Am I right to be angry?
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Long story short... my (younger) sister is currently in hospital in an induced coma with multiple organ failure thanks to 35(ish) years of excessive drinking and we're being told there's a very good chance she'll not make it 
We knew that she enjoyed a drink but obviously didn't realise the scale of things - which only got (massively) worse thanks to a combination of WFH and huge amounts of work related stress.
We're hoping/praying/whatevering for the best but (sort of) prepared for the worst, really f
king angry at the current situation and thinking about how much I'll miss her if the situation goes the way it might (not to mention the effect on our parents).
Despite all this we've gone off on a pre-booked holiday since the hospital have advised there's likely to be no change over the next few weeks and (possibly selfishly) I'm not sure if I can wait around dreading every phone-call. Had she at least been conscious I'd have felt we could do something by keeping her company, but totally comatose we just feel helpless - her partner is up there every day so she's not alone but you have to question if she's even aware. Another poor bd who's feeling totally helpless 
We knew that she enjoyed a drink but obviously didn't realise the scale of things - which only got (massively) worse thanks to a combination of WFH and huge amounts of work related stress.
We're hoping/praying/whatevering for the best but (sort of) prepared for the worst, really f
king angry at the current situation and thinking about how much I'll miss her if the situation goes the way it might (not to mention the effect on our parents). Despite all this we've gone off on a pre-booked holiday since the hospital have advised there's likely to be no change over the next few weeks and (possibly selfishly) I'm not sure if I can wait around dreading every phone-call. Had she at least been conscious I'd have felt we could do something by keeping her company, but totally comatose we just feel helpless - her partner is up there every day so she's not alone but you have to question if she's even aware. Another poor b
d who's feeling totally helpless Al Gorithum said:
Sorry to hear. Why are you angry?
I know addiction/dependency is an illness so less(?) angry at that more the constant refusal to seek help, even when (on prior occasions) an ambulance was called a refusal to go to hospital I know it's down to her but if she'd sought some effing help 6/9 months ago she'd possibly/probably(?) not be so critical (albeit still in dire need of help)LunarOne said:
One of my closest friends drinks far too much in my opinion. I visited her on Sunday afternoon and by 6pm she was pretty merry. By the time I left her at about 11.30pm she'd polished off four more bottles of wine on her own. I don't drink at all unless out and having a meal in a restaurant, or when I'm on holiday somewhere where I don't have the use of a car, so perhaps my perception is somewhat skewed.
She'll have a bottle or two every evening after work, and for her it's completely normal. I'm pretty sure she's drinking way too much. But she is very successful in her sales job and she is fully competent when not drunk - I used to work with her. I don't know how she does it. She's mid 40s and I really worry about her. I've mentioned it to her but she doesn't think it's too much of a problem as it doesn't affect her life negatively. But I can't see how this can continue and there's nothing I can do. She's always been like this for as long as I've known her.
That sounds scarily like my sister (I felt my perspective might be skewed as I'm virtually teetotal...)She'll have a bottle or two every evening after work, and for her it's completely normal. I'm pretty sure she's drinking way too much. But she is very successful in her sales job and she is fully competent when not drunk - I used to work with her. I don't know how she does it. She's mid 40s and I really worry about her. I've mentioned it to her but she doesn't think it's too much of a problem as it doesn't affect her life negatively. But I can't see how this can continue and there's nothing I can do. She's always been like this for as long as I've known her.
Well an unexpectedly short and, for me, tragic update.
My sister died this morning, 53 thanks to decades of alcohol abuse/misuse along with a refusal to seek medical help when it was obviously needed
The, scant, consolation I have is that it was mercifully quick - some poor family on the same ICU were given the same news and their relative had been in for 4-months only for that hope to be dashed.
My sister died this morning, 53 thanks to decades of alcohol abuse/misuse along with a refusal to seek medical help when it was obviously needed
The, scant, consolation I have is that it was mercifully quick - some poor family on the same ICU were given the same news and their relative had been in for 4-months only for that hope to be dashed.
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