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To add, on thinking about this, has it gone straight to grievance? You referred to a meeting, was this with the manager? This should have been dealt with by her manager, only then if they had grounds taken further? I struggle to see the grounds for a grievance if it followed process.
surveyor said:
Grateful for any advice.
Who started it is the first question. Your wife apologised so I assume she did.
What did the other person say when they "gave as good as they got".
Has anyone else in the area complained about the "dispute"?
Your wife "may" have a disability and/or certainly a reasonable excuse given her condition (she may have medication etc) which would also need to be taken into account..
Edited by Jasandjules on Tuesday 9th April 18:41
Jasandjules said:
surveyor said:
Grateful for any advice.
Who started it is the first question. Your wife apologised so I assume she did.
What did the other person say when they "gave as good as they got".
Has anyone else in the area complained about the "dispute"?
Your wife "may" have a disability and/or certainly a reasonable excuse given her condition (she may have medication etc) which would also need to be taken into account..
Edited by Jasandjules on Tuesday 9th April 18:41
2. Wife cannot remember all the details. She lost it. She has been told by colleagues that she did not swear etc . Bolshy wife opinion was counted by Bolshy colleague
3. No one else has complained, albeit other members of the team have moved locations to avoid the colleague.
surveyor said:
1. Wife started it after colleague joined the conversation.
2. Wife cannot remember all the details. She lost it. She has been told by colleagues that she did not swear etc . Bolshy wife opinion was counted by Bolshy colleague
3. No one else has complained, albeit other members of the team have moved locations to avoid the colleague.
Bit in bold.2. Wife cannot remember all the details. She lost it. She has been told by colleagues that she did not swear etc . Bolshy wife opinion was counted by Bolshy colleague
3. No one else has complained, albeit other members of the team have moved locations to avoid the colleague.
This is quite common in my experience. The last person I dealt with genuinely couldn't remember saying some of the things she said (I believed her) and yet several witnesses confirmed independently exactly what she had said, almost identically to each other.
When people get angry, and have other issues going on, they can't often properly recall what happened.
Nice result.
The menopause is tough. My wife is 50 and has been struggling for a while. Our GP was quite ineffective.
Here work provide BUPA so for a £150 excess, she say a dedicated Doctor who was brilliant. She’s really good now.
I hope she gets it sorted. It’s tough on husbands too. And certain colleagues lol
The menopause is tough. My wife is 50 and has been struggling for a while. Our GP was quite ineffective.
Here work provide BUPA so for a £150 excess, she say a dedicated Doctor who was brilliant. She’s really good now.
I hope she gets it sorted. It’s tough on husbands too. And certain colleagues lol
surveyor said:
Bit of progress.
HR have declined to get involved, and say that this is a falling out between colleagues and should be dealt with informally.
Which is good news.
Good stuff, I wonder if others have noted that the other party gave as good as she got which rather nets off in the main.HR have declined to get involved, and say that this is a falling out between colleagues and should be dealt with informally.
Which is good news.
surveyor said:
Bit of progress.
HR have declined to get involved, and say that this is a falling out between colleagues and should be dealt with informally.
Which is good news.
Common sense prevails! Buy your wife some flowers, make sure she gets some time to get her head on straight with HRT and stuff and then move on from it all HR have declined to get involved, and say that this is a falling out between colleagues and should be dealt with informally.
Which is good news.
Squadrone Rosso said:
Nice result.
The menopause is tough. My wife is 50 and has been struggling for a while. Our GP was quite ineffective.
Here work provide BUPA so for a £150 excess, she say a dedicated Doctor who was brilliant. She’s really good now.
I hope she gets it sorted. It’s tough on husbands too. And certain colleagues lol
It's hardly surprising that the menopause plus empty nest syndrome results in so many divorces. I'd like to see a new version of Shirley Valentine, written from the blokes point of view. The menopause is tough. My wife is 50 and has been struggling for a while. Our GP was quite ineffective.
Here work provide BUPA so for a £150 excess, she say a dedicated Doctor who was brilliant. She’s really good now.
I hope she gets it sorted. It’s tough on husbands too. And certain colleagues lol
Most men, including me, are like a rabbit in the headlights.
Jim Royle in the Royle family was excellent "Don't worry Babs we'll get through it, don't you worry. Now. Do you want a cup of tea? Put the kettle on then"
Squadrone Rosso said:
Nice result.
The menopause is tough. My wife is 50 and has been struggling for a while. Our GP was quite ineffective.
Here work provide BUPA so for a £150 excess, she say a dedicated Doctor who was brilliant. She’s really good now.
I hope she gets it sorted. It’s tough on husbands too. And certain colleagues lol
My wife has been trying to see her GP all week. Tuesday morning she called then 67 times and did not get through.The menopause is tough. My wife is 50 and has been struggling for a while. Our GP was quite ineffective.
Here work provide BUPA so for a £150 excess, she say a dedicated Doctor who was brilliant. She’s really good now.
I hope she gets it sorted. It’s tough on husbands too. And certain colleagues lol
She's now day 3 waiting for a call-back form the online form.
It is why she fell off HRT originally as the doctor wanted to see her before renewing the prescription but getting an appointment is next to impossible.
I guess private healthcare is an unlikely option given her NHS trust employer!
surveyor said:
My wife has been trying to see her GP all week. Tuesday morning she called then 67 times and did not get through.
Unless the practice answering (?!!) system cuts her off after a certain wait period, she needs to wait on the line until answered. Hanging up calling again just gets you to the back of the queue.CHLEMCBH said:
surveyor said:
My wife has been trying to see her GP all week. Tuesday morning she called then 67 times and did not get through.
Unless the practice answering (?!!) system cuts her off after a certain wait period, she needs to wait on the line until answered. Hanging up calling again just gets you to the back of the queue.surveyor said:
My wife has been trying to see her GP all week. Tuesday morning she called then 67 times and did not get through.
She's now day 3 waiting for a call-back form the online form.
It is why she fell off HRT originally as the doctor wanted to see her before renewing the prescription but getting an appointment is next to impossible.
I guess private healthcare is an unlikely option given her NHS trust employer!
Could OT at work help? She's now day 3 waiting for a call-back form the online form.
It is why she fell off HRT originally as the doctor wanted to see her before renewing the prescription but getting an appointment is next to impossible.
I guess private healthcare is an unlikely option given her NHS trust employer!
Situation sounds odd though - it happens to both wife and i with blood pressure tablets. The receptionist starts off by saying we need to call at 8AM - my wife (she's better at these things than me) tells the receptionist to sort it out and she rings back with an appt. Perhaps our GP is better than I think they are!
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