Match.com (Volume 6)
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AJB88 said:
First post on this thread!
Me and my partner of 7 years split up a few months ago as we had grown apart, living different lives etc, I started to realise this earlier in the year when my dad passed away and she wasn't much support.
So have been dabbling with POF & Tinder, Seen more success on POF been chatting to a few localish (10-20 miles max) but they just seem to want to chat, The other day messaged a girl who lives in my town, never seen her before, hobbies similar, music similar, runs her own business, Initially I wasn't expecting a reply but I got one! Anyway we got chatting a lot and she suggested meeting up on Monday (I was away all weekend for Football in Rome), previously to suggesting we meet up though she said several times she felt I was out of her league? Anyway Monday came, we met up in a local coffee shop (Didn't want to pub as I had kickboxing to go to later) spent best part of 1.5 hours chatting away, I then asked her where she had parked and discovered it was a 1 hour space so walked her back to her car to see if she had a ticket, she didn't and we stood talking for another 20 mins. I walked home and had a few messages off her straight away, how shed enjoyed the day etc and would like to do it again.
Unusually for a guy, you have made no comments about her physical appearence. Was she just a average girl or did you really like her? Me and my partner of 7 years split up a few months ago as we had grown apart, living different lives etc, I started to realise this earlier in the year when my dad passed away and she wasn't much support.
So have been dabbling with POF & Tinder, Seen more success on POF been chatting to a few localish (10-20 miles max) but they just seem to want to chat, The other day messaged a girl who lives in my town, never seen her before, hobbies similar, music similar, runs her own business, Initially I wasn't expecting a reply but I got one! Anyway we got chatting a lot and she suggested meeting up on Monday (I was away all weekend for Football in Rome), previously to suggesting we meet up though she said several times she felt I was out of her league? Anyway Monday came, we met up in a local coffee shop (Didn't want to pub as I had kickboxing to go to later) spent best part of 1.5 hours chatting away, I then asked her where she had parked and discovered it was a 1 hour space so walked her back to her car to see if she had a ticket, she didn't and we stood talking for another 20 mins. I walked home and had a few messages off her straight away, how shed enjoyed the day etc and would like to do it again.
When you walked her to her car, did you give her a kiss on cheek to say bye?
Strangely in the last couple of years I’ve found that the closer to 40 a single woman gets the more picky and unpredictable women become. The lady I’m currently dating is 24, yet she’s very straight talking, never cancels or makes excuses once we’ve arranged something and she seems to despise mental women from her work in a family law office. Or she’s learning tricks and eventually me or some other poor sap will suffer.
Salmonofdoubt said:
Strangely in the last couple of years I’ve found that the closer to 40 a single woman gets the more picky and unpredictable women become. The lady I’m currently dating is 24, yet she’s very straight talking, never cancels or makes excuses once we’ve arranged something and she seems to despise mental women from her work in a family law office. Or she’s learning tricks and eventually me or some other poor sap will suffer.
They all act normal until you are actually with them!moanthebairns said:
That's a bit different to, driving to your work (how the f
k did she know)....with a lunch she's just made up on the day, then giving it to security because she couldn't get in.
This has all the hallmarks of a fking nutter.
Have you even pumped her yet.
How did she know where I work?k did she know)....with a lunch she's just made up on the day, then giving it to security because she couldn't get in. This has all the hallmarks of a f
king nutter.Have you even pumped her yet.
She has been in my car 3 times - my work ID card and car park swipe card are on gearshift / console and bizarrely we talked about lots of different things including what we do for work. I actually know a couple of people where she works.
She didn't make me lunch - she bought me lunch - as I said she clearly listens , I drove past a place where I go for lunch on occasion and commented that they did an awesome beef sandwich
Edit: she is cooking me dinner Friday night - maybe I should mention what I like for breakfast
Edited by Pagey on Thursday 13th December 01:41
moanthebairns said:
This is before we get onto the whole, she booked a table, that just happened to be at the same place and time as her ex on presumably a fking Monday night.
Correct me if I'm wrong but after two coffee dates, ice skating and a dinner I'd be inviting the woman round for Turkey Dinosaurs and a look at my smiley faces. No out for tea again.
It was Saturday night king Monday night. Correct me if I'm wrong but after two coffee dates, ice skating and a dinner I'd be inviting the woman round for Turkey Dinosaurs and a look at my smiley faces. No out for tea again.
I chose the restaurant
during phone conversation about going out for dinner again I asked her if she could book a table as I was going into a couple of meetings I'm calling it now : she's mental. You've only been seeing her 2 mins and she's making/buying all your meals and randomly turning up unannounced at your workplace. You've either struck gold or she's a clingy and possessive mental nutjob. I know which one is the more likely. She'll be going through phone records and emails next. Enjoy it while it lasts.
xjay1337 said:
Salmonofdoubt said:
Strangely in the last couple of years I’ve found that the closer to 40 a single woman gets the more picky and unpredictable women become. The lady I’m currently dating is 24, yet she’s very straight talking, never cancels or makes excuses once we’ve arranged something and she seems to despise mental women from her work in a family law office. Or she’s learning tricks and eventually me or some other poor sap will suffer.
They all act normal until you are actually with them!
Salmonofdoubt said:
Strangely in the last couple of years I’ve found that the closer to 40 a single woman gets the more picky and unpredictable women become. The lady I’m currently dating is 24, yet she’s very straight talking, never cancels or makes excuses once we’ve arranged something and she seems to despise mental women from her work in a family law office. Or she’s learning tricks and eventually me or some other poor sap will suffer.
Closer to 40 they get, if still without kids and wanting them, women become a whole lot less picky!!Aside from fertility issues, those who aren't genetically blessed start to look in tbe mirror and notice their looks beginning to fade.
Anyone else noticed that Match seem to have given the ladies a new button to press?
They sent me a £5 for a month deal a couple of weeks ago, so thought I would take another look.
I am now suddenly getting lots of passive aggressive "cut and paste" replies this time around from women I messaged months ago the last time I used the site.
It seems to be a "thanks but no thanks" standard reply button they have now been given to play with?
I preferred it when they just ignored me!
They sent me a £5 for a month deal a couple of weeks ago, so thought I would take another look.
I am now suddenly getting lots of passive aggressive "cut and paste" replies this time around from women I messaged months ago the last time I used the site.
It seems to be a "thanks but no thanks" standard reply button they have now been given to play with?
I preferred it when they just ignored me!
Dont think I'll ever understand women.
Had a good tinder date the other night, few flirty texts and then Monday night she came round to mine. Lovely little cute brunette; intelligent, fantastic figure, fun.... pretty much everything you could ask for when first meeting someone. Had a bottle of wine, she stayed the night, all went well, and she left Tuesday morning with a few comments about seeing each other again.
Text her Wednesday afternoon to ask if she was free Thursday evening - not keen, but keen enough I thought - and then nothing! Not a polite 'I'm busy', not a no, shes seen the message and just ignored it.
Which is a shame, she was really up my street and while I hope its not totally dead, its not looking good.
Had a good tinder date the other night, few flirty texts and then Monday night she came round to mine. Lovely little cute brunette; intelligent, fantastic figure, fun.... pretty much everything you could ask for when first meeting someone. Had a bottle of wine, she stayed the night, all went well, and she left Tuesday morning with a few comments about seeing each other again.
Text her Wednesday afternoon to ask if she was free Thursday evening - not keen, but keen enough I thought - and then nothing! Not a polite 'I'm busy', not a no, shes seen the message and just ignored it.
Which is a shame, she was really up my street and while I hope its not totally dead, its not looking good.
Condi said:
Dont think I'll ever understand women.
Had a good tinder date the other night, few flirty texts and then Monday night she came round to mine. Lovely little cute brunette; intelligent, fantastic figure, fun.... pretty much everything you could ask for when first meeting someone. Had a bottle of wine, she stayed the night, all went well, and she left Tuesday morning with a few comments about seeing each other again.
Text her Wednesday afternoon to ask if she was free Thursday evening - not keen, but keen enough I thought - and then nothing! Not a polite 'I'm busy', not a no, shes seen the message and just ignored it.
Which is a shame, she was really up my street and while I hope its not totally dead, its not looking good.
Do you mean Wednesday as in yesterday?Had a good tinder date the other night, few flirty texts and then Monday night she came round to mine. Lovely little cute brunette; intelligent, fantastic figure, fun.... pretty much everything you could ask for when first meeting someone. Had a bottle of wine, she stayed the night, all went well, and she left Tuesday morning with a few comments about seeing each other again.
Text her Wednesday afternoon to ask if she was free Thursday evening - not keen, but keen enough I thought - and then nothing! Not a polite 'I'm busy', not a no, shes seen the message and just ignored it.
Which is a shame, she was really up my street and while I hope its not totally dead, its not looking good.
Condi said:
Yes.
Is 24 hours not long enough to reply to a message?
And if she came round LAST Monday, and I only got round to texting her THIS Wednesday, it would be dead in the water anyway!
Looks like you left it to long to text her and she's giving you some of your own medicine. Leaving it over a week to text after she stayed over isn't good, you will have given the impression you just want her for a booty call. Fine, but I think it polite to send some sort of token text the following day. Even for a friends with benefits, on a base level they need to know your reliable enough that if she accidentally got pregnant you see her right. (honestly read they where hard wired to think like that even if subconsciously). Although Im not sure why she didn't text you in the mean time...takes two to tango.Is 24 hours not long enough to reply to a message?
And if she came round LAST Monday, and I only got round to texting her THIS Wednesday, it would be dead in the water anyway!
No 24 hrs is not to long if your not in a relationship. Some women dont need constant reassurance and have a busy working life themselves. Its the ones that wont stop constant texts that you need to look out for!
Edited by NEWANON4 on Thursday 20th December 15:20
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