Bracknell to the city commute -been offered double my salary
Discussion
redrabbit29 said:
I know I could probably re-approach recruiter tomorrow and say I've slept on it... spoken to partner... etc... and I've had a much clearer vision of what's right
And when was you offered the position? I think you have "slept on it" for a while now...This "dithering" isn't going to look professional is it...!
redrabbit29 said:
I'm not sure if it is my gut instinct or my stupid fears of being in an alien environment.
I know I could probably re-approach recruiter tomorrow and say I've slept on it... spoken to partner... etc... and I've had a much clearer vision of what's right
Aren't most new environments going to be 'alien'? If that's the fear that is holding you back then at some point you will have to cross the threshold if you want to change/develop your career. The first transition maybe the hardest one. But later ones should be easier. I know I could probably re-approach recruiter tomorrow and say I've slept on it... spoken to partner... etc... and I've had a much clearer vision of what's right
No but she was very understanding about the fact of:
1) I was leaving the police and that is a big step
2) my anxieties over commuting as I'd never done that previously
Additionally the manager who would have been the boss on the team said to take till Friday or Tuesday (today) if I needed so I could decide if it was the right move or it
1) I was leaving the police and that is a big step
2) my anxieties over commuting as I'd never done that previously
Additionally the manager who would have been the boss on the team said to take till Friday or Tuesday (today) if I needed so I could decide if it was the right move or it
As one of the ones telling you to go for it, first off - well done for updating the thread, asking the audience, and then making a decision. If it’s the right one for you, that’s all you really need to say.
Personally, 75k in your early 30’s with no degree - that would have been very good going! Can understand why you’d feel that daunting as a result.
Now see where else you might be able to go locally, and if they’d pay more. Might find the perfect job. Or, tomorrow you may feel extremely pleased to be working where you are, in which case you can relax!
Personally, 75k in your early 30’s with no degree - that would have been very good going! Can understand why you’d feel that daunting as a result.
Now see where else you might be able to go locally, and if they’d pay more. Might find the perfect job. Or, tomorrow you may feel extremely pleased to be working where you are, in which case you can relax!
I would tend to agree that you've given up a great opportunity. Will you ever get the chance to double your salary again??
The way you are feeling about your decision should tell you that you are unsure about it. I would urge you to call you them in the morning and go for it. You will never know otherwise!
The amount of things you could do in that hour train ride is endless! When kids come along It could even be the 2 hours of your day you'll look forward to the most!
Life is for living... go grab it!
The way you are feeling about your decision should tell you that you are unsure about it. I would urge you to call you them in the morning and go for it. You will never know otherwise!
The amount of things you could do in that hour train ride is endless! When kids come along It could even be the 2 hours of your day you'll look forward to the most!
Life is for living... go grab it!
I think you may be right.
If I feel the same regrets tomorrow, I will call the recruiter 8-830 and explain. I will say that After the initial decision I instantly regretted it and that I see now that the right decision and right move is to go for it.
From what I know, recruiters get this sometimes and I think if you're quick in notifying them/employer then the situation can be rescued
(I'm not usually so ridiculously indecisive and hesitant... but I am a worried and naturally
Anxious person and so massive changes like this are sometimes very difficult)
If I feel the same regrets tomorrow, I will call the recruiter 8-830 and explain. I will say that After the initial decision I instantly regretted it and that I see now that the right decision and right move is to go for it.
From what I know, recruiters get this sometimes and I think if you're quick in notifying them/employer then the situation can be rescued
(I'm not usually so ridiculously indecisive and hesitant... but I am a worried and naturally
Anxious person and so massive changes like this are sometimes very difficult)
If you took the job & hated it, what are the propects of returning to your current employer? Maybe it wouldn't be your old job, but are there other jobs that come up? Perhaps this would be a bit of a safety blanket if the wheels do come off.
It's unfortunate that the excitement of the new job (not the money) isn't enough to outweigh the travelling concerns but as everyone always says, you regret the things you didn't do in life. I'm sure you'll hate the first month but once you get into a routine & you manage to do something useful on the journey in then you'll come to accept it. It will never be fun but it may be bearable.
It's unfortunate that the excitement of the new job (not the money) isn't enough to outweigh the travelling concerns but as everyone always says, you regret the things you didn't do in life. I'm sure you'll hate the first month but once you get into a routine & you manage to do something useful on the journey in then you'll come to accept it. It will never be fun but it may be bearable.
You can return to the police within 5 years of leaving. I'd not get back into my specialist role anytime soon. But you're right, a safety blanket if I did realise I'd made a mistake.
The job does sound exciting, especially helping to set new policies and working procedures for a brand new team of colleagues.
My issue is I'm naturally (not deliberately) a glass half full person. Some may dive right in and not even think about the possibility of it being a bad move. I seem to get hung up on the minute, tiny details and worry continually about the whole thing.
The job does sound exciting, especially helping to set new policies and working procedures for a brand new team of colleagues.
My issue is I'm naturally (not deliberately) a glass half full person. Some may dive right in and not even think about the possibility of it being a bad move. I seem to get hung up on the minute, tiny details and worry continually about the whole thing.
Digger said:
Recruiters no doubt experience this all the time, should you decide to pick up the phone again in the morning. He / She will understand.
I'm not sure, she is very nice and has been very understanding. She's been off work today which is why I emailed due to the company chasing a decision. If I do contact her first thing in the morning then it's likely she will not have approached anyone else or crossed me off her list entirely.
The recruiter was encouraging me to go for it as she knew I was really unsure.
The email I sent may be hard to go back on too ... here's an extract...
I'm very sorry to say that I've had some time to consider the offer and I'm just not sure it's a move that I can commit to long term at this stage. Trying to come to this decision has been extremely difficult and numerous times I've gone back and forth which is why I've taken so long to decide, particularly as I do see it as a good opportunity but just not one for me at this time.
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EDIT: I'm fairly positive she would understand if I contact her first thing and just give her an honest explanation. I think she'd just want to complete the process having come so far
Edited by redrabbit29 on Wednesday 30th May 00:20
My 2p... About 17 years ago I worked for a year commuting into my then office next to Lloyds of London. It was utter hell.
I was in my early 20s at the time and live on the south coast; the trains back then were horrendous; often late, cancelled completely or we were stuffed in like sardines. In the summer it was unbearable; the stench of a hundred peoples' stale sweat, standing room only for nearly 90 mins and paying through the nose for the privilege... The carriages are definitely nicer now but I'd imagine it'd still be standing and still hot in the summer as the AC never seems to be cool enough!
The trains may well be better now and I'd imagine a LOT easier from your location than mine. I swore blind that I wouldn't ever commute into London for work again unless the salary had 6 digits and even then it would be a difficult decision. Oh and if my office was anything to go by, it's really politically difficult to swerve the post-work drinks especially as a newbie!
Edit: just read on and see you turned it down due to the commute... I don't blame you! As others have pointed out your +£35k will be nuked at 40% and then £4-5k (net) on travel. Chuck in the poorer pension and the lost time and I can see why you made the decision you did.
On the plus side, you now know the sort of value you can have - I would look for similar roles a little closer to home that may not have such a high headline salary but do offer you the progression and opportunity you crave. Good luck!
I was in my early 20s at the time and live on the south coast; the trains back then were horrendous; often late, cancelled completely or we were stuffed in like sardines. In the summer it was unbearable; the stench of a hundred peoples' stale sweat, standing room only for nearly 90 mins and paying through the nose for the privilege... The carriages are definitely nicer now but I'd imagine it'd still be standing and still hot in the summer as the AC never seems to be cool enough!
The trains may well be better now and I'd imagine a LOT easier from your location than mine. I swore blind that I wouldn't ever commute into London for work again unless the salary had 6 digits and even then it would be a difficult decision. Oh and if my office was anything to go by, it's really politically difficult to swerve the post-work drinks especially as a newbie!
Edit: just read on and see you turned it down due to the commute... I don't blame you! As others have pointed out your +£35k will be nuked at 40% and then £4-5k (net) on travel. Chuck in the poorer pension and the lost time and I can see why you made the decision you did.
On the plus side, you now know the sort of value you can have - I would look for similar roles a little closer to home that may not have such a high headline salary but do offer you the progression and opportunity you crave. Good luck!
Edited by Funk on Wednesday 30th May 00:22
pitlane said:
In my line of work going with your gut instinct does indeed often prove to be the right call.
However, I wouldn't be where I am today without the massive leap out of my comfort zone that I took to get here.
It sounds like that comfort zone will limit your future options unless you push out of it sometime.
Speak with the recruiter in the morning and discuss your fears, it's not like you have anything to lose by doing so. If the company want you then they should be understanding, if they aren't you probably wouldn't want to have gone there anyway.
Hope it all works out OP , but this ^ is the correct answer . Unless you're very fortunate sometimes you have to push the boat out , I did it in an extreme way and thankfully it worked . Best of luck whichever choice you decide on fella .However, I wouldn't be where I am today without the massive leap out of my comfort zone that I took to get here.
It sounds like that comfort zone will limit your future options unless you push out of it sometime.
Speak with the recruiter in the morning and discuss your fears, it's not like you have anything to lose by doing so. If the company want you then they should be understanding, if they aren't you probably wouldn't want to have gone there anyway.
So you're taking the job?
I've read from page one and instantly thought 'yup, you've got to give it a try'
I was disappointed, that a complete stranger on the internet, turned down what seemed like a very good opportunity.
Hope it goes well, it sounds like you've really got room to put your mark on this role and within the company.
I've read from page one and instantly thought 'yup, you've got to give it a try'
I was disappointed, that a complete stranger on the internet, turned down what seemed like a very good opportunity.
Hope it goes well, it sounds like you've really got room to put your mark on this role and within the company.
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