Match.com (Vol. 7)
Discussion
Petrus1983 said:
The western perception of Far Eastern ladies is atrocious. Some of the very brightest people I’ve met are Thai (not sure where you are) - who speak English more fluently than a lot of my UK friends, have brains as quick as a calculator and to top it off are family driven lovely people. Sometimes I despair.
Eta - glad it’s going well though
I wonder why a lot of Westerners have such a poor perception of far Eastern ladiesEta - glad it’s going well though
is it very middle aged to suggest that it sounds like it's a lot harder to pick someone up in person these days? 20 years ago if you walked up to someone and started to chat to them, with a view to getting their number, the worst you could expect is rejection. Now you're likely to end up branded a sicko and a a rapist.
Blown2CV said:
is it very middle aged to suggest that it sounds like it's a lot harder to pick someone up in person these days? 20 years ago if you walked up to someone and started to chat to them, with a view to getting their number, the worst you could expect is rejection. Now you're likely to end up branded a sicko and a a rapist.
Have your picture put on some local screaming womens group for being a sexual predator. Barred from the local pubs and shops to appease the screamers. Visited by the police and put on the sex offenders register for 10 yrs. Maybe some exaggeration!
Anyway to say something for OLD. The relationship I’m in the beginning of now would never have happened if it wasn’t for the app.
Even living just 20 miles away we don’t walk in the same circles. We would never have met, we wouldn’t be doing the things that we are. We wouldn’t be in bed for hours like bunnies and we wouldn’t be falling in love with each other either. We just wouldn’t exist at all, simple as that.
Blown2CV said:
is it very middle aged to suggest that it sounds like it's a lot harder to pick someone up in person these days? 20 years ago if you walked up to someone and started to chat to them, with a view to getting their number, the worst you could expect is rejection. Now you're likely to end up branded a sicko and a a rapist.
I don't think so. As OLD has become so normalized I think that 'chatting up' (hate that term but what else to use) someone IRL just seems a bit strange now. I've not been in that position for several years now, but the last time I met someone outside of OLD was a barmaid who I had some good cheeky chats with, asked for her number and then dated for a while. Not sure that'd work now (I'm 6 years older for one and 20 years was a pretty big age gap as it was 
).PDP76 said:
Anyway to say something for OLD. The relationship I’m in the beginning of now would never have happened if it wasn’t for the app.
Even living just 20 miles away we don’t walk in the same circles. We would never have met, we wouldn’t be doing the things that we are. We wouldn’t be in bed for hours like bunnies and we wouldn’t be falling in love with each other either. We just wouldn’t exist at all, simple as that.
Almost identical to my situation; we lived only 8 miles apart but at opposite ends of town. We talked about it and figured out that it was very unlikely we'd have met otherwise, because even if we had been in the same place at the same time it's unlikely we'd have been looking to meet someone. We've been living together 4.5 years now....Even living just 20 miles away we don’t walk in the same circles. We would never have met, we wouldn’t be doing the things that we are. We wouldn’t be in bed for hours like bunnies and we wouldn’t be falling in love with each other either. We just wouldn’t exist at all, simple as that.
jdw100 said:
I think that's quite sad. Using a trick to entice responses.
I kind of disagree with the rest of it as well.
I found myself single for a couple of years at 44 years old. I was able to meet ladies from 27-40.
(no overweight ones, not my thing)
Can't imagine how I would have met them online.
Had couple of flings from that. One 3/4 month relationship. One I would have absolutely wanted long term.
She wasn't on apps: I met her in a cafe in Shoreditch and we got talking..
However...I went away for a three month sabbatical and met my now wife and mother of child.
She was in a restaurant with friends. Got talking, got number, called her next day and asked her to lunch.
How would I have met her..?.she has never used a dating app.
I don't think I texted any of above to start with, always called them. I have no facebook or instagram: which was a shocker to younger ones, including my wife!
There was a spark from the off...if there hadn't been we wouldn't have followed up. Same for others above.
No need to meet for awkward dates with someone you realise you don't like.
I didn't know anything about them and vice-versa when we first met. Hence being able to have those conversations..
Look after yourself, be able to speak like a normal person, meet people.
Think of time you would save. I was either out with friends or on my own. These meetings just happened, naturally. Not endless messaging or lies or spreadsheets. Absolutely wasting hours of your lives that you could be using for something else.
That's me done: I realise this about internet dating, not about not doing it.
Honestly though: I find it all a bit sad.
No disrespect intended but it’s a piece of piss to date women by being English in Asia. I kind of disagree with the rest of it as well.
I found myself single for a couple of years at 44 years old. I was able to meet ladies from 27-40.
(no overweight ones, not my thing)
Can't imagine how I would have met them online.
Had couple of flings from that. One 3/4 month relationship. One I would have absolutely wanted long term.
She wasn't on apps: I met her in a cafe in Shoreditch and we got talking..
However...I went away for a three month sabbatical and met my now wife and mother of child.
She was in a restaurant with friends. Got talking, got number, called her next day and asked her to lunch.
How would I have met her..?.she has never used a dating app.
I don't think I texted any of above to start with, always called them. I have no facebook or instagram: which was a shocker to younger ones, including my wife!
There was a spark from the off...if there hadn't been we wouldn't have followed up. Same for others above.
No need to meet for awkward dates with someone you realise you don't like.
I didn't know anything about them and vice-versa when we first met. Hence being able to have those conversations..
Look after yourself, be able to speak like a normal person, meet people.
Think of time you would save. I was either out with friends or on my own. These meetings just happened, naturally. Not endless messaging or lies or spreadsheets. Absolutely wasting hours of your lives that you could be using for something else.
That's me done: I realise this about internet dating, not about not doing it.
Honestly though: I find it all a bit sad.
Edited by jdw100 on Friday 27th May 06:58
V8covin said:
A phrase often seen on profiles "I work hard and play hard"....to me that implies they spend their evenings getting pissed .
What does it imply to you ?
Do men and women mean different things by it ?
Standard interpretation would be pissing it up. Could also mean they enjoy more exciting activities or loads of traveling.What does it imply to you ?
Do men and women mean different things by it ?
Edited by V8covin on Sunday 29th May 19:19
If they are 20 something I'd assume partying and pics of that w
ky swing over the sea in Bali. Everyone else I'd assume it means they have a lock down paddle board gathering dust, pen y fan pics and go on a package holiday to the med once a yearV8covin said:
A phrase often seen on profiles "I work hard and play hard"....to me that implies they spend their evenings getting pissed .
What does it imply to you ?
Do men and women mean different things by it ?
From a girls perspective I interpret it as someone that is up for a lot of one night stands. Out with the lads getting drunk and not really caring what he takes home. What does it imply to you ?
Do men and women mean different things by it ?
Edited by V8covin on Sunday 29th May 19:19
V8covin said:
A phrase often seen on profiles "I work hard and play hard"....to me that implies they spend their evenings getting pissed .
What does it imply to you ?
That. And that they probably also have on their profile 'must like dogs', 'no hook ups', and the number of countries they have visited. What does it imply to you ?
Plus that they like eating food (really? you mean like everyone else?) and complete with a photo on a beach in a bikini (yoga pose or starjumps optional) captioned 'take me back'.
In other words, clichéd, with zero imagination and probably boring as hell while being a borderline alcoholic and good in bed. Right swipe
V8covin said:
A phrase often seen on profiles "I work hard and play hard"....to me that implies they spend their evenings getting pissed .
What does it imply to you ?
Do men and women mean different things by it ?
i interpret it as: i have a perfectly normal job that i make harder by virtue of my personality, and i think going to the gym constitutes a hobby. What does it imply to you ?
Do men and women mean different things by it ?
V8covin said:
A phrase often seen on profiles "I work hard and play hard"....to me that implies they spend their evenings getting pissed .
What does it imply to you ?
Do men and women mean different things by it ?
I just read it as someone who puts energy into everything and doesn’t like to sit around doing nothing / wasting the day. What does it imply to you ?
Do men and women mean different things by it ?
Edited by V8covin on Sunday 29th May 19:19
But yes.. when I was OLD I met people who typed this.. the reality didn’t always match the marketing copy though.
Its just a garbage comment women put up to try and sound cool, like carpe diem, or saphiophile or anything that tries to make them sounds interesting, it is about as interesting as putting up pictures of you holding a fish or posing next to a car, or a woman showing you her tattoo about an hour after it was done or her scuba diving or jumping out of a plane.
Normally when you push a few buttons, they are anything but this, knackered from work, wat to be in bed by 9.30 and snoring by 9.45
Normally when you push a few buttons, they are anything but this, knackered from work, wat to be in bed by 9.30 and snoring by 9.45
The spinner of plates said:
Monkeylegend said:
LukeBrown66 said:
Normally when you push a few buttons, they are anything but this, knackered from work, wat to be in bed by 9.30 and snoring by 9.45
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