Any other expectant Dads?
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So on Tuesday evening at 10pm my wife went into what looks like pre term labour at 33+3. Bleeding, contractions - hospital. Examined and advised 3cm dilated, contractions 1 in 10 or so. Admitted to a labour suite, steroid injection at 2am and contractions continued until 3 or 4am or so before stopping.
Stayed in the labour suite until 4pm or so before being moved to a ward. I returned home at this time, had a nap and done some housework before getting a call at 10pm saying contractions had started again and now 5cm, so get here asap.
Arrived at hospital about 11pm and the labour suite was packed and they were preparing to get the epidural sorted before one of the consultants asked for a delay until 3am. 3am came around and contractions had stopped again, yet to return. 2nd steroid was administered.
It’s now looking like we’re heading back to the ward. Been advised that they’re not going to stop things progressing, but equally due to being now 33+4 they’re not actively speeding things up.
Very frustrated as we’d mentally prepared for babies arrival and very confused why things aren’t progressing despite being 5cm dilated and 2 bouts of contractions.
Stayed in the labour suite until 4pm or so before being moved to a ward. I returned home at this time, had a nap and done some housework before getting a call at 10pm saying contractions had started again and now 5cm, so get here asap.
Arrived at hospital about 11pm and the labour suite was packed and they were preparing to get the epidural sorted before one of the consultants asked for a delay until 3am. 3am came around and contractions had stopped again, yet to return. 2nd steroid was administered.
It’s now looking like we’re heading back to the ward. Been advised that they’re not going to stop things progressing, but equally due to being now 33+4 they’re not actively speeding things up.
Very frustrated as we’d mentally prepared for babies arrival and very confused why things aren’t progressing despite being 5cm dilated and 2 bouts of contractions.
ooid said:
Very interested in this, if you have time share please? We spent another night of waking up once every two hours, which has became a regular.
It was over the course of 2 weeks but essentially involves a routine of when you let them nap in the day to get them in a rhythm and then everything being at broadly the same time everyday. Well worth spending the £300 for the 1:1 support over 2 week.
okgo said:
So how did they teach the child to self soothe?
They gave us the tips of what to do to I get him used to settling himself rather than us having to do it. It wasn’t cry it out because we didn’t want to do that. I’ve got some more information but it’s a bit long. Happy to share if you DM me your contact details.
xerawh said:
Almost 8 month old here. We've just started sleep training but wife isn't fully sold and gets upset so I think its doing more harm. It's painful and seems like we are going backwards but reckon it's (a) both not being on samenpage and (2) bloody teething.
The advice above re slowly reducing quantity and frequency of nighttime feed is consistent with the advice in this training. We are at this stage but what's happened instead is bedtime has now vecome a battle when previously ot was easy.
Every baby is different so just remember that. We have been super lucky with our two...they have both been sleeping through the night at 4 months (7pm to 7am) and it's continued without hardly any hiccups (one is 23 months, one is 10 months).The advice above re slowly reducing quantity and frequency of nighttime feed is consistent with the advice in this training. We are at this stage but what's happened instead is bedtime has now vecome a battle when previously ot was easy.
We were pretty tough love on letting themselves settle, and even now, if they wake up at 6am say, we leave them until 7 (they always go back down after a bit of rolling about / babbling). They don't cry when they wake up now though which makes it easier TBH.
But you have to find what works for you - they are all different (as are we as parents).
guitarcarfanatic said:
xerawh said:
Almost 8 month old here. We've just started sleep training but wife isn't fully sold and gets upset so I think its doing more harm. It's painful and seems like we are going backwards but reckon it's (a) both not being on samenpage and (2) bloody teething.
The advice above re slowly reducing quantity and frequency of nighttime feed is consistent with the advice in this training. We are at this stage but what's happened instead is bedtime has now vecome a battle when previously ot was easy.
Every baby is different so just remember that. We have been super lucky with our two...they have both been sleeping through the night at 4 months (7pm to 7am) and it's continued without hardly any hiccups (one is 23 months, one is 10 months).The advice above re slowly reducing quantity and frequency of nighttime feed is consistent with the advice in this training. We are at this stage but what's happened instead is bedtime has now vecome a battle when previously ot was easy.
We were pretty tough love on letting themselves settle, and even now, if they wake up at 6am say, we leave them until 7 (they always go back down after a bit of rolling about / babbling). They don't cry when they wake up now though which makes it easier TBH.
But you have to find what works for you - they are all different (as are we as parents).
MR2 Steve said:
okgo said:
So how did they teach the child to self soothe?
They gave us the tips of what to do to I get him used to settling himself rather than us having to do it. It wasn’t cry it out because we didn’t want to do that. I’ve got some more information but it’s a bit long. Happy to share if you DM me your contact details.
) but you're in good hands. Fingers crossed everything goes smoothly for you 
Thanks guys!
Babies arrived yesterday (33+5) at 1649 and 1709, both weighing in at 1620g exactly - how amazing. Twin 1 is a boy and twin 2 a girl. Both currently chilling out in NICU, T1 doing slightly better, both on CPAP, but T2 needing boosted o2 and may need surfactant but is being monitored closely, she’s already improving.
I’m home for a sleep, my wife done amazingly well during Labour and is hopefully snoozing on the ward just now.
I’ll be back to the hospital in the morning, hopefully for some skin on skin with the babas.
Babies arrived yesterday (33+5) at 1649 and 1709, both weighing in at 1620g exactly - how amazing. Twin 1 is a boy and twin 2 a girl. Both currently chilling out in NICU, T1 doing slightly better, both on CPAP, but T2 needing boosted o2 and may need surfactant but is being monitored closely, she’s already improving.
I’m home for a sleep, my wife done amazingly well during Labour and is hopefully snoozing on the ward just now.
I’ll be back to the hospital in the morning, hopefully for some skin on skin with the babas.
Am I wierd or is it normal to have some form of anxiety/fear of impending doom.
Wife has our first bun in the oven. We said if it happened it happened but we weren't going to try and force it. And we said ONLY EVER one.
She's now at 17wks and the whole ordeal hasn't been great. We are financially secure and have our own house etc. Shes not been that well. She's been sick every other day (on average). Can't eat anything with any flavour or decent nutrition, I can't cook normal foods because she won't eat it and the smell makes her feel sick, heartburn every day, she's moping around a lot and whinging a fair bit. I get sent to the shop pretty much every other day to get the days random craving. Roast chicken, ice lollies, cheese strings, chicken soup, prawn cocktail crisps, sliced ham, cottage pie ready meal.
I get it, it's horrible and I'd feel the same if I were her..... But it's really getting to me too and tbh we're getting a bit sick of each other.
Right now, I'm thinking - what on earth have we done...
Add into this I'm trying to finish a project ASAP because I'm now time constrained. Whilst I'm beavering away as hard as I can she just sleeps on the sofa and phones me occasionally to be brought supplies.
If it's this horrible. Why TF do people do it more than once? I just don't get it.
I'd like to try and take some time out, but with the never ending garage project and work etc, I just don't have the time to do anything...
Wife has our first bun in the oven. We said if it happened it happened but we weren't going to try and force it. And we said ONLY EVER one.
She's now at 17wks and the whole ordeal hasn't been great. We are financially secure and have our own house etc. Shes not been that well. She's been sick every other day (on average). Can't eat anything with any flavour or decent nutrition, I can't cook normal foods because she won't eat it and the smell makes her feel sick, heartburn every day, she's moping around a lot and whinging a fair bit. I get sent to the shop pretty much every other day to get the days random craving. Roast chicken, ice lollies, cheese strings, chicken soup, prawn cocktail crisps, sliced ham, cottage pie ready meal.
I get it, it's horrible and I'd feel the same if I were her..... But it's really getting to me too and tbh we're getting a bit sick of each other.
Right now, I'm thinking - what on earth have we done...
Add into this I'm trying to finish a project ASAP because I'm now time constrained. Whilst I'm beavering away as hard as I can she just sleeps on the sofa and phones me occasionally to be brought supplies.
If it's this horrible. Why TF do people do it more than once? I just don't get it.
I'd like to try and take some time out, but with the never ending garage project and work etc, I just don't have the time to do anything...
Ambleton said:
Am I wierd or is it normal to have some form of anxiety/fear of impending doom.
Wife has our first bun in the oven. We said if it happened it happened but we weren't going to try and force it. And we said ONLY EVER one.
She's now at 17wks and the whole ordeal hasn't been great. We are financially secure and have our own house etc. Shes not been that well. She's been sick every other day (on average). Can't eat anything with any flavour or decent nutrition, I can't cook normal foods because she won't eat it and the smell makes her feel sick, heartburn every day, she's moping around a lot and whinging a fair bit. I get sent to the shop pretty much every other day to get the days random craving. Roast chicken, ice lollies, cheese strings, chicken soup, prawn cocktail crisps, sliced ham, cottage pie ready meal.
I get it, it's horrible and I'd feel the same if I were her..... But it's really getting to me too and tbh we're getting a bit sick of each other.
Right now, I'm thinking - what on earth have we done...
Add into this I'm trying to finish a project ASAP because I'm now time constrained. Whilst I'm beavering away as hard as I can she just sleeps on the sofa and phones me occasionally to be brought supplies.
If it's this horrible. Why TF do people do it more than once? I just don't get it.
I'd like to try and take some time out, but with the never ending garage project and work etc, I just don't have the time to do anything...
We're currently 39 weeks in. For my Mrs the food craving was only one thing - ice - which ran from week 16 or so through to week 36...obviously a lot harder when it's random things each day.Wife has our first bun in the oven. We said if it happened it happened but we weren't going to try and force it. And we said ONLY EVER one.
She's now at 17wks and the whole ordeal hasn't been great. We are financially secure and have our own house etc. Shes not been that well. She's been sick every other day (on average). Can't eat anything with any flavour or decent nutrition, I can't cook normal foods because she won't eat it and the smell makes her feel sick, heartburn every day, she's moping around a lot and whinging a fair bit. I get sent to the shop pretty much every other day to get the days random craving. Roast chicken, ice lollies, cheese strings, chicken soup, prawn cocktail crisps, sliced ham, cottage pie ready meal.
I get it, it's horrible and I'd feel the same if I were her..... But it's really getting to me too and tbh we're getting a bit sick of each other.
Right now, I'm thinking - what on earth have we done...
Add into this I'm trying to finish a project ASAP because I'm now time constrained. Whilst I'm beavering away as hard as I can she just sleeps on the sofa and phones me occasionally to be brought supplies.
If it's this horrible. Why TF do people do it more than once? I just don't get it.
I'd like to try and take some time out, but with the never ending garage project and work etc, I just don't have the time to do anything...
My wife also suffered horrendously with morning sickness - 4x a day, no appetite etc from week 12ish to week 20ish - for her it was the smell of BBQ's...not ideal in the summer!
The second trimester should be easier, first is vomit, second is great, third has various other issues (mainly tiredness).
Have been great in that my wife hasn't been too demanding but I am always conscious to cut her some slack as her hormones are all over the place which can't be easy!
k? the-norseman said:
How is everybody getting on with sleeping?Our lad is approaching 8 months.
We are still feeding at about 2200, then 0200 then 0600 (if we are lucky), for example last night he had 2200, 0130, 0250 then 0600. Luckily I'm on nights do didn't bother me, but bothers me when I'm on days and got to be up at 0500.
He's having solids during the day now apart from a bottle at 1200 after hes had some solids (generally goes for a sleep straight after).
After posting this we tried a new routine.We are still feeding at about 2200, then 0200 then 0600 (if we are lucky), for example last night he had 2200, 0130, 0250 then 0600. Luckily I'm on nights do didn't bother me, but bothers me when I'm on days and got to be up at 0500.
He's having solids during the day now apart from a bottle at 1200 after hes had some solids (generally goes for a sleep straight after).
In the bath by 1915, in bed by 2000 it worked well for a few nights but then he got sick again and it went out of the window.
Last night he slept 2000-0330, we gave him a bottle and bum change and then he slept 0350-0930.
Hopefully were over the mountain now.
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