Wife wants sprog Christened - I don't.
Discussion
300bhp/ton said:
Can't really see the problem tbh, if you don't believe, then why object it won't cause you any harm and at most 40 mins to an hour of your time? Being fanatically about not believing is almost religious behaviour in itself btw.
To the best of my knowledge I'm not a fanatic. I believe what I feel is right, but am of the opinion that others are free to believe what they want.I only wanted the child to grow up, learn and make her own informed choice, even if she chooses something I don't believe in.
I seem to be repeating that bit a lot.
300bhp/ton said:
That's all fine. But I don't see how it'll cause any harm either way. They can still grow up and make an informed choice, whether they have been Christened or not. Also where do you draw the line to say they are informed enough to make such a decision? 5, 10, 16 or 18 years old maybe?
In short being Christened removes none of their choices.
Part of the problem is that despite my wife saying she believes in god, she doesn't actually bother with anything to do with religion unless it's for hatch/match/dispatch reasons. She wasn't at all bothered about a religious marriage for us, she wanted a castle so that's what we had. There is no religious reason for the christening, it's simply a case of tradition (this is her reason, exactly as she explained it). That's why I question the need, and also she knows I won't be involved apart from being there, whereas at a non-religious welcoming party I would try my best to be as involved as I can be.In short being Christened removes none of their choices.
As for when she's old enough to choose, it would depend entirely on her - mental maturity, knowledge etc.
Time for a postscript, 20 months on.
At 0453 on the 20th October 2012 my life changed completely. My daughter was born, and I held her for the first half hour of her life. I was the first to hold her, and I think it was what changed my feelings.
I thought of this thread very much over the following few months, and revisited it several times.
My only question now, is this:
What the f
k was I so scared of?
My outlook totally changed, my perceptive on life totally altered. The christening came and went. Not what I wanted, but I let it go to keep the peace.
And then there's the one thing I'd have never though possible: my wife is pregnant again, and its a planned pregnancy. Didn't think it fair that my daughter grew up as an only child, and besides, all the major equipment has been purchased already, so we might as well get our money's worth out of it.
Reading back through the thread, I'm not embarrassed, nor do I regret anything I wrote. That was me at 28, that's how I felt. Now I'm 30 and a parent.
And I bloody love it
At 0453 on the 20th October 2012 my life changed completely. My daughter was born, and I held her for the first half hour of her life. I was the first to hold her, and I think it was what changed my feelings.
I thought of this thread very much over the following few months, and revisited it several times.
My only question now, is this:
What the f
k was I so scared of?My outlook totally changed, my perceptive on life totally altered. The christening came and went. Not what I wanted, but I let it go to keep the peace.
And then there's the one thing I'd have never though possible: my wife is pregnant again, and its a planned pregnancy. Didn't think it fair that my daughter grew up as an only child, and besides, all the major equipment has been purchased already, so we might as well get our money's worth out of it.
Reading back through the thread, I'm not embarrassed, nor do I regret anything I wrote. That was me at 28, that's how I felt. Now I'm 30 and a parent.
And I bloody love it
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