Turning down a promotion?

[sparks_E39]

When I worked at large well known supermarket I turned down managers training and £22k, because I didn't want to stay there and, and, well generally it was awful there.

Edited by sparks_E39 on Thursday 17th March 18:06

[NiceCupOfTea]

Take the promotion.

Do you think things will stay the same forever?

What if she takes it?
What if somebody else gets it and changes the team structure?
What if she leaves?

[NDA]

Are you expected to apply for this soon to be vacant position? If so, are you regarded as the 'obvious choice'?

Not applying for it would, in most companies (I don't know what you do) be seen as a negative - you'd be seen as someone lacking in ambition.

Have you spoken to your colleague about the situation?

[Blown2CV]

kidding yourself, you love the woman

[Justayellowbadge]

Doesn't this end with her offering it to you on a plate at a conference at the Swindon travel lodge, a little light stalking, much awkwardness, another post on here, her getting the job and you becoming her dancing monkey boy as your wife feels the first stirrimgs of mistrust leading to a bedsit, pot noodle and weeping wks?

[parapaul]

Justayellowbadge said:

Doesn't this end with her offering it to you on a plate at a conference at the Swindon travel lodge, a little light stalking, much awkwardness, another post on here, her getting the job and you becoming her dancing monkey boy as your wife feels the first stirrimgs of mistrust leading to a bedsit, pot noodle and weeping wks?

[davepoth]

parapaul said:

IMO, take the promotion. If you don't, I'd be surprised if your company ever offers you another. I assume that your new position, for want of a better expression, would be directly above your friend? That will still leave plenty of opportunity for interaction. And favouritism.

[Jasandjules]

If you like your job and to seek promotion would impact on that, then why go for it?

Life isn't all about money (long term gain rather than now of course), if you are happy, that's worth so much more IMHO.

[philthy]

Jasandjules said:

If you like your job and to seek promotion would impact on that, then why go for it?

Life isn't all about money (long term gain rather than now of course), if you are happy, that's worth so much more IMHO.

Best post so far.

Which do you prefer, happiness, or racing rats? IMO,if you choose to take this promotion, you will regret it.

[Stevenj214]

parapaul said:

Stevenj214 said:

She'll never sleep with you. Apply for the job.

I'm not expecting she will - I have a wife at home for that.

Replace her in this scenario with your best male friend. Still not fancy that promotion?

[FranKinFezza]

If its not clear enough for you yet TAKE THE PROMOTION it may not be a "nice"
as your current post but you said your self its a "dead mans shoes" place
you may never get another chance and as you said it may well be the only
way to further promotion and better pay so DO IT.

[mikey-r]

Get the promotion, get your feet under the table, get 'her' in as your assistant - job done!

[RSGulp]

What job do you do where you have a 'partner'? Figure skater? Tag team wrestler? Pantomime horse?

Doh, just read your profile. Ambwilans man.

[YOF626]

Jasandjules said:

If you like your job and to seek promotion would impact on that, then why go for it?

Life isn't all about money (long term gain rather than now of course), if you are happy, that's worth so much more IMHO.

This.

[mrmr96]

Have we not requested the obligatory pics yet?

Seriously, there's nothing wrong with sticking at a job that you enjoy, whatever the reason. Even if you got paid more if work's no longer enjoyable you'll probably regret it. That said, you may find you start to enjoy the new job after a while.

[PintOfKittens]

Is your promotion mean you'll be the officer, ie. dealing with people's holidays and fkups, as opposed to going out to Red1's who turns out to be a mincer who's had toe pain for the last 6 years but decided to call an ambulance now?

[Greedydog]

I remember a number of years ago I used to work with a great team of guys and girls, lots of laughs, really enjoyed going into work but gradually people, including myself, moved on. Now there's not one of the originals left in the area.... if you stay all that will happen is that one day your partner will move (if she doesn't go for the promotion!) and you'll get teamed up with some random.... take the chance now while you can. Alternatively of course you could stay and do the whole sexual harrassment thing and we can see the repercussions here in a few months!

[Teebs]

swerni said:

I didn't turn it down.
But about 15 years ago I was made a manager and was running a team of 15 reps.
Did it for a year before deciding that management meant, longer hours, more stress and less pay.

Been a rep ever since.

A few reps in our company have done the same thing. My boss has turned down the opportunity to progress as he doesn't want to be away from home all the time. Horses for courses.

Our big boss must do 70 hours per week at least, leaves home at 5.30am every morning, regardless of where in the country he is heading (Lives in Glasgow-covers down to Birmingham).

[Rude-boy]

It does happen. We have a secretary who has been with the firm for over 30 years.

She is a lot brighter and more on the ball as a many solicitors I have met. She could do a Legal Exec’s course in her sleep and would most likely breeze an LLb. We have offered her lots of opportunities and so on over the years but she’s perfectly happy turning up at 9, leaving at 5 and, quite frankly, making every other secretary look distinctly ordinary and slow.