Match.com (Vol. 7)
Discussion
Not sure if it was linked to money or not, but I remember matching with a girl on hinge once, the chat flowed really well, and then she picked up on my location and asked if I’d been to the local Soho House place yet. Now at the time I was earning 6 figures (I say at the time, because back then I was employed and now I work for myself but that is another story) but even though I earned well, soho house really isn’t my sort of thing, so I had no idea it was even there.
She then started saying how she had global membership of Soho House but was always so busy with work she never got to use it much. I assumed from what she was saying she has a fairly high flying job and probably earned well, she certainly looked like she did and not many people buy global soho house membership and barely use it.
Anyway, I then said something like “well I haven’t been to my local one, but you’re more than welcome to take me as your guest” at which point she immediately unmatched me!
It was just a joke, I earned well myself, but I guess she took it as me being a penniless chav and not on her level. Anyway, bullet dodged.
She then started saying how she had global membership of Soho House but was always so busy with work she never got to use it much. I assumed from what she was saying she has a fairly high flying job and probably earned well, she certainly looked like she did and not many people buy global soho house membership and barely use it.
Anyway, I then said something like “well I haven’t been to my local one, but you’re more than welcome to take me as your guest” at which point she immediately unmatched me!
It was just a joke, I earned well myself, but I guess she took it as me being a penniless chav and not on her level. Anyway, bullet dodged.
Edited by Berger 3rd on Friday 17th November 07:10
Secret lemonade drinker said:
The six foot is a recent thing, bulls
t perpetuated online mostly an imported Americanism
I think it’s a great thing for shorties as it’s filtering out the vapid braindead women who perceive height as a status.
That said as I’m over six foot, it’s bloody brilliant if you just want to score based on a pathetic measure.
I think short women have a fetish for tall men. I am often told by women they like my height. I personally do not like short women. They just lock far too block-like. t perpetuated online mostly an imported AmericanismI think it’s a great thing for shorties as it’s filtering out the vapid braindead women who perceive height as a status.
That said as I’m over six foot, it’s bloody brilliant if you just want to score based on a pathetic measure.
And what's the experiences been like with online dating and women with mental disorders? Most of the office workers I've banged have been crazy. Wondering is online dating is full of unstable women too?
Berger 3rd said:
Not sure if it was linked to money or not, but I remember matching with a girl on hinge once, the chat flowed really well, and then she picked up on my location and asked if I’d been to the local Soho House place yet. Now at the time I was earning 6 figures (I say at the time, because back then I was employed and now I work for myself but that is another story) but even though I earned well, soho house really isn’t my sort of thing, so I had no idea it was even there.
She then started saying how she had global membership of Soho House but was always so busy with work she never got to use it much. I assumed from what she was saying she has a fairly high flying job and probably earned well, she certainly looked like she did and not many people buy global soho house membership and barely use it.
Anyway, I then said something like “well I haven’t been to my local one, but you’re more than welcome to take me as your guest” at which point she immediately unmatched me!
It was just a joke, I earned well myself, but I guess she took it as me being a penniless chav and not on her level. Anyway, bullet dodged.
Or you could have said something witty and impressive like "nah, I'm way too cool for that place" women love a gentle diss.She then started saying how she had global membership of Soho House but was always so busy with work she never got to use it much. I assumed from what she was saying she has a fairly high flying job and probably earned well, she certainly looked like she did and not many people buy global soho house membership and barely use it.
Anyway, I then said something like “well I haven’t been to my local one, but you’re more than welcome to take me as your guest” at which point she immediately unmatched me!
It was just a joke, I earned well myself, but I guess she took it as me being a penniless chav and not on her level. Anyway, bullet dodged.
Edited by Berger 3rd on Friday 17th November 07:10
Hammersia said:
Berger 3rd said:
Not sure if it was linked to money or not, but I remember matching with a girl on hinge once, the chat flowed really well, and then she picked up on my location and asked if I’d been to the local Soho House place yet. Now at the time I was earning 6 figures (I say at the time, because back then I was employed and now I work for myself but that is another story) but even though I earned well, soho house really isn’t my sort of thing, so I had no idea it was even there.
She then started saying how she had global membership of Soho House but was always so busy with work she never got to use it much. I assumed from what she was saying she has a fairly high flying job and probably earned well, she certainly looked like she did and not many people buy global soho house membership and barely use it.
Anyway, I then said something like “well I haven’t been to my local one, but you’re more than welcome to take me as your guest” at which point she immediately unmatched me!
It was just a joke, I earned well myself, but I guess she took it as me being a penniless chav and not on her level. Anyway, bullet dodged.
Or you could have said something witty and impressive like "nah, I'm way too cool for that place" women love a gentle diss.She then started saying how she had global membership of Soho House but was always so busy with work she never got to use it much. I assumed from what she was saying she has a fairly high flying job and probably earned well, she certainly looked like she did and not many people buy global soho house membership and barely use it.
Anyway, I then said something like “well I haven’t been to my local one, but you’re more than welcome to take me as your guest” at which point she immediately unmatched me!
It was just a joke, I earned well myself, but I guess she took it as me being a penniless chav and not on her level. Anyway, bullet dodged.
Edited by Berger 3rd on Friday 17th November 07:10
Berger 3rd said:
Hammersia said:
Berger 3rd said:
Not sure if it was linked to money or not, but I remember matching with a girl on hinge once, the chat flowed really well, and then she picked up on my location and asked if I’d been to the local Soho House place yet. Now at the time I was earning 6 figures (I say at the time, because back then I was employed and now I work for myself but that is another story) but even though I earned well, soho house really isn’t my sort of thing, so I had no idea it was even there.
She then started saying how she had global membership of Soho House but was always so busy with work she never got to use it much. I assumed from what she was saying she has a fairly high flying job and probably earned well, she certainly looked like she did and not many people buy global soho house membership and barely use it.
Anyway, I then said something like “well I haven’t been to my local one, but you’re more than welcome to take me as your guest” at which point she immediately unmatched me!
It was just a joke, I earned well myself, but I guess she took it as me being a penniless chav and not on her level. Anyway, bullet dodged.
Or you could have said something witty and impressive like "nah, I'm way too cool for that place" women love a gentle diss.She then started saying how she had global membership of Soho House but was always so busy with work she never got to use it much. I assumed from what she was saying she has a fairly high flying job and probably earned well, she certainly looked like she did and not many people buy global soho house membership and barely use it.
Anyway, I then said something like “well I haven’t been to my local one, but you’re more than welcome to take me as your guest” at which point she immediately unmatched me!
It was just a joke, I earned well myself, but I guess she took it as me being a penniless chav and not on her level. Anyway, bullet dodged.
Edited by Berger 3rd on Friday 17th November 07:10
BunkMoreland said:
As someone that's 6ft1* You have to consider thigh length relative to your partner when "hugging" If your lady friend (or indeed man friend) has significantly shorter thighs then "height parity" can be logistically difficult (high level core strength required) 
Testify. I’m 6’3” and my partner (met on Match, we’re celebrating the 17 month anniversary of our first date today) is 5’6 (and a half she says)” and the thigh length thing has caught us out on a couple of occasions. Certain “hugging” is not possible without props. Silverage said:
Testify. I’m 6’3” and my partner (met on Match, we’re celebrating the 17 month anniversary of our first date today) is 5’6 (and a half she says)” and the thigh length thing has caught us out on a couple of occasions. Certain “hugging” is not possible without props.
I honestly don’t understand this. I’m also 6’3” and have hugged women from <5’ to 6’2” and never found much compromise was required when it came to positions. Shnozz said:
Silverage said:
Testify. I’m 6’3” and my partner (met on Match, we’re celebrating the 17 month anniversary of our first date today) is 5’6 (and a half she says)” and the thigh length thing has caught us out on a couple of occasions. Certain “hugging” is not possible without props.
I honestly don’t understand this. I’m also 6’3” and have hugged women from <5’ to 6’2” and never found much compromise was required when it came to positions. 
The twitter algorithm now shows me millions of posts from people I don't follow. If I dare to reply to any then it aggressively increases that type of topic. I suppose there's logic to that.
Anyway, I've seen a large number of females sharing screenshots of messages they've received from men.
Ironically these females seem sex starved and desperate yet incredibly judgemental and bitter. Most posts seem to be criticising men or calling people c**ts. I acknowledge some of the messages they get can be horrible but most are tame, particularly in what they're posting on sharing.
Anyway, I've seen a large number of females sharing screenshots of messages they've received from men.
Ironically these females seem sex starved and desperate yet incredibly judgemental and bitter. Most posts seem to be criticising men or calling people c**ts. I acknowledge some of the messages they get can be horrible but most are tame, particularly in what they're posting on sharing.
redrabbit29 said:
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Ironically these females seem sex starved and desperate yet incredibly judgemental and bitter. Most posts seem to be criticising men or calling people c**ts. I acknowledge some of the messages they get can be horrible but most are tame, particularly in what they're posting on sharing.
I suspect that the women you describe are not used to being ignored by the guys they DO want in favour of the guys they DON'T. And their reaction to that is to blame the Men.Ironically these females seem sex starved and desperate yet incredibly judgemental and bitter. Most posts seem to be criticising men or calling people c**ts. I acknowledge some of the messages they get can be horrible but most are tame, particularly in what they're posting on sharing.
We do see the exact same in guys who are consistently unable to get any dates or interest from Ladies.
Can you link us the twitter account with these screenshots please?
Short girls should be lighter and easier to pick up. Back in 2004ish I was sleeping with my coworker in Spoons who was a tiny redhead and loved being picked up from cowgirl. One day were were on her sofa with her in reverse cow girl and I decided to go for it and stood up, blew her mind and made me feel like Rocco Siffredi.
BunkMoreland said:
I suspect that the women you describe are not used to being ignored by the guys they DO want in favour of the guys they DON'T. And their reaction to that is to blame the Men.
We do see the exact same in guys who are consistently unable to get any dates or interest from Ladies.
Can you link us the twitter account with these screenshots please?
Probably right - yea sure, will link and screenshot ... don't have details to hand as they usually come up by chance but they'll be some soon as they keep popping up every day or two! We do see the exact same in guys who are consistently unable to get any dates or interest from Ladies.
Can you link us the twitter account with these screenshots please?
john_1983 said:
Oh yes, agreed, my general point though is that ruling out overweight people is fine IMO - for most, being overweight is a choice/lazy etc (I understand some people have medical conditions, but not most). Yes I'm judging, but if I can be bothered to keep myself in shape then so can the majority.
Height is different - there's naff all I or anyone can do about it; it just feels a bit more 'judgy' to me.
No more judgy than a man ruling out an ugly girl, which is something she can do naff all about. It's just a personal preference that we're all entitled to.Height is different - there's naff all I or anyone can do about it; it just feels a bit more 'judgy' to me.
So what's wrong with some women having a height preference? It doesn't matter whether it's a choice or not. Men will rule out women who they consider unattractive for a variety of things they didn't choose. In reality I don't think it's as big an issue as people make out. Sure, if you're 6 foot plus you have advantage, but there are plenty of women who don't care that much. Being under 6 foot has never affected me negatively.
I think people get a bit hung up on what they see on social media, with claims that women only want tall men, earning six figures, with some kind of macho persona, and everyone else gets rejected. Hovever, a simple look in any restaurant, coffee shop or bar, will see couples where the men don't seem to fit these so called ideals. In fact in many cases I see lots of fairly average looking men, with relatively attractive women, but rarely see overweight or ugly women with an attractive, successful looking man.
The reality is that women will generally favour men who are taller than them, and of equal or higher income/status, which has always been the case as far as I can remember. In return, men will mostly favour women who are shorter than them, and equally or more attractive. That said, shortcomings in some areas like height, can often be overcome by excess in other areas, such as income, confidence, or sense of humour.
Well I just joined Hinge having got out of a long relationship. My first OLD experience. I am 6’1, earn good money, can hold a decent conversation and am not bad looking.
On the down side I still live with the ex (selling house in Jan) and have a daughter who lives with the ex ex.
Got 40 likes (presumably as I am new) and 15 or so look lovely but shut app down for now.
Can’t even figure out how to like them back. Meeting up with a pro mate for coaching. I will doubtless provide some humour on here.
On the down side I still live with the ex (selling house in Jan) and have a daughter who lives with the ex ex.
Got 40 likes (presumably as I am new) and 15 or so look lovely but shut app down for now.
Can’t even figure out how to like them back. Meeting up with a pro mate for coaching. I will doubtless provide some humour on here.
Edited by Adam. on Tuesday 21st November 00:39
Chatting to my barber the other day about life in general and it turned out he had recently split with his wife.
He tells me he is on facebook dating and doing ok, now my brief experience with that app was not great, it made the inhabitants of POF look classy, but he says rather than search under the "relationship" setting he uses the "friendship" one.
So I decided to give it another look.
Problem with the "friends" setting is that it is a general mix of straight men and women, so you have to click through them all.
Oh my god that was an eye opener, virtually all the blokes profiles match the stereotypical holding fish, shirts off, terrible staged poses, shaved heads, covered in tats and with profiles descriptions as "love machine" etc
No wonder any half decent girls only last a matter of hours on the apps these days before deleting for good!
He tells me he is on facebook dating and doing ok, now my brief experience with that app was not great, it made the inhabitants of POF look classy, but he says rather than search under the "relationship" setting he uses the "friendship" one.
So I decided to give it another look.
Problem with the "friends" setting is that it is a general mix of straight men and women, so you have to click through them all.
Oh my god that was an eye opener, virtually all the blokes profiles match the stereotypical holding fish, shirts off, terrible staged poses, shaved heads, covered in tats and with profiles descriptions as "love machine" etc
No wonder any half decent girls only last a matter of hours on the apps these days before deleting for good!
PAUL.S. said:
Chatting to my barber the other day about life in general and it turned out he had recently split with his wife.
He tells me he is on facebook dating and doing ok, now my brief experience with that app was not great, it made the inhabitants of POF look classy, but he says rather than search under the "relationship" setting he uses the "friendship" one.
So I decided to give it another look.
Problem with the "friends" setting is that it is a general mix of straight men and women, so you have to click through them all.
Oh my god that was an eye opener, virtually all the blokes profiles match the stereotypical holding fish, shirts off, terrible staged poses, shaved heads, covered in tats and with profiles descriptions as "love machine" etc
No wonder any half decent girls only last a matter of hours on the apps these days before deleting for good!
You can choose women only for the friends matchesHe tells me he is on facebook dating and doing ok, now my brief experience with that app was not great, it made the inhabitants of POF look classy, but he says rather than search under the "relationship" setting he uses the "friendship" one.
So I decided to give it another look.
Problem with the "friends" setting is that it is a general mix of straight men and women, so you have to click through them all.
Oh my god that was an eye opener, virtually all the blokes profiles match the stereotypical holding fish, shirts off, terrible staged poses, shaved heads, covered in tats and with profiles descriptions as "love machine" etc
No wonder any half decent girls only last a matter of hours on the apps these days before deleting for good!
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