Kids at home....

[Fergie87]

I paid £300 per month and my share of electric/gas. I did my own washing/ironing and I had a list of cleaning to do each week. However I was never asked to cook and always had food whenever I wanted it. Also my parents helped put me through Uni so I just saw it as them recouping costs. It helped me when I moved into my own house 3 years ago, as the £300 had always been taken by DD I never missed it and subsequently could afford more than I thought.

[beko1987]

Was £250 a month before I moved out. Was quite good in a way as I thought "Oooh, the rent for this new place is only £300 a month more"

Still have loads of crap in the garage, tools etc and use the drive to work on cars so still pay £50 a month, less if I detail my stepdads car every month. Still cheaper than paying for other storage, although will be much better when we move into somewhere with a garage.

[okgo]

I paid around 30-40% of my take home as rent when I lived at home, but I lived as a child, food made for me, clothes etc etc.

£200 a month is fine if they earn 500 or something, but its a bit of a joke otherwise and all that will happen is they have an unrealistic view of the world and buy a load of absoloute st.

[vescaegg]

I used to pay £300 a month but when I moved out my mum gave me it all to use as a house deposit as she had been putting it aside. I thought that was a bloody lovely thing to do personally. Taught me to pay my way (a small amount but still ) but helped me out massively in the end too. It was quite a nice sum in the end as I paid it for a few years.

Obviously up to the OP if they can afford that or not.

Edited by vescaegg on Thursday 31st October 15:54

[blindswelledrat]

anonymous said:

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Why???????
Don't panic, Im not crying 'racist' I'm just utterly curious as to why you want to know and what you might expect to see

[CrowCrow00]

I'm a big kid living at home while I sort my finances out, I pay £240 a month and (obviously) do my own cleaning and buy all my own food.

[okgo]

blindswelledrat said:

Why???????
Don't panic, Im not crying 'racist' I'm just utterly curious as to why you want to know and what you might expect to see

Well indian families isn't it more common for kids to stay at home for years and year until they can move straight out to buy already married etc?

[amirzed]

I'm the big kid and at the ripe age of 33 whenever I have lived at home, which is the vast majority, I have paid not a penny in rent. Ever. Neither do I intend to.

Before everyone gets on their high horse can I just point out on the flipside ever since I was a kid I've helped out in the family business, spend countless hours doing admin for their business, had a couple of their rental houses refurbished and managed them and never took a penny for any of this. Neither do I intend to.

I'm Asian Pakistani by the way...

[blindswelledrat]

okgo said:

Well indian families isn't it more common for kids to stay at home for years and year until they can move straight out to buy already married etc?

No idea. Maybe. Would you assume if that was the case that the parents wouldn't charge a working child any money like non-indian parents? Is there anything interesting in the cultural difference between whether they charge or not?

[Muzzer79]

I paid a percentage of my wage when I started working full time.

If I was earning peanuts, I paid very little.

When I was doing better, I paid more.

That said, I was only in full time employment for 2 years before I lived on my own, so it never got very high.

[Pferdestarke]

I'd take at least £100 a month from my children when they're at that stage.

But my plan would be to hand every last bean back to them when they move out and make sure they put it towards a deposit, or furniture.

It's bloody tough to get a good start and they need all the help they can get. As long as they're working for it and not wasting it on silly fads and too many clothes and nights out.

[Afanc]

Pferdestarke said:

I'd take at least £100 a month from my children when they're at that stage.

But my plan would be to hand every last bean back to them when they move out and make sure they put it towards a deposit, or furniture.

It's bloody tough to get a good start and they need all the help they can get. As long as they're working for it and not wasting it on silly fads and too many clothes and nights out.

This. My mum gave me back half of everything I'd paid her over the years along with the interest it had built up as she had been sticking it in a savings account. Really helped when I was in my first few months of living away from home (that wasn't halls of residence) and struggling with the cost of motoring, suits and furniture. I'd do something similar in the future and I believe my granddad did it for her.

[MartynVRS]

I pay £30/week but I'll also help around the house like doing gardening, decorating, fixing things, etc. If my parents are struggling one month (e.g. car insurance was due so I paid it) and they pay me back when they can. It's never much but it helps them a lot and it means not having to use a credit card. Once a week they go down the club so I'll pick them up and run them places if I can. If we ever go somewhere as a family I'll drive and cover fuel costs. If I need to use the landline and it's an 0845 number I'll pay for the call at the end of the month. Buy my own bits of food but I still get one main meal a day. M

[Carthage]

My parents never charged anything, ever. In fact they also bought my cars, paid the running expenses, insurance etc. My dad died a couple of years ago, and my mum will still randomly send me money.

[Chlamydia]

I never paid rent, but I left home the week after I left school.

[JoeMk1]

I paid about £150 per month, from earnings of around £1200 per month. Didn't have any set chores to do but would of course help out when asked. Also lent my parents the money for their solar panels from my savings.

[KFC]

MartynVRS said:

I pay £30/week but I'll also help around the house like doing gardening, decorating, fixing things, etc. If my parents are struggling one month (e.g. car insurance was due so I paid it) and they pay me back when they can. It's never much but it helps them a lot and it means not having to use a credit card. Once a week they go down the club so I'll pick them up and run them places if I can. If we ever go somewhere as a family I'll drive and cover fuel costs. If I need to use the landline and it's an 0845 number I'll pay for the call at the end of the month. Buy my own bits of food but I still get one main meal a day. M

If you are working full time and your parents are struggling financially then imo you're being extremely unfair only paying £30/week, even if you're helping out around the house. Get your wallet out ffs :P

[New POD]

amirzed said:

I'm the big kid and at the ripe age of 33 whenever I have lived at home, which is the vast majority, I have paid not a penny in rent. Ever. Neither do I intend to.

Before everyone gets on their high horse can I just point out on the flipside ever since I was a kid I've helped out in the family business, spend countless hours doing admin for their business, had a couple of their rental houses refurbished and managed them and never took a penny for any of this. Neither do I intend to.

I'm Asian Pakistani by the way...

There might have been good tax reasons why the family business Should have paid you.


I can say that IF my white middle class born again Christian parents asked me to help them for nothing I would have. In fact there was only ever one thing I refused to do ever, and that almost broke my mother's heart. I refused to attend church, from age 13.

To be honest my parents kept offering to pay me to do various jobs.

I once got asked to paint all the fence panels with creosote, but they offered me £1 a panel, so I borrowed a compressor and spray gun, and did 30 panels in a day, whilst they were at work.

Then my mother asked me, if she sacked the cleaner, whether I'd clean the house for half what she was paid. I did it in half the time, and nobody seemed to notice my lack of attention to detail.


However, when I finished polytechnic, they had just moved house and my nan had moved in and took a 1/3 share in the house, and my mum wanted £70 a week board, (It was 1989) so I very quickly moved in with my future wife.

[plenty]

blindswelledrat said:

okgo said:

Well indian families isn't it more common for kids to stay at home for years and year until they can move straight out to buy already married etc?

No idea. Maybe. Would you assume if that was the case that the parents wouldn't charge a working child any money like non-indian parents? Is there anything interesting in the cultural difference between whether they charge or not?

Yes, there is something interesting about this. This is one of those issues (like marriage) that will reveal some fundamental differences between cultures, even among second- or third-generation immigrants.

I understand why people consider it reasonable to levy a charge, but I wouldn't expect my children to pay a thing ever to live under my roof, even if they earned fat incomes, just as my parents never asked me for anything.

[iphonedyou]

I never paid anything. Neither will my kids. Personally, it doesn't really sit well with me at all. With kids comes all the baggage, financial and otherwise; that, to me, is the decision you make.

I certainly don't understand the fella earlier who reckons he'll get a holiday out of his kids rent. That's a bit strange to me.