Duffy raped drugged and held captive
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The sun seems to be hinting here it was somethinf to do with last BF I guess, the father bit, being single for 10 years then a picture of her and her ex BF. All very weird.
https://www.thesun.co.uk/tvandshowbiz/11053318/duf...
https://www.thesun.co.uk/tvandshowbiz/11053318/duf...
As the OP the early posts were just fine then it descended into the s
t were are coming to expect on many threads.
Mods suggest you close this thread and I’d suggest having a word with management about instituting a more robust method of monitoring and or deleting/banning repeat offenders. They are spoiling the whole experience of PH and if it continues this site will go into a swift decline. There’s arguments it’s on the slippery slope.
t were are coming to expect on many threads.Mods suggest you close this thread and I’d suggest having a word with management about instituting a more robust method of monitoring and or deleting/banning repeat offenders. They are spoiling the whole experience of PH and if it continues this site will go into a swift decline. There’s arguments it’s on the slippery slope.
elanfan said:
As the OP the early posts were just fine then it descended into the st were are coming to expect on many threads.
Mods suggest you close this thread and I’d suggest having a word with management about instituting a more robust method of monitoring and or deleting/banning repeat offenders. They are spoiling the whole experience of PH and if it continues this site will go into a swift decline. There’s arguments it’s on the slippery slope.
Absolutely this.t were are coming to expect on many threads.Mods suggest you close this thread and I’d suggest having a word with management about instituting a more robust method of monitoring and or deleting/banning repeat offenders. They are spoiling the whole experience of PH and if it continues this site will go into a swift decline. There’s arguments it’s on the slippery slope.
Katie Russell of Rape Crisis England said:
WHAT Duffy has done will send a message to other survivors that they are not alone, and may even give some the confidence to talk about their own experience.
When someone in the public eye chooses to talk about their experience, it is very powerful.
Under the law, a person who has been raped or sexually assaulted has the right to lifelong anonymity.
Some people waive that right in order to send a message of solidarity to other survivors.
The vast majority of women who are raped or sexually assaulted don’t tell anyone at the time. Some may never tell anyone else.
The vast majority don’t report what happened to the police, and many take a long time to seek out support.
This is for lots of different reasons, including the impact of the trauma itself, which can cause people to be emotionally numbed.
It can cause memory impairment and post-traumatic stress symptoms. A lot of survivors feel ashamed or they blame themselves.
Duffy talks of wanting to regain the sunshine in her heart and that she didn’t want the world to see the sadness in her eyes.
It’s not unusual for a survivor to hide themselves away.The impact will vary for each person, but they may find they no longer enjoy activities they used to, or feel able to go about their lives as they did before.
They may suffer depression, anxiety and anger, and they may turn to drugs or alcohol as a coping mechanism.
Talking about what happened can help to start the healing process.We would urge anyone who has been raped or sexually assaulted to contact the Rape Crisis helpline, where they can talk completely anonymously and be heard and believed.
If someone is struggling and feels they can’t talk to anyone else in their life, it might be a really useful first step.
To anyone questioning Duffy's decision to speak out now? Read and inwardly digest. There's no right or wrong way for a woman (or even a man) who has been a victim of sexual violence to behave. Each person deals with it their own way. I just hope that Duffy, and all women who've suffered like her, get whatever support it is they want/need to deal with the fallout. For some women that may be doing and saying nothing. For others it may be speaking out and giving up their anonymity because they feel it empowers them. It's not for us who don't understand their feelings to judge. And it certainly isn't the right place to be "outing" women who may or may not have been victims if they didn't give up their anonymity themselves, even if they have been (speculatively) named elsewhere. I can't begin to imagine what it's like to be violated in this way, much less understand how I'd feel if my motives and integrity were then going to be picked apart by strangers on the internet. I'm sure Duffy will be in demand now as an interviewee, so it's likely that more of her story will be told first hand. No need for us to be discussing all the ifs, buts, ands, and maybes when we haven't got the first idea about who did this to her...When someone in the public eye chooses to talk about their experience, it is very powerful.
Under the law, a person who has been raped or sexually assaulted has the right to lifelong anonymity.
Some people waive that right in order to send a message of solidarity to other survivors.
The vast majority of women who are raped or sexually assaulted don’t tell anyone at the time. Some may never tell anyone else.
The vast majority don’t report what happened to the police, and many take a long time to seek out support.
This is for lots of different reasons, including the impact of the trauma itself, which can cause people to be emotionally numbed.
It can cause memory impairment and post-traumatic stress symptoms. A lot of survivors feel ashamed or they blame themselves.
Duffy talks of wanting to regain the sunshine in her heart and that she didn’t want the world to see the sadness in her eyes.
It’s not unusual for a survivor to hide themselves away.The impact will vary for each person, but they may find they no longer enjoy activities they used to, or feel able to go about their lives as they did before.
They may suffer depression, anxiety and anger, and they may turn to drugs or alcohol as a coping mechanism.
Talking about what happened can help to start the healing process.We would urge anyone who has been raped or sexually assaulted to contact the Rape Crisis helpline, where they can talk completely anonymously and be heard and believed.
If someone is struggling and feels they can’t talk to anyone else in their life, it might be a really useful first step.
I'm starting to dislike the tone on here now, and the sniping between posters has taken a personal turn. There's no need for that, as it just trivialises the subject of the original post, turning it into a circus (again
) Why does this have to happen with so many threads here on PH? [quote=yellowjack][quote=Katie Russell of Rape Crisis England]
Good post and interesting quote (although perhaps Ms Russell could have kept to using the gender neutral term 'survivors')
I do think that if you have no experience of sexual assault either as victim or as knowing a victim, it is hard to understand why victims behave the way they do. The depressing thing- we probably all know someone who has been a victim. They just haven't chosen to talk about it. When they do, they'll be telling the truth.
Good post and interesting quote (although perhaps Ms Russell could have kept to using the gender neutral term 'survivors')
I do think that if you have no experience of sexual assault either as victim or as knowing a victim, it is hard to understand why victims behave the way they do. The depressing thing- we probably all know someone who has been a victim. They just haven't chosen to talk about it. When they do, they'll be telling the truth.
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