Really depressed
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In 1984 my - then - 21 year-old brother took his own life. It came completely out of the blue.
In 32 years, I can honestly say that not a day has gone by when I haven't wondered whether there was something I could have done to stop him and felt bad that I didn't see it coming and do something that might have meant a different outcome.
Please don't put your children through that. Go and see your GP, talk to people, ask for help and remember that, if at any point it's feeling too much, you can always call the Samaritans; any time of the night or day, someone there will talk to you, listen and never judge. Website link below. Please plug their number into your phone, so that it's there, ready - just in case
Www.samaritans.org
In 32 years, I can honestly say that not a day has gone by when I haven't wondered whether there was something I could have done to stop him and felt bad that I didn't see it coming and do something that might have meant a different outcome.
Please don't put your children through that. Go and see your GP, talk to people, ask for help and remember that, if at any point it's feeling too much, you can always call the Samaritans; any time of the night or day, someone there will talk to you, listen and never judge. Website link below. Please plug their number into your phone, so that it's there, ready - just in case
Www.samaritans.org
You could always take some MTFU tablets, pull yourself together, stop being an attention w
e and try to help yourself.
Being depressed doesn't mean you can't look after your own kids for a few hours, you're trying it on mate.
You've been offered help and not accepted any.
Sit down and watch this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r_2kelqYz_o
There is only one person who is going to drag you out of this hole and it's you, accept help when it's offered, go and see your doctor.
Don't tell me I don't know what it's all about either, I do, i've been there.
e and try to help yourself.Being depressed doesn't mean you can't look after your own kids for a few hours, you're trying it on mate.
You've been offered help and not accepted any.
Sit down and watch this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r_2kelqYz_o
There is only one person who is going to drag you out of this hole and it's you, accept help when it's offered, go and see your doctor.
Don't tell me I don't know what it's all about either, I do, i've been there.
Robster,
You're avoiding the elephant in the room...I'm sure you're fully aware of this; But phone your GP tomorrow before breakfast and get an appointment. This will NOT fix itself, there are people who are paid to help people in your situation.
It would reassure you and everyone on here if you're getting help.
As for the kids tomorrow, the GP appointment comes first.. Tell the ex that you're depressed and maybe spare the details for now until things are a bit clearer.
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You're avoiding the elephant in the room...I'm sure you're fully aware of this; But phone your GP tomorrow before breakfast and get an appointment. This will NOT fix itself, there are people who are paid to help people in your situation.
It would reassure you and everyone on here if you're getting help.
As for the kids tomorrow, the GP appointment comes first.. Tell the ex that you're depressed and maybe spare the details for now until things are a bit clearer.
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Edited by Lotus Notes on Sunday 18th September 23:26
227 Bhp that was no help what's so ever , I've done tough mudder run serval mathathons and you tell me to man up? This is different !! Ex just text , police have phoned her , her message was not seeing my children , Christ doesn't she undwrstam, if I can't see children nothing to live for , how dare you say I can't or don't want to see them they are my life
Robster said:
227 Bhp that was no help what's so ever , I've done tough missed ,run serval mathathons and you tell me to man up? This is different !! Ex just text , police have phoned her , her message was not seeing my children , Christ doesn't she undwrstam, if I can't see children nothing to live for
Please tell me why you are not taking any notice of any advice on here?This thread has kept me going and I know saved my life I've got pm to reply to people who want to talk to me and I've taken all the advice , including seeing a gp tomorrow , and guess what I do feel down , I now can't see my children , 227 bhp post has been the worse so far, , thank god I'm not listening to you , because of the consideration of others
'Harden up' ix exactly the wrong message.
Rather someone called attention to this than shut up and just died somewhere.
Its a really nasty thing to go through, been there in a small way myself (not quite suicidal but all over the place).
Get out, exercise, dont sweat the big stuff, take enjoyment form the small things ( a coffee, lunch, go sit watch the sea for a bit etc), try and interact with some people a little.
Rather someone called attention to this than shut up and just died somewhere.
Its a really nasty thing to go through, been there in a small way myself (not quite suicidal but all over the place).
Get out, exercise, dont sweat the big stuff, take enjoyment form the small things ( a coffee, lunch, go sit watch the sea for a bit etc), try and interact with some people a little.
Robster said:
Easy to concentrate on the crap maybes he's right
Robster, get some photos out of your kids, look at their faces and try to imagine what it would be like for them to grow up without their daddy.They need you and they love you.
Nights are the loneliest times but you are not alone, there are hundreds of people on PH that want to talk and help you out.
You are not alone.
If you're drinking, don't. If you're not, don't start. It will only make things worse. Have a shower, get yourself to bed and stick the radio or TV on that will give you something to think about.
Get some sleep and see what tomorrow brings, the sun will come up and things will get better.
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