Biggest shock becoming a father
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Biggest one for me was that as a non baby enthusiast, you really do get as attached to them as everyone says. You'll start off with a screaming ball of responsibility but only 3 months in you get the fact it recognises you, misses you and is visibly happy you're there. It's brilliant.
You'll also find that absolutely everyone views you differently. Employers will see you as more responsible, your mates (even the ones you've had the most irresponsible fun with) will consider you grown up and women will want to talk to you more :-)
You'll also find that absolutely everyone views you differently. Employers will see you as more responsible, your mates (even the ones you've had the most irresponsible fun with) will consider you grown up and women will want to talk to you more :-)
Frenchda said:
The immense emotion when I first held my children, it does literally rock you to the core.
I think that's probably the big one. I never considered that side of it & no one mentioned it to me, but when it happens, it's a huge emotional rush. The rest of it, poos, nappies, no sleep; that stuff is like work - you don't have a choice, so you just get on with it & it simply becomes part of your routine but the bond you feel is something incredible.eybic said:
I'm really looking forward to the emotional "switch" when he's born. The worrying thing is that I can't stand sick and st, so I've got some "interesting" times ahead
Doesn't matter, you'll see it differently when it's yours.Your about to have your life turned upside down, in a way you can't imagine, it will be really really hard work to start with.
But you will love every minute.
Get your sleep in. I have just started work had alarm set for 7am. The kid was up at 6. Wide awake burbling away.
It is true what they say time is flying past but is worth every minute.
Mine has only ever thrown up on me. Hes kept the good stuff like weeing and pooing midchange of the nappy for the wife lol.
Most important piece of advice personally, when your partner is in labour stay up at the top end. Trust me do not let curiosity take over, stay at the top. Good luck it is the best rollercoaster i have every been on.
It is true what they say time is flying past but is worth every minute.
Mine has only ever thrown up on me. Hes kept the good stuff like weeing and pooing midchange of the nappy for the wife lol.
Most important piece of advice personally, when your partner is in labour stay up at the top end. Trust me do not let curiosity take over, stay at the top. Good luck it is the best rollercoaster i have every been on.
eybic said:
...what the biggest shock was for the Dad's of PH?
For me it was losing the ability to be spontaneous. Enjoy the fact that for the next 10 weeks the two of you can just do things together. Going to a shop, a restaurant, a pub or visiting friends etc... becomes harder. You have to time trips between feeds, take a massive bag (or even car) full of stuff everywhere you go. Each trip out needs as much planning as a weekend away did before.The amount of nappies they get through. the fact that poo and sick is vile, but it doesn't matter , as it your childs, not just now but from then on ( except when they are 21 and puke all over the hallway, drunk, its then the wifes child !!)
Get some sleep now, enjoy the times of learning with them. Teaching them from the beginning, works wonders for them. My son wouldn't eat unless we recited the alphabet or wrote down numbers from 1 onwards to hundreds, it just fascinated him. He revels in maths now.
Fun times ahead and hope it all goes well for you.
Get some sleep now, enjoy the times of learning with them. Teaching them from the beginning, works wonders for them. My son wouldn't eat unless we recited the alphabet or wrote down numbers from 1 onwards to hundreds, it just fascinated him. He revels in maths now.
Fun times ahead and hope it all goes well for you.
schmalex said:
sploosh said:
Looking back 8 years down the line and wondering where the time went!
They don't stay small for long so make the most of it.
Agreed. My son is 11 now and that has passed in the blink of an eyeThey don't stay small for long so make the most of it.
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