Cheating

[Mobsta]

Someone here made a comment today:

he said:

my missus, the mother of my 2 year old, was screwing her male-nurse colleague at work. (literately 'at work'; while they were on night shifts)
I found out where he lived and told his pregnant wife about it.
I don't know what happened with them from there - hopefully she stabbed him or something.

We are all very different. My question is one I've wanted to put to the PH community for a long time, but as yet have not.

How far would you go, if your other half was caught or proven to be cheating?

I'll take all the "I'd rip his balls off and shove them up his nostrils!" comments and ask you, really?

For me, anything more than a non aggressive chat, would be a waste of my time. I'd want to talk my way to the bottom of the matter, to be better able to consider my position.

I must be alone in this, as I don't ever recall having heard a British male say likewise, or similar. Ever.

No statistic is perfectly accurate, but iirc, 50% of relationships at some point contain a cheater. What would you do if or when you find out your other half has done the dirty?

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Pints said:

I've also just read that thread and couldn't help thinking, "I'd fking kill the bh."

When reality kicked in I probably wouldn't, but I'd probably make her life hell.

Not to point fingers, MR PINTS(!!!) but I would want the quietest exit possible. I'd possibly even give the chap a lift home if be bared his soul on the way and told me everything I wanted to know.

Someone else can blowtorch his balls and paintstrip his foreskin - I enjoy banter on every level, but if the end was nigh, I'd want anything but violence or aggression, both of which would stand in the way of the information I needed to make closure, up sticks and disappear.

I haven't just turned 18 and I don't have a holy pope type chip on my shoulder either. I have spent a few decades considering the auto-aggression nature of others though. There are plenty of yanks who would turn on heel and go straight to the gun cupboard. But why? Would they deserve that, etc?

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VinceFox said:

Sever all ties with as little fuss as possible.

Yes, this. And talk sternly to them in a "naughty naughty piggy" type way, perhaps rap them on the snout with a plastic spatula, but nothing more serious. Except maybe taping your glass eye to the ceiling which stares at them and makes them uncomfortable all night whilst they sleep.

Revenge is somewhere down the food chain, after animals learned to talk, but before their brains developed fully. Or something like that.

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Du1point8 said:

not going to tell the whole story?

Come on Adenauer. It wasn't your thread and you haven't yet told it properly on PH. I fell off my chair in a delerium of anticipated story telling last time, to bang a bag of popcorn in the microwave when you last started the story, but accidentally threw it in the toilet, flushed the dishwasher and emptied myself in my trousers in the mad scramble to get back to my computer so I could read your story, but alas, you never told it in full.

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Both harsh and cruel, but funny

@zwoelf, good man

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Carthage said:

open relationships would be fine if equal rules and agreed in advance.

Its no often you hear that from one of the ladies...

What got you round to that way of thinking?

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Adenauer said:

Harsh my arse, harsh is finding your wife in your bed with another bloke at 3am

It could have been a bearded lady though, then, how would you have felt?

I thank you for reposting though. Quite a story! As for the ending, who did she end up staying with? (Sorry, had to ask).