8.2 Milion living alone

[anarki]

Early 30's here, currently living with family whilst saving to buy my own property.

When I do move out, I will be living alone, permanently until the day I die. I have no interest in meeting another woman (for a relationship) and my sex drive has diminished to the point where its practically non-existent.

Was previously in a 7 year relationship. Things went catastrophically wrong and I will not put myself in that position again, for anyone. I will be the first to admit that I could've managed my actions better in that relationship and walked away, way before things got to breaking point, but I didn't and cannot change the past. I have accepted this and moved on. Moving on for me means learning a lesson. I have learnt a vital lesson early on in my life.

Not many people can see my angle, I don't want nor expect them to. To put it bluntly I have fully accepted that I have no control of other people actions, thoughts or feelings. For me personally it is far too much of risk to get emotionally attached to somebody. I cannot put trust into somebody not to fk me over.

I have a son who I see regularly, we have a fantastic relationship. I have a good group of friends whom again I have a fantastic relationship with. With what I've said above, I will accept what my son decides to do in the future as it his life to live, not mine. Likewise with my friends, many of whom are happily married. I am genuinely happy for them all and never dare question their reasoning behind their decision making.

All I ask of them in return, is for them to be happy for me being single, without badgering me about my reasons. Which they respect

[bigandclever]

croyde said:

Touring442 said:

I went on holiday last year for a fortnight and ended up shagging pretty much every night so I know I'm not too repulsive.

Please tell me where you went on holiday, so I can book next year. Ta

Might be easier to just pop round to his house.

[KarlMac]

Calling bullst on the fact that only 5% of you are divorced. I've seen some of the relationship threads

[Monkeylegend]

KarlMac said:

Calling bullst on the fact that only 5% of you are divorced. I've seen some of the relationship threads

But still living alone.

I am divorced and live with partner so didn't tick the divorced and living alone box.

It means us divorcee's are in great demand.

[pequod]

croyde said:

Touring442 said:

I went on holiday last year for a fortnight and ended up shagging pretty much every night so I know I'm not too repulsive.

Please tell me where you went on holiday, so I can book next year. Ta

Patpong 1 or 2?

[Dont like rolls]

pequod said:

Patpong 1 or 2?

Ping Pong Ball Alley

[Ridgemont]

anarki said:

Early 30's here, currently living with family whilst saving to buy my own property.

When I do move out, I will be living alone, permanently until the day I die. I have no interest in meeting another woman (for a relationship) and my sex drive has diminished to the point where its practically non-existent.

Was previously in a 7 year relationship. Things went catastrophically wrong and I will not put myself in that position again, for anyone.

That’s a very firm stance for one so young. I hope life proves you wrong in a good way.

[johnwilliams77]

Ridgemont said:

That’s a very firm stance for one so young. I hope life proves you wrong in a good way.

Why? He seems pretty happy.

[pequod]

Dont like rolls said:

Ping Pong Ball Alley

I see you are well travelled too!

[Dont like rolls]

pequod said:

I see you are well travelled too!

One landed in my beer, I gave an extra 100 Baht for the skill............ I did not finish my beer

Edit:

I have since travelled to the Far East a lot, never felt the need to return to such establishments.
tbh I felt rather "unclean" after leaving and regretted even watching such a degrading act let alone facilitating it with my money/presence.

Edited by Dont like rolls on Tuesday 19th November 18:27

[Ridgemont]

g3org3y said:

Pan Pan Pan said:

I certainly don't, but lets face it I doubt that many do, Fortunately with great age, ones horizons are fairly likely to reduce down to little more than when the next meal turns up, and getting to a toilet before sh*tting oneself.
Fortunately we all die alone, whether or not we are surrounded by thousands of people who love us to bits, or sitting on our own, in a bedsit., Makes no difference at all how many people are around us when it happens.

I disagree. Family care and support is paramount when it come to good palliative care. It can be the difference between dying peacefully and pain free in your own bed at home or in A&E full of needles with an enthusiastic junior doctor doing CPR breaking your ribs.

Quite. There is such a thing as a good versus bad death and that involves continued activity mental and physical, and socialisation. The level of that varies from person to person (I’m quite self contained and suspect would be happy with relatively small amounts of each) but without it you will ossify as both your muscles and brain withers. I’ve watched that process with my mother (80} and I can tell you that she would have been infinitely more happy had she had continued to be active. Instead she has lost mobility, fallen multiple times (and been in and out of hospital) and lost mental faculty. It’s a miserable existence largely caused by unresolved grief from the death of my father 13 years ago.

[Agammemnon]

Biker 1 said:

If there's 8.2 million living alone, there MUST be a decent looking, wealthy, non-mad single woman

Pick any two.

[Ridgemont]

johnwilliams77 said:

Ridgemont said:

That’s a very firm stance for one so young. I hope life proves you wrong in a good way.

Why? He seems pretty happy.

It seems a remarkably definitive decision given that he has a whole life ahead to be closing down options so early. His choice, but it doesn’t strike me as the stance of a ‘happy’ person less someone in damage limitation.

[anarki]

Ridgemont said:

johnwilliams77 said:

Ridgemont said:

That’s a very firm stance for one so young. I hope life proves you wrong in a good way.

Why? He seems pretty happy.

It seems a remarkably definitive decision given that he has a whole life ahead to be closing down options so early. His choice, but it doesn’t strike me as the stance of a ‘happy’ person less someone in damage limitation.

I can understand why it reads as if I'm in damage limitation mode.

Its incredibly personal but I came to a crushing realisation that expecting a partner to reciprocate core values (integratey, honesty, respect, etc) is a fruitless endeavour.

I'll say no more on the subject because as I've said my angle on life and relationships now is probably controversial and I certainly don't expect people to agree with me and I'm not the preachy type.

For some people, being single/alone best suits them and they can live a happy life. I firmly fit in that category.

[Touring442]

Dont like rolls said:

croyde said:

Touring442 said:

I went on holiday last year for a fortnight and ended up shagging pretty much every night so I know I'm not too repulsive.

Please tell me where you went on holiday, so I can book next year. Ta

I would ask which antibiotics and cream to take as well if I was you....

Don't forget the value pack of johnnies and a few blueys as well.

[Touring442]

anarki said:

Early 30's here, currently living with family whilst saving to buy my own property.

When I do move out, I will be living alone, permanently until the day I die. I have no interest in meeting another woman (for a relationship) and my sex drive has diminished to the point where its practically non-existent.

Was previously in a 7 year relationship. Things went catastrophically wrong and I will not put myself in that position again, for anyone. I will be the first to admit that I could've managed my actions better in that relationship and walked away, way before things got to breaking point, but I didn't and cannot change the past. I have accepted this and moved on. Moving on for me means learning a lesson. I have learnt a vital lesson early on in my life.

Not many people can see my angle, I don't want nor expect them to. To put it bluntly I have fully accepted that I have no control of other people actions, thoughts or feelings. For me personally it is far too much of risk to get emotionally attached to somebody. I cannot put trust into somebody not to fk me over.

I have a son who I see regularly, we have a fantastic relationship. I have a good group of friends whom again I have a fantastic relationship with. With what I've said above, I will accept what my son decides to do in the future as it his life to live, not mine. Likewise with my friends, many of whom are happily married. I am genuinely happy for them all and never dare question their reasoning behind their decision making.

All I ask of them in return, is for them to be happy for me being single, without badgering me about my reasons. Which they respect

I think every divorced man has felt that way. I know I did. I'm sort of half arsedly going through the motions of dating etc but it has to be on my terms. Yes, I quite like you. No, I don't really want to meet your family, or your useless grown up Son, or lending you money.

[Sheetmaself]

I will say though that i was in a 21 year relationship that broke up. Went on Match and found someone three weeks after joining that seems to be a perfect fit for me. Only about a month in with her but going unbelievably well so far.

[Humble Pi]

anarki said:

I have no interest in meeting another woman (for a relationship) and my sex drive has diminished to the point where its practically non-existent.

Was previously in a 7 year relationship. Things went catastrophically wrong and I will not put myself in that position again, for anyone. I will be the first to admit that I could've managed my actions better in that relationship and walked away, way before things got to breaking point, but I didn't and cannot change the past. I have accepted this and moved on. Moving on for me means learning a lesson. I have learnt a vital lesson early on in my life.

I am exactly the same.

I've learnt a few harsh lessons with regards to women, mainly that most of them are not to be trusted. As much as I'd love to meet a nice one, but they're few and far between this day & age I fear.

[JuniorD]

Touring442 said:

Dont like rolls said:

croyde said:

Touring442 said:

I went on holiday last year for a fortnight and ended up shagging pretty much every night so I know I'm not too repulsive.

Please tell me where you went on holiday, so I can book next year. Ta

I would ask which antibiotics and cream to take as well if I was you....

Don't forget the value pack of johnnies and a few blueys as well.

"Pretty much every night".

How many is "pretty much"? Surely you know exactly how many nights you were/weren't shagging on your 14 day holiday?

Was it a different guy each night, or the same one?

[anonymous-user]

I think that all these people living alone are somewhat selfish.
I think it's about time that for the wider good real positive (if initially disruptive) action was taken.
It needs a political party to bring in a policy that can affect both the loneliness of living alone and as importantly the homeless crisis.
People living alone in a property that can support more than one should have to give up space to the new initiative. Larger houses can be partitioned off.

Obviously the programme would have to match the existing occupant with the type of person moving in. No one wants to put people together that blatantly can't get on. People would need to be incentivized to take part. A system similar to the one that was at one point used with council tenants would work.
Basically the original occupant will be presented with 3 prospective co inhabitants (or families)
they may refuse the first 2 but if they do not accept the 3rd then perhaps they should forfeit their right to live in their own premises.
I realise this may sound radical some will even accuse it of having a "big brother" type approach. I however believe it will cure the issues of loneliness and help the housing crisis.