Mug tattooed on forehead?
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Morning.
Long story short my ex has just arrived back in the country. We were previously going out for two years and one night she announced she was going to leave for Australia for a year, I didn't really have much of a say in this, and predictably enough, she called me after about two weeks and said that 'she didn't think it was gonna work out'. My response of 'your loss' followed by hanging up the phone went down like a lead balloon (or so I heard) and we did not speak since.
I've honestly had a pretty lousy last year without her, basically I came to realise I was a bit of a prick towards her really, dodging times I should have been there, rocking out with the lads rather than paying her attention or whatever, and honestly speaking I haven't really lived it down. There have been other girls but they weren't really in the same league.
She arrived back a week or so ago, and called me to arrange a time to get her stuff from my place yesterday. Annoyed and playing the hard man, I responded with 'busy' to every time/day she suggested, and promptly hung up, deleted her new number from my phone.
Little after this, I realised I was walking past the exact place that we first started going out when she called me, and as I didn't even know she was back at the time, this somewhat gave me the heebie jeebies. And by somewhat I mean went home, smoked a s
tload and drank about half a bottle of whiskey, and promptly thought 'fk ME...'
After bricking some more she texted me winging about if I was free at that moment. I had her number back at least, since then there has been the odd text every couple of hours and she is meant to be coming round today and I'm crapping myself a little bit over it. I really don't know if I should be the prick, the nice guy, try and get back with her, ask her out for a drink, etc...
Anyone have any ideas?
Long story short my ex has just arrived back in the country. We were previously going out for two years and one night she announced she was going to leave for Australia for a year, I didn't really have much of a say in this, and predictably enough, she called me after about two weeks and said that 'she didn't think it was gonna work out'. My response of 'your loss' followed by hanging up the phone went down like a lead balloon (or so I heard) and we did not speak since.
I've honestly had a pretty lousy last year without her, basically I came to realise I was a bit of a prick towards her really, dodging times I should have been there, rocking out with the lads rather than paying her attention or whatever, and honestly speaking I haven't really lived it down. There have been other girls but they weren't really in the same league.
She arrived back a week or so ago, and called me to arrange a time to get her stuff from my place yesterday. Annoyed and playing the hard man, I responded with 'busy' to every time/day she suggested, and promptly hung up, deleted her new number from my phone.
Little after this, I realised I was walking past the exact place that we first started going out when she called me, and as I didn't even know she was back at the time, this somewhat gave me the heebie jeebies. And by somewhat I mean went home, smoked a s
tload and drank about half a bottle of whiskey, and promptly thought 'fk ME...'After bricking some more she texted me winging about if I was free at that moment. I had her number back at least, since then there has been the odd text every couple of hours and she is meant to be coming round today and I'm crapping myself a little bit over it. I really don't know if I should be the prick, the nice guy, try and get back with her, ask her out for a drink, etc...
Anyone have any ideas?
I would just be polite and leave her to get her crap and when she is ready to leave I would say goodbye and show her to the door. The relationship is dead and gone and you really would be a mug if you took her back...you cant be someones love and then just call it off and expect to be let back in when you have had your fun.
Or
Abuse her anus (make sure there is A2M) and then kick her out in the morning.
Or
Abuse her anus (make sure there is A2M) and then kick her out in the morning.
deviant said:
I would just be polite and leave her to get her crap and when she is ready to leave I would say goodbye and show her to the door. The relationship is dead and gone and you really would be a mug if you took her back...you cant be someones love and then just call it off and expect to be let back in when you have had your fun.
And then
deviant said:
Abuse her anoos (make sure there is A2M) and then kick her out in the morning.
I can see why you'd be pissed that she decided to suddenly leave.. but it's been a year. Just let her get her stuff and go, nailing her will just bring up a load of st in your head again and mess you up. Also, trying to get her in the sack when she's not up for it will make you seem a proper tosser.
t in your head again and mess you up. Also, trying to get her in the sack when she's not up for it will make you seem a proper tosser.Edited by JJCW on Wednesday 5th August 08:26
In order..
1) Be the nice guy
2) Focus the conversation on her, how she is and how Oz (Colonial
) was
3) Have her stuff ready to go, but offer a cup of tea
4) Let her leave thinking better of you.
5) Finish Scotch, wallow.
6) Wait for the text which asks you for a drink.
7) Go for drink, take up Oxo Tower.
Job done.
1) Be the nice guy
2) Focus the conversation on her, how she is and how Oz (Colonial
) was3) Have her stuff ready to go, but offer a cup of tea
4) Let her leave thinking better of you.
5) Finish Scotch, wallow.
6) Wait for the text which asks you for a drink.
7) Go for drink, take up Oxo Tower.
Job done.
Of course, all this texting and ringing is probably because she REALLY wants her stuff back.
Don't be a cock, she'll have changed and so should you. More than likely, she has a new fella or at least been banged sideways by about 50 different surfer dudes.
If that last sentence evoke any kind of negative emotional reaction in you, then you still have a thing for her, in which case, repeat what you have said to us, to her.
If you think you treat her badly, then you did. Guys always underestimate their own ahole-ness, I speak from experience.
Even if nothing comes of it, better to clear your chest.
Don't be a cock, she'll have changed and so should you. More than likely, she has a new fella or at least been banged sideways by about 50 different surfer dudes.
If that last sentence evoke any kind of negative emotional reaction in you, then you still have a thing for her, in which case, repeat what you have said to us, to her.
If you think you treat her badly, then you did. Guys always underestimate their own a
hole-ness, I speak from experience.Even if nothing comes of it, better to clear your chest.
Graham E said:
Stop being an arse, let her get her stuff back, and next time you're with someone, show them a bit more respect? I know this is PH, and therefore I'm expected to spout some cack about the oxo tower, but to be honest it sounds like you're behaving like a child at the moment.
Spot on, and I would add in an apology and tell her that you realise you treated her badly and hope that she can forgive you, that you recognise you have probably blown it but realise how much you miss her.In fact, what you have just told us, a gang of middle aged keyboard warriors without proper jobs.
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