2 yo falls in river

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TeamD

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233 months

Monday 19th February
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WTF? Just how?

This is bound to put the cat amongst the pigeons no doubt, but really? What is a two year old kid doing close enough to a river to fall in the bloody thing? scratchchin

Alex Z

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77 months

Monday 19th February
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A slightly flippant answer, but a lot of rivers aren’t stopping where they normally do because of the heavy rain. There are plenty of slippery edges, water outside fences and so on. That’s all the more reason to keep a close eye on a small child but it only takes a couple of seconds of inattention and they can set off.

TeamD

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233 months

Monday 19th February
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Simple solution, "Let's not take our two year old on a walk next to a swollen river" rolleyes

Sheets Tabuer

19,057 posts

216 months

Monday 19th February
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I do hope we can show some level of grace on here, this is a beyond heartbreaking.

Byker28i

60,403 posts

218 months

Monday 19th February
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Absolutely heartbreaking. Sounds like the father went in trying to save the child
https://www.leicestermercury.co.uk/news/leicester-...

As for speculation by OP, who knows if they were suddenly caught out by rapidly rising water. Absolutely heartbreaking for the family

Triumph Man

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169 months

Monday 19th February
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Sheets Tabuer said:
I do hope we can show some level of grace on here, this is a beyond heartbreaking.
Indeed. As the father of a 2 year old myself this is heartbreaking, and I feel for the parents

TeamD

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Monday 19th February
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I'm angry for the kid, someone took their eye of the ball. I have 3 kids and they're still alive because they were properly supervised (they're grown up now with kids of their own who also haven't fallen in any rivers.)

otolith

56,323 posts

205 months

Monday 19th February
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There's a nice walk by the Thames in Goring, but when it's in flood, if you went in you probably wouldn't get out. I've often seen people there with kids closer to the edge than I'd be comfortable with. I suspect familiarity makes people complacent.

SunsetZed

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171 months

Monday 19th February
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It's easy to judge but these things can happen, and even good people make mistakes looking after kids.

I know of someone who was a great mum and was walking with 18 month year old twins in a pushchair and a 4 year old alongside next to a canal. The 4 year old fell in and she immediately jumped in to try and save them but didn't apply the brake and the pushchair went in and all 3 children drowned. The mum never got over it and committed suicide a few years later.

Drumroll

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121 months

Monday 19th February
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TeamD said:
WTF? Just how?

This is bound to put the cat amongst the pigeons no doubt, but really? What is a two year old kid doing close enough to a river to fall in the bloody thing? scratchchin
Do you know what happened, or you just making inappropriate guesses?

Tankrizzo

7,290 posts

194 months

Monday 19th February
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TeamD said:
I'm angry for the kid, someone took their eye of the ball. I have 3 kids and they're still alive because they were properly supervised (they're grown up now with kids of their own who also haven't fallen in any rivers.)
I know this is a shocking thing for you to try and comprehend, but accidents can happen to even the most diligent of parents, so perhaps instead of just jumping straight in with both feet that the parents were negligent, maybe you could wind it in.

WestyCarl

3,270 posts

126 months

Monday 19th February
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TeamD said:
I'm angry for the kid, someone took their eye of the ball. I have 3 kids and they're still alive because they were properly supervised (they're grown up now with kids of their own who also haven't fallen in any rivers.)
So you're implying they weren't properly supervised without any knowledge of what happened.......

W12GT

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222 months

Monday 19th February
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WestyCarl said:
TeamD said:
I'm angry for the kid, someone took their eye of the ball. I have 3 kids and they're still alive because they were properly supervised (they're grown up now with kids of their own who also haven't fallen in any rivers.)
So you're implying they weren't properly supervised without any knowledge of what happened.......
Absolutely this. As a dad of two I have to say raising kids is the hardest thing I’ve done in my life. You cannot supervise them every second of every day. Heartbreaking, but unfortunately things happen. Terrible for any parent to have to live with.

Biker 1

7,756 posts

120 months

Monday 19th February
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I can't imagine the trauma the family is going through. Awful.

TeamD

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I'm so glad that the bleeding heart "it's a terrible unavoidable accident" types among you aren't doing the risks assesments for any jobs I'm involved in.

Biker 1

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Monday 19th February
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So you're seriously suggesting parents should draw up RAMS every time they decide to take their kids for a walk???

Mine have long since flown the nest, but the amount of near misses that happened over the years is quite sobering.
In this case, a young child appears to have tragically drowned. One can only empathise with the family. Does that make me a 'bleeding heart'??

TeamD

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Biker 1 said:
So you're seriously suggesting parents should draw up RAMS every time they decide to take their kids for a walk???

Mine have long since flown the nest, but the amount of near misses that happened over the years is quite sobering.
In this case, a young child appears to have tragically drowned. One can only empathise with the family. Does that make me a 'bleeding heart'??
Yes, I'm afraid it does. There is an awful lot of this "people doing backflips to excuse downright stupidity" stuff going on nowadays. Tell you what, next time I'm babysitting my grandkids I'll just leave them in front of the telly and nip out for a pint or two shall I? What could possibly go wrong?

BikeBikeBIke

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116 months

Monday 19th February
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W12GT said:
Absolutely this. As a dad of two I have to say raising kids is the hardest thing I’ve done in my life. You cannot supervise them every second of every day. Heartbreaking, but unfortunately things happen. Terrible for any parent to have to live with.
This.

The bad parents are the ones who keep their kids inside watching TV. You can't keep tabs on a toddler closely enough to rule out every hazard.

We've all had near misses with toddlers and any parent who says they haven't has a short memory. (The drive to the location was statistically more dangerous than the walk itself and nobody would have criticised the parents for taking the child in a car if they'd been wiped out by a lorry. (Ditto walking by a busy road.)

limpsfield

5,894 posts

254 months

Monday 19th February
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TeamD said:
I'm so glad that the bleeding heart "it's a terrible unavoidable accident" types among you aren't doing the risks assesments for any jobs I'm involved in.
Stop digging.

My son is still alive at 22 do well done me.

Accidents happen. There but for the grace of god etc.

TeamD

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limpsfield said:
TeamD said:
I'm so glad that the bleeding heart "it's a terrible unavoidable accident" types among you aren't doing the risks assesments for any jobs I'm involved in.
Stop digging.

My son is still alive at 22 do well done me.

Accidents happen. There but for the grace of god etc.
You don't get it do you? Did you bother to look at the photos of the river where the police are having to risk their lives to search for a kid who should never been taken anywhere near it in the first place!? By the looks of it, an adult should be seriously considering giving it best and going home too.