Match.com (Volume 6)

[trackdemon]

This ^^^

After 10months of playing on Tinder & PoF, which became really good fun once I sorted my head out post-ex, finally met someone who I've really clicked with in every way. So far. But I'm not chasing her down, we just have great time together; tonight is 8th date in two weeks. Totally natural. So it can happen(ish), but knowing there's a sea of fun out there helps not to get too focused when you meet someone you like. Honestly, I found that having 2-3 semi-casual women to enjoy time with makes you so much more relaxed when meeting anyone new... and the semi-casual nature makes it less damaging to step back if you want to spend your time with one.

[Gretchen]

trackdemon said:

This ^^^

After 10months of playing on Tinder & PoF, which became really good fun once I sorted my head out post-ex, finally met someone who I've really clicked with in every way. So far. But I'm not chasing her down, we just have great time together; tonight is 8th date in two weeks. Totally natural. So it can happen(ish), but knowing there's a sea of fun out there helps not to get too focused when you meet someone you like. Honestly, I found that having 2-3 semi-casual women to enjoy time with makes you so much more relaxed when meeting anyone new... and the semi-casual nature makes it less damaging to step back if you want to spend your time with one.

So an average of 4x a week - kind of contradictory.

After spending the entire day with Mr R on Saturday, I saw him Monday, last night and again tonight. I've had far too much fun over the past couple of years so this is nice.

[battered]

johnwilliams77 said:

battered said:

That's the way it goes. It's a bit of a Zen thing, while you are dribbling over her like a hungry puppy she won't want to know. The minute you get on with your life and say "hey, my life's OK, I don't especially need anyone else in it, que sera sera" then you become more attractive because you are just being you. It's a difficult balance though between "not that bothered" and "not interested in women at all" which I have fallen foul of in the past. Yes, you have a great time climbing up mountains and riding bikes, but the women just assume that's all you want.

You've got work to do on your messaging then. You want to have a woman to use for fun instead of your hand. You don't want all the hassle of birthdays/Christmas/visiting relatives.

I'm doing fine thanks. I've got a perfectly good relationship, it works very well and no it's not with my hand.

[johnwilliams77]

battered said:

I'm doing fine thanks. I've got a perfectly good relationship, it works very well and no it's not with my hand.

Oh - I thought you were talking about yourself!

[trackdemon]

Gretchen said:

trackdemon said:

This ^^^

After 10months of playing on Tinder & PoF, which became really good fun once I sorted my head out post-ex, finally met someone who I've really clicked with in every way. So far. But I'm not chasing her down, we just have great time together; tonight is 8th date in two weeks. Totally natural. So it can happen(ish), but knowing there's a sea of fun out there helps not to get too focused when you meet someone you like. Honestly, I found that having 2-3 semi-casual women to enjoy time with makes you so much more relaxed when meeting anyone new... and the semi-casual nature makes it less damaging to step back if you want to spend your time with one.

So an average of 4x a week - kind of contradictory.

Que?

[designforlife]

I actually met my now gf on tinder...we were both equally surprised to meet each other in this manner, given the dross that the app is populated with on both sides of the gender spectrum.

Neither of us was really actively expecting to meet partner material, then it just happened...i'm a firm believer in these things cropping up when you aren't really looking or expecting it.

Tinder and PoF were a laugh a few years ago, but i'm pretty over online dating, it becomes a chore after a few months. But if you want to get your numbers up post break-up, and have an ego boost, it's ideal.

Edited by designforlife on Wednesday 12th April 16:09

Edited by designforlife on Wednesday 12th April 16:09

[Mr Roper]

Gretchen said:

So an average of 4x a week - kind of contradictory.

After spending the entire day with Mr R on Saturday, I saw him Monday, last night and again tonight. I've had far too much fun over the past couple of years so this is nice.

Damn Rohypnol

[Steve vRS]

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=spKqw5uvwIc

[xjay1337]

Gretchen said:

So an average of 4x a week - kind of contradictory.

After spending the entire day with Mr R on Saturday, I saw him Monday, last night and again tonight. I've had far too much fun over the past couple of years so this is nice.

You'll be moving in next week at that rate!

Glad you have finally met someone nice lol

[johnwilliams77]

Gretchen said:

So an average of 4x a week - kind of contradictory.

After spending the entire day with Mr R on Saturday, I saw him Monday, last night and again tonight. I've had far too much fun over the past couple of years so this is nice.

So seeing this guy regularly isn't fun?

[CharlesdeGaulle]

johnwilliams77 said:

Gretchen said:

So an average of 4x a week - kind of contradictory.

After spending the entire day with Mr R on Saturday, I saw him Monday, last night and again tonight. I've had far too much fun over the past couple of years so this is nice.

So seeing this guy regularly isn't fun?

I suspect she was talking about having sex.

[johnwilliams77]

CharlesdeGaulle said:

I suspect she was talking about having sex.

So am I
Why can it not be fun having sex with 1 person?

[Shore]

I've decided to wait on the next girl to come along. One of the girls I met the other week lives too far away and I don't think she is interested. I think she is used to being single. The second one was a nice person but I don't think I can see anything coming from it.

It's a waiting game and one day someone will come along or at least that's what I keep telling myself.

[Matt UK]

Shore said:

I've decided to wait on the next girl to come along. One of the girls I met the other week lives too far away and I don't think she is interested. I think she is used to being single. The second one was a nice person but I don't think I can see anything coming from it.

It's a waiting game and one day someone will come along or at least that's what I keep telling myself.

A watched pot doesn't boil as they say.

Get on with stuff in life you enjoy and something will turn up when you least expect it.

Probably.

[battered]

Matt UK said:

Shore said:

I've decided to wait on the next girl to come along. One of the girls I met the other week lives too far away and I don't think she is interested. I think she is used to being single. The second one was a nice person but I don't think I can see anything coming from it.

It's a waiting game and one day someone will come along or at least that's what I keep telling myself.

A watched pot doesn't boil as they say.

Get on with stuff in life you enjoy and something will turn up when you least expect it.

Probably.

Absolutely. And if it doesn't then you are out having a good time. I spent most of my 20s single and seldom dating. Instead I was out and about doing fun stuff. I might have chosen a gf but you don't need one to have a good time. So live your life and see wha4 it brings.

[Gretchen]

olly22n said:

johnwilliams77 said:

CharlesdeGaulle said:

I suspect she was talking about having sex.

So am I
Why can it not be fun having sex with 1 person?

It is, that's what she has said. The caveat being the right person.

'Fun' was perhaps the wrong choice of word. I've not been settled for a while...It's nice to be settled. He's a lot of fun, feel very comfortable with him, has a very dry humour and certainly keeping me on my toes. Plus he's good with his hands... mechanic with those dirty finger nails I love so much.

[johnwilliams77]

Gretchen said:

'Fun' was perhaps the wrong choice of word. I've not been settled for a while...It's nice to be settled. He's a lot of fun, feel very comfortable with him, has a very dry humour and certainly keeping me on my toes. Plus he's good with his hands... mechanic with those dirty finger nails I love so much.

Awesome
Enjoy those dirty fingers

[ClockworkCupcake]

johnwilliams77 said:

Enjoy those dirty fingers

[Ki3r]

Joined POF again last Monday, got talking to someone (pretty much the first person I sent a message to), swapped numbers, got on great over the phone, was worried that it would be different in person, but it wasn't. It was great. Went for a drink and a walk down the quay.

[CaptainSlow]

Ki3r said:

...and a walk down the quay.

fnarr fnarr