discussion
mitzy said:
Cleck
I remember when you posted about this when it happened.
You seem a lovely chap and glad things are getting back on track.
Just read through the posts on here and as a woman its nice to see so many decent blokes
OP get the playgound mentality out of you head and be a PROPER Man
Also - if your that much of a catch why do you mention no single ladeez in your life?
Cheers Mitzy, yeah it's been a rollercoaster but getting there slowly but surely. Just out to show the world that I'm a stayer I remember when you posted about this when it happened.
You seem a lovely chap and glad things are getting back on track.
Just read through the posts on here and as a woman its nice to see so many decent blokes
OP get the playgound mentality out of you head and be a PROPER Man
Also - if your that much of a catch why do you mention no single ladeez in your life?
Cleckheatonlock said:
Sensible Stuff
Another vote for the most level headed piece of advice yet.It's not really strictly related to the thread, but one thing that baffles me, is the amount of people who (at least say) they would use violence against "the other guy" / their wife if they cheated. I guess I'm not baffled by that as such, but I am baffled by the fact that people who hold these views seem to also think you're no man if you don't take this route. Bizarre.
Relationships and decisions you make regarding them can have a massive impact on your life. So lets take experience out of this for a second, I haven't been married, I have had several long term relationships. However, I'd never make a decision to use violence against another guy who had an affair with my wife (if I was married). It doesn't matter how long I'd been married either. People change over time, you make and lose friends. I'm sure partners will always have the potential to be the same, I'll change over time. If my wife did the dirty on me and walked off with someone else, that's her loss not mine. I have a life to get on with, at no point would it cross my mind to make a fool of myself knocking either of them about. I move on by knocking them about and get a conviction for assault etc. They carry on regardless and I've made a mess of my own life with myself to blame.
How do people not see the stupidity of this?
D4MJT said:
Cleckheatonlock said:
Sensible Stuff
Another vote for the most level headed piece of advice yet.It's not really strictly related to the thread, but one thing that baffles me, is the amount of people who (at least say) they would use violence against "the other guy" / their wife if they cheated. I guess I'm not baffled by that as such, but I am baffled by the fact that people who hold these views seem to also think you're no man if you don't take this route. Bizarre.
Relationships and decisions you make regarding them can have a massive impact on your life. So lets take experience out of this for a second, I haven't been married, I have had several long term relationships. However, I'd never make a decision to use violence against another guy who had an affair with my wife (if I was married). It doesn't matter how long I'd been married either. People change over time, you make and lose friends. I'm sure partners will always have the potential to be the same, I'll change over time. If my wife did the dirty on me and walked off with someone else, that's her loss not mine. I have a life to get on with, at no point would it cross my mind to make a fool of myself knocking either of them about. I move on by knocking them about and get a conviction for assault etc. They carry on regardless and I've made a mess of my own life with myself to blame.
How do people not see the stupidity of this?
But from another angle the idea of the 'vengeful husband' has been overplayed as well.As you have said yourself,you would just walk away in the event and consider
it her loss.This has been the case in my friends marriages that have failed.There has been no violence and in the OP's defence he has said he was joking in that
respect.One further thing..to believe in 'karma' or'what goes around comes around' is delusional.Bad things happen to good people for no reason,it's called 'life'.
goldblum said:
One further thing..to believe in 'karma' or'what goes around comes around' is delusional.Bad things happen to good people for no reason,it's called 'life'.
Absolutely true imo.Nothing wrong with using it as an excuse to lead a better life though! I think a better phrase to live by, rather than the word Karma, and I'm sure it's been mentioned already: "treat others as you would like to be treat yourself"
While I might not over-react or go mental, and I've no doubt I'd be able to move on, I'd rather not have to deal with my wife having an affair. Hence I also wouldn't want to play any part in that situation befalling anyone else.
Mobile Chicane said:
Another in the 'leave well alone' camp here.
Stop looking at the situation from your own perspective: on the whole, men cheat because their physical needs aren't being met (hence the reason a certain profession is as old as it is - note no equivalent for women).
Women, on the other hand, cheat because their emotional needs aren't being met. Never believe a married woman who says her rationale for cheating is 'just' sex. No such thing.
You say that she 'can't' leave her husband. Well why not? Is it because - perchance - she can't maintain her standard of living on her salary alone? Well, guess where you come in.
An ex, even better. A known quantity rather than a foray into the unknown.
I read a quote once on PH and thought it sagely advice: 'Women are like monkeys; they don't let go of one branch until they've caught hold of the next'.
Remember that.
The above is absolute gospel truth. Which is scary. Hmmm...Stop looking at the situation from your own perspective: on the whole, men cheat because their physical needs aren't being met (hence the reason a certain profession is as old as it is - note no equivalent for women).
Women, on the other hand, cheat because their emotional needs aren't being met. Never believe a married woman who says her rationale for cheating is 'just' sex. No such thing.
You say that she 'can't' leave her husband. Well why not? Is it because - perchance - she can't maintain her standard of living on her salary alone? Well, guess where you come in.
An ex, even better. A known quantity rather than a foray into the unknown. I read a quote once on PH and thought it sagely advice: 'Women are like monkeys; they don't let go of one branch until they've caught hold of the next'.
Remember that.
*writes missus mushy text*
I've been a f
k buddy to a married millionairess who was 15 years older than me (proper MILF). She also had 3 daughters all of whom were at boarding school so never a problem.
In nearly 6 months it was never a problem, not in touch now but was glad i had the fun I did. Never got to drive the R8 though.
k buddy to a married millionairess who was 15 years older than me (proper MILF). She also had 3 daughters all of whom were at boarding school so never a problem.In nearly 6 months it was never a problem, not in touch now but was glad i had the fun I did. Never got to drive the R8 though.
Fun Bus said:
I've been a fk buddy to a married millionairess who was 15 years older than me (proper MILF). She also had 3 daughters all of whom were at boarding school so never a problem.
In nearly 6 months it was never a problem, not in touch now but was glad i had the fun I did. Never got to drive the R8 though.
Mate, tell me more tell me more, it was millionaires MILFF?k buddy to a married millionairess who was 15 years older than me (proper MILF). She also had 3 daughters all of whom were at boarding school so never a problem.In nearly 6 months it was never a problem, not in touch now but was glad i had the fun I did. Never got to drive the R8 though.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=88Hk10ejn0A
RemainAllHoof said:
dmulally said:
Yep. In my experience SAS for the most part look not so powerfully built and usually thin and unassuming. Until you see them bouncing off trees like a bunch of monkeys. Thats if you can see them.
Royal Marines run through the tree like its not there.
Both are scary for different reasons but at least with an powerfully built ox you will know how they will react if they caught you hanging out the back of their one true love.
Ah, right! Didn't know this. I daren't ask how you know in case you tell me but feel obliged to then kill me. Royal Marines run through the tree like its not there.
Both are scary for different reasons but at least with an powerfully built ox you will know how they will react if they caught you hanging out the back of their one true love.
dmulally said:
RemainAllHoof said:
dmulally said:
Yep. In my experience SAS for the most part look not so powerfully built and usually thin and unassuming. Until you see them bouncing off trees like a bunch of monkeys. Thats if you can see them.
Royal Marines run through the tree like its not there.
Both are scary for different reasons but at least with an powerfully built ox you will know how they will react if they caught you hanging out the back of their one true love.
Ah, right! Didn't know this. I daren't ask how you know in case you tell me but feel obliged to then kill me. Royal Marines run through the tree like its not there.
Both are scary for different reasons but at least with an powerfully built ox you will know how they will react if they caught you hanging out the back of their one true love.
years.They had a little girl.He was gutted and extremely angry.
He immediately picked himself up,filed for divorce,and looked for somewhere else to live.
He now runs a successful security company here in Cheshire,looking after footballers' houses.Resorting to violence never entered his head,apparently. *SHRUGS*
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