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My wife gave birth this afternoon at 17.25 to our beautiful, tiny little baby. Perfect in every single way. Just far too early.
My wife is doing well.
Baby has a cute little button nose, skinny little wrists (like my wifes), long legs (like me) and tiny little bean toes. Even finger and toe nails. We have spent a good amount of time with baby, a tiny wonder, and cried a fair amount too.
They are so peaceful, and so are we.
The midwife couldn't say with 100% accuracy if it was a little boy or girl as apparently they're often too similar to tell apart at this age. She said sometimes it's obvious, often it's not. We will find out in due course through some testing. We have names for both though.
We are in over night and will be home tomorrow. Everyone has been so so kind and we've been exceptionally well looked after.
No idea how mid wives do it day after day. I'd be absolutely broken...
My wife is doing well.
Baby has a cute little button nose, skinny little wrists (like my wifes), long legs (like me) and tiny little bean toes. Even finger and toe nails. We have spent a good amount of time with baby, a tiny wonder, and cried a fair amount too.
They are so peaceful, and so are we.
The midwife couldn't say with 100% accuracy if it was a little boy or girl as apparently they're often too similar to tell apart at this age. She said sometimes it's obvious, often it's not. We will find out in due course through some testing. We have names for both though.
We are in over night and will be home tomorrow. Everyone has been so so kind and we've been exceptionally well looked after.
No idea how mid wives do it day after day. I'd be absolutely broken...
Ambleton said:
My wife gave birth this afternoon at 17.25 to our beautiful, tiny little baby. Perfect in every single way. Just far too early.
My wife is doing well.
Baby has a cute little button nose, skinny little wrists (like my wifes), long legs (like me) and tiny little bean toes. Even finger and toe nails. We have spent a good amount of time with baby, a tiny wonder, and cried a fair amount too.
They are so peaceful, and so are we.
The midwife couldn't say with 100% accuracy if it was a little boy or girl as apparently they're often too similar to tell apart at this age. She said sometimes it's obvious, often it's not. We will find out in due course through some testing. We have names for both though.
We are in over night and will be home tomorrow. Everyone has been so so kind and we've been exceptionally well looked after.
No idea how mid wives do it day after day. I'd be absolutely broken...
When I first read that I thought that by summer miracle the baby had made it. Sorry, I don't have the words....My wife is doing well.
Baby has a cute little button nose, skinny little wrists (like my wifes), long legs (like me) and tiny little bean toes. Even finger and toe nails. We have spent a good amount of time with baby, a tiny wonder, and cried a fair amount too.
They are so peaceful, and so are we.
The midwife couldn't say with 100% accuracy if it was a little boy or girl as apparently they're often too similar to tell apart at this age. She said sometimes it's obvious, often it's not. We will find out in due course through some testing. We have names for both though.
We are in over night and will be home tomorrow. Everyone has been so so kind and we've been exceptionally well looked after.
No idea how mid wives do it day after day. I'd be absolutely broken...
My thoughts are with you Ambleton.
I used this thread to openly discuss some issues we had during our pregnancy and took great comfort from doing so and I hope that you are able to do the same. The majority of contributors here are a bunch of blokes who's role at home is to look after their partners, so do this one thing for yourself and take whatever comfort you can away from it.
I used this thread to openly discuss some issues we had during our pregnancy and took great comfort from doing so and I hope that you are able to do the same. The majority of contributors here are a bunch of blokes who's role at home is to look after their partners, so do this one thing for yourself and take whatever comfort you can away from it.
Hope all dads well, a quick question about the most popular topic "nursery age" 
We are considering to put our little guy into local nursery when he is 16 months old. It will be mostly part-time, and slowly progressing up to 2.5 years old with full-time, Pre-Prep school. First question, is it too early even for part-time? 2nd question, I realize they all get ill in the first few months, and NHS do not routinely offer chicken pox vaccine yet, so usually people get this privately. Would you recommend getting this done, before they hit nursery?
Thanks
We are considering to put our little guy into local nursery when he is 16 months old. It will be mostly part-time, and slowly progressing up to 2.5 years old with full-time, Pre-Prep school. First question, is it too early even for part-time? 2nd question, I realize they all get ill in the first few months, and NHS do not routinely offer chicken pox vaccine yet, so usually people get this privately. Would you recommend getting this done, before they hit nursery?
Thanks
ooid said:
Hope all dads well, a quick question about the most popular topic "nursery age"
We are considering to put our little guy into local nursery when he is 16 months old. It will be mostly part-time, and slowly progressing up to 2.5 years old with full-time, Pre-Prep school. First question, is it too early even for part-time? 2nd question, I realize they all get ill in the first few months, and NHS do not routinely offer chicken pox vaccine yet, so usually people get this privately. Would you recommend getting this done, before they hit nursery?
Thanks
Mine all went in at ~11 months and adapted very well. Anecdotes from nursery staff suggests that the transition is easier when they're younger, and they all took to it pretty well. So, not too early IME.We are considering to put our little guy into local nursery when he is 16 months old. It will be mostly part-time, and slowly progressing up to 2.5 years old with full-time, Pre-Prep school. First question, is it too early even for part-time? 2nd question, I realize they all get ill in the first few months, and NHS do not routinely offer chicken pox vaccine yet, so usually people get this privately. Would you recommend getting this done, before they hit nursery?
Thanks
The oldest two (twins) were ill constantly for about three months, though, which was less fun although rather unavoidable. Their younger brother already caught everything the twins brought home, so in many ways he's had an easier time of it
Can't comment on the CP jab, both of mine caught it about six months in. Can't say it was too bad, tbh, although they had to stay home for a week and I spent the next fortnight hoovering up scabs
ooid said:
Hope all dads well, a quick question about the most popular topic "nursery age"
We are considering to put our little guy into local nursery when he is 16 months old. It will be mostly part-time, and slowly progressing up to 2.5 years old with full-time, Pre-Prep school. First question, is it too early even for part-time? 2nd question, I realize they all get ill in the first few months, and NHS do not routinely offer chicken pox vaccine yet, so usually people get this privately. Would you recommend getting this done, before they hit nursery?
Thanks
it's not too early no. I think ours accepted kids from the age of 1. I think you can often (not a hard rule) spot the nursery socialised kids versus the ones who weren't. The only downside is cost really so if you can afford it then do it. We are considering to put our little guy into local nursery when he is 16 months old. It will be mostly part-time, and slowly progressing up to 2.5 years old with full-time, Pre-Prep school. First question, is it too early even for part-time? 2nd question, I realize they all get ill in the first few months, and NHS do not routinely offer chicken pox vaccine yet, so usually people get this privately. Would you recommend getting this done, before they hit nursery?
Thanks
Loads in ours that are well under a year old. We took ours at 10 months. In America it’s fairly standard for 6 month year old kids to be in there.
Ours was in full time from 1 and has been now for two years and generally loves it. They have a huge repertoire of things to do with the kids and take them on trips etc. Does get sick all the time though shrugs it off better these days than early on. We paid for the chickenpox jab, opinions vary but made sense to us vs a week off work while obviously still paying the nursery £500 when he’s not there.
Ours was in full time from 1 and has been now for two years and generally loves it. They have a huge repertoire of things to do with the kids and take them on trips etc. Does get sick all the time though shrugs it off better these days than early on. We paid for the chickenpox jab, opinions vary but made sense to us vs a week off work while obviously still paying the nursery £500 when he’s not there.
Edited by okgo on Monday 17th April 15:43
our little man just went back into nursery today after almost two weeks out with chicken pox . I think I posted here that it's fairly rife out there at the moment.
we regret not giving him the vaccine, I thought that at the young age that he wouldn't not get it so badly and it would be a short illness, we were wrong about that. it wasn't as bad as him getting covid but it was close.
as for starting nursery at least, part time, the sooner the child starts playing with other kids the better. first one went in at 6 months , the second at 9 months. as the thread knows my second was slightly premature but his mental and social development was rocket propelled by nursery.
we regret not giving him the vaccine, I thought that at the young age that he wouldn't not get it so badly and it would be a short illness, we were wrong about that. it wasn't as bad as him getting covid but it was close.
as for starting nursery at least, part time, the sooner the child starts playing with other kids the better. first one went in at 6 months , the second at 9 months. as the thread knows my second was slightly premature but his mental and social development was rocket propelled by nursery.
First post in this thread as we are expecting our first. 8 weeks and 3 days in so far. Paid for a scan on Saturday and looking all OK as far as they can tell.
First grandchild on her parents side so there were some tears when she told them!
The other half is really suffering with morning sickness though. She's only been actually sick once, but apparently continuously feels bad and has lost 2.5kg. As well as trying the usual stuff like ginger, the GP did prescribe her something but it only seems to have caused a marginal improvement. She's now been signed off work for a week.
First grandchild on her parents side so there were some tears when she told them!
The other half is really suffering with morning sickness though. She's only been actually sick once, but apparently continuously feels bad and has lost 2.5kg. As well as trying the usual stuff like ginger, the GP did prescribe her something but it only seems to have caused a marginal improvement. She's now been signed off work for a week.
ooid said:
Hope all dads well, a quick question about the most popular topic "nursery age"
We are considering to put our little guy into local nursery when he is 16 months old. It will be mostly part-time, and slowly progressing up to 2.5 years old with full-time, Pre-Prep school. First question, is it too early even for part-time? 2nd question, I realize they all get ill in the first few months, and NHS do not routinely offer chicken pox vaccine yet, so usually people get this privately. Would you recommend getting this done, before they hit nursery?
Thanks
ours was due in nursery at 12 months,but because of covid didn’t get in until 14-15months ish. absolutely zero regrets, and my daughter absolutely loves nursery (sorry preschool, as she corrects me every time i get it wrong!). just be prepared they are going to get sick at nursery, a lot!!! nothing major/ serious, just a lot of snotty noses/ coughs/ colds……. oh and be prepared for you to potentially catch most of them too. I’ve never had as many colds as i did in my kids first year in nursery (but weirdly my wife hardly caught any!) We are considering to put our little guy into local nursery when he is 16 months old. It will be mostly part-time, and slowly progressing up to 2.5 years old with full-time, Pre-Prep school. First question, is it too early even for part-time? 2nd question, I realize they all get ill in the first few months, and NHS do not routinely offer chicken pox vaccine yet, so usually people get this privately. Would you recommend getting this done, before they hit nursery?
Thanks
also went with the chicken pox vaccine (you can get it done in larger boots stores) we wanted to reduce risk of extra time off from nursery during 2021/ covid times. we had a lot going on with work and didn’t have alternative child care (aka grand parents close by) to rely on! it’s a pretty selfish reason, but we made our choices!
Thanks all, great to hear your feedback. I've visited three of them already (local), and they are all nearly full until september. It really made me realize, after visits, it is impossible for us (parents) to create similar environments at home. Play group activities, learning groups, outdoor walks, eating together and etc... Hopefully would make a massive difference really.
W201_190e said:
So new dads. How did you fight the tiredness in the newborn stage? Take naps or plough through with copious amounts of coffee?
I’ve taken the coffee approach.
We split the nights (helped in that my son didn't breastfeed from fairly early) to ensure both of us got a stint uninterrupted. It was totally required because in the early days with reflux we didn't get more than 90 mins without him waking etc, it was the worst few months, I fell down the stairs I as so tired, just missed the step. I’ve taken the coffee approach.
Then it became a bit much and we enlisted some help which was instrumental in coping (night nanny), but also gave us some great things to aim at with the reflux in our case.
things that worked for us (mainly because my wife was able to express loads and I could bottle feed):
- wife would go to bed 8/9pm, i’d stay up/ do the next cycle, feed/ nappy and sleeping for 11ish, sneak into bed room, put baby into cot/ next to me thing as quietly as possible, wife would feed again about 3ish, then sleep again until 6/7
- talk/ be very open about how tired we were. there were definitely times when one of us said- i’m knackered i’m off for a nap at 6pm with no judgement!
- weekends we took day about for a long lie, when baby wakes, off you go to the other room/ go for a walk whatever and leave the other in peace until whenever they need!
- going out a walk/ to a cafe whatever on your own and leaving the other in peace for some downtime/ a nap again if needed.
- not stressing about household chores, the cleaning/ washing can wait
- and yes coffee!! well more full fat coke/ red bull for me!
- wife would go to bed 8/9pm, i’d stay up/ do the next cycle, feed/ nappy and sleeping for 11ish, sneak into bed room, put baby into cot/ next to me thing as quietly as possible, wife would feed again about 3ish, then sleep again until 6/7
- talk/ be very open about how tired we were. there were definitely times when one of us said- i’m knackered i’m off for a nap at 6pm with no judgement!
- weekends we took day about for a long lie, when baby wakes, off you go to the other room/ go for a walk whatever and leave the other in peace until whenever they need!
- going out a walk/ to a cafe whatever on your own and leaving the other in peace for some downtime/ a nap again if needed.
- not stressing about household chores, the cleaning/ washing can wait
- and yes coffee!! well more full fat coke/ red bull for me!
okgo said:
W201_190e said:
So new dads. How did you fight the tiredness in the newborn stage? Take naps or plough through with copious amounts of coffee?
I’ve taken the coffee approach.
We split the nights (helped in that my son didn't breastfeed from fairly early) to ensure both of us got a stint uninterrupted. It was totally required because in the early days with reflux we didn't get more than 90 mins without him waking etc, it was the worst few months, I fell down the stairs I as so tired, just missed the step. I’ve taken the coffee approach.
Then it became a bit much and we enlisted some help which was instrumental in coping (night nanny), but also gave us some great things to aim at with the reflux in our case.
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