Match.com (Volume 6)

Match.com (Volume 6)

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George Smiley

5,048 posts

82 months

Saturday 27th April 2019
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hyphen said:
g3org3y said:
hyphen said:
I remember that thread. TY4C was a broken man. frown

TY4C, is your current OH the one from the above thread or have you moved on?
I think OP is either trolling or a bit nuts. In the recent thread he was broke, now suddenly he is living a mortgage free lifestyle.

The only think he has picked up African would be a nigerian scam method hehe
He lost his hair and grew a beard

Quags

1,541 posts

262 months

Saturday 27th April 2019
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Thankyou4calling said:
As I’ve said, I’m under no illusions as to why I can date these ladies.

They have an expectation and make it clear. So they're hookers basically

However I also am exceptional company, very smart, an absolute gentleman. Clearly not if you need to pay for it

I know fantastic places to go and I don’t stand in queues or struggle to get a table. ]True, McDonalds now have the pre-order screen

It’s not enough to be able to splash some cash. There are plenty who can do that.

You need more, and I have it. Deluded sense of self importance

Cue the laughter.
Good god, this is the best thing i've read for sometime rofl

moanthebairns

17,984 posts

199 months

Saturday 27th April 2019
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kowalski655 said:
moanthebairns said:
I'm dating a lass from slovakia....i agree with the above tbh. You have to spoil them, treat them like a princess, make them feel there the only woman in the world. Splash the cash.

Which is why I took her to falkirk v Livingston (division 1 in Scottish football) on a bitterly cold Tuesday night in January for our first real date. My mate sat in the back slugging tins of best. I treated her to a romantic stroll because I wasn't paying £4 for parking. I bought her a scotch pie which she politely refused (they all are very thin and eat nothing over there so I assume this to be the reason nothing to do with the fat streaming out it). So I had two and a couple of packets of space raiders for tea.
Living the dream!!!

My son in law (to be) considers taking my eldest girl to Greenock Morton away games to be a proper date!
She's in for a treat next season when we get relegated and I take her to Peterhead or Forfar on a cold Tuesday night.

technodup

7,585 posts

131 months

Saturday 27th April 2019
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ferrisbueller said:
I'm not sure why anyone would read it on the assumption of it being real.
I don't actually doubt it. I think it's pretty tragic, but it clearly goes on.

There's a belief on this thread that unless you're generally unsuccessful like Aldi guy then you've got to be talking ste. TY4C's version of success is different to mine, but it doesn't change the fact that some people on this thread are completely out of touch about what goes on out there.

I've been out with three this week and have another for tomorrow.

A 53yo off a swinging site who'd done a very good job of hiding her flab and general unattractiveness
A bobfoc ginger who again her photos didn't tell the real story
One I had a great time with, got a bit frisky but she later decided I was only after sex so didn't want to meet again. Which to be fair was true, but when she's told me beforehand she has a tongue stud, gives great blowjobs and squirts like a fountain I'm not sure what she expected. Naturally I was a bit disappointed with that one. hehe

Those failures are factual and will be accepted as such. Previous statements I've made have also been factual, but because they were 'success' they're called out as lies. If only there was a way to satisfy the doubter... scratchchinhehe





shirt

22,683 posts

202 months

Saturday 27th April 2019
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a 53 yr old and a ginger. yes, you are correct that other people's measures of success may differ hehe

your posts are at least amusing. thankyouforcalling made out like he's had success but reading his old threads and recent posts in context, its clear that he hasn't. unless bobby love [sp? - a glaswegian term] counts as success.


anonymous-user

55 months

Saturday 27th April 2019
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I suppose people just find it easy to be cynical when read together with the fact you can't tie your shoe laces.

It's understandable really, but it's only the Internet so it doesn't really matter. Seems like good fun anyway - I've just been to Tesco and will go to the tip if stops raining.

Salmonofdoubt

1,413 posts

69 months

Saturday 27th April 2019
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It’s a while since I like looked at this thread. I’d given up with online dating and then met someone, who is the most like me person I’ve ever met and have been seeing each other for about three months.

However she is ten years younger than me and I’m worried I’ve forgotten to buy her handbags and shoes and all the other stuff you’re supposed to be wasting money on.

FN2TypeR

7,091 posts

94 months

Saturday 27th April 2019
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lemmingjames said:
Was it this thread or another where Petraeus (?) Piped up about his girlfriend who got preggers within a few months?

How they getting on?
Given the usual narrative around here he'll be skint and living on his mates couch/back at his parents house whilst another man smashes her back doors in.

mikees

2,754 posts

173 months

Saturday 27th April 2019
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FN2TypeR said:
lemmingjames said:
Was it this thread or another where Petraeus (?) Piped up about his girlfriend who got preggers within a few months?

How they getting on?
Given the usual narrative around here he'll be skint and living on his mates couch/back at his parents house whilst another man smashes her back doors in.
In his case I think that is actually the case. American Model? Loads of clothes? That one?

technodup

7,585 posts

131 months

Saturday 27th April 2019
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shirt said:
a 53 yr old and a ginger. yes, you are correct that other people's measures of success may differ hehe
As I made quite clear, they're not successes.

And as for the shoelaces thing, it's true. But you'd never know it unless I told you (or watched me try, but that's not really a thing on first dates). As far as most are concerned I'm a perfectly normal, slim and fit 40yo (I'd put well dressed and director in there too but I might start sounding like TY4C hehe). They don't know the 4 years of torture arthritis in most of my major joints has given me. Or the serious lack of shagging which it resulted in. But the new meds are working and I'm making up for lost time. smile



shirt

22,683 posts

202 months

Saturday 27th April 2019
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technodup said:
s I made quite clear, they're not successes.
it was a joke. now take your pills.

lemmingjames

7,464 posts

205 months

Saturday 27th April 2019
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mikees said:
FN2TypeR said:
lemmingjames said:
Was it this thread or another where Petraeus (?) Piped up about his girlfriend who got preggers within a few months?

How they getting on?
Given the usual narrative around here he'll be skint and living on his mates couch/back at his parents house whilst another man smashes her back doors in.
In his case I think that is actually the case. American Model? Loads of clothes? That one?
Yeah that one

George Smiley

5,048 posts

82 months

Saturday 27th April 2019
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mcdjl said:
Thankyou4calling said:
I don’t need to keep buying her things, but If you stop buying your partner gifts because they no longer need them or you feel you’ve done enough your relationship is on a very steep downward slope.

I enjoy giving far more than getting, there’s little I like more than treating someone and I’ll always do that.
I get that you enjoy giving and want to, but in my opinion if the major thing keeping my relationship going was me buying presents for my partner, I'd think it was at the bottom of that steep downward slope.
I'd much rather be in a relationship where I'm told I don't need to buy anything for her birthday so long as I turn up. I'm not brave/stupid enough to actually test the idea though.
He gave up his house, business, moved did everything she wanted. She fked off with someone else.

He’s a prize catch for any gold digger

BugLebowski

1,033 posts

117 months

Saturday 27th April 2019
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hyphen said:
https://www.pistonheads.com/gassing/topic.asp?h=0&...

Edited by hyphen on Friday 26th April 23:47
Haha, glad to see someone has found their self-confidence again anyway

mjb1

2,556 posts

160 months

Sunday 28th April 2019
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This dating lark is turning out to be a total emotional roller coaster, maybe it's just me and I'm not cut out for it at all. I've been single for nearly 4 years now. Never dated, but had a few friends with benefits type arrangements for a while, just nothing that was 'real'. Everything else in my life is pretty sorted and I'm happy with my lot, except for being single.

I've been on Tinder and Bumble for the last 8 months (also have a profile on POF, but never actually got as far as sending any messages). Only had a handful of matches on either in that time, and 2 dates, both coffee & a chat. First one felt a bit like a job interview, asking lots of questions (maybe I answered too honestly!). Guess she knew exactly what she wanted from a man and had some kind of check list. Bit of a unicorn hunter maybe. Afterwards, told me she didn't think either of us felt any spark, although we could try and be friends.

Second one was a couple of days ago. Rather attractive, lived up to her Tinder photo's, and possibly out of my league in reality. We'd been messaging for a week and she agreed to meet up without hesitation, so glad that I asked her when I did as it turned out that we'd both too busy for another opportunity for a couple of weeks. We met up and chatted for a couple of hours, seemed to get on pretty well and have a fair amount in common. Carried on messaging afterwards, but when I suggested meeting up again, got given the generic but polite 'don't think we're compatible, lets just be friends'. I told her that I already have plenty of friends, and my main interest is to meet someone for something more. I think I'm right in assuming that there's no point pursing any further - once I've been friend zoned it's got be be pretty final, and just a waste of time to even bother trying to reverse that?

Maybe it's just me, but I find it difficult to get to know someone that well in a chat over a coffee? With both of them I thought we got on well enough to be worth seeing again. Maybe women just have very high expectations from online dating, and due to getting so many offers, they can afford to make a decision very early on? Or maybe I just have very low standards on judging compatibility with someone. They obviously liked me enough to meet up in the first place, from my profile and messaging. So maybe I'm just hopeless face to face and putting them off somehow?

Whatever it is, the whole dating game is really messing with my head. Maybe it's because I'm having so little success - 2 dates in 8 months has to be pretty poor by anyone's standards? I keep getting my hopes up and being optimistic about it, then nothing happens for ages. No matches or anything, which then gets me down. Then when I do get a match that goes as far as meeting up, I don't have the confidence to make a good impression.

I've never really dated before, and I'm certainly finding it hard work and not enjoying it at all. As much as I'm trying to break out of my comfort zone, but it all just feels way too high pressure and a bit too forced. I've no interest in meeting lots of people, or playing the field - would much rather somehow just meet someone and click well enough as friends to take things further. I'm certainly no unicorn hunter myself, and have pretty low standards and expectations when it comes to women.

I almost feel like giving up on ever meeting anyone, just accept that I'll be single forever and I'm wasting my time trying. But that's how I've always been in the past and I had to force myself to change and make more effort to be positive and proactive. But all it seems to be doing is giving me a bit of false hope and leaving me feeling more down than not trying.

Toyoda

1,557 posts

101 months

Sunday 28th April 2019
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mjb1 said:
Maybe women just have very high expectations from online dating, and due to getting so many offers, they can afford to make a decision very early on? Or maybe I just have very low standards on judging compatibility with someone. They obviously liked me enough to meet up in the first place, from my profile and messaging. So maybe I'm just hopeless face to face and putting them off somehow?
You're right that you mustn't lose sight of the fact that even the most average looking woman will be getting scores of messages all the time via these apps. She'll have so much choice that if you don't stand out for whatever reason on the first meet then she's onto the next, hence the early decision. It doesn't mean you're hopeless, just not right for them. It's a numbers game really, sooner or later you'll get there.

Robertj21a

16,487 posts

106 months

Sunday 28th April 2019
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mjb1 said:
This dating lark is turning out to be a total emotional roller coaster, maybe it's just me and I'm not cut out for it at all. I've been single for nearly 4 years now. Never dated, but had a few friends with benefits type arrangements for a while, just nothing that was 'real'. Everything else in my life is pretty sorted and I'm happy with my lot, except for being single.

I've been on Tinder and Bumble for the last 8 months (also have a profile on POF, but never actually got as far as sending any messages). Only had a handful of matches on either in that time, and 2 dates, both coffee & a chat. First one felt a bit like a job interview, asking lots of questions (maybe I answered too honestly!). Guess she knew exactly what she wanted from a man and had some kind of check list. Bit of a unicorn hunter maybe. Afterwards, told me she didn't think either of us felt any spark, although we could try and be friends.

Second one was a couple of days ago. Rather attractive, lived up to her Tinder photo's, and possibly out of my league in reality. We'd been messaging for a week and she agreed to meet up without hesitation, so glad that I asked her when I did as it turned out that we'd both too busy for another opportunity for a couple of weeks. We met up and chatted for a couple of hours, seemed to get on pretty well and have a fair amount in common. Carried on messaging afterwards, but when I suggested meeting up again, got given the generic but polite 'don't think we're compatible, lets just be friends'. I told her that I already have plenty of friends, and my main interest is to meet someone for something more. I think I'm right in assuming that there's no point pursing any further - once I've been friend zoned it's got be be pretty final, and just a waste of time to even bother trying to reverse that?

Maybe it's just me, but I find it difficult to get to know someone that well in a chat over a coffee? With both of them I thought we got on well enough to be worth seeing again. Maybe women just have very high expectations from online dating, and due to getting so many offers, they can afford to make a decision very early on? Or maybe I just have very low standards on judging compatibility with someone. They obviously liked me enough to meet up in the first place, from my profile and messaging. So maybe I'm just hopeless face to face and putting them off somehow?

Whatever it is, the whole dating game is really messing with my head. Maybe it's because I'm having so little success - 2 dates in 8 months has to be pretty poor by anyone's standards? I keep getting my hopes up and being optimistic about it, then nothing happens for ages. No matches or anything, which then gets me down. Then when I do get a match that goes as far as meeting up, I don't have the confidence to make a good impression.

I've never really dated before, and I'm certainly finding it hard work and not enjoying it at all. As much as I'm trying to break out of my comfort zone, but it all just feels way too high pressure and a bit too forced. I've no interest in meeting lots of people, or playing the field - would much rather somehow just meet someone and click well enough as friends to take things further. I'm certainly no unicorn hunter myself, and have pretty low standards and expectations when it comes to women.

I almost feel like giving up on ever meeting anyone, just accept that I'll be single forever and I'm wasting my time trying. But that's how I've always been in the past and I had to force myself to change and make more effort to be positive and proactive. But all it seems to be doing is giving me a bit of false hope and leaving me feeling more down than not trying.
I'm sure I won't be the first person to highlight that a vast number of relationships don't start with the internet ! - they start at work, or in pubs/clubs, or within any group of like-minded people. Your efforts may well be wasted if you stick to just the internet approach.

anonymous-user

55 months

Sunday 28th April 2019
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Robertj21a said:
mjb1 said:
This dating lark is turning out to be a total emotional roller coaster, maybe it's just me and I'm not cut out for it at all. I've been single for nearly 4 years now. Never dated, but had a few friends with benefits type arrangements for a while, just nothing that was 'real'. Everything else in my life is pretty sorted and I'm happy with my lot, except for being single.

I've been on Tinder and Bumble for the last 8 months (also have a profile on POF, but never actually got as far as sending any messages). Only had a handful of matches on either in that time, and 2 dates, both coffee & a chat. First one felt a bit like a job interview, asking lots of questions (maybe I answered too honestly!). Guess she knew exactly what she wanted from a man and had some kind of check list. Bit of a unicorn hunter maybe. Afterwards, told me she didn't think either of us felt any spark, although we could try and be friends.

Second one was a couple of days ago. Rather attractive, lived up to her Tinder photo's, and possibly out of my league in reality. We'd been messaging for a week and she agreed to meet up without hesitation, so glad that I asked her when I did as it turned out that we'd both too busy for another opportunity for a couple of weeks. We met up and chatted for a couple of hours, seemed to get on pretty well and have a fair amount in common. Carried on messaging afterwards, but when I suggested meeting up again, got given the generic but polite 'don't think we're compatible, lets just be friends'. I told her that I already have plenty of friends, and my main interest is to meet someone for something more. I think I'm right in assuming that there's no point pursing any further - once I've been friend zoned it's got be be pretty final, and just a waste of time to even bother trying to reverse that?

Maybe it's just me, but I find it difficult to get to know someone that well in a chat over a coffee? With both of them I thought we got on well enough to be worth seeing again. Maybe women just have very high expectations from online dating, and due to getting so many offers, they can afford to make a decision very early on? Or maybe I just have very low standards on judging compatibility with someone. They obviously liked me enough to meet up in the first place, from my profile and messaging. So maybe I'm just hopeless face to face and putting them off somehow?

Whatever it is, the whole dating game is really messing with my head. Maybe it's because I'm having so little success - 2 dates in 8 months has to be pretty poor by anyone's standards? I keep getting my hopes up and being optimistic about it, then nothing happens for ages. No matches or anything, which then gets me down. Then when I do get a match that goes as far as meeting up, I don't have the confidence to make a good impression.

I've never really dated before, and I'm certainly finding it hard work and not enjoying it at all. As much as I'm trying to break out of my comfort zone, but it all just feels way too high pressure and a bit too forced. I've no interest in meeting lots of people, or playing the field - would much rather somehow just meet someone and click well enough as friends to take things further. I'm certainly no unicorn hunter myself, and have pretty low standards and expectations when it comes to women.

I almost feel like giving up on ever meeting anyone, just accept that I'll be single forever and I'm wasting my time trying. But that's how I've always been in the past and I had to force myself to change and make more effort to be positive and proactive. But all it seems to be doing is giving me a bit of false hope and leaving me feeling more down than not trying.
I'm sure I won't be the first person to highlight that a vast number of relationships don't start with the internet ! - they start at work, or in pubs/clubs, or within any group of like-minded people. Your efforts may well be wasted if you stick to just the internet approach.
Horses for courses but I'd disagree with you. Nearly everyone I know that had hooked up more recently, ie not been married 39 off years, met on the internet.
I met my wife in match 16 years ago. Still married despite me being a powerfully built stair dominating alpha PH director

technodup

7,585 posts

131 months

Sunday 28th April 2019
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I met number four for the week last night instead of today. She'd been for dinner and her friend was leaving so I basically replaced the pal at short notice. After three drinks I end up going back to hers with vodka and other 'supplies'. Which was a bit strange because we'd only spent an hour together up til then, and because her two teenagers were at home...

An interesting evening all round. smile

Ari

19,353 posts

216 months

Sunday 28th April 2019
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Thankyou4calling said:
Your reading what I’ve said but you either don’t understand it or you can’t understand it.

I don’t need to keep buying her things, but If you stop buying your partner gifts because they no longer need them or you feel you’ve done enough your relationship is on a very steep downward slope.

I enjoy giving far more than getting, there’s little I like more than treating someone and I’ll always do that.

I won’t stop because she doesn’t need what I get her, perhaps you do but then we are clearly different.
If your 'relationship' is on a steep downward slope if you stop buying her expensive things, you're not her partner, you're her client.

HTH smile
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