Really depressed
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Morning Rob,
Glad you made it through the night and hope you got some sleep. New day, new challenges. At 0800 got on the phone to the quack, go and see them and crucially, be honest! Yes you'll walk out with pills, but they do help. Also ask about counselling. NHS counselling ain't the best, but it's a start.
Try and do something positive today, a walk, bike ride, walk into town for a coffee, anything that gets you out of those four walls.
Best of luck mate.
Glad you made it through the night and hope you got some sleep. New day, new challenges. At 0800 got on the phone to the quack, go and see them and crucially, be honest! Yes you'll walk out with pills, but they do help. Also ask about counselling. NHS counselling ain't the best, but it's a start.
Try and do something positive today, a walk, bike ride, walk into town for a coffee, anything that gets you out of those four walls.
Best of luck mate.
Rob-
If you live in the Addlestone address that was given on here I live less than a mile away from you. Im off work Wednesday, Im happy to come over just for a chat, go for a pint, or if you want me to go to see your GP to have someone to help you explain your feelings Im happy to go with you and do this. Im not a counselor or any type of expert, but Im pretty good at talking problems through with people. Reply back or send me a PM if you want buddy.
Cheers John
If you live in the Addlestone address that was given on here I live less than a mile away from you. Im off work Wednesday, Im happy to come over just for a chat, go for a pint, or if you want me to go to see your GP to have someone to help you explain your feelings Im happy to go with you and do this. Im not a counselor or any type of expert, but Im pretty good at talking problems through with people. Reply back or send me a PM if you want buddy.
Cheers John
'Morning Rob, just logged in to see how you are today. I must admit to being stunned at the advice from one well meaning but misguided member of our community but he's in a minority of one, ignore him. Get on the phone to your GP, make an urgent appointment and go and see him a.s.a.p. He'll be able to give you further guidance, listen to him and make use of the help that's available; you're by no means the first person to find themselves in this situation and there are experienced people waiting to give you a helping hand - take it.
All the best.
All the best.
bigmadjohn said:
Rob-
If you live in the Addlestone address that was given on here I live less than a mile away from you. Im off work Wednesday, Im happy to come over just for a chat, go for a pint, or if you want me to go to see your GP to have someone to help you explain your feelings Im happy to go with you and do this. Im not a counselor or any type of expert, but Im pretty good at talking problems through with people. Reply back or send me a PM if you want buddy.
Cheers John
That's a really nice offer from you John.If you live in the Addlestone address that was given on here I live less than a mile away from you. Im off work Wednesday, Im happy to come over just for a chat, go for a pint, or if you want me to go to see your GP to have someone to help you explain your feelings Im happy to go with you and do this. Im not a counselor or any type of expert, but Im pretty good at talking problems through with people. Reply back or send me a PM if you want buddy.
Cheers John
Glad you're up and about this morning Rob.
Rob
If you're serious about seeing the GP, please be honest about how you're feeling. Don't try and cover how you're genuinely feeling.
This will be the first step on the road to satisfy your ex wife that you are fit enough to see your kids again.
I don't normally post on these types of threads but I wanted to wish you well. There is light at the end of the tunnel and it will be hard, but if anyone can do it, you can.
Don't worry about the "mtfu" comment from the well intended poster, he used the wrong choice of words but ultimately he is right. Only you can do this, with support.
Good luck.
If you're serious about seeing the GP, please be honest about how you're feeling. Don't try and cover how you're genuinely feeling.
This will be the first step on the road to satisfy your ex wife that you are fit enough to see your kids again.
I don't normally post on these types of threads but I wanted to wish you well. There is light at the end of the tunnel and it will be hard, but if anyone can do it, you can.
Don't worry about the "mtfu" comment from the well intended poster, he used the wrong choice of words but ultimately he is right. Only you can do this, with support.
Good luck.
Rob glad you're still with us.
Re the ex and kids situation - she's probably only doing what she thinks is best for them. You've been through a lot these past few days and its easy to see why someone would not want to put young kids into such an environment (for the time being).
Perhaps you could go round to your ex's place and see them there for a few hours?
Re the ex and kids situation - she's probably only doing what she thinks is best for them. You've been through a lot these past few days and its easy to see why someone would not want to put young kids into such an environment (for the time being).
Perhaps you could go round to your ex's place and see them there for a few hours?
Rob - I seriously suggest you take up bigmadjohn's offer.
Just going for a stroll with someone will help, whether you talk or not. I'd offer myself, but I'm on the other side of the world.
It may sound odd, but getting the blood moving and getting some fresh air will definitely blow away some of the cobwebs and give you some perspective.
Clearly the situation with your children is getting you down, but you will be around for a long while yet - there's plenty of time for you to share with them.
Just going for a stroll with someone will help, whether you talk or not. I'd offer myself, but I'm on the other side of the world.
It may sound odd, but getting the blood moving and getting some fresh air will definitely blow away some of the cobwebs and give you some perspective.
Clearly the situation with your children is getting you down, but you will be around for a long while yet - there's plenty of time for you to share with them.
Hi sorry not been on here just trying to process , so just got back from gp, what a complete waste of time , told her what happened and she couldn't of been any less interested, even though I had taken an over dose on sat ! Long story short she sent me away saying I need to make a phone call for counsling , and to see her in a week , feel like it's a step back
Hey there Rob,
I saw this thread and have to say I skimmed though a lot of the replies as they all offered great help, I skipped to the end and noticed a wee bit about what BHP had said and went back had another wee read through.
He actually made a bit of sense, harsh words yes but in your correct frame of mind you might have said, f
k it your right. At this moment with a fuzzy head that is not how you have taken it understandably. As you know, from the depression thread a lot have been there, some still are and can totally relate with what you are going through, I was one of them.
Like the rest I am going to PM you my email addy. No pressure to reply, I am offering a 'female' take on what you are going through and to perhaps give you my point of view as to what your ex might be thinking. She is right at the moment to hold the kids back, you love those kids, would you want them to see you like this. As you have said you live for those kids, getting yourself back on track so you can be the best dad in the world is what they would want right now.
Only you can dig yourself out right now, its a deep hole but one shovel at a time and you will get there. Have you handed your notice in at work yet? Change is a good idea if you are somewhere that is making you very unhappy.
Avril xx
I saw this thread and have to say I skimmed though a lot of the replies as they all offered great help, I skipped to the end and noticed a wee bit about what BHP had said and went back had another wee read through.
He actually made a bit of sense, harsh words yes but in your correct frame of mind you might have said, f
k it your right. At this moment with a fuzzy head that is not how you have taken it understandably. As you know, from the depression thread a lot have been there, some still are and can totally relate with what you are going through, I was one of them. Like the rest I am going to PM you my email addy. No pressure to reply, I am offering a 'female' take on what you are going through and to perhaps give you my point of view as to what your ex might be thinking. She is right at the moment to hold the kids back, you love those kids, would you want them to see you like this. As you have said you live for those kids, getting yourself back on track so you can be the best dad in the world is what they would want right now.
Only you can dig yourself out right now, its a deep hole but one shovel at a time and you will get there. Have you handed your notice in at work yet? Change is a good idea if you are somewhere that is making you very unhappy.
Avril xx
Robster, please take the first step. You have some great offers of help and support, please be brave enough to take what has been so kindly offered.
I'm sorry your GP was so useless, that's a reflection on her not you. Nobody is judging you here so please don't be afraid to take the help offered.
When you're in a deep hole you need to do two things:
1. stop digging!
2. climb out. One step at a time. (this might include reaching up for an outstretched hand
)
I wish you well and hope you are getting back on top of things soon.
Edited to correct poor grammar
I'm sorry your GP was so useless, that's a reflection on her not you. Nobody is judging you here so please don't be afraid to take the help offered.
When you're in a deep hole you need to do two things:
1. stop digging!
2. climb out. One step at a time. (this might include reaching up for an outstretched hand
)I wish you well and hope you are getting back on top of things soon.
Edited to correct poor grammar
OP you won't hear back from the NHS for weeks from a normal referral (in my experience). If you are genuinely suicidal use the emergency contacts I assume the doctor gave you and you might get help quicker.
It might sound a bit weak right now but look up relaxation exercises to get you out of your agitated emotional state and seeing things differently. If no luck with NHS and you can afford it try a private therapist, even just one session could be worth it.
It might sound a bit weak right now but look up relaxation exercises to get you out of your agitated emotional state and seeing things differently. If no luck with NHS and you can afford it try a private therapist, even just one session could be worth it.
Get back to the GP, ask to see another if necessary. Did she not even read through a checklist to score you?
You possibly need in the first instance and I may be wrong, but only your gp can prescribe. Don't put on a brave face and show the gp that you believe you are depressed.
However, well done for trying but try again! Cry if you have to...
You possibly need in the first instance and I may be wrong, but only your gp can prescribe. Don't put on a brave face and show the gp that you believe you are depressed.
However, well done for trying but try again! Cry if you have to...
Rob, if you haven't already got one get yourself a dog. I know it's a cliché but they really are the best friend a man can have.
When I split from my second wife my dog kept me going, without him who knows what I might have done in the first 6 months or so.
Very therapeutic and healing, better than any drugs for depression or sleeping tablets.
If you don't like dogs or already have one please ignore this advice and get a cat.
When I split from my second wife my dog kept me going, without him who knows what I might have done in the first 6 months or so.
Very therapeutic and healing, better than any drugs for depression or sleeping tablets.
If you don't like dogs or already have one please ignore this advice and get a cat.
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