Match.com (Vol. 7)

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anonymous-user

60 months

Wednesday 22nd November 2023
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Adam. said:
Date lined up for Friday with a stunner.
Hmmm, don't get two carried away, I can only think of a couple of dates where they looked like their pictures and I wasn't slightly disappointed when they turned up.



CloudStuff

3,829 posts

110 months

Wednesday 22nd November 2023
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Raccaccoonie said:
Hammersia said:
Haven't really been keeping up with this thread, but can someone PM me discreetly as to whether this ^^^^ is serious?
Yes it is my profile, it is serious. It is trying to make me sound as Alpha as I can, like I've skinned a deer etc with the fact I do t want massive units.

Now if someone reads that all and messages me, then bingo saves all the time wasted.

Some of the facts might not be 100% accurate.

Let's see give it a month see if I get any takers.
I'm disappointed. You've let me down. This is dripping with Soy.

No Jordan Peterson / AJAC / Tate Bros references? Nothing about being Jaccinated, not Vaccinated?

I expect references to ground beef, egg whites, BCCAs, Bro-splits, cold plunge based foreplay, hunting Elk with bow and arrow at least.

And nothing about WiFi money / DeFi / crypto / Inner Circle on Telegram?

WTAF?

Adam.

27,899 posts

260 months

Wednesday 22nd November 2023
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Joey Deacon said:
Hmmm, don't get two carried away, I can only think of a couple of dates where they looked like their pictures and I wasn't slightly disappointed when they turned up.
Yeah - well aware of the dangers of airbrushing photos.

Got about 70-80 likes so far which I have whittled down to about 15 but now have 10 who want to meet up, Canned 5 who wanted video calls or extended chats before meeting which I find awkward and unnatural.

Definitely need to dial it back as I can’t be doing with juggling all that.

Anyway Hinge in London seems very good so far.

Edited by Adam. on Wednesday 22 November 23:50

hotpowner

155 posts

176 months

Thursday 23rd November 2023
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I read this thread with amusing interest
Over the last 5 years that I ve been divorced, ( I’m now 61, live in west cornwall)
I ve tried every dating app, websites, introduction agencies and matchmakers, I ve spent over £10,000 in 5 years, I ve even been referred to councilors who tell me there’s nothing wrong with me.
From that the only response I ever seem to get is from tinder, which has given 4 dates, all disastrous, I have enough funny stories to write a book. But it’s basically got me now where.
As soon as I say my location the conversation ends. It’s strange how half the south east wants to live here, but I don’t know what they do when they get here.i will admit that I’m not interested in a girl with multiple tattoos, has a camper van, nose piercings and wants to go to festivals and stand up paddle boarding when she’s not working in a care home.
I ve tried a solos holiday, don’t do it if your under 75
Tried meet up groups.

Can’t see the point in being the only man in a yoga class in the village hall at 10 o’clock on a Monday morning

I notice on most apps,/ websites if you look every 6 months the same faces are there
So many sites are full of fake profiles, some bombard you with likes from girls in Edinburgh who only want to chat on Google chat or what’s app and the phone nos from Ghana

There was a Ukrainian girl, who when I met spoke no English and gave me her phone which said type into this app, download it because I speak no English, I was 150 miles from home so do I walk or see what happens?

Met a girl, with t tattoos on both arms, a nose ring , I said in the profile I wasn’t in to either , I have a £3000 Nikon and photoshop, but could never have photoshopped the wrinkles out like her phone did

If you live in a city you seem to have a chance, if you live in the country it seems impossible,
If I go to London and back , I never realized tinder tracks your location, when I get home and check the app I can have 15 likes, as soon as I say my location the conversation ends

E very careful of matchmakers introduction agencies, the fees vary from £2000 to £30,000, they 6 introduction in 6 months, are a joke, they think an intro is sending you a PDF Profile of someone 300 miles away that you have nothing in common with and despite their head hunting skills is on the headed paper of another agency.
The industry is totally corrupt, just preying on lonely people looking for company, they promise the world and deliver very little.
I

Hammersia

1,564 posts

21 months

Thursday 23rd November 2023
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hotpowner said:
I read this thread with amusing interest
Over the last 5 years that I ve been divorced, ( I’m now 61, live in west cornwall)
I ve tried every dating app, websites, introduction agencies and matchmakers, I ve spent over £10,000 in 5 years, I ve even been referred to councilors who tell me there’s nothing wrong with me.
I have sympathy with you spending money for nothing - but you are well aware what the issue is. West Cornwall? I'm sure it's amazing to live there, but your market size is absolutely tiny. Miniscule.

I think you know you'll have to make a choice between living somewhere incredibly remote, and romance.

Secret lemonade drinker

812 posts

56 months

Thursday 23rd November 2023
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Cast your net 3000 miles to the west

CloudStuff

3,829 posts

110 months

Thursday 23rd November 2023
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hotpowner said:
I read this thread with amusing interest
Over the last 5 years that I ve been divorced, ( I’m now 61, live in west cornwall)
I ve tried every dating app, websites, introduction agencies and matchmakers, I ve spent over £10,000 in 5 years, I ve even been referred to councilors who tell me there’s nothing wrong with me.
From that the only response I ever seem to get is from tinder, which has given 4 dates, all disastrous, I have enough funny stories to write a book. But it’s basically got me now where.
As soon as I say my location the conversation ends. It’s strange how half the south east wants to live here, but I don’t know what they do when they get here.i will admit that I’m not interested in a girl with multiple tattoos, has a camper van, nose piercings and wants to go to festivals and stand up paddle boarding when she’s not working in a care home.
I ve tried a solos holiday, don’t do it if your under 75
Tried meet up groups.

Can’t see the point in being the only man in a yoga class in the village hall at 10 o’clock on a Monday morning

I notice on most apps,/ websites if you look every 6 months the same faces are there
So many sites are full of fake profiles, some bombard you with likes from girls in Edinburgh who only want to chat on Google chat or what’s app and the phone nos from Ghana

There was a Ukrainian girl, who when I met spoke no English and gave me her phone which said type into this app, download it because I speak no English, I was 150 miles from home so do I walk or see what happens?

Met a girl, with t tattoos on both arms, a nose ring , I said in the profile I wasn’t in to either , I have a £3000 Nikon and photoshop, but could never have photoshopped the wrinkles out like her phone did

If you live in a city you seem to have a chance, if you live in the country it seems impossible,
If I go to London and back , I never realized tinder tracks your location, when I get home and check the app I can have 15 likes, as soon as I say my location the conversation ends

E very careful of matchmakers introduction agencies, the fees vary from £2000 to £30,000, they 6 introduction in 6 months, are a joke, they think an intro is sending you a PDF Profile of someone 300 miles away that you have nothing in common with and despite their head hunting skills is on the headed paper of another agency.
The industry is totally corrupt, just preying on lonely people looking for company, they promise the world and deliver very little.
I
Growler dodged.

QJumper

2,709 posts

32 months

Thursday 23rd November 2023
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Joey Deacon said:
Adam. said:
Date lined up for Friday with a stunner.
Hmmm, don't get two carried away, I can only think of a couple of dates where they looked like their pictures and I wasn't slightly disappointed when they turned up.
There's more than one way to be stunned.

twing

5,175 posts

137 months

Thursday 23rd November 2023
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Joey Deacon said:
Adam. said:
Date lined up for Friday with a stunner.
I mean, you could just get her drunk but I'm sure your Taser would work just as well smile

Youspiltmypint

11 posts

11 months

Thursday 23rd November 2023
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I recently signed up to Greatest Hits Dating.

I've had the grand total of four views on my profile. That's three more then all the other dating sites/app's I've used in the past !

anonymous-user

60 months

Thursday 23rd November 2023
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Youspiltmypint said:
I recently signed up to Greatest Hits Dating.

I've had the grand total of four views on my profile. That's three more then all the other dating sites/app's I've used in the past !
I assume this will just be a white label version of an existing dating site where they just put their logos on.

QJumper

2,709 posts

32 months

Thursday 23rd November 2023
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Youspiltmypint said:
I recently signed up to Greatest Hits Dating.

I've had the grand total of four views on my profile. That's three more then all the other dating sites/app's I've used in the past !
Surely that's the nature of most dating sites, and dating in general for that matter. Women put themselves out there and men do the approaching. It's always been that way.

anonymous-user

60 months

Thursday 23rd November 2023
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QJumper said:
Surely that's the nature of most dating sites, and dating in general for that matter. Women put themselves out there and men do the approaching. It's always been that way.
Interestingly enough, when I was online dating I found that I hardly ever got a response to messages I sent, and even if I did get a reply I wouldn't get another. I estimate on the 20 or 30 dates I ended up going on, maybe 2 were because I approached the woman first.

Don't forget most women are inundated with messages, it is unlikely yours will stand out unless you are a top 10% guy.


QJumper

2,709 posts

32 months

Thursday 23rd November 2023
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Joey Deacon said:
Interestingly enough, when I was online dating I found that I hardly ever got a response to messages I sent, and even if I did get a reply I wouldn't get another. I estimate on the 20 or 30 dates I ended up going on, maybe 2 were because I approached the woman first.

Don't forget most women are inundated with messages, it is unlikely yours will stand out unless you are a top 10% guy.
Therein lies the problem though. Most women are so inundated with messages that they heve neither the time nor need to proactively read profiles and contact men.

It's a while since I've done online dating, but I found that the best approach was an initial message that was just enough to get someone curious enough to read my profile, and then rely on the profile to take it from there.I suppose then it's about getting your proifile read, and that's more effectively done by driving people to it, rather than hoping they'll find it themselves.

I have no idea if and how much things have changed, but back then women would often complain about copy and paste messages. However, much like how people complain about mass marketing, it was still a very effective way of getting your profile viewed, and replies. Of course it's all the more effective if you have a good intitial message, that you can tweak a little to personalise each time.



Saleen836

11,408 posts

215 months

Thursday 23rd November 2023
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Regards looking like their photos, I always try and find a match i have been chatting with on FB, that way you can see what they really look like

LordHaveMurci

12,085 posts

175 months

Thursday 23rd November 2023
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Saleen836 said:
Regards looking like their photos, I always try and find a match i have been chatting with on FB, that way you can see what they really look like
Yep, did this with one I’m chatting too now, or was chatting too, bored stupid now rolleyes

anonymous-user

60 months

Thursday 23rd November 2023
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LordHaveMurci said:
Yep, did this with one I’m chatting too now, or was chatting too, bored stupid now rolleyes
I used to get bored talking about Vanilla stuff so my tactic was to go dirty early. After about 30 minutes I would start the first flirty talk and if they responded favourably take it up a notch, otherwise I would just bin them off.

Then by the time you get to the date you know exactly what is going to happen, that is if they haven't just invited you to come straight over before then.



Youspiltmypint

11 posts

11 months

Thursday 23rd November 2023
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Has anyone ever tried Oasis Dating ? I was actually getting somewhere with it and was talking to a couple of Women on it. But my account was suddenly deleted out of the Blue one day.

LordHaveMurci

12,085 posts

175 months

Thursday 23rd November 2023
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Joey Deacon said:
I used to get bored talking about Vanilla stuff so my tactic was to go dirty early. After about 30 minutes I would start the first flirty talk and if they responded favourably take it up a notch, otherwise I would just bin them off.

Then by the time you get to the date you know exactly what is going to happen, that is if they haven't just invited you to come straight over before then.
Yeah, did that with a stunning woman a couple of years ago, date didn’t go brilliantly though & didn’t see her again!

anarki

792 posts

142 months

Thursday 23rd November 2023
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LordHaveMurci said:
Joey Deacon said:
I used to get bored talking about Vanilla stuff so my tactic was to go dirty early. After about 30 minutes I would start the first flirty talk and if they responded favourably take it up a notch, otherwise I would just bin them off.

Then by the time you get to the date you know exactly what is going to happen, that is if they haven't just invited you to come straight over before then.
Yeah, did that with a stunning woman a couple of years ago, date didn’t go brilliantly though & didn’t see her again!
For the sake of the people in this thread, define dirty, and define the chronological timeline laugh

I would never have stated my kinks over messaging through a dating app as a bloke, and to be honest I would've been a bit overwhelmed if a woman were to disclose her likes/kinks to me so early on!

Once you have the first meet-up, if there is an obvious attraction there, then fine anything goes, but prior to that you just don't know what people are into or not!

I couldn't just message someone I've just matched with - I would love to smash some anal beads up your bum whilst doing you doggy style laugh

Edited by anarki on Friday 24th November 01:12