Match.com (Vol. 7)
Discussion
Thankyou4calling said:
You have to admit, through all the stories of how to get and what to do on a date, our mentor, Petrus, has once again demonstrated how to lead by example.
He talks the talk and walks the walk.
I am salivating and I'm wedded!!
Kind words my friend. Ironically I was thinking about you the other day as Qatar Airlines have put a few videos of their Gulfstream on TikTok - which I believe you're familiar with. Hope you're keeping well He talks the talk and walks the walk.
I am salivating and I'm wedded!!
I'll post a picture of this evenings master plan of cooking too - but 6 pints in watching the FA Cup final and not even liking football may be a mistake.
Yes! I had the privilege of a second trip in the 650ER last year, incredible, but flew with Qatar in April and my influence (or lack of) didn't even get me upstairs on a 380. Such is life.
That looks like a great spread. Delicious.
PS Mrs TY4C still treasures her green and gold cutlery and travels with it in its little pouch.
Loves a bit of bling.
Have fun Sir.
That looks like a great spread. Delicious.
PS Mrs TY4C still treasures her green and gold cutlery and travels with it in its little pouch.
Loves a bit of bling.
Have fun Sir.
I'm an old fart (56) so I thought lets give it a go on Ourtime.
So far it's been a dismal lack of success, to be fair that's actually ok cos I've been single since 2012 - music, motorbikes and sailing keeping me happy; I probably wouldn't be very good at a relationship.
It's interesting that I get a lot of views and many repeat visits, I find it odd that some people look almost every day - why? And... if you live in Wales and I live in Hampshire wot's the point?
Still - I guess you never know....
So far it's been a dismal lack of success, to be fair that's actually ok cos I've been single since 2012 - music, motorbikes and sailing keeping me happy; I probably wouldn't be very good at a relationship.
It's interesting that I get a lot of views and many repeat visits, I find it odd that some people look almost every day - why? And... if you live in Wales and I live in Hampshire wot's the point?
Still - I guess you never know....
epicfail said:
I'm an old fart (56) so I thought lets give it a go on Ourtime.
So far it's been a dismal lack of success, to be fair that's actually ok cos I've been single since 2012 - music, motorbikes and sailing keeping me happy; I probably wouldn't be very good at a relationship.
It's interesting that I get a lot of views and many repeat visits, I find it odd that some people look almost every day - why? And... if you live in Wales and I live in Hampshire wot's the point?
Still - I guess you never know....
Single since 40s, you probably just are not interested then. Or is that ‘single’ as in still kind of playing the field? Early-mid 40s and its a prime time for men, if single.So far it's been a dismal lack of success, to be fair that's actually ok cos I've been single since 2012 - music, motorbikes and sailing keeping me happy; I probably wouldn't be very good at a relationship.
It's interesting that I get a lot of views and many repeat visits, I find it odd that some people look almost every day - why? And... if you live in Wales and I live in Hampshire wot's the point?
Still - I guess you never know....
You sound like you have a lot of interesting activities, not a person sat at home watching 10 hours of TV a week. That must get you out and about meeting people?
Even at 56 shouldn't be an issue. I’m the same age. I could easily have converted several chance meetings in to a date/dinner/drinks in last few weeks. All in late 30s/40s.
My wife would definitely not have been impressed in me going out for a date though. So all deflected, although I have one number as one lady wanted some of the music I was playing at a cocktail bar I own. Made sure my wife was aware of this of course!
She was a mix of something like Turkmenistan and Egyptian - stunningly exotic and really good conversation, educated in USA. If i was single…..
In to music? Go and DJ or play in a band….catnip for women!
Get off these apps that sap your time and just go out and talk to people.
Go on a holiday on your own somewhere nice. It’s really easy to meet people travelling.
Have a child, although that might be a bit of a drastic move. My daughter is 6 and it happens less now but when she was 2 or 3….. again catnip ‘so are you still with her mother..?’ Probably a bit too extreme just to meet some people. Forget that idea.
Motorbikes as well. Who can resist a fit older guy on a motorbike!
Funnily enough my neighbour has just got a custom build (popular here) and I had a go on the back of it last week. She thinks she now intimidates a lot of the guys here on their 125 scooters…but has been chatted up by chaps riding ‘proper’ bikes. That could be you…..that said she is happy with her two dogs and no man. You get the idea though.
Sailing. Don’t know much about that but a friend met his wife on a dive boat trip over a week. Must be similar for sailing (only you shouldn’t be under the water on sailing holiday).
Distance: I’ve had girlfriend (from North Wales in fact) move to be with me, similarly I’ve moved as well and also with my ex we moved to London to be live together. I moved to a different hemisphere to be with my wife. Wales isn’t exactly Tibet or the moon is it?
You could be around for another 56 years. Put a bit of effort in man!
Bikes, sailing, music: get out there! Best of luck.
Thanks for that, I should probably make more effort before it's too late..
Wife died when she was 45, so I just got on with it - daughter was 14 at the time.
I play bass in a couple of bands - yet to find anyone particularly impressed with that. Sailing, I do a bit of dinghy racing - so it's not a 60' yacht. Motorbike - lots of similar old farts in leather, I don't see any age appropriate ladies at the bike stops.
To be fair I'm not in bad shape for my age but I'm not the 6.2 powerfully built company director type.
Wife died when she was 45, so I just got on with it - daughter was 14 at the time.
I play bass in a couple of bands - yet to find anyone particularly impressed with that. Sailing, I do a bit of dinghy racing - so it's not a 60' yacht. Motorbike - lots of similar old farts in leather, I don't see any age appropriate ladies at the bike stops.
To be fair I'm not in bad shape for my age but I'm not the 6.2 powerfully built company director type.
epicfail said:
Thanks for that, I should probably make more effort before it's too late..
Wife died when she was 45, so I just got on with it - daughter was 14 at the time.
I play bass in a couple of bands - yet to find anyone particularly impressed with that. Sailing, I do a bit of dinghy racing - so it's not a 60' yacht. Motorbike - lots of similar old farts in leather, I don't see any age appropriate ladies at the bike stops.
To be fair I'm not in bad shape for my age but I'm not the 6.2 powerfully built company director type.
Sorry to hear about that - must have been a very tough time. Obvious now why you were single for so long. That’s some proper context. Wife died when she was 45, so I just got on with it - daughter was 14 at the time.
I play bass in a couple of bands - yet to find anyone particularly impressed with that. Sailing, I do a bit of dinghy racing - so it's not a 60' yacht. Motorbike - lots of similar old farts in leather, I don't see any age appropriate ladies at the bike stops.
To be fair I'm not in bad shape for my age but I'm not the 6.2 powerfully built company director type.
Hope your daughter is okay - how awful to lose her mum at that age.
For what it’s worth 56 is not an ‘old fart’.
You can always be fitter though. Was at gym with a friend this morning. He’s 68 and knocking out 18 proper chin ups! Let’s face it, no one is immediately attracted to some guy with a beer belly.
You play bass in a band - that’s very cool. What a great thing to drop in to conversation. Motor biking as well. That’s two points you have going for you right off the bat.
Some lady you meet in a cafe…blah blah blah so what are you doing this weekend? ‘Me, oh playing a gig with my band and then getting out on my motorbike on Sunday…you?’
Boom!
Owning a yacht would probably be better though, but two out three is good.
Met a friend for lunch yesterday. He has just got divorced at 51 - wife was cheating whilst he was stuck in Aus during COVID - he found out three years later when he powered up an old phone of hers as he had just broken his own. f
k!Any concerns re finding a new partner - not really. We were discussing how much time people waste on dating apps when its just so much easier just to meet ‘real’ people not an artificial portrayal of a person created to get swipes/likes or whatever.
He has had an interesting life: ski instructor, ran a club in France, climber, surfs etc etc… in good shape - no concerns at all re finding someone when he is ready.
This is going to sound horrible but I believe it to be true: the sad fact you lost your wife then focused on bringing up your daughter is a (this sounds awful, please take it in the way I mean it) positive when meeting women. It paints you in a very good light. Tells them immediately what kind of guy you are.
As before, sorry about your loss and I wish you much success in getting out there.
Edited by jdw100 on Thursday 30th May 08:55
interstellar said:
Planning to stay Saturday but not met you yet? Seems a bit lively!
What’s happened to the one on hols with her ex?
This has become more complicated. She went on holiday with her ex as she's got a 2 year old with him and wanted him to be part of it - which was fine. However I now know more - it turns out that she conceived whilst "on a break" from him and he got back with her, but they spilt up a when the baby was 1. But he still wants to think of the kid is his (he knows it's not). It's all turning a bit Jezza Kyle for me. What’s happened to the one on hols with her ex?
I'm in London so have just downloaded Bumble - 18 'likes' in less than 20 mins. I miss this place sometimes.
Petrus1983 said:
This has become more complicated. She went on holiday with her ex as she's got a 2 year old with him and wanted him to be part of it - which was fine. However I now know more - it turns out that she conceived whilst "on a break" from him and he got back with her, but they spilt up a when the baby was 1. But he still wants to think of the kid is his (he knows it's not). It's all turning a bit Jezza Kyle for me.
Crikey, double bag it and/or run for the hillsAdam. said:
Petrus1983 said:
This has become more complicated. She went on holiday with her ex as she's got a 2 year old with him and wanted him to be part of it - which was fine. However I now know more - it turns out that she conceived whilst "on a break" from him and he got back with her, but they spilt up a when the baby was 1. But he still wants to think of the kid is his (he knows it's not). It's all turning a bit Jezza Kyle for me.
Crikey, double bag it and/or run for the hillsBlown2CV said:
Adam. said:
Petrus1983 said:
This has become more complicated. She went on holiday with her ex as she's got a 2 year old with him and wanted him to be part of it - which was fine. However I now know more - it turns out that she conceived whilst "on a break" from him and he got back with her, but they spilt up a when the baby was 1. But he still wants to think of the kid is his (he knows it's not). It's all turning a bit Jezza Kyle for me.
Crikey, double bag it and/or run for the hillsFermit said:
Blown2CV said:
Adam. said:
Petrus1983 said:
This has become more complicated. She went on holiday with her ex as she's got a 2 year old with him and wanted him to be part of it - which was fine. However I now know more - it turns out that she conceived whilst "on a break" from him and he got back with her, but they spilt up a when the baby was 1. But he still wants to think of the kid is his (he knows it's not). It's all turning a bit Jezza Kyle for me.
Crikey, double bag it and/or run for the hillsPoor child.
Fermit said:
Blown2CV said:
Adam. said:
Petrus1983 said:
This has become more complicated. She went on holiday with her ex as she's got a 2 year old with him and wanted him to be part of it - which was fine. However I now know more - it turns out that she conceived whilst "on a break" from him and he got back with her, but they spilt up a when the baby was 1. But he still wants to think of the kid is his (he knows it's not). It's all turning a bit Jezza Kyle for me.
Crikey, double bag it and/or run for the hillsWhen solo one thinks it through rationally and concludes: No.
Sometime you can even be in their company and sensibly hold your position of: No.
But many a man has woken up the next morning thinking 'how the hell did that combination of red wine and décolletage' turn that into a: Yes.
TownIdiot said:
Not sure what Petrus is looking for but surely if you want a girlfriend for a bit of a laugh and some shagging a dodgy moral compass is a bonus?
It's never for free. You might think it is great shagging someone with little morals but it will always come back to bite you on the ass.Either you will get sucked into her life and problems without even realising it, she will lay the guilt trip for money or possibly even get pregnant.
Never trust a woman who says "I want to feel you", she probably wants to feel the inside of your wallet for 18 years.
Seriously, no sex is worth the potential trouble.
Gigamoons said:
TownIdiot said:
ThingsBehindTheSun said:
Seriously, some sex is not worth the potential trouble, but you'll only really find that out afterwards and have to treat it as a learning experience you won't learn from.
Seriously???As you get older you get less lead by your dick and from experience you can tell exactly how it is going to pan out.
Be very careful shagging people who have made poor life choices and are serial bad decision makers. Do not get sucked into their lives.
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