Really depressed
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Also ignore my spellings and grammar, 5 hours sleep, typing on my iPad and ... You get the picture ha ha.
Why not tell people a bit about yourself , the world is a lonely place and it's good to socialise .
Can be a bit of everything really , hobbies , work experience , funny episodes in your life. Be brutally honest and share something that makes you laugh and you'd swear you would never tell anyone.
Ie I remember a time at Christmas going out on a works doo and accidentally coughing a load of green nasty phlegm up whilst walking downstairs and accidentally spitting it into the bosses wife's hair. I almost died on the spot as no one else saw and so badly needed to laugh I almost peed in my pants.
You get the idea.
Col.
Why not tell people a bit about yourself , the world is a lonely place and it's good to socialise .
Can be a bit of everything really , hobbies , work experience , funny episodes in your life. Be brutally honest and share something that makes you laugh and you'd swear you would never tell anyone.
Ie I remember a time at Christmas going out on a works doo and accidentally coughing a load of green nasty phlegm up whilst walking downstairs and accidentally spitting it into the bosses wife's hair. I almost died on the spot as no one else saw and so badly needed to laugh I almost peed in my pants.
You get the idea.
Col.
colinevan said:
Also ignore my spellings and grammar, 5 hours sleep, typing on my iPad and ... You get the picture ha ha.
Why not tell people a bit about yourself , the world is a lonely place and it's good to socialise .
Can be a bit of everything really , hobbies , work experience , funny episodes in your life. Be brutally honest and share something that makes you laugh and you'd swear you would never tell anyone.
Ie I remember a time at Christmas going out on a works doo and accidentally coughing a load of green nasty phlegm up whilst walking downstairs and accidentally spitting it into the bosses wife's hair. I almost died on the spot as no one else saw and so badly needed to laugh I almost peed in my pants.
You get the idea.
Col.
I once went skating with my mate and ended up sWhy not tell people a bit about yourself , the world is a lonely place and it's good to socialise .
Can be a bit of everything really , hobbies , work experience , funny episodes in your life. Be brutally honest and share something that makes you laugh and you'd swear you would never tell anyone.
Ie I remember a time at Christmas going out on a works doo and accidentally coughing a load of green nasty phlegm up whilst walking downstairs and accidentally spitting it into the bosses wife's hair. I almost died on the spot as no one else saw and so badly needed to laugh I almost peed in my pants.
You get the idea.
Col.
tting myself and having to leave my boxers in the local pub toilet with a large amount of bog roll stuck to the st covering the inside of my jeans! Never thought that would ever be public knowledge!
Hello Rob, I've just read through this thread, it looks to me like you've already turned the corner and are on the way back. So stick with it and keep the progress going. Recognising the issue and having the balls to discuss it is the biggest hurdle, you've already got over that one. I've lost a couple of friends who didn't talk - it's such a shame because there's always help available if people talk.
I find having a bank of "happy things" in my head that I focus on when things aren't going so well helps - people, places, events etc. If negative thoughts are creeping in think of things that have made you happy and how you're going to do those things again - if you've got a favourite beach think of when you'll next visit, if you enjoyed seeing a band think of when you'll see them again. The thoughts take you to happier places and also give you things to plan to keep your mind occupied.
I find making sure I am eating properly and doing exercise is a big help too. Even just getting out of normal surroundings.
There's been some really good posts on here and great offers of phone calls/meet ups etc, I hope you'll continue the progress that it looks like you've already made.
I find having a bank of "happy things" in my head that I focus on when things aren't going so well helps - people, places, events etc. If negative thoughts are creeping in think of things that have made you happy and how you're going to do those things again - if you've got a favourite beach think of when you'll next visit, if you enjoyed seeing a band think of when you'll see them again. The thoughts take you to happier places and also give you things to plan to keep your mind occupied.
I find making sure I am eating properly and doing exercise is a big help too. Even just getting out of normal surroundings.
There's been some really good posts on here and great offers of phone calls/meet ups etc, I hope you'll continue the progress that it looks like you've already made.
Robster, a massive well done for continuing to get through such a difficult time - one of my favourite quotes is, I think, from Winston Churchill 'When you're going through hell - keep going'.
I've been through a similar situation and when you're in a trench and can only see a huge mud wall towering above you two inches in front of your face it's incredibly hard to comprehend how you will get out of that trench and get back to seeing blue sky, smelling fresh air and enjoying life again. It's very important to keep reminding yourself that what you're going through is 100% not forever although at the moment I know it certainly feels like it is. Trust me you once you get out of the trench, and you will soon, you will be a lot stronger, happier and proud of yourself having got through such a tough time. You're going through the toughest bit, it will get better.
From your posts you appear to be a great guy that's had a battering that most people won't experience (lucky them). There are plenty of people here that have already posted that have given great advice and obviously been through a similar storm to you.
From your kids perspective I lost my Dad when I was 8 (natural causes) and my colleague lost his (to suicide) when he was 13. We're both now 49 and talk daily about how big an impact on both of us that losing them so early has been throughout our lives. My best mate from the age of 5 also lost his at the age of 10 and he died suddenly last month at the age of 50 leaving three boys aged 17, 14 and 10. They have the pain ahead of growing up without a Dad. If you have a dip in mindset keep reminding yourself about the massive impact you going would have on those you love so dearly (and throughout the rest of their lives).
The important things at the moment are you, your wellbeing and your kids - nothing else matters - job, ex-wife, even cars!
Stick in there, keep chatting on here, find a better GP (I can recommend a very good private one in Guildford). I'm not far from you I don't think so also able to meet up for a chat anytime if you feel like it and happy to go along with you to the Guildford GP if you'd like
Life, I promise, will get so much better. It's a hackneyed phrase but the darkest hour is before dawn - not long before you're through that.
Keep posting how you feel.
I've been through a similar situation and when you're in a trench and can only see a huge mud wall towering above you two inches in front of your face it's incredibly hard to comprehend how you will get out of that trench and get back to seeing blue sky, smelling fresh air and enjoying life again. It's very important to keep reminding yourself that what you're going through is 100% not forever although at the moment I know it certainly feels like it is. Trust me you once you get out of the trench, and you will soon, you will be a lot stronger, happier and proud of yourself having got through such a tough time. You're going through the toughest bit, it will get better.
From your posts you appear to be a great guy that's had a battering that most people won't experience (lucky them). There are plenty of people here that have already posted that have given great advice and obviously been through a similar storm to you.
From your kids perspective I lost my Dad when I was 8 (natural causes) and my colleague lost his (to suicide) when he was 13. We're both now 49 and talk daily about how big an impact on both of us that losing them so early has been throughout our lives. My best mate from the age of 5 also lost his at the age of 10 and he died suddenly last month at the age of 50 leaving three boys aged 17, 14 and 10. They have the pain ahead of growing up without a Dad. If you have a dip in mindset keep reminding yourself about the massive impact you going would have on those you love so dearly (and throughout the rest of their lives).
The important things at the moment are you, your wellbeing and your kids - nothing else matters - job, ex-wife, even cars!
Stick in there, keep chatting on here, find a better GP (I can recommend a very good private one in Guildford). I'm not far from you I don't think so also able to meet up for a chat anytime if you feel like it and happy to go along with you to the Guildford GP if you'd like
Life, I promise, will get so much better. It's a hackneyed phrase but the darkest hour is before dawn - not long before you're through that.
Keep posting how you feel.
Hi guys it's really helpful for me to be able to post on here and express my feelings, today has been tough although feeling positive I've just felt absolutely shattered which then doesn't help with getting out of bed , on a positive note I had a surprise visit from some friends to come offer there support , lots of tears and emotion but I have nothing to hide anymore, thank you for the offers of meeting up tonight but it's been a very long day so I'm going to get an early night , hope to do it soon though , thanks again everyone , I'll keep on posting if that's ok , don't want it to be one sided maybe I can help someone else out at some point
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