Match.com (Volume 6)
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In fairness it's not bad, it's terrible. Constructively you come across as a geek who's also a sharpshooter (this aspect doesn't ring many bells for girls already nervous about meeting people online), and sadly most of the girls on the site aren't looking for a gentleman either. As said above, drop the text and most of the pictures so at least they are left wanting to know more rather than thinking all their questions are answered.
I'm sure you're a top bloke but you seem to of managed to break ALL the Tinder rules.
The one in the top right is ok but the rest of them show you on your own and not dressed to sharp, the text makes you sound a bit geeky and a bit too nice all at the same time.
Show some pics of you well dressed, centre of attension with some cool mates having a laugh and smiling.
The text needs to be something short snappy and funny.
Get a good selfy with you smiling and looking good for main pic.
If you're a pilot then show a pic you having a laugh flying about not in a flight sim (from the looks of it).
You're not a fuggly but you need to present yourself better, well dressed, fun, having a laugh.
The one in the top right is ok but the rest of them show you on your own and not dressed to sharp, the text makes you sound a bit geeky and a bit too nice all at the same time.
Show some pics of you well dressed, centre of attension with some cool mates having a laugh and smiling.
The text needs to be something short snappy and funny.
Get a good selfy with you smiling and looking good for main pic.
If you're a pilot then show a pic you having a laugh flying about not in a flight sim (from the looks of it).
You're not a fuggly but you need to present yourself better, well dressed, fun, having a laugh.
Indeed,the main pic makes you look a MEGA nerd(awesome flight sim set up BTW,if thats yours,I am uber jealous 
), instant turn off for most young women on Tinder which,after all,is very shallow,at least at first.
Use the racing pic,and dont mention sharpshooting,or they will think they will end up as prey in some Hunger Games style hunt for you & your country gent mates
), instant turn off for most young women on Tinder which,after all,is very shallow,at least at first.Use the racing pic,and dont mention sharpshooting,or they will think they will end up as prey in some Hunger Games style hunt for you & your country gent mates
ChemicalChaos said:
Oh FFS, almost 3 days now and not a single match, despite swiping right for many rather nice ladies.
I dont think my profile is that bad at all, anyone want to offer some CONSTRUCTIVE advice?
Stop swiping right for the 'rather nice ladies' swipe right for EVERYONE. That way you will get some matches and it will enable you to see your true market placeI dont think my profile is that bad at all, anyone want to offer some CONSTRUCTIVE advice?
edit: what everyone else said too! We need CB to rewrite this for you
olly22n said:
I don't think tinder is for you.
I'd agree with that, you're just not going to find women looking for your particular niche on that app.It's true that there's someone out there for everyone (even Hitler had a missus..) but you'll never find that someone if you're looking in the wrong places.
Better to put that energy somewhere more likely to yield results.
If you do want to carry on with it then as above; ditch the text, lose the flight sim pic, set your age restrictions 15 years upward of where they are now and right swipe like crazy.
Well after 7 months of really good times with the first girl I met on pof the mental has properly kicked in!
She's a brassy Northern bird but manages to take so many things the wrong way and can now find offence in anything it seems!
I'm pretty laid back but a few things she said over new year when she was stressed upset me a bit so after retreating home I dared to tell her and rather than the apology I had hoped for the fact that she upset me has pissed her off which is my fault ffs!
Time to move on so while she has a few days to think about it I've pretty much decided and rejoined the ranks of pof, sent out a few massages but don't seem to have anywhere near the reply rate this time and the calibre of bird being between wolves and Telford is quite dubious!
Still, onwards and upwards, am feeling a bit gutted inside tho.
She's a brassy Northern bird but manages to take so many things the wrong way and can now find offence in anything it seems!
I'm pretty laid back but a few things she said over new year when she was stressed upset me a bit so after retreating home I dared to tell her and rather than the apology I had hoped for the fact that she upset me has pissed her off which is my fault ffs!
Time to move on so while she has a few days to think about it I've pretty much decided and rejoined the ranks of pof, sent out a few massages but don't seem to have anywhere near the reply rate this time and the calibre of bird being between wolves and Telford is quite dubious!
Still, onwards and upwards, am feeling a bit gutted inside tho.
Ok...
It's terrible fella, what you're saying is basically "I'm a bit geeky and spoilt and don't have much personality" now that's not the case you have plenty of interests that COULD make you quite appealing.
Let the pics do the talking, mine had one snowboarding, one drinking, one suited, one in fancy dress and one with mates having a laugh scuba diving.
Now for you the reflection of that is to have one in the race car, one flying preferably not in a simulator, one with a drink in your hand laughing and one with mates/clunge. Do NOT mention the steam engines, sharp shooting or anything like that, girls like pilots and race drivers, that's exciting panty wetting stuff. The rest simply isn't.
The key here is that you then LOOK interesting you're not TELLINGLY anyone you are. Anyone who tells someone they're interesting most likely isn't and it puts people off or they think you're a bit Walter.
Have one sentence that shows some kind of cheek, humour or personality that suits you.
Mine just said "I'm f
king awesome, but then I would tell you that".
Nothing more is needed than the above, it's a quick impression to open the door to conversation that you want, otherwise get off tinder and get on OKC or whatever where people read the profiles mate.
It's terrible fella, what you're saying is basically "I'm a bit geeky and spoilt and don't have much personality" now that's not the case you have plenty of interests that COULD make you quite appealing.
Let the pics do the talking, mine had one snowboarding, one drinking, one suited, one in fancy dress and one with mates having a laugh scuba diving.
Now for you the reflection of that is to have one in the race car, one flying preferably not in a simulator, one with a drink in your hand laughing and one with mates/clunge. Do NOT mention the steam engines, sharp shooting or anything like that, girls like pilots and race drivers, that's exciting panty wetting stuff. The rest simply isn't.
The key here is that you then LOOK interesting you're not TELLINGLY anyone you are. Anyone who tells someone they're interesting most likely isn't and it puts people off or they think you're a bit Walter.
Have one sentence that shows some kind of cheek, humour or personality that suits you.
Mine just said "I'm f
king awesome, but then I would tell you that".Nothing more is needed than the above, it's a quick impression to open the door to conversation that you want, otherwise get off tinder and get on OKC or whatever where people read the profiles mate.
Have to agree with those above - lots of pictures in cars etc with that text is a pretty sure way not to get any matches. If you were a hot girl on the other hand, it wouldn't really matter about that.
Mouse1903 said:
Well after 2 years of being single and getting peed of with POF/Ok Cupid, I've taken the plunge on a 6 month Match subscription. Wish me luck!
Good luck!Mouse1903 said:
Well after 2 years of being single and getting peed of with POF/Ok Cupid, I've taken the plunge on a 6 month Match subscription. Wish me luck!
Go through the gubbins of the site and uncheck any 'auto-renew' option. Match.com is particularly sneaky like that. Oh, and be prepared for at least a third of the profiles to be fake.Set your expectations low.
Then lower them again.
Good luck. Provided you don't look like Shrek of course, I'd say your dating challenge is one of chosen profession and location, more than anything else.
Mobile Chicane said:
Mouse1903 said:
Well after 2 years of being single and getting peed of with POF/Ok Cupid, I've taken the plunge on a 6 month Match subscription. Wish me luck!
Go through the gubbins of the site and uncheck any 'auto-renew' option. Match.com is particularly sneaky like that. Oh, and be prepared for at least a third of the profiles to be fake.Set your expectations low.
Then lower them again.
Good luck. Provided you don't look like Shrek of course, I'd say your dating challenge is one of chosen profession and location, more than anything else.
A question for those guys who've had success from one of the sites. Has the connection happened because you mailed a woman or did she contact you? It seems the only women who make the first contact are the fat 50somethings.
O/T Do the fake profiles and messages sent by the site owners to encourage people to subscribe constitute obtaining money by deception?
Jagmanv12 said:
Mouse, good luck with Match. From my experience it's the only site to produce results. Pof is full of unicorn hunters. Fine I guess if you're a Beckham/Clooney/Pitt/whoever lookalike. Even tried Flings as they had a special offer. Not a single reply from those supposedly "gagging" for it. So full of fake profiles.
A question for those guys who've had success from one of the sites. Has the connection happened because you mailed a woman or did she contact you? It seems the only women who make the first contact are the fat 50somethings.
O/T Do the fake profiles and messages sent by the site owners to encourage people to subscribe constitute obtaining money by deception?
I've had good results from POF and Match though that was years ago. A question for those guys who've had success from one of the sites. Has the connection happened because you mailed a woman or did she contact you? It seems the only women who make the first contact are the fat 50somethings.
O/T Do the fake profiles and messages sent by the site owners to encourage people to subscribe constitute obtaining money by deception?
I think the logic is that is someone is on Match and willing to splash the cash then they are looking seriously and less likely to be skint students / beauticians / 'artists'. POF is less of an investment so people are more likely to be using it on the side and be out looking in the real world too.
Tinder is where I've met the most girls just make sure you've got a good profile - same being true of all sites.
In the case of pretty much all sites, if you want the hot ones then you really need to take the initiative and message them. It's generally only the terrifying ones who'll message you.
I've seen my female friends POF inbox's and they can get 20 messages a day easy. The good news is that 90% are from guys who use txt speak, ask for sex or just say 'Hi how are you'.
Be imaginative, comment on their profile in a funny way and you'll be miles ahead. You really just need to put the time into it.
I found OK Cupid had fewer girls but of better quality. Still strange girls though, some I spoke to for months then simply stopped replying, although I should have pulled the trigger and asked for a date.
2nd last one from POF was in October, 4 years older than me, intelligent, really pretty. Got a 2nd date and thought I was in with a chance, evening went great then the last hour I sensed something wasn't right from her. I did notice the two times she went to the toilet she spent about 5 mins each time. Asked her to text me to say she got home ok, really vague reply when she did with no thanks. Then next evening the usual "sorry, you're a nice guy, I'm not long out a relationship" bullst. I was gutted about that one.
Last one was a week later, not as pretty but a nice girl, 2 years older than me. Never got to meet her on my last trip home but she sends me filthy messages and I think wants me to come to hers when I'm back, so it's a deal
Messaging 1 ok looking girl on Ok Cupid and another on Match, will set up dates for them when I'm back from Angola a week today.
Edit: Forgot to add, Tinder is absolutely hopeless for me. Maybe had about 15 matches in the 6 months I've used it, half were spam, a couple spoke for a bit then stopped speaking and the rest had unmatched me by the time I went to reply lol
2nd last one from POF was in October, 4 years older than me, intelligent, really pretty. Got a 2nd date and thought I was in with a chance, evening went great then the last hour I sensed something wasn't right from her. I did notice the two times she went to the toilet she spent about 5 mins each time. Asked her to text me to say she got home ok, really vague reply when she did with no thanks. Then next evening the usual "sorry, you're a nice guy, I'm not long out a relationship" bulls
t. I was gutted about that one.Last one was a week later, not as pretty but a nice girl, 2 years older than me. Never got to meet her on my last trip home but she sends me filthy messages and I think wants me to come to hers when I'm back, so it's a deal
Messaging 1 ok looking girl on Ok Cupid and another on Match, will set up dates for them when I'm back from Angola a week today.
Edit: Forgot to add, Tinder is absolutely hopeless for me. Maybe had about 15 matches in the 6 months I've used it, half were spam, a couple spoke for a bit then stopped speaking and the rest had unmatched me by the time I went to reply lol
Mouse1903 said:
I found OK Cupid had fewer girls but of better quality. Still strange girls though, some I spoke to for months then simply stopped replying, although I should have pulled the trigger and asked for a date.
2nd last one from POF was in October, 4 years older than me, intelligent, really pretty. Got a 2nd date and thought I was in with a chance, evening went great then the last hour I sensed something wasn't right from her. I did notice the two times she went to the toilet she spent about 5 mins each time. Asked her to text me to say she got home ok, really vague reply when she did with no thanks. Then next evening the usual "sorry, you're a nice guy, I'm not long out a relationship" bullst. I was gutted about that one.
Last one was a week later, not as pretty but a nice girl, 2 years older than me. Never got to meet her on my last trip home but she sends me filthy messages and I think wants me to come to hers when I'm back, so it's a deal
Messaging 1 ok looking girl on Ok Cupid and another on Match, will set up dates for them when I'm back from Angola a week today.
Edit: Forgot to add, Tinder is absolutely hopeless for me. Maybe had about 15 matches in the 6 months I've used it, half were spam, a couple spoke for a bit then stopped speaking and the rest had unmatched me by the time I went to reply lol
I find OKCupid to the best at the moment, even better than Match2nd last one from POF was in October, 4 years older than me, intelligent, really pretty. Got a 2nd date and thought I was in with a chance, evening went great then the last hour I sensed something wasn't right from her. I did notice the two times she went to the toilet she spent about 5 mins each time. Asked her to text me to say she got home ok, really vague reply when she did with no thanks. Then next evening the usual "sorry, you're a nice guy, I'm not long out a relationship" bulls
t. I was gutted about that one.Last one was a week later, not as pretty but a nice girl, 2 years older than me. Never got to meet her on my last trip home but she sends me filthy messages and I think wants me to come to hers when I'm back, so it's a deal
Messaging 1 ok looking girl on Ok Cupid and another on Match, will set up dates for them when I'm back from Angola a week today.
Edit: Forgot to add, Tinder is absolutely hopeless for me. Maybe had about 15 matches in the 6 months I've used it, half were spam, a couple spoke for a bit then stopped speaking and the rest had unmatched me by the time I went to reply lol
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