Why did I bother?
Discussion
I apologise in advance, this is a rant/vent so I’m sorry for boring those who decide to read it.
After looking through the classified ads on Monday I saw a nice enough little VW Polo for sale on a 56 plate for a shade over £1500. Now I know this is low and it is with good reason, it’s an estate sale, the car has problems and the previous owners family just want shot of the car. That’s fine with me, I can live with that and as the car is not actually destined to end up being mine anyway it works for me. So if the car is not for me who is it going to? Well being the self proclaimed awesome big brother I am and knowing the eldest of my two sisters is in desperate need of transport to secure her new job it’s going to her as an early 21st Birthday present….or at least that’s the plan.
Upon calling her to say I’ve sorted a car out for her, which will be by the time I drop it off to her in a weeks time, fully running with a years tax and MOT on it she has said thanks but no thanks, now this isn’t because she doesn’t want to accept it, she knows no car means no dream job. Her reason? It’s not a Ford Fiesta and her boyfriend doesn’t like it. Now this in turn has slightly annoyed me, one because I haven’t bought the car for him and, two, surely any car being given to you completely gratis and ready to go is better than no car at all? The only saving grace I will give her is she trying to source a car herself but is contemplating the finance route on something brand new, I know that is her choice to make but the over protective side of me wants to help her out as much as I can.
So what to do with the Polo now as I seem to have two choices.
1. Still get the work done and then sell on for myself.
Or
2. Sister number two could also do with a car, she is happy to take the car as is and wants to do the work that needs to be done herself (and I mean herself, the only thing that will be done at the garage is the MOT).
So what to do, try and talk sister one round, get it sorted and sell on or give it to sister 2 as a project?
Suggestions?
After looking through the classified ads on Monday I saw a nice enough little VW Polo for sale on a 56 plate for a shade over £1500. Now I know this is low and it is with good reason, it’s an estate sale, the car has problems and the previous owners family just want shot of the car. That’s fine with me, I can live with that and as the car is not actually destined to end up being mine anyway it works for me. So if the car is not for me who is it going to? Well being the self proclaimed awesome big brother I am and knowing the eldest of my two sisters is in desperate need of transport to secure her new job it’s going to her as an early 21st Birthday present….or at least that’s the plan.
Upon calling her to say I’ve sorted a car out for her, which will be by the time I drop it off to her in a weeks time, fully running with a years tax and MOT on it she has said thanks but no thanks, now this isn’t because she doesn’t want to accept it, she knows no car means no dream job. Her reason? It’s not a Ford Fiesta and her boyfriend doesn’t like it. Now this in turn has slightly annoyed me, one because I haven’t bought the car for him and, two, surely any car being given to you completely gratis and ready to go is better than no car at all? The only saving grace I will give her is she trying to source a car herself but is contemplating the finance route on something brand new, I know that is her choice to make but the over protective side of me wants to help her out as much as I can.
So what to do with the Polo now as I seem to have two choices.
1. Still get the work done and then sell on for myself.
Or
2. Sister number two could also do with a car, she is happy to take the car as is and wants to do the work that needs to be done herself (and I mean herself, the only thing that will be done at the garage is the MOT).
So what to do, try and talk sister one round, get it sorted and sell on or give it to sister 2 as a project?
Suggestions?
First sister, why would she want a fiesta over a 56 polo?! Her bf needs some sense!!!!!!! A bargain at £1.5k for one of those.
Second sister, how old is she and do you have pictures and would she like a mechanic to keep an eye on her work?
I all fairness though the first one is silly not to take the car. It'll out last the bf
Second sister, how old is she and do you have pictures and would she like a mechanic to keep an eye on her work?
I all fairness though the first one is silly not to take the car. It'll out last the bf
Ok, on face of it she's being ungrateful, but imagine (as a pistonhead) if someone bought you a car you really wouldn't want to drive.
I know i'd be more than unhappy if someone bought me a mk4 astra!
I think you should have spoken to her before buying it, asking if she'd be happy with that.
I know i'd be more than unhappy if someone bought me a mk4 astra!
I think you should have spoken to her before buying it, asking if she'd be happy with that.
acf8181 said:
Ok, on face of it she's being ungrateful, but imagine (as a pistonhead) if someone bought you a car you really wouldn't want to drive.
I know i'd be more than unhappy if someone bought me a mk4 astra!
I think you should have spoken to her before buying it, asking if she'd be happy with that.
But think of it this way - you have no car, which you are desperate for. Even as a PHer you could drive pretty much anything and hate it, but still appreciate the gesture.I know i'd be more than unhappy if someone bought me a mk4 astra!
I think you should have spoken to her before buying it, asking if she'd be happy with that.
Give it to sister #2, who will obviously appreciate it.
StottyZr said:
Give it to sister number 2.
When sister number 1 buys a Ford on finance wind her up about it whenever you can.
Very ungrateful IMO. She sounds like shes completely out of touch, are you from a wealthy family?
I wish we were, truth be told money and my family have always been very tight and I think in my sisters mind getting something brand new that she is paying for herself is her way of saying "I don't need the help." When sister number 1 buys a Ford on finance wind her up about it whenever you can.
Very ungrateful IMO. She sounds like shes completely out of touch, are you from a wealthy family?
I think it may be more stubborn pride than ungratefulness really as we have all been raised to be as self sufficiant as we possibly can. Maybe me buying the Polo in the first place wasn't the smartest move but the intentions were good. Should probably take this as sign to let them make their own choices in the world and stop being Mr Protective?
acf8181 said:
Ok, on face of it she's being ungrateful, but imagine (as a pistonhead) if someone bought you a car you really wouldn't want to drive.
I know i'd be more than unhappy if someone bought me a mk4 astra!
I think you should have spoken to her before buying it, asking if she'd be happy with that.
If I was in much need of a car as she was, I wouldn't give a sI know i'd be more than unhappy if someone bought me a mk4 astra!
I think you should have spoken to her before buying it, asking if she'd be happy with that.
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