Best friend

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Squadrone Rosso said:

I was where you are in October. Ripped my guts out.

As per that cartoon, it’s the saddest yet kindest thing you can do at that time.

Don’t leave it forever until you get a new best friend. He/she won’t replace but will help heal your heart.

Your pooch would want this I’m sure.

I would love to get a relation of hers if the same breeder is still breeding. She was a wonderful dog.

Just need to find her birth certificate.

I will never forget when we got her the breeder fed the adults and puppies steak.

No wonder she was a diva.

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CAPP0 said:

I hate reading these threads, but I always do, us lot need to look after each other when that time comes, and as with so many others, I've been there too and know how much it hurts. Very very sorry, your posts have me choked up and I really do know just how you feel. Last time we lost one I had to text the old man to tell him, I couldn't talk about it out loud without losing it.

That was nearly 4 years ago, still miss the old girl, we do have another two in the house now which helps immensely - somehow we almost love them even more because of the previous loss.

Sincere condolences....

Thank you so much.

As I have said you feel a bit alone in talking about your lost pet as many people are just not that way inclined. This is why I wanted to post on here as to be honest I didn't want to upset the family.

My mates are not dog owners so I very much doubt it would bother them.

I have always loved animals. My dogs have been my World.

There was just something a bit special about Molly. She came into our lives without us even looking for a new dog and she just became part of us in a very short space of time.

Great to hear from everyone who has posted on this thread. Some amazing people out there and most seem to own or have owned dogs which must say something

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wizzard67 said:

Sorry for your loss. RIP Molly.

Thank you so much mate.

Honestly every post helps.

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wizzard67 said:

She was a lovely looking dog and obviously a great companion.

Dog lovers always feel for each other, especially at times such as this.

Take time to grieve and always take time to remember. Most of all, take care.

Really appreciate your words.

Keep thinking I hear her or there is suddenly a smell in the house that reminds me of her.

Very strange.

Having a few drinks tonight to try and help me get some sleep as it was about an hours worth last night waiting for today.

She was 2-3 times a night in the final stages so the two of us would just sit out the back together on the grass.

Hopefully the Neighbours were sleeping as they perhaps thought he had finally lost the plot

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ziggy328 said:

She will love you forever, and you her. She will also want you to move on from her. That's the unconditional love dogs give.

Do what Molly wants. She's right.

All the best.

Don't show my emotions much but these words got me.

It really is unconditional love. Wish more humans were that way.

We could all learn from a dog in that respect.

This image speaks volumes.

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ziggy328 said:

It is unconditional. But you have to earn it. You did in spades. She will never have a better life than she did with you. Be happy in what you achieved. Even as an internet outsider I can tell Molly was very happy

So should you be, however hard it feels right now.

Again thank you so much.

She had a wonderful life. As you say you earn it but the rewards are huge.

Thank you again.

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kuro said:

In my experience even non dog people can see the depth of feeling involved and can be surprisingly supportive.

That is a great experience to have.

Perhaps I am too quick to judge and don't give people a chance.

Or I can pick great dogs but shi* associates

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juice said:

So sorry to read what you went through. We've only had one dog in our lives so far (as we lived abroad for a long time) and then we've only had him 18 months. I can't imagine losing him and yet I know one day that will come.

All you can hope for I guess, in the end, is that they lived well and had as great a life as possible. Which she did.

You should be proud of yourself about the pup you raised into a wonderful dog.

Stopping typing now as someone is chopping onions round here....

Thank you so much.

The love they give is unconditional and it is like having a child as you know. She had a wonderful life and was very loved.

You will have many years of amazing times. At times you can take it for granted when they are there all the time but it sure does hit home when they are gone.

Think it's just sinking in now. Yesterday is a bit of a blur. Waking up and then realising she is not here anymore was extremely hard.

But things were only going to get worse for her so I have to hold onto that now.

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kuro said:

Hope you are managing to cope okay today. Early days are tough to deal with.

Just feel numb. Clearing her things away and washing anything we can donate to the local dog shelter. Just the smell of her bed etc. was hard to be around.

I know this sounds stupid but two hours after she died I took her to the pet crematorium which is 40 miles away. I didn't want myself and the family seeing her going through the process of death. She was already becoming heavy in a matter of hours with time passing rigor mortis was setting in.

But she is still over there and by herself until the cremation takes place. We were told 24-48 hours which is pretty fast compared to other facilities.

I know she is long gone and will know nothing but in the past we would have said our goodbye's and buried her in the family garden that night. This is what we did with our previous dog and other smaller pets but I am in a rental situation. Just hate the fact she is somewhere in body without being close to us. She hated being left.

I know it's not rational thinking.

Had to have a drink tonight as I only got an hours sleep last night. Haven't slept since Saturday to be 100% honest.

I knew it was going to be hard. I have lost friends in the past which should be on another level but this dog knew me inside out and was there 24/7 for me.

Anyway the drink is speaking now. Hopefully we will get the ashes tomorrow but it means nothing now to be honest.

Sorry to just post this. Just need to write how I am feeling. Don't want to upset the family talking about these things.

Thank you for asking. Sorry for the rant.

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jules_s said:

That isn't a rant mate - totally understandable

I'm dreading that trip to the vets, my cats have been our best mates for ten years now

As you know they are just part of the family. You know at some point you will lose them but you are never prepared for it.

Hopefully you have many more years with your best mate

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Squadrone Rosso said:

It’s not a rant mate. It’s a completely understandable outpouring. I understand how you feel

We had this done for our Poppy. Her ashes are in a sealed box behind the attached picture frame.

She looks down on me aside the bed where she would lay on me.

I think this is exactly what we are thinking of doing. Looked at the urn's at the place or rest and also online but they just look a bit obvious.

Having anyone visiting seeing an urn in the corner would perhaps make people feel a bit uneasy.

That is such a beautiful way or remembering your amazing Poppy.

Very sorry for your loss. Looks such a beautiful Westie.

R.I.P Poppy.

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kuro said:

Not irrational at all. I remember feeling the same when my GSD was at the pet cemetery. Just be prepared for another wave of emotion when her ashes come back.

So sorry for your loss. I don't think it matters when you lose them. Still will always be in your heart and mind.

Just feel strange about the ashes but as you say it will hit home again.

It make things completely final which will be emotional.

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garythesign said:

Not a rant at all.

We go through all sorts of emotions when grieving.

They tend to follow a pattern but can creep up on you when you are least expecting them.

Anyone who has been through 13 years with a dog knows exactly what you are going through.

My cocker is getting extra hugs this week.

Thank you mate.

Yes these things sure do make you appreciate your dog even more. Never took her for granted so thankfully I don't feel guilty about not giving her 100%.

But then you do question if it was the right time etc. But I did ask for the vets honest view before we proceeded and she thought she was starting to be in pain.

Was offered stronger steroid pain relief and take her home but it was just going to give her a short time left which could have landed up in a situation no one would want to see.

Just been contacted to say we can collect the ashes. So will be travelling across this afternoon.

Please give your Cocker a hug from me.

Thank you again.

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SPR2 said:

Gone from our sight,
But never our memories,
Gone from our touch
But never our hearts.

I so understand how you are feeling having lost my springer over 3 years ago at almost 14 years and her mother at similar age. It is taking them to the vet and knowing that they will not be coming home with you is so hard to accept.
My two went downhill very quickly as your Molly did.
I had a lovely card from my vet afterwards with a packet of forget - me - not seeds in.

Feel for you. It is so hard seeing them going downhill quickly. It was a shock even when I know she was ill.

Very nice touch by the vet. More could do something like this considering the money we will spend during the life of our dear friends.

Thank you so much for your wishes.

Everyone's thoughts have mean't so much.

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kuro said:

That was over 20 years ago, this thread is bringing it all back like it was yesterday.

I vowed never to have another dog after that but a feisty Yorkie joined the family 5 years ago. I dread having to go through that again, they aren't with us long enough.

Yes it would be amazing if dogs lived longer. I would give anything for that.

I am so pleased you did decide to get another dog. I might consider it in time once everything settles down.

Thank you again for your kind words

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Jasandjules said:

So sorry.

Her soul is with you now and through eternity.

This rings very true.

I am perhaps one of the last people who would believe in spirits but all of her bedding and items have been washed or cleaned and put into bags for the local shelter/SSPCA yet twice in the last two days there has been a very strong breeze and then a smell that could only have been her.

Very strange and I was sober

It is actually a bit easier feeling this sensation even if it is just in my imagination.

We have her ashes back in a photo frame. It was hard at first but it is great to have her back in some form.

I would not wish anyone to lose a love one and pets to me are exactly the same.

Amazing love they give you during their lives. This is why when they die it's so hard.

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juice said:

It's because it's unconditional. They don't care about your day, or the arse that cut you up. They are just happy you're there.

We should all try to '#BeMoreDog'

Exactly. When a stick means the World to them you know they are in a better place than most humans

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Stedman said:

RIP to your best friend EJ.

It's bloody tough mate but I promise you the great memories will start to make you smile and laugh again.

Thank you so much.

The dog was nuts in her youth and to be fair never grew up.

Lots of fantastic memories which will be easier to think about in time.

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yellowtang said:

Blimey OP, this thread has resurrected some painful memories. Only 'dog' people can properly understand the heartache you are going through. You've made me fetch a whisky...

I had to have my soulmate put to sleep 5 years ago and even now, reading this reduces me to tears. Like you, I had the vet come to my house as I didn't want him to be scared. In fact, I still have the pair of jeans and jumper that I wore that morning as he led on my lap. They haven't been worn or washed since and still smell of him.

I've not been able to face getting another dog yet, my wife is desparate to get one. Particularly now that we have a family and are about to move into a very large old house (houses like that need dogs apparently!)

Getting a new dog would make me feel disloyal and in any event, I'm not sure I could go through such heartbreak again......

I got drunk every night for the first couple of weeks (being self employed is useful at times!) Whisky helped tremendously

On that note - I shall raise my glass to you and your wonderful dog!

Unfortunately I was not 100% clear regarding having her put down at home. This is exactly what I wanted to happen but my family and I wanted confirmation that we were doing the right thing. We knew in the back of our minds we were but we wanted someone to take that decision away.

Took her to the vets to get checked out. She hated the vets and was doing her normal shaking but I was holding her tightly and lots of hugs. We were seen and the vet started checking different area's and you could tell she was sore. Her back was hunched up on the table and she just looked tired.

The vet offered us steroid painkillers if we wanted to take her home but said the oral painkillers she had been on was not strong enough now. I could tell she was struggling and didn't want to put her through anymore. She then received the first sedative which basically put her in a very comfortable sleep.

The rest was a bit of a blur. I just could not face taking her home knowing she would just continue to struggle. That is not what Molly was about.

I am like you and have her bed and blanket which she loved in front of me. They will not be given away or washed. That was her special things even though the whole house was basically her kennel

Regarding another dog I was exactly the same after the family Lab when I was younger had to be put down. This was done at the house hence why I was so upset with myself taking Molly to the vet. Held Tess the Labs paw when she was put to sleep and said to myself never again.

But Molly appeared out of the blue about 5 years after we lost the Lab. We were not even looking for a dog. Like you I felt disloyal to Tess when Molly appeared but within half a day it was just epic having a dog back in the house. She was totally different to the Lab and basically nuts. Honestly it was the best day since losing Tess. I never thought I would have ever said that.

Knowing how much you loved your dog it just shows how much love you could give another pup. It would actually be tragic that you didn't have another dog as you are clearly the perfect owner.

Yes it's terrible when they go but even now I would not change a thing about having Molly in my life. She made it as special as Tess did.

Thank you for sharing mate. Really means a lot when people take the time to support.

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Jasandjules said:

May I also say as hard as it seems the BEST way you can honour your dog is to share your love with another. They would want you to.

It is something I will look into once things settle down. The biggest issue is due to my circumstances and being in a rental property.

I was lucky to find a landlord will to accept a pet as many in this area don't. I totally understand this from the point of a landlord.

He was saying that the couple prior to us moving in had a dog and when they left the dogs mess was left all around the garden which he had to clean up.

Unfortunately this then can have private landlords put off but I was amazed he agreed.

Once I have my private house in the future I will be looking into having another dog. The time this will take will help in the process of getting over Molly.

Thank you for your words