How Solid Really is Your Marriage
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Strange seeing so many people have lengthy marriages that still fail.
My parents split after 30 years, Dad found a younger model (like 30 years younger).
I've been with my wife 20 years now, married 14.
I can't imagine being without her, but I suppose anything can happen. I'm terrified of the children moving out as both of us put our heart and souls into those little f
kers and I wonder what it'll be like when they're gone...that being said, my youngest is in France at the moment and the past few days have been sweet as f 
We do share a lot though, we go to the gym together, have plans for when the children do eventually go travel wise, and generally, i'd say she's my best mate as much as my wife, with the added bonus she does the ironing.
We both stay healthy for each other, attraction is a good thing, i've said, if I were her, i'd hate a fat sweaty beer belly pounding away at me, so I stay in shape. She says the same, that she'll maintain a small arse as long as possible, because if it gets too big my cock ain't big enough to make much of an impression otherwise.
Although both of us have said don't worry, I love you whatever you look like and that's true, but we both want to look good for each other. Shame I can't do much about my face for her...nevermind.
My parents split after 30 years, Dad found a younger model (like 30 years younger).
I've been with my wife 20 years now, married 14.
I can't imagine being without her, but I suppose anything can happen. I'm terrified of the children moving out as both of us put our heart and souls into those little f
kers and I wonder what it'll be like when they're gone...that being said, my youngest is in France at the moment and the past few days have been sweet as f We do share a lot though, we go to the gym together, have plans for when the children do eventually go travel wise, and generally, i'd say she's my best mate as much as my wife, with the added bonus she does the ironing.
We both stay healthy for each other, attraction is a good thing, i've said, if I were her, i'd hate a fat sweaty beer belly pounding away at me, so I stay in shape. She says the same, that she'll maintain a small arse as long as possible, because if it gets too big my cock ain't big enough to make much of an impression otherwise.
Although both of us have said don't worry, I love you whatever you look like and that's true, but we both want to look good for each other. Shame I can't do much about my face for her...nevermind.
dirty boy said:
Strange seeing so many people have lengthy marriages that still fail.
We both stay healthy for each other, attraction is a good thing, i've said, if I were her, i'd hate a fat sweaty beer belly pounding away at me, so I stay in shape. She says the same, that she'll maintain a small arse as long as possible, because if it gets too big my cock ain't big enough to make much of an impression otherwise.
The best relationship advice I've seen on PH We both stay healthy for each other, attraction is a good thing, i've said, if I were her, i'd hate a fat sweaty beer belly pounding away at me, so I stay in shape. She says the same, that she'll maintain a small arse as long as possible, because if it gets too big my cock ain't big enough to make much of an impression otherwise.
dirty boy said:
Strange seeing so many people have lengthy marriages that still fail.
My parents split after 30 years, Dad found a younger model (like 30 years younger).
I've been with my wife 20 years now, married 14.
I can't imagine being without her, but I suppose anything can happen. I'm terrified of the children moving out as both of us put our heart and souls into those little fkers and I wonder what it'll be like when they're gone...that being said, my youngest is in France at the moment and the past few days have been sweet as f
We do share a lot though, we go to the gym together, have plans for when the children do eventually go travel wise, and generally, i'd say she's my best mate as much as my wife, with the added bonus she does the ironing.
We both stay healthy for each other, attraction is a good thing, i've said, if I were her, i'd hate a fat sweaty beer belly pounding away at me, so I stay in shape. She says the same, that she'll maintain a small arse as long as possible, because if it gets too big my cock ain't big enough to make much of an impression otherwise.
Although both of us have said don't worry, I love you whatever you look like and that's true, but we both want to look good for each other. Shame I can't do much about my face for her...nevermind.
Must have been quite a shock when your dad finds someone closer to your age than his? My parents split after 30 years, Dad found a younger model (like 30 years younger).
I've been with my wife 20 years now, married 14.
I can't imagine being without her, but I suppose anything can happen. I'm terrified of the children moving out as both of us put our heart and souls into those little f
kers and I wonder what it'll be like when they're gone...that being said, my youngest is in France at the moment and the past few days have been sweet as f We do share a lot though, we go to the gym together, have plans for when the children do eventually go travel wise, and generally, i'd say she's my best mate as much as my wife, with the added bonus she does the ironing.
We both stay healthy for each other, attraction is a good thing, i've said, if I were her, i'd hate a fat sweaty beer belly pounding away at me, so I stay in shape. She says the same, that she'll maintain a small arse as long as possible, because if it gets too big my cock ain't big enough to make much of an impression otherwise.
Although both of us have said don't worry, I love you whatever you look like and that's true, but we both want to look good for each other. Shame I can't do much about my face for her...nevermind.
Probably kept your dad going though :-)
TwigtheWonderkid said:
Ari said:
lord trumpton said:
Always look at the mother of the bride to be when prospecting for a wife - Women often turn into their mother.
If the Mother in law is a fat lion then I'd be having doubts about comitting
And presumably your dad looks like George Clooney? If the Mother in law is a fat lion then I'd be having doubts about comitting
George from Rainbow more like.
dirty boy said:
I can't imagine being without her, but I suppose anything can happen. I'm terrified of the children moving out as both of us put our heart and souls into those little fkers and I wonder what it'll be like when they're gone...
If it's anything like us then you'll be exhausted refurbing / decorating their houses, then you'll be swamped with grandchildren. kers and I wonder what it'll be like when they're gone...I'm thinking of emigrating!
Interesting this thread draws many people of all ages and experiences .
There is no ‘norm’ it’s some that have been married for a few months to those who have been married 30yrs then it’s over . Normally when the kids have left which I guess suggests they were only together for the kids sake in the first place .
Weird the hand married life deals you at times .
Me? Can’t wait for the kids to fly the nest so the missus and I can (hopefully) be love birds again
There is no ‘norm’ it’s some that have been married for a few months to those who have been married 30yrs then it’s over . Normally when the kids have left which I guess suggests they were only together for the kids sake in the first place .
Weird the hand married life deals you at times .
Me? Can’t wait for the kids to fly the nest so the missus and I can (hopefully) be love birds again
FocusRS3 said:
Interesting this thread draws many people of all ages and experiences .
There is no ‘norm’ it’s some that have been married for a few months to those who have been married 30yrs then it’s over . Normally when the kids have left which I guess suggests they were only together for the kids sake in the first place .
Weird the hand married life deals you at times .
Me? Can’t wait for the kids to fly the nest so the missus and I can (hopefully) be love birds again
I hope not in your case but wives tend to become somewhat different creatures when the most fulfilling parts of their married lives have flown the nest......There is no ‘norm’ it’s some that have been married for a few months to those who have been married 30yrs then it’s over . Normally when the kids have left which I guess suggests they were only together for the kids sake in the first place .
Weird the hand married life deals you at times .
Me? Can’t wait for the kids to fly the nest so the missus and I can (hopefully) be love birds again
Robertj21a said:
FocusRS3 said:
Interesting this thread draws many people of all ages and experiences .
There is no ‘norm’ it’s some that have been married for a few months to those who have been married 30yrs then it’s over . Normally when the kids have left which I guess suggests they were only together for the kids sake in the first place .
Weird the hand married life deals you at times .
Me? Can’t wait for the kids to fly the nest so the missus and I can (hopefully) be love birds again
I hope not in your case but wives tend to become somewhat different creatures when the most fulfilling parts of their married lives have flown the nest......There is no ‘norm’ it’s some that have been married for a few months to those who have been married 30yrs then it’s over . Normally when the kids have left which I guess suggests they were only together for the kids sake in the first place .
Weird the hand married life deals you at times .
Me? Can’t wait for the kids to fly the nest so the missus and I can (hopefully) be love birds again
Not only was she finding life difficult because her children no longer needed her, but her hormones were playing havoc and she'd gone right off any form of intimacy with him.
A couple more years and they'd split.
Mark Benson said:
It often coincides with the menopause which can sometimes spell the end of her interest in the bedroom too. Happened to a friend of mine, within a couple of years of the children leaving he found he was living with a very different woman than the one he'd been married to for the previous 30 years.
Not only was she finding life difficult because her children no longer needed her, but her hormones were playing havoc and she'd gone right off any form of intimacy with him.
A couple more years and they'd split.
Thats sad but maybe not that uncommon.Not only was she finding life difficult because her children no longer needed her, but her hormones were playing havoc and she'd gone right off any form of intimacy with him.
A couple more years and they'd split.
Fingers crossed then!
FocusRS3 said:
Mark Benson said:
It often coincides with the menopause which can sometimes spell the end of her interest in the bedroom too. Happened to a friend of mine, within a couple of years of the children leaving he found he was living with a very different woman than the one he'd been married to for the previous 30 years.
Not only was she finding life difficult because her children no longer needed her, but her hormones were playing havoc and she'd gone right off any form of intimacy with him.
A couple more years and they'd split.
Thats sad but maybe not that uncommon.Not only was she finding life difficult because her children no longer needed her, but her hormones were playing havoc and she'd gone right off any form of intimacy with him.
A couple more years and they'd split.
Fingers crossed then!
So once kids are grown up, she may not actually want this person anymore.
Edited by hyphen on Thursday 21st December 10:49
Mark Benson said:
It often coincides with the menopause which can sometimes spell the end of her interest in the bedroom too. Happened to a friend of mine, within a couple of years of the children leaving he found he was living with a very different woman than the one he'd been married to for the previous 30 years.
Not only was she finding life difficult because her children no longer needed her, but her hormones were playing havoc and she'd gone right off any form of intimacy with him.
A couple more years and they'd split.
That's a very good point, Mark. I think that men just become older (slower, fatter!) versions of what they've always been. But usually still horny. Women, however, change - as you've suggested. Often such that they are now never horny. Problem.Not only was she finding life difficult because her children no longer needed her, but her hormones were playing havoc and she'd gone right off any form of intimacy with him.
A couple more years and they'd split.
As a couple, they may need to reinvent their relationship especially if the children have moved out. To do that, they need to really, really love each other and that's a rare thing.
Mark and Robert, you're both spot on with the 30 year itch. We hit that milestone next August. Menopause, empty nest syndrome, physical and mental illness causing no female libido and other issues all kicking in here, so my answer to Focus RS3's original question could go one of two very different ways. Not a nice place to be but we'll see, I'm an optimist, she's a pessimist. I think we both think it's worth trying. Sad bit is we love each other and without all the extraneous factors which are so difficult to predict or control, we have no financial or other worries and really could have it all. I'm thankful in so many ways but not complacent, marriage is hard work for both of us at the moment, no guarantees and ridiculously it's way harder than ever post-retirement and post-dependent children. I'm not taking anything for granted or making any assumptions for the future, just being pragmatic. There are more than enough people way less fortunate than me so come what may, life will definitely be going on and I'll be living it to the full, hence the RS 
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. Dr-RS said:
Mark and Robert, you're both spot on with the 30 year itch. We hit that milestone next August. Menopause, empty nest syndrome, physical and mental illness causing no female libido and other issues all kicking in here, so my answer to Focus RS3's original question could go one of two very different ways. Not a nice place to be but we'll see, I'm an optimist, she's a pessimist. I think we both think it's worth trying. Sad bit is we love each other and without all the extraneous factors which are so difficult to predict or control, we have no financial or other worries and really could have it all. I'm thankful in so many ways but not complacent, marriage is hard work for both of us at the moment, no guarantees and ridiculously it's way harder than ever post-retirement and post-dependent children. I'm not taking anything for granted or making any assumptions for the future, just being pragmatic. There are more than enough people way less fortunate than me so come what may, life will definitely be going on and I'll be living it to the full, hence the RS .
Good and honest post DR-RS. . Hope you guys get over your current issues , certainly worth working through .
I think in some ways and at some stages we all have some semi mental issues sometimes without realising it . As I've gotten older my confidence has taken a beating and with it at times I've discovered some depression .
My wife has been my rock and talked me through it many times. She 'bigs me up' and sends me on my way again . She's doing it for all of us obviously as a family and a team and that's the real key.
What would I do if the 'tap' was turned off? The honest answer is I don't know and i hope we never get to that stage, not that we're at it like rabbits with kids around all the time but it's nice to know when we get shot of the kids occasionally it's all good .
Anyhow have a great Xmas , might I suggest some presents from Ann Summers for the wives !
It's also entirely possible that not all husbands are quite the love gods that they think they are, and that maybe after 30 years, the idea of an overweight slob with poor hygiene crawling on half cut and thrusting ineffectually away for two minutes before grunting and rolling off yet again simply no longer appeals.
And who knows, perhaps cheap itchy tat from Anne Summers isn't quite their idea of 'spicing up the love life' either...
Obviously this wouldn't apply to anyone on here - I'm just saying, you know, other people...
And who knows, perhaps cheap itchy tat from Anne Summers isn't quite their idea of 'spicing up the love life' either...
Obviously this wouldn't apply to anyone on here - I'm just saying, you know, other people...
Ari said:
It's also entirely possible that not all husbands are quite the love gods that they think they are, and that maybe after 30 years, the idea of an overweight slob with poor hygiene crawling on half cut and thrusting ineffectually away for two minutes before grunting and rolling off yet again simply no longer appeals.
And who knows, perhaps cheap itchy tat from Anne Summers isn't quite their idea of 'spicing up the love life' either...
Obviously this wouldn't apply to anyone on here - I'm just saying, you know, other people...
Does that include the post sex cigarette? And who knows, perhaps cheap itchy tat from Anne Summers isn't quite their idea of 'spicing up the love life' either...
Obviously this wouldn't apply to anyone on here - I'm just saying, you know, other people...
[quote=Ari]It's also entirely possible that not all husbands are quite the love gods that they think they are, and that maybe after 30 years, the idea of an overweight slob with poor hygiene crawling on half cut and thrusting ineffectually away for two minutes before grunting and rolling off yet again simply no longer appeals.
And who knows, perhaps cheap itchy tat from Anne Summers isn't quite their idea of 'spicing up the love life' either...
Obviously this wouldn't apply to anyone on here - I'm just saying, you know, other people...
It's certainly nothing physical on either of our parts. We're both pretty much the same weight and body shape we were when we met, both regular gym goers, we are both blessed that way. I tried the Anne Summers route years ago. Waste of time. All the blockers are mental, psychological, relationship-based. Would be easier to accept if I was a fat slob.
And who knows, perhaps cheap itchy tat from Anne Summers isn't quite their idea of 'spicing up the love life' either...
Obviously this wouldn't apply to anyone on here - I'm just saying, you know, other people...
It's certainly nothing physical on either of our parts. We're both pretty much the same weight and body shape we were when we met, both regular gym goers, we are both blessed that way. I tried the Anne Summers route years ago. Waste of time. All the blockers are mental, psychological, relationship-based. Would be easier to accept if I was a fat slob.
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