Throwing in the towel

[funkyrobot]

johnwilliams77 said:

funkyrobot said:

On reflection, you are right.

I'm going to write to HR.

Are you serious? I cannot believe you are even considering going back if you don't need to.

I'm quite wary of the sick leave thing. I don't want it to affect my ability to find another job. If I hand in my notice and spend the notice period on sick leave, won't this have an adverse affect on things like references for my next job?

[TTmonkey]

Companies are very afraid to give negative references these days, the big companies simply say when you worked there for.

[funkyrobot]

TTmonkey said:

Companies are very afraid to give negative references these days, the big companies simply say when you worked there for.

I currently work for a very, very small company.

[funkyrobot]

johnwilliams77 said:

funkyrobot said:

On reflection, you are right.

I'm going to write to HR.

Are you serious? I cannot believe you are even considering going back if you don't need to.

I'm not going back.

Notice being written. Complaint about manager being written (don't know what that will achieve). Will go to the doctors when my first week of self cert is up. To be fair, I'm not the best mentally anyway so things like this end up hampering my health.

After yet more rubbish at work, I had a lengthy chat with my wife (who wants me to be happy). I have finally stopped procrastinating and made the decision.

Job hunting starts immediately and I will aim to pick up something part time for summer (giving me the family time). I'll also look for something full time for when my daughter goes to school. Speaking of her, it really hit me this morning how my mental health projects on her. She is only 3 and doesn't need to worrying about her daddy (which she does).

Finances are fine for a few months. Have the funds, but don't want to dip further into anything after that. Some think I'm mad and rather stupid. Some have said good for you. Wife fully understands the situation and to be fair, it doesn't really matter too much what anyone else thinks.

[familyguy1]

sounds like you have wonderful support and decent resources to support your family.

Enjoy the summer and I wish you luck and hope you will feel like a weight has been taken off your shoulders which can only help with your mood.

Edited by familyguy1 on Tuesday 3rd July 12:02

[Petroleum Gas]

Like yourself I was miserable in my job and left at the start of June with no other job to go too. I have been applying to loads of positions and had quite a few interviews.

It’s a great feeling getting out a company you hate. I have absolutely no regrets and I’m much happier. Good luck on your job hunt

[johnwilliams77]

funkyrobot said:

I'm not going back.

Notice being written. Complaint about manager being written (don't know what that will achieve). Will go to the doctors when my first week of self cert is up. To be fair, I'm not the best mentally anyway so things like this end up hampering my health.

After yet more rubbish at work, I had a lengthy chat with my wife (who wants me to be happy). I have finally stopped procrastinating and made the decision.

Job hunting starts immediately and I will aim to pick up something part time for summer (giving me the family time). I'll also look for something full time for when my daughter goes to school. Speaking of her, it really hit me this morning how my mental health projects on her. She is only 3 and doesn't need to worrying about her daddy (which she does).

Finances are fine for a few months. Have the funds, but don't want to dip further into anything after that. Some think I'm mad and rather stupid. Some have said good for you. Wife fully understands the situation and to be fair, it doesn't really matter too much what anyone else thinks.

FANTASTIC! You won't miss this weirdo. Hope it works out.

[funkyrobot]

johnwilliams77 said:

funkyrobot said:

I'm not going back.

Notice being written. Complaint about manager being written (don't know what that will achieve). Will go to the doctors when my first week of self cert is up. To be fair, I'm not the best mentally anyway so things like this end up hampering my health.

After yet more rubbish at work, I had a lengthy chat with my wife (who wants me to be happy). I have finally stopped procrastinating and made the decision.

Job hunting starts immediately and I will aim to pick up something part time for summer (giving me the family time). I'll also look for something full time for when my daughter goes to school. Speaking of her, it really hit me this morning how my mental health projects on her. She is only 3 and doesn't need to worrying about her daddy (which she does).

Finances are fine for a few months. Have the funds, but don't want to dip further into anything after that. Some think I'm mad and rather stupid. Some have said good for you. Wife fully understands the situation and to be fair, it doesn't really matter too much what anyone else thinks.

FANTASTIC! You won't miss this weirdo. Hope it works out.

[funkyrobot]

Petroleum Gas said:

Like yourself I was miserable in my job and left at the start of June with no other job to go too. I have been applying to loads of positions and had quite a few interviews.

It’s a great feeling getting out a company you hate. I have absolutely no regrets and I’m much happier. Good luck on your job hunt

Hope it goes ok for you.

[funkyrobot]

familyguy1 said:

sounds like you have wonderful support and decent resources to support your family.

Enjoy the summer and I wish you luck and hope you will feel like a weight has been taken off your shoulders which can only help with your mood.

Thanks.

Edited by familyguy1 on Tuesday 3rd July 12:02

[bexVN]

johnwilliams77 said:

funkyrobot said:

I'm not going back.

Notice being written. Complaint about manager being written (don't know what that will achieve). Will go to the doctors when my first week of self cert is up. To be fair, I'm not the best mentally anyway so things like this end up hampering my health.

After yet more rubbish at work, I had a lengthy chat with my wife (who wants me to be happy). I have finally stopped procrastinating and made the decision.

Job hunting starts immediately and I will aim to pick up something part time for summer (giving me the family time). I'll also look for something full time for when my daughter goes to school. Speaking of her, it really hit me this morning how my mental health projects on her. She is only 3 and doesn't need to worrying about her daddy (which she does).

Finances are fine for a few months. Have the funds, but don't want to dip further into anything after that. Some think I'm mad and rather stupid. Some have said good for you. Wife fully understands the situation and to be fair, it doesn't really matter too much what anyone else thinks.

FANTASTIC! You won't miss this weirdo. Hope it works out.

Can you mention in your letter that you were aware of the manager asking about female staff thinking of becoming pregnant etc as that is a huge no!!

Good luck, I wish I had the strength and finances to do the same. I would get out of my job in a shot!!

[funkyrobot]

bexVN said:

johnwilliams77 said:

funkyrobot said:

I'm not going back.

Notice being written. Complaint about manager being written (don't know what that will achieve). Will go to the doctors when my first week of self cert is up. To be fair, I'm not the best mentally anyway so things like this end up hampering my health.

After yet more rubbish at work, I had a lengthy chat with my wife (who wants me to be happy). I have finally stopped procrastinating and made the decision.

Job hunting starts immediately and I will aim to pick up something part time for summer (giving me the family time). I'll also look for something full time for when my daughter goes to school. Speaking of her, it really hit me this morning how my mental health projects on her. She is only 3 and doesn't need to worrying about her daddy (which she does).

Finances are fine for a few months. Have the funds, but don't want to dip further into anything after that. Some think I'm mad and rather stupid. Some have said good for you. Wife fully understands the situation and to be fair, it doesn't really matter too much what anyone else thinks.

FANTASTIC! You won't miss this weirdo. Hope it works out.

Can you mention in your letter that you were aware of the manager asking about female staff thinking of becoming pregnant etc as that is a huge no!!

Good luck, I wish I had the strength and finances to do the same. I would get out of my job in a shot!!

Thanks.

It's the CEO that has been asking that as he interviews potential new staff.

[bexVN]

funkyrobot said:

bexVN said:

johnwilliams77 said:

funkyrobot said:

I'm not going back.

Notice being written. Complaint about manager being written (don't know what that will achieve). Will go to the doctors when my first week of self cert is up. To be fair, I'm not the best mentally anyway so things like this end up hampering my health.

After yet more rubbish at work, I had a lengthy chat with my wife (who wants me to be happy). I have finally stopped procrastinating and made the decision.

Job hunting starts immediately and I will aim to pick up something part time for summer (giving me the family time). I'll also look for something full time for when my daughter goes to school. Speaking of her, it really hit me this morning how my mental health projects on her. She is only 3 and doesn't need to worrying about her daddy (which she does).

Finances are fine for a few months. Have the funds, but don't want to dip further into anything after that. Some think I'm mad and rather stupid. Some have said good for you. Wife fully understands the situation and to be fair, it doesn't really matter too much what anyone else thinks.

FANTASTIC! You won't miss this weirdo. Hope it works out.

Can you mention in your letter that you were aware of the manager asking about female staff thinking of becoming pregnant etc as that is a huge no!!

Good luck, I wish I had the strength and finances to do the same. I would get out of my job in a shot!!

Thanks.

It's the CEO that has been asking that as he interviews potential new staff.

Yes, sorry I realised I was referring to the wrong person! Either way though the CEO is being unlawful with this question and is classed as discriminatory, they are not allowed to ask if a female is pregnant or planning to be. They should be reported somehow.

Not going to be a concern for you soon though

[funkyrobot]

bexVN said:

funkyrobot said:

bexVN said:

johnwilliams77 said:

funkyrobot said:

I'm not going back.

Notice being written. Complaint about manager being written (don't know what that will achieve). Will go to the doctors when my first week of self cert is up. To be fair, I'm not the best mentally anyway so things like this end up hampering my health.

After yet more rubbish at work, I had a lengthy chat with my wife (who wants me to be happy). I have finally stopped procrastinating and made the decision.

Job hunting starts immediately and I will aim to pick up something part time for summer (giving me the family time). I'll also look for something full time for when my daughter goes to school. Speaking of her, it really hit me this morning how my mental health projects on her. She is only 3 and doesn't need to worrying about her daddy (which she does).

Finances are fine for a few months. Have the funds, but don't want to dip further into anything after that. Some think I'm mad and rather stupid. Some have said good for you. Wife fully understands the situation and to be fair, it doesn't really matter too much what anyone else thinks.

FANTASTIC! You won't miss this weirdo. Hope it works out.

Can you mention in your letter that you were aware of the manager asking about female staff thinking of becoming pregnant etc as that is a huge no!!

Good luck, I wish I had the strength and finances to do the same. I would get out of my job in a shot!!

Thanks.

It's the CEO that has been asking that as he interviews potential new staff.

Yes, sorry I realised I was referring to the wrong person! Either way though the CEO is being unlawful with this question and is classed as discriminatory, they are not allowed to ask if a female is pregnant or planning to be. They should be reported somehow.

Not going to be a concern for you soon though

No worries.

[Royce44]

Great to read this morning. I always felt that going part time wasn't the correct solution.

Really hope it all works out nicely for you. Keep this updated :-)

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Royce44 said:

Great to read this morning. I always felt that going part time wasn't the correct solution.

Really hope it all works out nicely for you. Keep this updated :-)

Thanks.

Docs appointment booked for this morning. Will be nice when I don't have to ring in each morning and speak to the manager.

[funkyrobot]

Doc visit done. I scored rather highly on the mental health check. So highly in fact that the doctor wants to put me on anti depressants and sleeping tablets. I have refused, for now, and I'm being reviewed in a few weeks.

Sick note sent to manager.

Just have to finalise the resignation stuff now.

[anonymous-user]

So when does the resignation go live?

[funkyrobot]

garyhun said:

So when does the resignation go live?

A very nice PH'er sent me some stuff over to read before I finalise the letter. It will be sent over tonight (when my daughter is in bed).

[anonymous-user]

funkyrobot said:

garyhun said:

So when does the resignation go live?

A very nice PH'er sent me some stuff over to read before I finalise the letter. It will be sent over tonight (when my daughter is in bed).

Perfect!