"You're very nice but..."

[Gwagon111]

VinceFox said:

If youre still having to use chloroform, they MIGHT not be hookers.

That might explain all these love letters I've been getting lately. Some people think they look like restraining orders, but I just know they love me really.

[VinceFox]

Alfachick said:

VinceFox said:

*sigh*

Really? This again?

Be the best version of yourself that you can possibly be, compete with yourself to improve your mind, your health, your interest and passion in all areas of life EXCEPT trying to meet women. Basically be fking AWESOME. Stop looking for women and forget about expecting them to come to you if you get better at being you. Just get better at it because it will be better than being the st version of you and for gods sake if you have to talk to them, do it because you want anoter mate that happens to be female. Dont expect anything else and dont treat them as though you do.

Being with someone isnt that important. Tbh it can be a massive liability or at the very least an inconvenience. Get comfy being on your own, hone and sharpen your interests and skills in things you really enjoy or that you think really matter. Life isnt an episode of the fking inbetweeners, it's life and it'll be over before you know it.





Also, hookers.

This is excellent advice! Really.
Apart from the bit at the end about hookers....

That's because i'm AWESOME.

[Colonial]

Simple answer.

They don't want to sleep with you because they don't find you in anyway exciting, interesting or attractive.

[Gwagon111]

Colonial said:

Simple answer.

They don't want to sleep with you because they don't find you in anyway exciting, interesting or attractive.

Or they're lesbians.

[Famous Graham]

The irony is, of course, the moment you whinge about it, you're instantly unattractive

[gowmonster]

the answer to the original, "i see you as a friend" is, I feel the same way, now can you go over to that blonde/<insert preference here> and tell her she's coming back to my place, and see what happens.

even if it doesn't work, it should provide some comedy.

[Pvapour]

swerni said:

Justayellowbadge said:

LeeMad said:

seriously do it, i learned a long time ago that if youre too nice they just wont like you. you need confidence that borders on arrogance and if youre trying to be nice you'll never pull it off.
ive never been short of women

Do you import old VWs?

Not for the next couple of years.

after the 2 years his interests may well lay elsewhere (hopefully!)

[acf8181]

Condi said:

Spot those at 18-23 sans gf or indeed confidence, vs those who are older and know what its all about.

If you just want a revolving door of women then confidence, good looks and something interesting to talk about is all you need. And all 3 can be learnt or worked on if you dont have them naturally.

I must be the exception to the rule....was great with the ladies in 18-23 zone and since late 20's have totally lost the plot!

[Don1]

wendyg said:

Just being nice means nothing. It's good, of course, but irrelevant.
I've been looking at your posting recently.



Wow, that is really boring.
No girl is even slightly interested it the stuff youve been posting.

Be open
Be engaging
Be cheerful
Be interesting
Be interested
Be funny
Be kind
Be generous
Be attentive

Rinsing?

[vrsmxtb]

VinceFox said:

*sigh*

Really? This again?

Be the best version of yourself that you can possibly be, compete with yourself to improve your mind, your health, your interest and passion in all areas of life EXCEPT trying to meet women. Basically be fking AWESOME. Stop looking for women and forget about expecting them to come to you if you get better at being you. Just get better at it because it will be better than being the st version of you and for gods sake if you have to talk to them, do it because you want anoter mate that happens to be female. Dont expect anything else and dont treat them as though you do.

Being with someone isnt that important. Tbh it can be a massive liability or at the very least an inconvenience. Get comfy being on your own, hone and sharpen your interests and skills in things you really enjoy or that you think really matter. Life isnt an episode of the fking inbetweeners, it's life and it'll be over before you know it.





Also, hookers.

Best post of the thread.

I do actively think along these lines, honest but there's always room for improvement.

[VinceFox]

vrsmxtb said:

VinceFox said:

*sigh*

Really? This again?

Be the best version of yourself that you can possibly be, compete with yourself to improve your mind, your health, your interest and passion in all areas of life EXCEPT trying to meet women. Basically be fking AWESOME. Stop looking for women and forget about expecting them to come to you if you get better at being you. Just get better at it because it will be better than being the st version of you and for gods sake if you have to talk to them, do it because you want anoter mate that happens to be female. Dont expect anything else and dont treat them as though you do.

Being with someone isnt that important. Tbh it can be a massive liability or at the very least an inconvenience. Get comfy being on your own, hone and sharpen your interests and skills in things you really enjoy or that you think really matter. Life isnt an episode of the fking inbetweeners, it's life and it'll be over before you know it.





Also, hookers.

Best post of the thread.

I do actively think along these lines, honest but there's always room for improvement.

Hope it helps you, it was dearly bought. Good luck to you OP.

[Vocal Minority]

Famous Graham said:

The irony is, of course, the moment you whinge about it, you're instantly unattractive

Nothing gets a lady sliding between the sheets like 'you know why my life sucks?'.

'Stop being sad, start being awesome' is they key.

It's not a case of being an ahole, it's a case of being self assured and having a personality/being interesting.

Enthusiasm and passion is infectious (so long as it isn't about World of Warcraft/Warhammer/old cars/trains delte as applicable). Actually old cars sometimes works, just keep it light (design/cool based, don't mention rotator arms).

Are you looking for the love of your life? My mate is so busy looking for the love of his life, he has forgotten how to meet women and have fun and see how it goes.

[Triumph Man]

I was told the other day that when I get angry (not with her, just generally), it turns her on slightly. And she likes being told what to do.

Am I in for an attack of the mental?

Back on topic, I have been a victim of 'you are such a nice guy'. First night I went out with an arrogant take no st streak, I pulled twice. So yes, it does work.

[r1ch]

I don't think you should be a dick just to get women, that's just stupid. I'm nice and i don't struggle with the ladies, but then i'm a damn handsome motherfker.

[vrsmxtb]

No, the whole be an ahole/dick thing was a bit flippant. It is purely self-confidence and not being so nicey-nice. I have plenty of interests and do consider myself to have loads of attractive qualities, probably the reason why I find myself entering the "friendzone" so quickly, I just need to hone delivering what girls find attractive beyond that on the initial first impression.

Any girl will be damn lucky to get me, so it's their loss!

Is that better?

[arfur]

wendyg said:

Just being nice means nothing. It's good, of course, but irrelevant.
I've been looking at your posting recently.



Wow, that is really boring.
No girl is even slightly interested it the stuff youve been posting.

Be open
Be engaging
Be cheerful
Be interesting
Be interested
Be funny
Be kind
Be generous
Be attentive

Or failing the above ....

Be rich

[Vocal Minority]

The other thing about being nice is you come across as a friend.

Your setting your stall out wrong mate, if friendship aint what your after.

[Disco You]

Too nice means one or both of two things:
They find you boring
They don't find you physically attractive

[r1ch]

You can be nice and avoid being considered a friend by being a bit flirty. Then they know your down to fk.

[ikarl]

I've not read every post and hopefully this won't get lost within everything else on here but I guess the majority have said 'treat them mean' etc....

well, that's not the case, the best way is to adapt to the person!!! (this is from my own experience)

Time to be a good guy

1. Teachers
2. Accountants
3. Bank workers
4. If they earn significantly less money than you
5. Estate agents

Time to be a

1. Policewomen
2. Doctors
3. If they work in senior management in an office
4. If they have a higher IQ than you and like to show it off
5. Vets (strangely!!)
6. Hairdressers