Question about the street idiot.
Discussion
Hmmm.
I had issues with someone senior to me at work (army) taking issue with me parking in a particular space at home.
Terraced houses with no driveways, as the 'fronts' of the houses faced a pedestrian-only 'square' and the rears faced the woods. So ALL parking was "communal" and on a first-come first served basis.
I'd frequently find this chump had tried to block me in, but soon learned to leave a reversing gap behind my car. I'd either squeeze my car back into the gap, or find that he'd sprinted from his house to move his car while I was out.
I never did anything to get back at him, and if he was first home and parked in the favoured space, then I'd just accept it and park elsewhere.
One day it came to a head when he enlisted his friend to really block me in. Him in front, and his mate beside me. Well, while they watched me, presumably expecting me to ask nicely if they'd move their cars, I managed to squeeze the car out by using the footway to get out on the other side of their cars. They looked ever so miffed that I hadn't needed their cooperation to leave my space.
I really forced the point home, though, when I got back and their cars were both still where they'd left them earlier. I carefully put my car back exactly as it had been when they tried to block it in. This seemed to get the message across, as he seemed to lose interest in squabbling over a particular non-reserved space after that.
Some people really don't play nice with others, and there's little you can do about it. If you plead politely with them, they consider that they "have won", and if you "get heavy" with them, they seem very well equipped to gather evidence that paints them as the victim.
As for advice for the OP? I have none really. Suffice to say I hope it gets sorted because neighbour feuds are crap, and usually affect more than just those doing the feuding. My next door neighbour is one of those types who wants a confrontation about everything. It was usually other neighbours, not us, but he seemed to want people to take his side in whatever his latest quarrel was. He's having an extension built right now. We got the planning warning, and the opportunity to object. We didn't object, saw no point in it, although we weren't very happy. Then his new wife asked me what I thought of the idea. I simply said I "wasn't ecstatic about it" and that I'd probably have been happier if they'd spoken to me first rather than my first contact about it coming from the local planning people. Neither of them has spoken a word to me since. It's no great loss to be honest (he's some kind of 'Northerner' so doesn't make a lot of sense at the best of times anyway).
Maybe it's just the house he lives in though? The previous owner came round banging on my door while we were getting it ready to move into. He was yelling and threatening violence if I "didn't quite with that incessant drilling late at night". Which was odd, as despite his assertion that he'd just heard me drilling for hours and he'd had enough of it at 1 am, all I had on the go was a pot of paint and a brush. I was even listening to music on headphones so as to try to be a good neighbour. He was adamant that I was engaged in noisy DIY though, so I told him to feel free to search the house for the offending drill while I finished cutting in on the living room wall. Again, he left, with no apology, still muttering that he could hear a drill and "knew" it was coming from my house. And again he barely ever spoke to me again. All of the other neighbours are either entirely normal, or absolutely great to get on with.
I had issues with someone senior to me at work (army) taking issue with me parking in a particular space at home.
Terraced houses with no driveways, as the 'fronts' of the houses faced a pedestrian-only 'square' and the rears faced the woods. So ALL parking was "communal" and on a first-come first served basis.
I'd frequently find this chump had tried to block me in, but soon learned to leave a reversing gap behind my car. I'd either squeeze my car back into the gap, or find that he'd sprinted from his house to move his car while I was out.
I never did anything to get back at him, and if he was first home and parked in the favoured space, then I'd just accept it and park elsewhere.
One day it came to a head when he enlisted his friend to really block me in. Him in front, and his mate beside me. Well, while they watched me, presumably expecting me to ask nicely if they'd move their cars, I managed to squeeze the car out by using the footway to get out on the other side of their cars. They looked ever so miffed that I hadn't needed their cooperation to leave my space.
I really forced the point home, though, when I got back and their cars were both still where they'd left them earlier. I carefully put my car back exactly as it had been when they tried to block it in. This seemed to get the message across, as he seemed to lose interest in squabbling over a particular non-reserved space after that.
Some people really don't play nice with others, and there's little you can do about it. If you plead politely with them, they consider that they "have won", and if you "get heavy" with them, they seem very well equipped to gather evidence that paints them as the victim.
As for advice for the OP? I have none really. Suffice to say I hope it gets sorted because neighbour feuds are crap, and usually affect more than just those doing the feuding. My next door neighbour is one of those types who wants a confrontation about everything. It was usually other neighbours, not us, but he seemed to want people to take his side in whatever his latest quarrel was. He's having an extension built right now. We got the planning warning, and the opportunity to object. We didn't object, saw no point in it, although we weren't very happy. Then his new wife asked me what I thought of the idea. I simply said I "wasn't ecstatic about it" and that I'd probably have been happier if they'd spoken to me first rather than my first contact about it coming from the local planning people. Neither of them has spoken a word to me since. It's no great loss to be honest (he's some kind of 'Northerner' so doesn't make a lot of sense at the best of times anyway).
Maybe it's just the house he lives in though? The previous owner came round banging on my door while we were getting it ready to move into. He was yelling and threatening violence if I "didn't quite with that incessant drilling late at night". Which was odd, as despite his assertion that he'd just heard me drilling for hours and he'd had enough of it at 1 am, all I had on the go was a pot of paint and a brush. I was even listening to music on headphones so as to try to be a good neighbour. He was adamant that I was engaged in noisy DIY though, so I told him to feel free to search the house for the offending drill while I finished cutting in on the living room wall. Again, he left, with no apology, still muttering that he could hear a drill and "knew" it was coming from my house. And again he barely ever spoke to me again. All of the other neighbours are either entirely normal, or absolutely great to get on with.
Sa Calobra said:
As for the Marine, if he came to my door he'd be leaving without what he wanted. I don't do threats or be threatened.
Someone at Lyneham was away in Afghanistan when his missus got lonely and took up with someone else.As this person was delivering special chaps into special places, the story is that on their return they took offense to this chap, which resulted in him being escorted from a local pub with a bag over his head, then dangled over the main line railway line with 125 trains going past.
He applied for a transfer the next day.
Byker28i said:
Someone at Lyneham was away in Afghanistan when his missus got lonely and took up with someone else.
As this person was delivering special chaps into special places, the story is that on their return they took offense to this chap, which resulted in him being escorted from a local pub with a bag over his head, then dangled over the main line railway line with 125 trains going past.
He applied for a transfer the next day.
If I was doing that I'd have to be fully ballsed up to counter it As this person was delivering special chaps into special places, the story is that on their return they took offense to this chap, which resulted in him being escorted from a local pub with a bag over his head, then dangled over the main line railway line with 125 trains going past.
He applied for a transfer the next day.
As it is I only do on to others what they do onto me.
If you're going to retaliate it only works if you do it itchy and scratchy style... Otherwise he will just out-escalate you and you're back to where you started, with scratches all over your car and a missing wheel.
It works like this:
Man blocks your drive
You chop off his arm with a machete and eat it in front of him.
If you're not prepared to do that, then don't go down this road, because you'll lose.
It works like this:
Man blocks your drive
You chop off his arm with a machete and eat it in front of him.
If you're not prepared to do that, then don't go down this road, because you'll lose.
BMWBen said:
If you're going to retaliate it only works if you do it itchy and scratchy style... Otherwise he will just out-escalate you and you're back to where you started, with scratches all over your car and a missing wheel.
It works like this:
Man blocks your drive
You chop off his arm with a machete and eat it in front of him.
If you're not prepared to do that, then don't go down this road, because you'll lose.
Can you cook it first, or do you have to eat it raw?It works like this:
Man blocks your drive
You chop off his arm with a machete and eat it in front of him.
If you're not prepared to do that, then don't go down this road, because you'll lose.
You could always ask him if he had to move there to keep out of the way of someone. I've seen people behave less than discreetly even when their lives have depended on keeping a low profile - mainly because you can take the man out of s
tsville, but you can't take the stsville out of the man.
tsville, but you can't take the stsville out of the man.ElectricPics said:
You could always ask him if he had to move there to keep out of the way of someone. I've seen people behave less than discreetly even when their lives have depended on keeping a low profile - mainly because you can take the man out of stsville, but you can't take the stsville out of the man.
That’s highly. Likely to be the case, as nobody has ever moved home unless running from their past and the baying mob chasing them tsville, but you can't take the stsville out of the man.
The imagination of posters on here never fails to astound.
Not wanting to sound like a white-knight; but if someone called my wife a to her face then he'd be getting a solid chinning, damn the consequences. Frankly if he's the type he sounds like, you'd probably get away with it anyway due the the gap in intelligence.
I had a chap coming down my private lane most days with his dog about 6 months ago and his dog was stting everywhere. I confronted him about it fairly politely one evening and he gave me the mouth etc. About 2 weeks later he beckoned me out of my house at 3pm on a Sunday afternoon, after having a few lunchtime pints, looking for a fight. He got one, a very short one! Haven't seen him since. Sometimes it's the only thing people like that understand.
to her face then he'd be getting a solid chinning, damn the consequences. Frankly if he's the type he sounds like, you'd probably get away with it anyway due the the gap in intelligence.I had a chap coming down my private lane most days with his dog about 6 months ago and his dog was s
tting everywhere. I confronted him about it fairly politely one evening and he gave me the mouth etc. About 2 weeks later he beckoned me out of my house at 3pm on a Sunday afternoon, after having a few lunchtime pints, looking for a fight. He got one, a very short one! Haven't seen him since. Sometimes it's the only thing people like that understand. Johnnytheboy said:
It's amazing how many hard people one encounters on the internet.
I'm a big chap and I wouldn't even consider starting a fight with someone, what with not being at school and everything.
It is indeed , when I replied to a post a while ago and stated I'd threatened to kick fI'm a big chap and I wouldn't even consider starting a fight with someone, what with not being at school and everything.
k out of the street moron for parking over my drive I got called a schoolboy and told to get back to my PS4 by the wouldn't say boo to a goose brigade on here , but they were brave enough to call me on the interweb ! Op , sort it out face to face , I did and three of my neighbours said thank you as they were getting the same problem until I confronted him and it had been going on for quite a few months , bear in mind , someone did actually cut all four of his tyres . I've a good idea who did it but badparker was so brain dead he had no idea why it happened !
Andy-SP2 said:
Do you think that CCTV would make him think or make things worse?
I would get cctv regardless, and get it covertly covering audio and video over your doorway. There is a chance this may escalate to him kicking off on your doorstep and you want to record that if it happens, so it sinks him.
LookAtMyCat said:
Being a big chap and being a pussy are two very different things.
And a further different thing would be being aware of the disparity in freedom between even vaguely respectable people and the scumbags to actually do anything along those lines. I'm quite happy for people like this to get thumped for their invariable ishness, but I'm not going to say it's a good idea to go and do it, because you've got too much to lose if it turns into visits from plod using words like "assault", unlike the bipedal meatbag now being insultingly referred to as your "victim".Of course, if you're very sure it won't cause any blowback, go right ahead.
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