Kids at home....
Discussion
KFC said:
If you are working full time and your parents are struggling financially then imo you're being extremely unfair only paying £30/week, even if you're helping out around the house. Get your wallet out ffs :P
I offered to pay that to start plus my brother pays the same. Initially they didn't want anything as they knew I was saving to move out. I do a damn sight more for my parents than lots I know of. iphonedyou said:
I never paid anything. Neither will my kids. Personally, it doesn't really sit well with me at all. With kids comes all the baggage, financial and otherwise; that, to me, is the decision you make.
I certainly don't understand the fella earlier who reckons he'll get a holiday out of his kids rent. That's a bit strange to me.
I agree with that, up until the kids start work.I certainly don't understand the fella earlier who reckons he'll get a holiday out of his kids rent. That's a bit strange to me.
My parents were always of the view that when in full time education, rent etc was free. Just before I moved out into my own home, it was a few hundred a month (can't remember exact figure).
Parents didn't need the money and it was a pittance for an amazing place to live. No garage space allocated to me though!
I never really minded paying tbh. It included all food, washing and a cleaner once a week!
Parents didn't need the money and it was a pittance for an amazing place to live. No garage space allocated to me though!
I never really minded paying tbh. It included all food, washing and a cleaner once a week!
plenty said:
Yes, there is something interesting about this. This is one of those issues (like marriage) that will reveal some fundamental differences between cultures, even among second- or third-generation immigrants.
I understand why people consider it reasonable to levy a charge, but I wouldn't expect my children to pay a thing ever to live under my roof, even if they earned fat incomes, just as my parents never asked me for anything.
Do you think it is a cultural difference or just a difference of opinion? I have no idea.I understand why people consider it reasonable to levy a charge, but I wouldn't expect my children to pay a thing ever to live under my roof, even if they earned fat incomes, just as my parents never asked me for anything.
But if it's correct that several generations later near middle-aged Indians/Pakistani's are still living with parents - perhaps this lack of rent paid is the reason for this?
Would you not want your children to be independent?
Pulse said:
All these examples of £100-£200 a month is pretty ridiculous - I know real-life examples of it happening too. All you're doing is encouraging them to stay, as it's cheaper at home than it'll ever be elsewhere!
Also, if you've got one rule for one child, do yourselves a favour and stick to that for the other child(ren).
Out of 3, I'm the only one to contribute, they've had £50 a week off me for easily 5 out of the 9 or so years I've been working wheras my siblings are financially supported through uni, I'm curbing my spending and working on getting a deposit together, as living under the house rules sucks.Also, if you've got one rule for one child, do yourselves a favour and stick to that for the other child(ren).
For me it would depend if the offspring being at their parents house was a short term measure or a long term plan. If it is short term then I wouldn't charge (as my parents didn't for me between Uni and getting my first proper job), but there had to be a plan and actions about moving on.
Long term and/or without a plan for independence, then we'd look at what needed to happen (as a family) to get our offspring standing on their own feet. Part of that might be charging nominal rent (or maybe subsidising a flat rental). Charging market rate and the offspring staying put would suggest there are other reasons than cost that they don't want to move out.
Long term and/or without a plan for independence, then we'd look at what needed to happen (as a family) to get our offspring standing on their own feet. Part of that might be charging nominal rent (or maybe subsidising a flat rental). Charging market rate and the offspring staying put would suggest there are other reasons than cost that they don't want to move out.
Started a YTS scheme in 1984 when I left school, and proudly brought home my first weekly wage packet of £26.25.
Promptly got told by Mum & Dad that now that I was working, it was a Third for my keep, a Third to save and a Third to spend.
Must say, it set me up well to get into the saving habit, even on such a low income. I still try to live by the 'Thirds' rule today.
Promptly got told by Mum & Dad that now that I was working, it was a Third for my keep, a Third to save and a Third to spend.
Must say, it set me up well to get into the saving habit, even on such a low income. I still try to live by the 'Thirds' rule today.
axgizmo said:
I think I was paying £100 a month before I moved out
Should have said really, I always intended to pay £300 a month but that quickly went down to £100 as the job I took (which I still do now) was costing me £600 a month in fuel to get too.In the end that was the reason I moved out into a rented house, to be closer to work
When I last lived with the folks I was 19..... in full time employment and earning £400 a month....
I cursed the old man as he had £200 a month off me for rent, I had to pay my own poll tax of £60 per month (gives away the era) and he'd loaned me £2k to buy a car - so an extra £100 for that..... no excuses were offered by me as I knew full well they wouldn't be tolerated - I made sure I paid it & worked bars in the evening to top up meagre remains....
Rationale was to get me used to reality without telling me - I felt seriously aggreived at the time and moved out at earliest opportunity (the folks objective acheived no doubt) Three years later I wanted to buy a house & the old man quietly gave me £2k from the rent I'd b
hed so hard about having to pay....
Life lesson learned.....
My friends & colleagues of that era paying either nothing or minimal amounts had their shocks as to the cost of living & value of money far more painfully!
I'll be doing exactly the same to my son when the time comes!
I cursed the old man as he had £200 a month off me for rent, I had to pay my own poll tax of £60 per month (gives away the era) and he'd loaned me £2k to buy a car - so an extra £100 for that..... no excuses were offered by me as I knew full well they wouldn't be tolerated - I made sure I paid it & worked bars in the evening to top up meagre remains....
Rationale was to get me used to reality without telling me - I felt seriously aggreived at the time and moved out at earliest opportunity (the folks objective acheived no doubt) Three years later I wanted to buy a house & the old man quietly gave me £2k from the rent I'd b
hed so hard about having to pay....Life lesson learned.....
My friends & colleagues of that era paying either nothing or minimal amounts had their shocks as to the cost of living & value of money far more painfully!
I'll be doing exactly the same to my son when the time comes!
Not me, But a Friend of mine used to have to pay 1/2 has wages from every job he ever had since he worked from paper round right up to when he moved out at about 26 i think. Then his parents gave him a bank book, with everything in, He hated them for taking his wages but moving out meant he could buy and not rent as had a nice deposit that he would have never saved himself.
I did pay around £100 a month. However, that stopped as my parents went on holiday and I don't have a job anymore (only for a month so far and I'm applying for loads every day before anyone get's offended that there is a benefit taker in the place!).
However, a few weeks into benefit time and I can afford to start paying again and I am going to from Monday onwards.
The plan is to move out asap when I get myself a job.
I have only been paying since I left uni earlier this year. I'm 22.
However, a few weeks into benefit time and I can afford to start paying again and I am going to from Monday onwards.
The plan is to move out asap when I get myself a job.
I have only been paying since I left uni earlier this year. I'm 22.
amirzed said:
I'm the big kid and at the ripe age of 33 whenever I have lived at home, which is the vast majority, I have paid not a penny in rent. Ever. Neither do I intend to.
Before everyone gets on their high horse can I just point out on the flipside ever since I was a kid I've helped out in the family business, spend countless hours doing admin for their business, had a couple of their rental houses refurbished and managed them and never took a penny for any of this. Neither do I intend to.
I'm Asian Pakistani by the way...
That post couldn't have been more stereotypical, you sound just like my uncle, even to the exact age! Before everyone gets on their high horse can I just point out on the flipside ever since I was a kid I've helped out in the family business, spend countless hours doing admin for their business, had a couple of their rental houses refurbished and managed them and never took a penny for any of this. Neither do I intend to.
I'm Asian Pakistani by the way...
This thread has intrigued me; how and when do you approach the subject of rent with your kids?
One of my lads has just turned 21, NETs £1500-£1900 a month and I can't imagine having a serious conversation with him about taking his money.
I mentioned it a few years back and he said he'd move out if I asked him for rent, laugh, I nearly had a stroke - clearly he has no idea how much the real world costs, but he's done his own washing/ironing since he was fourteen; the cleaner has been told that she might catch something if she goes near his den (so doesn't) and he feeds himself about 50% of the time - to a cost of several hundred pounds he tells me.
At some stage I was always going to do the rent straight into savings trick, but, for his 21st I offered him a rental property on a 50/50 basis with his gift being the deposit on it, so essentially a foot on the ladder for free but with the associated 50% risks.
So, again, how do you actually approach the rent conversation with your working children?
Personally, I cannot imagine it...
One of my lads has just turned 21, NETs £1500-£1900 a month and I can't imagine having a serious conversation with him about taking his money.
I mentioned it a few years back and he said he'd move out if I asked him for rent, laugh, I nearly had a stroke - clearly he has no idea how much the real world costs, but he's done his own washing/ironing since he was fourteen; the cleaner has been told that she might catch something if she goes near his den (so doesn't) and he feeds himself about 50% of the time - to a cost of several hundred pounds he tells me.
At some stage I was always going to do the rent straight into savings trick, but, for his 21st I offered him a rental property on a 50/50 basis with his gift being the deposit on it, so essentially a foot on the ladder for free but with the associated 50% risks.
So, again, how do you actually approach the rent conversation with your working children?
Personally, I cannot imagine it...
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