Marriage - or not?
Discussion
davek_964 said:
Her house is worth significantly more than mine
She has a job and a better house than you and you want HER to sign a prenuptial??? What are you actually risking if you marry and it fails?BTW if you are thinking this way then the answer is clear: don’t get married! Only make that commitment to someone you would happily give everything you own to.
23rdian said:
Unless you have the square root of f'all don't even contemplate it. Totally rigged game these days. Contract broken many years ago. A second time you say lol?
Yes, I will sign a contract to prove I love someone.
Why bother.
Be careful making a statement like that. The cucks will be along in a minute to shame you for not participating in PH group think Yes, I will sign a contract to prove I love someone.
Why bother.
Mentioned on another thread that I'm reading Bill Bryson's new book 'The Body'. On the last chapter fittingly called 'The End' talking about end of life stuff and longevity. An interesting nugget relevant to this thread is that there now exists scientifically proven data that shows those who lived their lives in a happy marriage amongst good and kind families suffer less debilitating maladies and live longer than those who don't.
So I guess the question is, on your death bed, would you be happy with having retained all your wealth throughout your life or would you have preferred to have shared the experience of life with someone else?
So I guess the question is, on your death bed, would you be happy with having retained all your wealth throughout your life or would you have preferred to have shared the experience of life with someone else?
StevieBee said:
So I guess the question is, on your death bed, would you be happy with having retained all your wealth throughout your life or would you have preferred to have shared the experience of life with someone else?
In general I have been much happier out of relationships so I'm looking forward to mourning myself. I can only think of two happy marriages I've observed and that is of course observing from the outside. StevieBee said:
Mentioned on another thread that I'm reading Bill Bryson's new book 'The Body'. On the last chapter fittingly called 'The End' talking about end of life stuff and longevity. An interesting nugget relevant to this thread is that there now exists scientifically proven data that shows those who lived their lives in a happy marriage amongst good and kind families suffer less debilitating maladies and live longer than those who don't.
So I guess the question is, on your death bed, would you be happy with having retained all your wealth throughout your life or would you have preferred to have shared the experience of life with someone else?
They are not mutually exclusive though as it is perfectly possible to retain ALL of your wealth and share the experience of life with someone else too. So I guess the question is, on your death bed, would you be happy with having retained all your wealth throughout your life or would you have preferred to have shared the experience of life with someone else?
Have a committed and long term relationship together by all means but don'tneccessarilly spend 24/7 with them. After all it is often those who desperately think they 'need' a full time 24/7 relationship with someone else simply because they are insecure themselves as a person and have underlying problems or major hangups themselves which would only be solved by character building your strengths and spending time on your own.
So spend time together but also time alone with your mates whatever so you get the best of all worlds. Win win in fact.
Simply don't get married to them and go down the bag for life route and face the usual and obvious regrets later on together with the stress amd acrimony signing your wealth away to them in the process.
StevieBee said:
So I guess the question is, on your death bed, would you be happy with having retained all your wealth throughout your life or would you have preferred to have shared the experience of life with someone else?
That makes a nice soundbite but its really not a fair representation of reality. What about the people that tried to share the experience of life with someone else, and ended up alone in a bedsit above a chipshop while the now ex got to stay in the house he kept paying for? How happy do you think he is
I am not saying marriage wasn't reasonable idea...once...
But you now have a devalued institution.
Even relationships without marriage are dicey.
Your mrs can bring along and smash your head in with a hammer and it's not murder. Oh no, not at all. She was misunderstood see.
Because you've got new laws like this...
https://www.winsfordguardian.co.uk/news/17348877.1...
No thanks, I'm out!
But you now have a devalued institution.
Even relationships without marriage are dicey.
Your mrs can bring along and smash your head in with a hammer and it's not murder. Oh no, not at all. She was misunderstood see.
Because you've got new laws like this...
https://www.winsfordguardian.co.uk/news/17348877.1...
No thanks, I'm out!
Edited by 23rdian on Tuesday 10th December 20:45
Algarve said:
StevieBee said:
So I guess the question is, on your death bed, would you be happy with having retained all your wealth throughout your life or would you have preferred to have shared the experience of life with someone else?
That makes a nice soundbite but its really not a fair representation of reality. What about the people that tried to share the experience of life with someone else, and ended up alone in a bedsit above a chipshop while the now ex got to stay in the house he kept paying for? How happy do you think he is
StevieBee said:
So I guess the question is, on your death bed, would you be happy with having retained all your wealth throughout your life or would you have preferred to have shared the experience of life with someone else?
Most guys die before their partners, so she would have 100% of it on your death bed. No marriage needed, just write a will. 
Robertj21a said:
No need to be married these days, and little point really. Far too many downsides for the guys when, after a few years, the female decides she wants someone different. Everyone thinks that they are blissfully happy and it couldn't happen to them...........but it does.
Just weigh up all the benefits (probably rather few) against all the likely problems after a while (probably rather a lot) and you should have a clear answer.
Just my opinion, but isn’t that what forums are for?, but that sounds like you have a very negative view of the human race.Just weigh up all the benefits (probably rather few) against all the likely problems after a while (probably rather a lot) and you should have a clear answer.
I married very young, but being very immature, I carried on as if I was still single, and after a string of affairs my wife kicked me into touch.
Much later in life, I met a wonderful person who eventually moved in with me, I had the same idea then as many, who needs a ring and a marriage certificate, if we didn’t love each other, why did we buy a house and live together?
Then one day, just after my mother died, I discovered the hoops that I had to jump through to settle her affairs, and transfer the money in her bank account to my sons, her grandsons.
I didn’t want my lady to have to go through all that agg, so I asked her to marry me, because a) I love her to pieces, and b), as I’m 19 years her senior, it’s a reasonable assumption that I’ll shuffle off this mortal coil first, and it will make her life easier to sort out my affairs as Mrs. Frank 7.
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