Match.com (Vol. 7)

[john_1983]

The issue with women being height-sensitive is that men can't control or choose their height; whereas it's within most people's powers not to be a chubster.

I met Mrs John on Tinder, and we're both marathon runners. Neither of us would have chosen a chubster.

[V8covin]

john_1983 said:

The issue with women being height-sensitive is that men can't control or choose their height; whereas it's within most people's powers not to be a chubster.

I met Mrs John on Tinder, and we're both marathon runners. Neither of us would have chosen a chubster.

It's not just SOME women who are height sensitive,SOME men are too

[TameRacingDriver]

twing said:

Ooooo I posted many many pages ago about a 6’1” Welsh girl I met a couple of years ago, size 14 is a handful on a girl so tall but absolutely amazing fun great legs and a bundle of fun

I would have needed those yellow pages to reach the target

I'm with you though, love tall women, especially the legs.

Although I really like petite women too to be fair, who can be super cute in their own way, plus easier for a relative short arse like me to throw em around the bedroom

[throt]

Me, 5'10'', it never seemed a problem and all first dates want a second one.
I also get bundles of chances while I'm out and about too , with, very good looking younger females, so the 6ft minimum thingy I can't completely buy.

Going back to the app, I was on it 4 months and I got cheesed off with it. On closing my account I got one last ""like"", the result, I am still with her after 2 yr.

It is looks of course but, you also have to have a good personality, self confidence, your head in good order and if you are in good physical shape, that helps alot

Of course, being solvent comes in to play, that's a given for many.

[westberks]

I had girls match with me partly based on my stated height of 6'4".... this included one who was 5'0" but insisted she only dated men over 6'.

I never could work it out, but men have their own 'rules' too. i made light of it but left it out there as i knew it was a thing and reaped the benefits of being a lanky tt!

The height thing does very much exist; as i'm sure do age limits etc.

[throt]

Yes, height is a factor, completely, not sure with all women, maybe a super short guy would be at a disadvantage.

Imagine the amount of women kissing goodbye to good guys just under 6ft , the ones that are a awesome overall package.

i know a couple of women that are really turned off by a guy with small hands.

[JimmyConwayNW]

throt said:

Yes, height is a factor, completely, not sure with all women, maybe a super short guy would be at a disadvantage.

Imagine the amount of women kissing goodbye to good guys just under 6ft , the ones that are a awesome overall package.

i know a couple of women that are really turned off by a guy with small hands.

Theres a lad who used to work for us. Short maybe 5'4, bit of a geek type persona, harmless nice lad wouldn't harm a fly. Online dating he stands absolutely no chance.

[throt]

JimmyConwayNW said:

Theres a lad who used to work for us. Short maybe 5'4, bit of a geek type persona, harmless nice lad wouldn't harm a fly. Online dating he stands absolutely no chance.

I couldn't put it like that, Jimmy, cause we have some on this thread that are short.

[john_1983]

V8covin said:

It's not just SOME women who are height sensitive,SOME men are too

Oh yes, agreed, my general point though is that ruling out overweight people is fine IMO - for most, being overweight is a choice/lazy etc (I understand some people have medical conditions, but not most). Yes I'm judging, but if I can be bothered to keep myself in shape then so can the majority.

Height is different - there's naff all I or anyone can do about it; it just feels a bit more 'judgy' to me.

[Llew]

The height thing is certainly an interesting topic, I am short, 5-7" and it hasn't ever felt like a barrier (although ref my previous posts could have been)... I get it, and I don't feel aggrieved by the fact that women mostly prefer taller men. In fact it makes sense to me in many ways.

I don't see it as a competitive advantage though... Like in business (and in life generally) survival of the fittest applies... Those who are the best overall package will always do well regardless of measurable flaws (height, looks, status, wealth, health, intelligence, humour etc).

To me the key to success is more about finding an aligned match rather than somehow being a perfect "product"

[TameRacingDriver]

JimmyConwayNW said:

Theres a lad who used to work for us. Short maybe 5'4, bit of a geek type persona, harmless nice lad wouldn't harm a fly. Online dating he stands absolutely no chance.

I'd be off to Pattaya on holiday if I were him.

[trackdemon]

JimmyConwayNW said:

bit of a geek type persona, harmless nice lad wouldn't harm a fly

I'd venture that this is as much a problem as his lack of height; not many women get the hots for guys with these traits, no matter how 'nice' they are. Which seems harsh of course, but it is what it is...

[anonymous-user]

westberks said:

I had girls match with me partly based on my stated height of 6'4".... this included one who was 5'0" but insisted she only dated men over 6'.

I never could work it out, but men have their own 'rules' too. i made light of it but left it out there as i knew it was a thing and reaped the benefits of being a lanky tt!

The height thing does very much exist; as i'm sure do age limits etc.

I used to work with a guy who was 6ft 4, six out of ten looks wise, worked in IT so not the most exciting of personalities as you can imagine but intelligent and a nice guy. He came from a reasonably wealthy family and he owned a house in Wimbledon.

I introduced him to Tinder when I was also on it about ten years ago and he had so many dates from it he had an Excel spreadsheet to keep track of them all.

I can imagine to women in their early/mid 30s who are wanting to settle down and have children someone like that is ticking a lot of boxes. I am 100% certain if he was 5ft 4 he would have had zero interest whatsoever.

[JagLover]

V8covin said:

It's not just SOME women who are height sensitive,SOME men are too

It's nothing like to the same exact extent. I find women of a wide range of heights attractive as do most men. It is clearly an issue for very many women though. I am 6 foot so this isn't bitterness. Just pointing out it may not be that healthy for society.

[Unreal]

Joey Deacon said:

westberks said:

I had girls match with me partly based on my stated height of 6'4".... this included one who was 5'0" but insisted she only dated men over 6'.

I never could work it out, but men have their own 'rules' too. i made light of it but left it out there as i knew it was a thing and reaped the benefits of being a lanky tt!

The height thing does very much exist; as i'm sure do age limits etc.

I used to work with a guy who was 6ft 4, six out of ten looks wise, worked in IT so not the most exciting of personalities as you can imagine but intelligent and a nice guy. He came from a reasonably wealthy family and he owned a house in Wimbledon.

I introduced him to Tinder when I was also on it about ten years ago and he had so many dates from it he had an Excel spreadsheet to keep track of them all.

I can imagine to women in their early/mid 30s who are wanting to settle down and have children someone like that is ticking a lot of boxes. I am 100% certain if he was 5ft 4 he would have had zero interest whatsoever.

I can imagine he might have needed fewer rows and columns if he came from a poor family and lived in a bedsit in Hillingdon.

I've spoken to loads of women who claim to have rigid requirements ranging from height to star sign but they can all be sidestepped if there's sniff of serious money. Looks count for a lot initially and understandably but broke and good looking doesn't seem to cut it.

I recently got stitched up by a mate who told someone we had met that I was single (I'm not). Chatting to her I did get some insight into this. It felt like a job interview - everything from the cars I own to where I live and why my first marriage ended. These things might get discussed over weeks normally but this was packed into 15 minutes. Extremely off-putting and I found myself wondering what the 'right' answers were as well as feeling that one wrong move would be the end of the conversation.

[BunkMoreland]

V8covin said:

It's not just SOME women who are height sensitive,SOME men are too

As someone that's 6ft1* You have to consider thigh length relative to your partner when "hugging" If your lady friend (or indeed man friend) has significantly shorter thighs then "height parity" can be logistically difficult (high level core strength required)


Before my recent date which didn't go well with a girl of 5'7. The last 3 girls I went on dates with were all over 5'9 and the last girl I actually dated for a while was 5'10. Ergo all girls under 5'9 are now banned from my selection. Along with Aussies who seem to be massive time wasters on the apps. Happy to flirt and talk the talk, but rarely meet up. I'd have thought someone happy to risk moving 12Kmiles around the world would be more open to taking a risk on a drink. Maybe its me


Ref Money. I did a phone call with a girl years ago from TInder (when it was good!) as a semi first date before planning to meet up. Call lasted about 4 hours! Way past my bedtime! Really clicked. She straight up asked me how much I made! (She was on very good 6 figure money easily triple mine) I don't think it made a huge difference. I imagine she was used to being the high earner in couples. We planned a date, but she unmatched me before it happened. I called her to see what the score was, another half hour chat where it all just flowed. But she was adamant we couldn't meet as apparently 11 miles was "long distance"


* (genuinely, not like most of the guys on dating apps!)

[Davetheraver]

Unreal said:

I can imagine he might have needed fewer rows and columns if he came from a poor family and lived in a bedsit in Hillingdon.

I've spoken to loads of women who claim to have rigid requirements ranging from height to star sign but they can all be sidestepped if there's sniff of serious money. Looks count for a lot initially and understandably but broke and good looking doesn't seem to cut it.

I recently got stitched up by a mate who told someone we had met that I was single (I'm not). Chatting to her I did get some insight into this. It felt like a job interview - everything from the cars I own to where I live and why my first marriage ended. These things might get discussed over weeks normally but this was packed into 15 minutes. Extremely off-putting and I found myself wondering what the 'right' answers were as well as feeling that one wrong move would be the end of the conversation.

That is not a normal experience

Most women only really care about what sort of man you are.

Sorry if that is not your experience.

[Unreal]

Davetheraver said:

Unreal said:

I can imagine he might have needed fewer rows and columns if he came from a poor family and lived in a bedsit in Hillingdon.

I've spoken to loads of women who claim to have rigid requirements ranging from height to star sign but they can all be sidestepped if there's sniff of serious money. Looks count for a lot initially and understandably but broke and good looking doesn't seem to cut it.

I recently got stitched up by a mate who told someone we had met that I was single (I'm not). Chatting to her I did get some insight into this. It felt like a job interview - everything from the cars I own to where I live and why my first marriage ended. These things might get discussed over weeks normally but this was packed into 15 minutes. Extremely off-putting and I found myself wondering what the 'right' answers were as well as feeling that one wrong move would be the end of the conversation.

That is not a normal experience

Most women only really care about what sort of man you are.

Sorry if that is not your experience.

I have no way of knowing. Fortunately it was meaningless and I only related it in the context of people talking about criteria before a relationship of any kind has even started. I hope it isn't normal.

[BunkMoreland]

Davetheraver said:

That is not a normal experience

Most women only really care about what sort of man you are.

Sorry if that is not your experience.

I would say that for a lot of women as get to their mid 30s, and are childless, these questions become more common. Maybe not full interview, but certainly probing around certain areas. I guess its the old "provider" angle

[Secret lemonade drinker]

Sycamore said:

Why is that an issue though? That most women have a checklist/demand for height?

I have a "demand" for women to not be chunky. It's just not attractive to me, so I've always went for slim women. My fiancée is size 6 - Is that a problem? If she were size 16 then she'd not be attractive to me.

People are allowed to want their partner to look a particular way.

Usually it's short-arses who complain about women preferring taller men, but at 6ft that's not exactly you, so it seems a bit odd how uptight you are about women wanting tall blokes.

Mr-Wear-Shoe-Lifts further up in the thread I can understand being the uptight one, as cringe as it was.

Women are often more forthcoming about the height thing however. Men would be frowned upon for having "no fat bds" in their profile bio, but that's a wider reflection on society in general. I don't think you can knock women for generally preferring taller blokes for whatever their reasons may be.

The six foot is a recent thing, bullst perpetuated online mostly an imported Americanism

I think it’s a great thing for shorties as it’s filtering out the vapid braindead women who perceive height as a status.

That said as I’m over six foot, it’s bloody brilliant if you just want to score based on a pathetic measure.