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Olivera said:
i prefer a flan said:
That said I don't consider it a disorder because I like it.
I would suggest that many people with serious personality disorders may be ambivalent or even like their condition. However it may still be in their (and possibly also society's) best interests to have the disorder addressed and mitigated.I also find some social events really tiring and stressful though no one would realise.
Usually I manage to muddle through and sometimes it's like I'm on "social" fire and just can't put a foot wrong. Other times I just can't get out of first gear and even after many years practice, I still can't really predict which way an event will go.
I much prefer my own company and that of very close friends and family but am quite happy in my own little world.
My job keeps me very busy and I interact with plenty of people daily, presentations, meeting new people regularly etc. but it's exhausting and as soon as the day is over I love to drive home in my own space and metaphorically "pull up the drawbridge" at home.
I'm actually pretty good at being sociable but I have to force myself to get out of my comfort zone and it doesn't come easily to me.
I could see myself slipping into a more reclusive lifestyle if work didn't force me out of the house, but that's almost more scary than having to interact with people so I try to make an effort don't get too withdrawn.......... and my Wife keeps me on my toes which is just as well.
Pvapour said:
Quite, Myers & briggs give a good idea. Think you can download their test online.
Those make me laugh. They rely on people giving honest answers, and not trying to guess how they have to answer, in order to get the ‘personality profile’ they think sounds best. I did one about 20 years ago for a work thing, and I got bored of it fairly quickly so just starting answering randomly to get it over with quickly. The result was ( unsurprisingly) all sorts of wrong, but it did give me a laugh. If I remember rightly I got INFJ or something, which was completely at odds with reality. I nearly choked laughing when I read the description in the box.Edited by GOATever on Monday 17th February 23:09
Hoofy said:
I guess the OPer hears how "no man is an island" and it's all about community and society. People talk about these things like it's how you're supposed to live eg getting married, having kids; and if you don't conform, then you're seen as odd or in this case you feel odd.
It comes down to conformance with the ‘tribe’. Humans have always been tribal, anyone who isn’t, will always find themselves frowned upon by people who do the whole tribal thing, usually without giving it a second thought. The names attributed to such individuals have changed over time ( Shamen / loner / drifter / weirdo / odd ball ) etc, but in any system with accepted frameworks and boundaries, there are always anomalies, that’s life, you can’t change that, but the vast majority of people almost subconsciously conform to the ‘norm’ and view any outliers with suspicious eyes.GOATever said:
Hoofy said:
I guess the OPer hears how "no man is an island" and it's all about community and society. People talk about these things like it's how you're supposed to live eg getting married, having kids; and if you don't conform, then you're seen as odd or in this case you feel odd.
It comes down to conformance with the ‘tribe’. Humans have always been tribal, anyone who isn’t, will always find themselves frowned upon by people who do the whole tribal thing, usually without giving it a second thought. The names attributed to such individuals have changed over time ( Shamen / loner / drifter / weirdo / odd ball ) etc, but in any system with accepted frameworks and boundaries, there are always anomalies, that’s life, you can’t change that, but the vast majority of people almost subconsciously conform to the ‘norm’ and view any outliers with suspicious eyes.
rovermorris999 said:
I often spend a few days without seeing anyone other than my dogs and enjoy it. Seeing as there are so many of us who like to be alone perhaps we should form a club or society so we can not turn up to social events and meetings.
We held one yesterday at the Royal Oak. I don't know if anyone turned up.i prefer a flan said:
Lifelong bachelor yes, 30 something. Doesn't bother me anymore.
Why the new account, you clearly an member on here already? I think a lot of people in similar position, they don't even see it as an issue. The stuff posted on PH is a tiny reality of what goes on in the real world. It is best enjoyed with a few other people.
Are you worried if you go out people will see you for the image you have of yourself?
anonymous said:
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There is a poster that pops up every so often posting stuff that is pretty weird/disturbing, and seems to like getting a reaction from other posters. His posts remind me of him.he also uses, '' our time'' on another thread, if a loner it would be my time. Again clearly a troll account.
Edited by Thesprucegoose on Wednesday 19th February 12:48
GOATever said:
Pvapour said:
Quite, Myers & briggs give a good idea. Think you can download their test online.
Those make me laugh. They rely on people giving honest answers, and not trying to guess how they have to answer, in order to get the ‘personality profile’ they think sounds best. I did one about 20 years ago for a work thing, and I got bored of it fairly quickly so just starting answering randomly to get it over with quickly. The result was ( unsurprisingly) all sorts of wrong, but it did give me a laugh. If I remember rightly I got INFJ or something, which was completely at odds with reality. I nearly choked laughing when I read the description in the box.Edited by GOATever on Monday 17th February 23:09
pretty pointless trying it if you cant be honest, you’re not trying to win anything
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