Match.com (Volume 6)
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HTTPies said:
olly22n said:
mumsnet dating thread link please?
The previous 142 are a great read...https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3439729...
Me and the Mrs had an argument last night. Quite a big one.
All because I jokingly said "it's not like you're on a diet anyway" while trying to force feed her a sandwich.
Turned into the whole "you think you're better than me" speil.
Won't be making that mistake again. She is sensitive about her weight but usually can take a joke.
Fermit and Sexy Sarah said:
Bloody hell, even I (far from 'down with the kids') knew what FWB means!
Here's one to throw out. Have any of you on Match or the like (inc Facebook) ever been Catfished? (Google it if it's an unknown term)
I once (10 years ago?) was, and man, did she do a thorough job on the deceit! She slipped up on a detail which aroused my radar, and a reverse image search, on one of her many pics she'd sent busted her.
In 2009 I was on PoF and found my ideal woman. Red hair, milky skin and decent tits. I chatted to her for around a week and arranged to meet up after work. As I was leaving to go on the date I said goodbye to my bromance (who I was living with before we both married) and he immediately burst out laughing. The penny then dropped and I called him a Here's one to throw out. Have any of you on Match or the like (inc Facebook) ever been Catfished? (Google it if it's an unknown term)
I once (10 years ago?) was, and man, did she do a thorough job on the deceit! She slipped up on a detail which aroused my radar, and a reverse image search, on one of her many pics she'd sent busted her.
for the trick he played on me. Apparently all our friends knew about it too.I have a good looking mate who's pictures always end up on different profiles.
First post on this thread!
Me and my partner of 7 years split up a few months ago as we had grown apart, living different lives etc, I started to realise this earlier in the year when my dad passed away and she wasn't much support.
So have been dabbling with POF & Tinder, Seen more success on POF been chatting to a few localish (10-20 miles max) but they just seem to want to chat, The other day messaged a girl who lives in my town, never seen her before, hobbies similar, music similar, runs her own business, Initially I wasn't expecting a reply but I got one! Anyway we got chatting a lot and she suggested meeting up on Monday (I was away all weekend for Football in Rome), previously to suggesting we meet up though she said several times she felt I was out of her league? Anyway Monday came, we met up in a local coffee shop (Didn't want to pub as I had kickboxing to go to later) spent best part of 1.5 hours chatting away, I then asked her where she had parked and discovered it was a 1 hour space so walked her back to her car to see if she had a ticket, she didn't and we stood talking for another 20 mins. I walked home and had a few messages off her straight away, how shed enjoyed the day etc and would like to do it again.
Later in the day she said btw I just need to let you know I have another date arranged and will decide whats going on after that (straight away a girl mate of mine is like fk that walk away), Yesterday she was ill and hardly messaged back which should of set alarm bells going, So decided to drop it on her last night and messaged her saying I'm popping up town again tomorrow do a few things round town if you fancy meeting up, response was a not sure will see where I'm up to with work etc.
Anyway messaged her this morning see if shes still ill, got a few back saying she felt better and was doing her work etc, then a long message basically saying she likes me but has decided to give the other dude a change, but if it doesn't work out then she will hit me up. Yeh you can imagine my response.
Followed by a few messages about shes not sure if shes made the right choice etc, well what the fck do you expect me to say!
Maybe I was out of her league as she put it? I'm 29, own house, 2 cars and a motorbike amongst other things, shes 29 owners her own business but lives with parents and has a kid (never dated a girl with a kid, I was willing to give it a try)
Me and my partner of 7 years split up a few months ago as we had grown apart, living different lives etc, I started to realise this earlier in the year when my dad passed away and she wasn't much support.
So have been dabbling with POF & Tinder, Seen more success on POF been chatting to a few localish (10-20 miles max) but they just seem to want to chat, The other day messaged a girl who lives in my town, never seen her before, hobbies similar, music similar, runs her own business, Initially I wasn't expecting a reply but I got one! Anyway we got chatting a lot and she suggested meeting up on Monday (I was away all weekend for Football in Rome), previously to suggesting we meet up though she said several times she felt I was out of her league? Anyway Monday came, we met up in a local coffee shop (Didn't want to pub as I had kickboxing to go to later) spent best part of 1.5 hours chatting away, I then asked her where she had parked and discovered it was a 1 hour space so walked her back to her car to see if she had a ticket, she didn't and we stood talking for another 20 mins. I walked home and had a few messages off her straight away, how shed enjoyed the day etc and would like to do it again.
Later in the day she said btw I just need to let you know I have another date arranged and will decide whats going on after that (straight away a girl mate of mine is like f
k that walk away), Yesterday she was ill and hardly messaged back which should of set alarm bells going, So decided to drop it on her last night and messaged her saying I'm popping up town again tomorrow do a few things round town if you fancy meeting up, response was a not sure will see where I'm up to with work etc. Anyway messaged her this morning see if shes still ill, got a few back saying she felt better and was doing her work etc, then a long message basically saying she likes me but has decided to give the other dude a change, but if it doesn't work out then she will hit me up. Yeh you can imagine my response.
Followed by a few messages about shes not sure if shes made the right choice etc, well what the fck do you expect me to say!
Maybe I was out of her league as she put it? I'm 29, own house, 2 cars and a motorbike amongst other things, shes 29 owners her own business but lives with parents and has a kid (never dated a girl with a kid, I was willing to give it a try)
Edited by AJB88 on Wednesday 12th December 13:58
AJB88 said:
Anyway messaged her this morning see if shes still ill, got a few back saying she felt better and was doing her work etc, then a long message basically saying she likes me but has decided to give the other dude a change, but if it doesn't work out then she will hit me up. Yeh you can imagine my response.
Followed by a few messages about shes not sure if shes made the right choice etc, well what the fck do you expect me to say!
Followed by a few messages about shes not sure if shes made the right choice etc, well what the fck do you expect me to say!
On the positive side, at least she's being honest with you so you know where you stand (sort of). 99% of them would just string you along with BS. Got to give her some credit for that, even if the outcome wasn't what you were hoping for!
Onwaaaaaaaaaards to the next one on your list !
I'm 31....my mortgage is paid off I've just bought another place, I am company director, I have a car, 4 motorbikes (1 race) and every single Falkirk Football top since 1990, HOME AND AWAY. By your logic I should be dating Holly Willoughby or Katy Perry.
You've had a nice time, but did she!? Obviously not nice enough, she's taken you out for a test drive and your sat there on the forecourt like a dick hoping that this guys engine management light shows up on date two or has a part service history.
I do admire her honesty. But I would asterisk her number and forget about it. If your lucky she'll text one weekend, just as you've sat down to watch Match of the day with a text of "hey whats up
".
You've had a nice time, but did she!? Obviously not nice enough, she's taken you out for a test drive and your sat there on the forecourt like a dick hoping that this guys engine management light shows up on date two or has a part service history.
I do admire her honesty. But I would asterisk her number and forget about it. If your lucky she'll text one weekend, just as you've sat down to watch Match of the day with a text of "hey whats up
". What she has done is only what everyone else does but she has been too honest, too early so I am not surprised with your reply to her, rookie error!!
Telling you that you are second favorite isn't going to work but the principle is right if the tables were reversed would you?
I was on match earlier in the year and Tinder and now have a GF from match who is great
"Don't hate the player, hate the game" springs to mind.
After a while the penny dropped that you do have to line some up.
It's a two way thing obviously but lets say you have 3 dates lined up and number 1 has potential and you would probably see her again but number 2 blows your socks off (or something else). What happens if a week later number 2 says "no thanks". If you have blown out number 1 you are left with nothing so for a couple of weeks you have to play the game and potentially date number 3. I didn't like it but it worked.
Telling you that you are second favorite isn't going to work but the principle is right if the tables were reversed would you?
I was on match earlier in the year and Tinder and now have a GF from match who is great
"Don't hate the player, hate the game" springs to mind.
After a while the penny dropped that you do have to line some up.
It's a two way thing obviously but lets say you have 3 dates lined up and number 1 has potential and you would probably see her again but number 2 blows your socks off (or something else). What happens if a week later number 2 says "no thanks". If you have blown out number 1 you are left with nothing so for a couple of weeks you have to play the game and potentially date number 3. I didn't like it but it worked.
AJB88 said:
Maybe I was out of her league as she put it? I'm 29, own house, 2 cars and a motorbike amongst other things, shes 29 owners her own business but lives with parents and has a kid (never dated a girl with a kid, I was willing to give it a try)
Perhaps the other guy has a house, 2 cars and a motorbike AND an X-Box?You div
AJB88 said:
Maybe I was out of her league as she put it? I'm 29, own house, 2 cars and a motorbike amongst other things, shes 29 owners her own business but lives with parents and has a kid (never dated a girl with a kid, I was willing to give it a try)
I think it a little depressing that the concept of 'league' can be determined by how much stuff one has.I tend to be more interested in intelligence, ambition, education and interests (and physical attraction obvs).
AJB88 said:
First post on this thread!
Me and my partner of 7 years split up a few months ago as we had grown apart, living different lives etc, I started to realise this earlier in the year when my dad passed away and she wasn't much support.
So have been dabbling with POF & Tinder, Seen more success on POF been chatting to a few localish (10-20 miles max) but they just seem to want to chat, The other day messaged a girl who lives in my town, never seen her before, hobbies similar, music similar, runs her own business, Initially I wasn't expecting a reply but I got one! Anyway we got chatting a lot and she suggested meeting up on Monday (I was away all weekend for Football in Rome), previously to suggesting we meet up though she said several times she felt I was out of her league? Anyway Monday came, we met up in a local coffee shop (Didn't want to pub as I had kickboxing to go to later) spent best part of 1.5 hours chatting away, I then asked her where she had parked and discovered it was a 1 hour space so walked her back to her car to see if she had a ticket, she didn't and we stood talking for another 20 mins. I walked home and had a few messages off her straight away, how shed enjoyed the day etc and would like to do it again.
Later in the day she said btw I just need to let you know I have another date arranged and will decide whats going on after that (straight away a girl mate of mine is like fk that walk away), Yesterday she was ill and hardly messaged back which should of set alarm bells going, So decided to drop it on her last night and messaged her saying I'm popping up town again tomorrow do a few things round town if you fancy meeting up, response was a not sure will see where I'm up to with work etc.
Anyway messaged her this morning see if shes still ill, got a few back saying she felt better and was doing her work etc, then a long message basically saying she likes me but has decided to give the other dude a change, but if it doesn't work out then she will hit me up. Yeh you can imagine my response.
Followed by a few messages about shes not sure if shes made the right choice etc, well what the fck do you expect me to say!
Maybe I was out of her league as she put it? I'm 29, own house, 2 cars and a motorbike amongst other things, shes 29 owners her own business but lives with parents and has a kid (never dated a girl with a kid, I was willing to give it a try)
Think you dodged the bullet there my man.Me and my partner of 7 years split up a few months ago as we had grown apart, living different lives etc, I started to realise this earlier in the year when my dad passed away and she wasn't much support.
So have been dabbling with POF & Tinder, Seen more success on POF been chatting to a few localish (10-20 miles max) but they just seem to want to chat, The other day messaged a girl who lives in my town, never seen her before, hobbies similar, music similar, runs her own business, Initially I wasn't expecting a reply but I got one! Anyway we got chatting a lot and she suggested meeting up on Monday (I was away all weekend for Football in Rome), previously to suggesting we meet up though she said several times she felt I was out of her league? Anyway Monday came, we met up in a local coffee shop (Didn't want to pub as I had kickboxing to go to later) spent best part of 1.5 hours chatting away, I then asked her where she had parked and discovered it was a 1 hour space so walked her back to her car to see if she had a ticket, she didn't and we stood talking for another 20 mins. I walked home and had a few messages off her straight away, how shed enjoyed the day etc and would like to do it again.
Later in the day she said btw I just need to let you know I have another date arranged and will decide whats going on after that (straight away a girl mate of mine is like f
k that walk away), Yesterday she was ill and hardly messaged back which should of set alarm bells going, So decided to drop it on her last night and messaged her saying I'm popping up town again tomorrow do a few things round town if you fancy meeting up, response was a not sure will see where I'm up to with work etc. Anyway messaged her this morning see if shes still ill, got a few back saying she felt better and was doing her work etc, then a long message basically saying she likes me but has decided to give the other dude a change, but if it doesn't work out then she will hit me up. Yeh you can imagine my response.
Followed by a few messages about shes not sure if shes made the right choice etc, well what the fck do you expect me to say!
Maybe I was out of her league as she put it? I'm 29, own house, 2 cars and a motorbike amongst other things, shes 29 owners her own business but lives with parents and has a kid (never dated a girl with a kid, I was willing to give it a try)
Edited by AJB88 on Wednesday 12th December 13:58
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