Turning down a promotion?
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Mods: Please don't move this to Business, it's not really about that at all 
Has anyone ever turned down a promotion simply because they enjoy their current job?
I'm currently in a bit of a quandrary. I'm very lucky to have a secure job, that I'm good at, and recognised as such. I work with a fantastic team of people, but especially my partner. It sounds a bit stalkerish, but she really does make it a pleasant experience going to work each day.
There's no romantic connection, she's happily married and so am I. But she is easy on the eye, there's no denying that
and we're really good friends, in a way that I can't explain. I trust her implicitly and the job is seamless when we work together. I've worked with others when she's been off for whatever reason, and although they're equally capable, there's just something lacking - a chemistry, almost.
My boss is currently off sick, and with his retirement due in a few months anwyway, it's very possible he won't come back. I've been covering for him for several weeks now, and while I'm quite enjoying the responsibility and the demands that come with a management role, work has stopped being fun
Due to a bit of a complicated issue with payscales, if I apply for this position when it becomes available, it won't actually mean any pay rise over what I'm already doing, but obviously, prospects for further promotions may be available down the line. It's very much a case of 'dead man's shoes' where I work, the other equivalent managers are all in fine fettle and short of someone resigning, there's unlikely to be another opportunity for many years.
I'm seriously considering not applying for this position on the grounds that I enjoy my current position too much, and I'd genuinely miss working with my partner.
Am I being stupid? Abuse and advice equally gratefully received!
Has anyone ever turned down a promotion simply because they enjoy their current job?
I'm currently in a bit of a quandrary. I'm very lucky to have a secure job, that I'm good at, and recognised as such. I work with a fantastic team of people, but especially my partner. It sounds a bit stalkerish, but she really does make it a pleasant experience going to work each day.
There's no romantic connection, she's happily married and so am I. But she is easy on the eye, there's no denying that
and we're really good friends, in a way that I can't explain. I trust her implicitly and the job is seamless when we work together. I've worked with others when she's been off for whatever reason, and although they're equally capable, there's just something lacking - a chemistry, almost.My boss is currently off sick, and with his retirement due in a few months anwyway, it's very possible he won't come back. I've been covering for him for several weeks now, and while I'm quite enjoying the responsibility and the demands that come with a management role, work has stopped being fun
Due to a bit of a complicated issue with payscales, if I apply for this position when it becomes available, it won't actually mean any pay rise over what I'm already doing, but obviously, prospects for further promotions may be available down the line. It's very much a case of 'dead man's shoes' where I work, the other equivalent managers are all in fine fettle and short of someone resigning, there's unlikely to be another opportunity for many years.
I'm seriously considering not applying for this position on the grounds that I enjoy my current position too much, and I'd genuinely miss working with my partner.
Am I being stupid? Abuse and advice equally gratefully received!
Emsman said:
Take his office, his big desk and have your way with your workmate after hours.
(the one that is attractive, but happily married, but easy on the eye, the one that makes going to work such a pleasure, in such a friendly way that you can't explain)
Would that be the one he'd "genuinely miss working with"? (the one that is attractive, but happily married, but easy on the eye, the one that makes going to work such a pleasure, in such a friendly way that you can't explain)
DrTre said:
Emsman said:
Take his office, his big desk and have your way with your workmate after hours.
(the one that is attractive, but happily married, but easy on the eye, the one that makes going to work such a pleasure, in such a friendly way that you can't explain)
Would that be the one he'd "genuinely miss working with"? (the one that is attractive, but happily married, but easy on the eye, the one that makes going to work such a pleasure, in such a friendly way that you can't explain)
Maybe should have posted in Business after all 
That's the one- the one for the company which won't have another opportunity for many years.Good plan, except that there's no separate office, his desk is in the same room, and there's no such thing as after hours when it's a 24/7 workplace.
Emsman said:
DrTre said:
Emsman said:
Take his office, his big desk and have your way with your workmate after hours.
(the one that is attractive, but happily married, but easy on the eye, the one that makes going to work such a pleasure, in such a friendly way that you can't explain)
Would that be the one he'd "genuinely miss working with"? (the one that is attractive, but happily married, but easy on the eye, the one that makes going to work such a pleasure, in such a friendly way that you can't explain)
Stevenj214 said:
She'll never sleep with you. Apply for the job.
I'm not expecting she will - I have a wife at home for that. 
She's not eligible to apply for the job even if she wanted to. In all seriousness, if you're happy in your current job then considering it's what you spend the vast majority of your waking life doing then that counts for an enormous amount....
...HOWEVER (see, capitals, this bit's important), bear in mind your co-working relationship won't be around forever and you'll probably end up regretting not taking this opportunity when that happens and you're lumbered with Cletus the MingMong for your next partner.
In short, go out, get drunk, it's nearly the weekend.
ETA f
k. It's Thursday not Friday. bks.
...HOWEVER (see, capitals, this bit's important), bear in mind your co-working relationship won't be around forever and you'll probably end up regretting not taking this opportunity when that happens and you're lumbered with Cletus the MingMong for your next partner.
In short, go out, get drunk, it's nearly the weekend.
ETA f
k. It's Thursday not Friday. bks.I turned down the chance to do acting management in the mid 90,s after leading some training courses and didnt go back in to acting management/looking for a full time manegerial position until 2008.Big mistake i would probably be in a nice little number by now if i had taken the opportunity in the 90,s.Luckily the training and experience i am gaining is good personal development.Never turn an opportunity down.
I was working deepsea on ships and i live in the northeast of scotland and my company at the time offered me a promotion
This promotion meant
Earning less money
Living in london
traveling more
and spending less time with my family
I was never exactly sure how this was meant to be a promotion
This promotion meant
Earning less money
Living in london
traveling more
and spending less time with my family
I was never exactly sure how this was meant to be a promotion
DrTre said:
In all seriousness, if you're happy in your current job then considering it's what you spend the vast majority of your waking life doing then that counts for an enormous amount....
...HOWEVER (see, capitals, this bit's important), bear in mind your co-working relationship won't be around forever and you'll probably end up regretting not taking this opportunity when that happens and you're lumbered with Cletus the MingMong for your next partner.
In short, go out, get drunk, it's nearly the weekend.
...HOWEVER (see, capitals, this bit's important), bear in mind your co-working relationship won't be around forever and you'll probably end up regretting not taking this opportunity when that happens and you're lumbered with Cletus the MingMong for your next partner.
In short, go out, get drunk, it's nearly the weekend.
That's the thing though, so many people I know begrudge getting up and going to work, because they don't want to be there. I don't want to be one of them.
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