Match.com (Vol. 7)
Discussion
Thankyou4calling said:
There is absolutely no way, NO WAY I’d just “Be myself” on a dating website. I would’ve got nowhere.
I have been on Hinge, a few year ago. Got some hits but, YES, its like going for a high end job.The women take everything - "literally", which is laughable when their profile states - "I prefer someone that doesn't take life too seriously"
You cant win.
I think the women end up confused due to, a maybe 5 guys to one women ratio. Imagine being a nice looking sort with all those hits ( likes ). Must become hard work eventually with a lot of the good catch guys being bummed off.
hyphen said:
You have to bear in mind that all the good ones (both sexes) get taken, so whats on dating sites is 99% of the leftovers. You need to find those with a genuine reason for being single, be it career obsessed, cheating partner or so on.
The 99% are going to be strange in some way.
I despair at some of the views on this thread.The 99% are going to be strange in some way.
No wonder so many people are single
V8covin said:
hyphen said:
You have to bear in mind that all the good ones (both sexes) get taken, so whats on dating sites is 99% of the leftovers. You need to find those with a genuine reason for being single, be it career obsessed, cheating partner or so on.
The 99% are going to be strange in some way.
I despair at some of the views on this thread.The 99% are going to be strange in some way.
No wonder so many people are single
Or how often a reasonable looking guy with an outgoing personality gets a 'why don't you ask me out' vibe from a girl?
Blown2CV said:
keep a close eye out for single women who have gone utterly mental (even more so) in the last 12 months. Also i reckon there will be a fair few that will have split with their partner last year and are now utterly oozing for it.
I’ve had around 8 ‘coffee walks’ with different girls in the last fortnight - the level of women available is on a new high, 2 of them are genuinely 10/10. One thing I have noticed as a flip though is that not many are looking to settle down, but as 3 have now said “everyone has needs to be fulfilled”. I actually get what you’re saying - it’s not lying, it’s expanding the truth - ie, “I love going to galleries” vs the truth, “I went to a gallery on a school field trip”, “Of course I love animals” vs the truth “animals on a plate”. It’s different to saying “I drive a Ferrari” when infact you have an Audi, or “I have a boat” when infact you have an inflatable with 2hp engine.
I’m in a relationship.
With everyone I’ve dated I’ve said and done things to get in and maintain that relationship, I’ve said, done or been not necessarily what I wanted to be but what I needed to be to get what I wanted.
Now, maybe that is myself? Maybe I’m an actor or put on a persona.
For me it’s successful. I’ve done amazingly well with women, batted consistently above my average but there’s no way I would’ve if I’d just rocked up in a hoody and proffered a walk and a Greggs steak slice.
So, is it an act? Has the act become me? Have I become what I purported to be all those times?
I don’t know
With everyone I’ve dated I’ve said and done things to get in and maintain that relationship, I’ve said, done or been not necessarily what I wanted to be but what I needed to be to get what I wanted.
Now, maybe that is myself? Maybe I’m an actor or put on a persona.
For me it’s successful. I’ve done amazingly well with women, batted consistently above my average but there’s no way I would’ve if I’d just rocked up in a hoody and proffered a walk and a Greggs steak slice.
So, is it an act? Has the act become me? Have I become what I purported to be all those times?
I don’t know
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