Any other expectant Dads?

[Blown2CV]

Sambucket said:

There are quite a few countries with excellent child safety records, where its culturally normal to put a rear facing carseat in the front.

I understand the need to protect, but objectively babies are just people too. And if you feel the passanger seat is less safe (or you don't trust the airbag toggle) then perhaps noone, baby, child, or adult, should sit in the front passenger seat unless the back is full?]

I'm just playing devils advocate here. In the hope that I'm missing something here and can be corrected.

It is a lot simpler than people think it is, and really it's less about opinion and interpretation.... just put em in the back, and rear facing till they are OK to be forward facing based upon height/weight/age. There is no real reason to have them in the front, but lots of reasons not to... Safety trumps all. In any case I'd find it a distraction for me as the driver and to boot i'd be worried i had forgotten to disable the airbag (and also then that i hadn't re-enabled it after the baby was out of the car.

[Japveesix]

Thanks all for the words. I'm having a weird rollercoaster of a time with awesome peaceful baby on chest moments followed by utter panic and tests etc.

Still in hospital (4 1/2 days and counting) and we've been told he's probably got an infection as he's way too sleepy and not feeding very consistently at all. Has bow had blood tests and a permanent cannula in, also on antibiotics (which means a definite 2 days more in here....) And he's just had a chest X ray.

My house is an utter tip and my cats are hopefully still alive. Think I've spent about 15 hours there (all asleep) in the last 100 odd...

Mum can't even read her phone screen anymore through lack of sleep and can't remember any of the important timings or info different people are giving her.

It's not fun but I know we want to go home with a healthy thriving baby so I.do understand it all.

Blows my mind that some people get into hospital in the morning and manage to leave the same day!

My diet has been dreadful, I'm either gonna get fat from only eating sandwiches and cake or I'm going to be a rake thin from not actually eating anywhere near enough!

It's Very surreal driving home in the heavy frost after no sleep at 4am etc, I haven't got anything yet though so I must be an awesome driver.

[Stevil]

Fonzey said:

chip* said:

Not our pregnancy as such, but my wife's friend due date was tomorrow, but all plans went to pot as she gave birth on her kitchen floor last night. Mother and daughter are perfectly fine and due to return home later today, but Dad is apparently still traumatised / in delayed shock after delivering his daughter in the kitchen. Ha ha ha!

Amazing! Also was my worst nightmare

Funnily enough this is our exact plan for our second, albeit with a birth pool in our kitchen. Wanted a home birth the first time out but it didn't happen.

[theboss]

chip* said:

Not our pregnancy as such, but my wife's friend due date was tomorrow, but all plans went to pot as she gave birth on her kitchen floor last night. Mother and daughter are perfectly fine and due to return home later today, but Dad is apparently still traumatised / in delayed shock after delivering his daughter in the kitchen. Ha ha ha!

Sounds easier than hospital. Flip the kettle on, fetch mop and bucket, job done glad they are well despite the emergency.

Just took my wife to triage at 30wks because we haven’t felt the little bugger moving since the early hours - just heading back having done the school run. I’m hoping this is something which happens to most people during a pregnancy - any experiences?

[Stevil]

theboss said:

Sounds easier than hospital. Flip the kettle on, fetch mop and bucket, job done glad they are well despite the emergency.

Just took my wife to triage at 30wks because we haven’t felt the little bugger moving since the early hours - just heading back having done the school run. I’m hoping this is something which happens to most people during a pregnancy - any experiences?

For our first we had similar, went in several times for monitoring, although it's a faff going into hospital for that sort of thing they would always rather see you than not.

[Stockman14]

Stevil said:

theboss said:

Sounds easier than hospital. Flip the kettle on, fetch mop and bucket, job done glad they are well despite the emergency.

Just took my wife to triage at 30wks because we haven’t felt the little bugger moving since the early hours - just heading back having done the school run. I’m hoping this is something which happens to most people during a pregnancy - any experiences?

For our first we had similar, went in several times for monitoring, although it's a faff going into hospital for that sort of thing they would always rather see you than not.

We had it with both of ours. No issues. They'd much rather you go see them anytime fetal movements are different to normal. Better to be safe than sorry!

[theboss]

Thanks guys, just got back with the all clear. There were about 4 other women at similar stages of pregnancy all sat there for the same thing, which brings a sense of relief. All the other blokes looked at me enviously when I left her there saying I had to run to the school.

[Blown2CV]

theboss said:

chip* said:

Not our pregnancy as such, but my wife's friend due date was tomorrow, but all plans went to pot as she gave birth on her kitchen floor last night. Mother and daughter are perfectly fine and due to return home later today, but Dad is apparently still traumatised / in delayed shock after delivering his daughter in the kitchen. Ha ha ha!

Sounds easier than hospital. Flip the kettle on, fetch mop and bucket, job done glad they are well despite the emergency.

Just took my wife to triage at 30wks because we haven’t felt the little bugger moving since the early hours - just heading back having done the school run. I’m hoping this is something which happens to most people during a pregnancy - any experiences?

Well, we had i think 10 instances of this with number 1. All false alarms, thankfully. It is very common, but should never be ignored. Just because the mum doesn't feel the baby move doesn't mean it isn't moving. The only thing to do is get straight into hospital and get checked, but it is frustrating. The cause for us was likely that the baby was back to back or moving into a position where my wife found it hard to feel the sensation of movement. Certainly she came out back to back so that was at least the case. Missus was also rushing around like anything whilst pregnant so i think an element of it was focusing on other things and not really noticing the baby move, but of course you get a verbal kicking from all and sundry for saying st like that so 'it can't be that'.

[Fonzey]

I'd say we did triage for monitoring about six times, the last of which at 41 weeks kicked off the induction

At 45 mins each way it was hardly convenient, each one a false alarm but still would do them all again for peace of mind.

[bongtom]

Congrats to all the recent dads (and not so recent).
I’ve not contributed to this thread as we had a miscarriage last year but it was exacerbated because she was taking Accutane for a bunch of spots and I didn’t want to tempt fait. It clearly states many times on the packet “DO NOT TAKE IF ATTEMPTING TO GET PREGNANT OR PREGNANT” many times, but we weren’t so...

Anyway.
Baby Bella (3.6kg) was born through a natural birth on Saturday 9th after 19 hours. Mum didn’t even have an epidural or pain relief only an IV to induce labour quicker as it was taking so long for her to dilate, which if I’m honest I didn’t realise was so painful. But them I’m s bloke so!
The hospital don’t “offer” C-sections as they insist a natural birth is better for mum and baby.

Anyway. I live in Cambodia and the hospital is a well known charity (Sonja Kill. Yeah, odd name) and they were fantastic even though they were short staffed as it’s a national holiday (Independence Day, from the French!).
Mum had to be cut quite a bit so she’s still painful but we are now home, after staying in the VIP room. All in $318!

I tell you. Cambodians are tough bds. Not one tear was shed. (I may have though)

Felt utterly useless!

[bongtom]

Fonzey said:

I'd say we did triage for monitoring about six times, the last of which at 41 weeks kicked off the induction

At 45 mins each way it was hardly convenient, each one a false alarm but still would do them all again for peace of mind.

We had the Braxton Hicks at 39 weeks and I had to explain to my wife what is was. She was convinced she was going into labour!

Woke up this morning and found a pair of scissors under the babies pillow. WTF I thought but my wife says it’s to protect her from bad dreams, knives are also used. They’re a superstitious lot for seriously!

I just have to let them (the family) get on with it. Still nice to have them around to help.

[Rutter]

Congrats to all the recent Dads, Miss Rutter was born 3 weeks ago now by scheduled section, all went well and we are all doing great. Back at work now after 3 weeks paternity leave.

I had forgotten how much they poop at this age, I'm certain we have already contributed a few tonnes of landfill nappies already. perhaps I need to look into reusable ones or something?

Need to investigate getting myself fixed now as we've completed the set with a boy and a girl, time to stop any future happy little accidents!

[Nemophilist]

Rutter said:

Congrats to all the recent Dads, Miss Rutter was born 3 weeks ago now by scheduled section, all went well and we are all doing great. Back at work now after 3 weeks paternity leave.

I had forgotten how much they poop at this age, I'm certain we have already contributed a few tonnes of landfill nappies already. perhaps I need to look into reusable ones or something?

Need to investigate getting myself fixed now as we've completed the set with a boy and a girl, time to stop any future happy little accidents!

Congratulations!

Mind me asking what the process was for them to agree to an elective section?

Our second is due next year and after emergency section last time I don’t want to risk it and have asked for a scheduled section but they want me to attend classes on vbac and meeting with consultants before they will agree to it.

I’m also not fancying any more after this one and should I be successful in my section I might ask them to tie the tubes whilst they’re in there!

Husband isn’t so sure it’s a good idea as all of a sudden he quite likes the idea of 3 🤦🏻‍♀️

[Rutter]

Nemophilist said:

Congratulations!

Mind me asking what the process was for them to agree to an elective section?

Our second is due next year and after emergency section last time I don’t want to risk it and have asked for a scheduled section but they want me to attend classes on vbac and meeting with consultants before they will agree to it.

I’m also not fancying any more after this one and should I be successful in my section I might ask them to tie the tubes whilst they’re in there!

Husband isn’t so sure it’s a good idea as all of a sudden he quite likes the idea of 3 ???????

The section was more forced upon us by the consultants as there was placenta previa which basically means it was too close to the cervix so there was a large risk of haemorrhage if natural labour started, that combined with Master Rutter arriving at 33 weeks the risk of early labour was high too.

[vonuber]

The thought of having a 3rd now fills me with dread.
2 is more than enough for me. Plus we're both getting too old at 40.

[vaud]

Nemophilist said:

Mind me asking what the process was for them to agree to an elective section?

Our second is due next year and after emergency section last time I don’t want to risk it and have asked for a scheduled section but they want me to attend classes on vbac and meeting with consultants before they will agree to it.

I’m also not fancying any more after this one and should I be successful in my section I might ask them to tie the tubes whilst they’re in there!

Husband isn’t so sure it’s a good idea as all of a sudden he quite likes the idea of 3 ???????

2 is bad, 3 is insanity

Wasn't asked of me, but the first was born via a cat 1 csection, all very scary after a 3 day induction.

For number two, it ended up with an elective csection - all very calm but the agreement was to try natural birth first, but the birth plan had a very rapid escalation to elective. My wife went into labour naturally, but due to stress (we think) the contractions stopped in hospital (she had PTSD from the first birth)... so they agreed within 6 hrs to do an elective.

Given the amount of scarring, etc she was then advised to wait at least 2 years before a third. Which we are not having,

[chip*]

Nemophilist said:

Husband isn’t so sure it’s a good idea as all of a sudden he quite likes the idea of 3 ???????

My parents felt the same too.
They finally stopped at number 8 (me!).

[vaud]

chip* said:

My parents felt the same too.
They finally stopped at number 8 (me!).

Did they not have a tv?

[ST_Nuts]

They obviously didn't use condoms!

Ours is nearly 5 months now. One is definitely enough for us. Can't imagine going through this again.

[vonuber]

ST_Nuts said:

They obviously didn't use condoms!

Ours is nearly 5 months now. One is definitely enough for us. Can't imagine going through this again.

We were pregnant again when the first just turned a year.

At least we got it all out of the way I guess.